This is Day 5 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 5 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)! :D
Sign ups are now officially closed and we have a total of 596 official participants registered for 21DPC!! Welcome to all of you on board – if you are new, start off with Day 1 and catch up with us from there. For those of you who have been on the challenge since the start, read on! :D
Have You Been Doing the Positivity Tasks *and* Positive-End-of-Day-Reflections?
I noticed that a small handful of participants have only been answering the positivity questions but missing out on the positivity tasks (and some missing out on the end-of-the-day reflection as well).
Do you know that there has actually been a small positivity task assigned for each day, on top of the positivity question and end-of-day reflection?
By only doing 1/3 or 2/3s of the challenge, you’re missing out on the full challenge experience, which is a great pity because you’re denying yourself of the full benefits you can get if you were to do the challenge fully! I highly encourage all of you to strive to complete all 3 segments of each day’s tasks. After all, since you’re already here for 21DPC, why not take it all the way and complete each day’s tasks to the fullest? ;) You will be pleasantly surprised by the benefits you will get from committing yourself fully, vs. a half-hearted approach where you scrap the surface of each day’s task just in the name of participation.
For those of you who have already been completing all 3 tasