21DPC Day 13 – What are 3 Good Things about Receiving Criticisms?

This is Day 13 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.

21DPC Day 13 Question

Today’s positivity question is:

What are 3 Good Things about Receiving Criticisms?

Most people think of criticisms as a bad thing. Some people are even hesitant whenever I *ask* them to give me feedback about things they don’t like – evident when you read the round-up posts at the end of every challenge.

But why? Criticisms aren’t bad. They are only bad when you think of them as bad. Criticism, when offered constructively, can be the best self-improvement tool you can ever get. In fact, when I read feedback, there are times I skip straight ahead to the criticism portions, because they provide the most revealing and actionable information.

What are 3 good things you can identify about receiving criticisms, over not receiving any criticisms at all?

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Your Task:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express yourself.
  2. Think over the criticisms you received in the past.
    1. Have you ever received criticisms before? What were they about?
    2. Did you take to them objectively, or did you see them as a personal attack? Did you feel hurt, insulted, or affected by those criticisms?
    3. Reviewing your reply for today’s positivity question, how can you now see the criticisms in a different light?
  3. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

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86 comments
  1. Good things about criticism, it helps u find out things abt urself u were not aware of. It makes you stronger wen u find out tht u cn handle it. It can help u change for the better. When I ws leaving home my dad complained that I always keep to myself whenever every1 else is together and tht I’m trying to prove tht I’m nt part of them. Its true tht I did this, bt it ws mainly bcz I ws at a point whr I wsnt able to trust my sisters or be comfortable around them. I preferred keeping to myself cz I felt more comfortable n safe. He also told me not to take my self too seriously when I begun working, tht I shud instead make friends n contacts..one positive thing abt my day is I hv begun reading for my test 2mro n its going well

  2. Three good things about criticism for me are (1) the opportunity for overall growth (2) the opportunity to learn or improve a specific skill, and (3) the opportunity to see things from a different perspective.

    Past criticisms that come to mind are mostly work feedback, which I have learned to use constructively. I even wrote an article 25 years ago on the subject, and it was published in a trade journal. The key for me is in keeping an open mind and not letting the defense mechanisms interfere (rationalizing, overgeneralizing, discrediting the source, and withdrawal).

    A big challenge for me is in handling criticism in my personal life, by separating the emotional pain from the message. I am still working on this, but making progress.

    A positive thing about today is that I am able to keep focused at work, in spite of feeling slightly ill.

    SPECIAL NOTE FOR CELES: The word “criticism” is already plural and should not have an “s” on the end, for proper grammar. This criticism is meant constructively, since grammar errors are distracting to the content (at least for me).

  3. :p Three good things about criticism:

    1. It allows one to know how they are doing a certain thing from another perspective. If the person wishes to do their best, criticism allows them to improve on an area they may not be aware of.

    2. Improvement of the task is usually a pretty good thing.

    3. It helps one to gain more confidence in themselves… and it takes self love to accept. :p

  4. What are 3 Good Things about Receiving Criticisms?

    I can use criticisms as an opportunity to realize that they can’t really hurt me, as it is my emotions that create the negative disturbance. Second, I can learn from the mistakes I made and improve next time. Thirdly, I can use them to realize that we are imperfect and that is okay.

    Think over the criticisms you received in the past.

    One that I remember is that I got scolding from something I did wrong. As it depends on what criticisms I receive, sometimes I will feel hurt from those criticisms, but I will do my best to accept them and see in an objective way as much as possible. I can realize my imperfections, forgive myself and learn from the criticisms (if they are constructive).

    Identify at least one positive thing about your day.

    Took a walk today and it is a relaxing and tranquil experience.

  5. 3 good things about criticism – first, it helps you see yourself as others do, it can help you improve, and lastly, it keeps you grounded.

    Yes, I have been criticized before. It was for being a perfectionist, I believe. It didn’t really bother me because I am a perfectionist and I will give everything all I have. If someone else wants to only do something halfway, that’s their call.

    My positive for the day is I am coming to grips that I have been deceived by someone. Given my ‘perfectionism’, I am a bit disturbed that I ‘missed’ this call on this person. I am very angry but I am better.

  6. Doesn’t the picture posted by Celes up there say it all?
    Receiving criticism add the beautiful red colour to our otherwise drab grey world….
    The core of this gift lies with us….its up to us to remain pacified and think whether what we are doing is in deed good for ourselves and for those around us…if after an un-biased answer from within, we get a call-out that it in deed is right, then, continue, push on with it and know that others merely envy what you are doing for they can’t ever imagine filling in your shoes…if we come to understand that the path you are on is in deed wrong then, you should positively take this criticism and thank the critic for giving you a chance to right your wrong :D
    I don’t really think i’m best when giving the highs of receiving criticism because personally i crumble at receiving criticism…but now the journey forward is up to me, as i mentioned yesterday, they may throw stones at me, its up to me to convert these stones to milestones…
    Also i think that self-criticism is very important as once you sit back to give yourself a parallel look, free of bias and pensively judging whether what you are doing is right or wrong, you can give yourself the best answer! :)
    Positive for the day: Take criticism as an opportunity to grow, its now my pre-meditated stance whenever i receive criticism…hope y’all make it yours too!

    • Celes
      Celes 13 years ago

      Doesn’t the picture posted by Celes up there say it all?
      Receiving criticism add the beautiful red colour to our otherwise drab grey world….

      Hi ASLO, I like that you drew parallels with the picture. :D I thought the picture adeptly conveyed the situation with most criticisms – it may feel nasty and unwelcoming (and hence the grey), but really all criticisms come from a good place, more often than not (hence the red petal inside the palm). It’s up to whether we can see past the “pinch” of the criticism and feel the goodness inside.

  7. 1. Criticism shows you behaviours you may participate in but are not aware of.
    2. It allows you to develop greater self-awareness and improve your communication.
    3. Your initial reaction to criticism can show you deep-rooted issues and insecurities you haven’t dealt
    with. Then you can go about sorting them out and living a more satisfying life.

    Wow Celes, today is SOOO relevant to my life and what happened to me yesterday!

    I went to my son’s parents’ evening yesterday with his dad. I had a list of things I wanted to discuss. The teacher started talking before I sat down and the deputy head was also there, but nobody explained why. The teacher went though my son’s progress and then said his concentration and motivation to work independently wasn’t great. The deputy head then, what I felt at the time, turned it around on us parents, asking does he listen at home and does he get a lot of tasks done for him. I was surprised as his last parents evening went well. I felt very defensive and under attack. I felt like they were saying my son was a problem child, like they were going to try and label him with ADHD or something. There was a tension in the air as I responded. My son’s dad broke the tension by asking to speak to the teacher without our son there, so the deputy head took him out. He mentioned we aren’t together and have different parenting styles. Then I felt more at ease and opened up a little about why I am a bit soft on my son.

    But the real breakthrough came later on. My son and his dad and I had dinner together and he (his dad) told me that I came across quite intimidating and also did so at the last parents evening, and that the teacher seemed nervous and that’s why she probably got the deputy head to come with her. He said he didn’t want to tell me before as he was worried it would lead to an argument. I was really surprised that he didn’t feel like they were attacking us too! But I thought about the positives.

    I have been going to counselling and dealing with low self-esteem and my own parenting and childhood. I realised that my mum is a very defensive person and that she has passed some of this on to me.

    I realised so much from the criticism:

    That I need to be careful when something is close to my heart or I feel under attack or criticised as I obviously have a tendency to take it personally and get defensive. I need to just listen and think about how I can use it. I am still a good person. I also learned that I need to encourage my son to be more independent and work on improving his concentration and motivation to complete his work alone, instead of just feeling sorry for him because he is only 5 and has to read and write so much! Even though I think the British schools system is rubbish compared to Germany, where they get to play till the age of 6, I must remember that my son needs to live in this culture for now and I must help him navigate it as best I can.

    Will be back later for my most positive thing of the day!

    Thank you Celes, it’s like you read my mind with this one! I am getting so much from this challenge! :dance:

    • The best thing about my day was that I went to bed at 11, which is very early for me! :)

  8. it makes you view yourself differently
    it creates a stepping stone for you becoming a better person
    it motivates you and help you in you self esteem

  9. * Criticisms are feedback. Another person’s view of doing things and looking at things. Appreciate and respect others’ point of view as you want yours to be respected.
    * If you keep your heart and mind opened, it can lead you to further self-improvement.
    * It keeps you on your toes, not to be too complacent.

    It is easy to take them as a personal attack. But if you sit back and rationalize, perhaps, you can learn something from it. Other than that, it can only make you stronger. :cool:

    Identify at least one positive thing about your day:
    * Systems upgrading at work, so some free time to do other stuff.
    * An easy day.
    * More free time to read.

  10. Constructive criticism makes you more humble, aware of the world around you and it can teach you important life lessons.

    I’m usually criticized by my parents, and seldom by my friends, because I have a bad temper: I get mad really fast but as fast as it comes, just as fast it goes. Lately I’ve learnt to keep my mouth shut when I feel angry/annoyed because there have been situations in which I’ve acted under the power of these emotions and things didn’t turn out nicely. I’ve listened to the criticism regarding this issue and I’m trying to get more control over my temper.

    The positive thing is that I’ve almost finished a novel which I’ve wanted to read for a long time and, moreover, it is in English so I got a good chance to practice my English by reading all the 500 pages.

    • i can really relate to this and i love how you took the chance to listen and is now making an effort to get control over your anger because you have now inspired me to the same.in recent times i looked at criticism :heart: in a bad way ,got mad when i was told about stuff i was doing wrong but now i see if you took the chance i can too.thanks soo much

      • I am really happy to hear that my comment has triggered such a reaction in you. :hug:
        I’ve found mediating quite helpful regarding this issue. Through meditating daily I’ve developed the habit of breathing deeply (as opposed to a shallow breathing before I began mediating); so whenever I feel my “Anger”-red-light turning on in my head, lol, I breathe deeply. A lot of the tension and anger dissipates this way.
        Good luck to us, for overcoming bad temper and getting a handle over our moods/reactions! :D

  11. Alban Brice 13 years ago

    Constructives ones are useful to

    1. know what’s going wrong
    2. improve yourself and
    3. improve others’ lifes

  12. Feedback offers an opportunity for improvement/reflection.

    Offers a look at how you are perceived.

    Are you a part of a problem or solution?

    Positive for the day – There is light at the end of my work drama:)

  13. As i learned from books from Robin Sharma critics do not criticize mediocre people or actions , so first of all criticism tells me i am thinking and acting outside of the box and people who criticize me feel threaten and scared…
    Also criticism can be positive in therms of perspective , it can give us other take on our actions and show us vulnerable points of our plans or actions.
    Criticism gives us that fuel that keeps us going when we wanna give up…some sort of waking up stubbornness that is needed to succeed.
    I think mostly positive about criticism even the jealous kind because it keeps me going and shows me that i am on the right track.

    I had my share of criticism and i never let that break me down, so i have mostly positive experiences with it.

    As for the positive thing about today i am working on myself and growing a step forward each day, i am creating value of life constantly…so positive as it can get… :dance: :dance:

    • I like the idea of not being mediocre when you’re being criticised! :)

  14. 21DPC Day 13 – What are 3 Good Things about Receiving Criticisms?
    That’s a good question. 1) When it is constructive, it helps you grow and improve 2) It can give you a point of view or perception you never thought about it 3) It is a good reason to strive and motivate yourself to do it better. There is always room for improvement.

    It is not an easy thing to receive criticism, but it all comes to your awareness and inner peace. Even if the intensions are not good ideally we should not react and get angry, we don’t have to allow that person to irritate and change our good mood. That is something I am working on.

    A good thing about today: during lunch break I went to the park to distract my mind and get out of the office. I should do it more often.

  15. I don’t think that anyone is wild about criticism. That being said, I find that criticism has some valuable input. First, it can show you things that you are unaware of. For instance, if you have a mindless habit of pulling on your hair, you might not even be aware of it unless someone pointed it out to you or criticized you for it. So imporved awareness is one advantage,

    On a similar note, I worked for years as a technical writer and the process at the job was to have others review your work. This formal process of criticism was initially infantalizing, But is certainly improved the product of the writing. You got to be better at writing concisely and clearly and got much better at reviewing others work.

    Finally, some criticisms tell you more about the criticizer than about yourself. For instance, for unimportant tasks which can be solved in numerous ways, the preference of one way over another is a matter of personal style. I might wash clothes before I wash towels because the towels take longer to dry and my husband might do the reverse and criticize my way. But it really doesn’t matter because either way the laundry gets done. :)

    A positive thing for the day. I got up early to enjoy the extra time to myself. There is a light rain falling and it is warm. Even though it is still dark out, I am glad to be up.

    • You make a very good point, Cyndi, about some criticism telling you more about the person doing the criticising rather than the person being criticised. Years ago, as a pregnant 3rd year student nurse, I had to remove my wedding ring for a few weeks as my fingers had swelled in the heat. One ward sister, on a ward I had recently moved to, then started constantly criticising my work and this culminated in her writing a bad report on me. I had had excellent reports on all the other wards I had worked on so I was very surprised and upset. I then found out that she was extremely angry that I was pregnant and (as she wrongly assumed) unmarried – she had taken against me because she thought I was being immoral!

  16. 1. I lets you see your opportunities for growth for yourself.
    2. It helps you improve on whatever you were working on that was critiqued…
    3. It may help you understand other people’s point of view better, and also understand more about them as a person…

  17. ninschubur 13 years ago

    The honesty helps me to see things differently. It helps me to advance and grow. And it helps me to see the difference between good and bad criticism (to offer only the good one in return). And it helpes to cope with criticism itself and rejection.

    I receive criticism about my behaviour: it is not mainstream and a little crazy (I do what I want to do, e.g. wearing pink vibram shoes for running). Then I get criticism about my smelling breath from my boyfriend.

    It´s hard to think about criticism. Everytime I catch a thought, it slips away and I do other (very urgent) things. So there has to be more! I´ll stick to it.

    Criticism about my behaviour is not hurting me. It comes from mediocristan and it´s funny to see the limits in the thoughts of the others. Criticism about my smelling breath hurts me a lot.

    Criticism about my behaviour lets me see the way other people think. Most of the time I am glad that their world is not mine. Sometimes I catch a good thought from another person and think about it. Their criticism is more about themselves than me.

    The bad smell criticism is important, because I have to do something about it. This week I will go to the doctor because it lasts for months now. Maybe I have a problem with my stomach. Although the criticism hurts, I know that it is very relevant to me. I only whish that the time I am shocked about the criticism would last only shorter.

    Identify at least one positive thing about your day:
    I have a big box of fruits right next to me and it will be a delicious for me in my office today. Yummy.

    • Yeah, it is true that people’s judgments about us have more to do with them than ourselves. When someone criticizes something about us that he/she doesn’t like, it is really something that him/herself dislikes and what he/she does is to simply project that onto other people.

      • ninschubur 13 years ago

        so true, lee. i wish everyone would learn this in school.

  18. Criticism is good because :
    -It comes from someone who tells the truth. Sometimes it’s good to see someone blunt, not hypocritical, who say what they think and are honest !
    -Of course, when you receive critics, you can take them into account and get even better grades.
    -Last, it shows that the person cares enough to make the effort of telling you what they think is not good. It means that they are ready to make an effort to help you improve !

    One good thing that happened to me yesterday is that I’m sure I aced my english test. Plus, I gave my terrible first semester results to my parents, and I’m still alive.
    Oh, and my mom said that if I passed my year with good grades, she’d help me get a flat with a friend of mine, so I won’t have to live at home ! That’s the best motivation I’ll ever have !

  19. 1-criticisms are a hidden complements
    2-a source to improve oneself
    3-sometimes to see hidden weakness within us or hidden talents.
    i have received criticisms many times,in school days i often got that’ i am proud’ because i am not talkative nor too soon too friendly with anyone.these criticisms let me think to improve my attitude towards people.

    • I used to think that of silent people too. I can be very talkative and if someone isn’t at all, I’ll think they are either shy or proud – sometimes, they are just intelligent enough to know when to remain silent !
      Now that I’ve understood it, I made some really good friends who almost don’t speak at all, but are the nicest and funniest people in the universe when you get to know them. But it’s true that maybe you should try talking to strangers sometimes, for no special reason =)

      • dear Laxi i agree with you.with me it is not a matter of shyness or proud. it just my way of living. now i am know that people are good & it is nice to communicate with them.thanx :D

  20. P.Callychurn 13 years ago

    Some eminent personality has said,”If I receive a compliment for what I do or say, I am happy; if I receice a criticism, I am happier”.
    1. Not accepting criticsm is a sign of cynicism and intolerance.
    The reasonable person will always welcome
    criticism, because it is a sure sign that the other has read and understood, even if partly.
    2. It is so easy to make compliments, easy compliment , just to please, or to seek favour. Often we donot know what the issue is all about , and we just say ‘very good’., which in the final count does not help at all.
    3. Not liking criticism,which may be understandable sometimes ,is yet a sign of ego which is self defeating, and limit the perspective of growth and development.Allowing for comments and criticism is a positive and constructive step which can result in a number of possibilities, several options to choose from, resulting in better reesult and greater probability of success.It is asos a reflection of an inherent weakness in the individual or the system which leave no room for critical thinking.
    In extreme cases, like in Politics, there is sometimes a strategy to finish off the adversary, and a machinery that is set in motion to stifle the truth. That is damning and needs to be checked. In such cases the people decide, when the time comes.

  21. (1)sometimes critical people also direct us to our mistakes..
    (2)It’s just like a comment and it’s show what u should have change in ur plan or belief..
    (3)……..

  22. Day 13 What are 3 good things you can identify about receiving criticisms, over not receiving any criticisms at all?

    1. Criticism shows you how to progress and improve which can lead to more fulfilment and satisfaction in what one is doing
    2. It reminds you that you are human and that perfection is not possible
    3. It gives you another perspective on something you might not have seen before if you are very involved in what is being criticised.
    Criticisms I’ve received in the past

    1. Have you ever received criticisms before? What were they about?

    Yes all the time! In primary school it was about being skinny; in highschool and sometimes now it was about wanting to be the centre of attention and talking about myself all the time and these days it is more about being stressed and a perfectionist all the time, and being too emotional.

    Did you take to them objectively, or did you see them as a personal attack? Did you feel hurt, insulted, or affected by those criticisms?

    In primary school it made me upset but I was too young to know how to do something about it and too young to properly rise above it. I probably just moaned about it but I remember having adults tell me it was nothing to worry about and that I was lucky. I’ve always been very aware of how fortunate I am to be naturally slim – even when I see pictures of myself looking gaunt and bony and I worry about looking like a skeleton in my wedding dress I know that many people would kill for my figure. In highschool I did take the criticism as a personal attack – I really responded to it which made me vulnerable for more criticism. I focused on it a lot and was always aware/paranoid of people talking about me. That still happens now at times – I assume people are criticising me or talking at me, which is silly really. These days I take criticism objectively as I already know any criticism given to me as I have probably already directed it to myself. One criticism at the moment that I worry too much, get over stressed and over emotional I guess I get a little bit hurt by even though I know it’s true as part of me feels that this is just part of my personality in such a stressful job and therefore it’s a negative comment on my personality. But I know the criticism comes from people worrying about me. Fortunately I don’t have the same criticism that I had at school, except from pupils who are annoyed at me!!

    Reviewing your reply for today’s positivity question, how can you now see the criticisms in a different light?

    I think I just answered that! By seeing where the comments have come from – people’s own fear or vulnerability, their ignorance or concern, their hope and care. I always try and think of why they are saying it and remember that seeing criticism as hurtful gets me nowhere, especially when I criticise myself so much! I guess that’s something I need to tackle next!
    One positive thing about my day: I went to the LDO information evening even though I only found out about it today and feel positive about applying for the job and think it could be an interesting opportunity for me.

  23. 1. Criticism helps you identify behaviors you do that hurt others, even if you don’t intend that
    2. Criticism shows that people love you enough to want to help you be a better person
    3. Criticism is an important reality check; we’re all human and imperfect!

    I have been criticized for belittling people because i refer to skills i have as “easy” and “anyone can do it” (like cooking, sewing, baking). I do this because i have low self-esteem so I don’t feel special that I can do these things and I belittle my skills to myself — but in doing this I actually hurt my friends because they interpret it as “if it’s so easy, then why do i burn everything? am i really that dumb?” Obviously I don’t mean to have this affect! I am just insecure with myself.

    It took me a while to realize the reasoning behind that though and at first, when I was told this, I got a bit defensive. I realize now that they had a point. However, even with that as a criticism, my friends still love me.

    Positive thing about my day: It started out bad, i cried during lunch, i reached to two people on the phone to talk myself through it, then ended up feeling a bit better by the afternoon and had drinks with a friend after work. Now i am feeling o-kay and i will take that as a positive. I survived today – and today was hard. That is my positive.

    • Well done for surviving today! I hope I survive tomorrow, I was meant to be in bed 4 hours ago and was meant to have planned a full days’ lessons but I’ve been procrastinating on the internet (and on here!) instead. Tomorrow I am going to be knackered and unprepared – I hope my positive statement at the end of the day is like yours! :)

  24. 1. Any criticism is good criticism. It shows that people are actually acknowledging you or what you’re doing. This can’t be a bad thing.
    2. Of course it helps bring to light flaws that we may not see in ourselves. Which is good too, so we can then make changes based on that criticism if we feel it’s something important that will make us better people. And regular criticism like this can help ensure we stay on the right track in regard to any projects we may be working on or becoming who we want to be.
    3. Criticism from other people gives us a much clearer insight into what affects those people, and what they don’t like. So even if we’re confident we’re not doing anything wrong based, we can avoid doing certain things around those people.

    Criticism I’ve received. I remember a friend telling me as a 30DLBL task that a few things I’d written on the internet came across in a way that made it sound like I thought I was better than everyone else. When referring back to what he was talking about, I didn’t think what I’d said was that bad, although I’ve made the effort to avoid coming across that way as much as possible since then.

    But from that criticism, I probably also learned just as much about him as I did about myself from his criticism. It showed me that he’s probably a lot more insecure and coming from a lower level of conciousness. More of a sleepwalker I guess you could say :)

    Positive things today.. Hmm, well, not much has happened yet! I guess one would be that I have the house to myself today, so can play some music loud with annoying my wife :mrgreen:

  25. Criticism can be positive when you learn as a person to take it correctly. I have had to accept the opinions of others with things happening in my life, especially recent events. The people that gave constructive criticism in a balanced way helped me learn about myself. I have learned what work habits I have that do work, and which ones I should leave at home or save for weekends. I have learned how I react to other people and the ways I accept their reactions towards me. Sometimes I don’t take criticism correctly, and need to work on doing a better job of understanding when someone is just trying to help the best they can.
    Today I have had a great conversation online with an old friend. She found me on Facebook earlier today and we were able to share in each others “misery” with past and present heartbreak… but it was nice knowing that one is not alone in this world.

  26. Criticism of any type and taken the proper way can be used to improve character, business, etc.
    Learning from others criticism will improve your own personality, improving business.
    I take criticism from myself or from others as a tool to improve upon the direction I want move toward.

    A tremendously positive for me today is adjusting my goals, both objective and active using Personnel Excellence steps in goal setting.

    Joe

  27. Critiquing yourself, there is always room for improvement
    Seeing yourself in the eyes of others
    Making sure that you are where you think you are, or seeing that you’re not there, but you’re on your way

    • Seeing that you’re on your way – I like that. So criticism is a a benchmark to test how you’re doing? Like a reality check! :p

  28. Criticism is there to help you learn, in many ways. The feedback itself, since we never do anything perfectly the first time, and we can start to slip if we don’t pay attention. Criticism keeps us focused. Also, the way criticism is delivered can be a chance to learn. If it stings, we can remember what NOT to do, when giving someone else feedback in the future. Overall, criticism helps you reflect on yourself. It helps us become humble.

    On that note, many times in the past, I have not taken criticism very well. I know it has had to do with insecurity, and a desire for approval. As years have passed, I have found some people’s criticisms of me to be dead-on, and others to be nonsense. You have to be objective when reviewing criticism, and I haven’t always been able to do that.

    Positive things:

    I got up early enough today to get my outside tasks done right before it started raining :)

    Had a nice warm supper while it was wet and dreary outside

    • You are right. Its important to gauge the criticism and use only the objective ones and take it as a stepping stone to improve into a better person and make better and informed decisions. I am not good with criticism too i find myself taking it too personal and pondering on it more than i should.

  29. It makes you see yourself in another light.
    It can tell you how other interpret your actions..or in actions.
    It can open us up to seeing what our defense mechanisms really are and help us resolve them.

    • I really like your positve statements about critisim – they challenging thing is to always try and remember these positive whilst being critisized – in that instant we can become defensive some times
      cheers wendy

  30. Celes
    Celes 13 years ago

    Hey everyone, many participants are still missing out on the positivity tasks for each day. There are always 3 parts to every 21DPC task – First is the positivity question, second is the positivity task, and third is the positive end-of-day reflection. For example, today’s positivity task is to reflect on criticisms you’ve received in the past and evaluate them. (Read the post above for more details.)

    Answering only the positivity questions, but not doing the positivity tasks, is sort of like opening multiple openings in your mind for mental surgery but not doing the necessary work to complete the recovery/healing/growth process. It’s a pity because you miss out on a good chunk of what 21DPC can bring to your life.

    Please read the full post for each day and do all 3 tasks to get the complete 21DPC experience. Thank you!

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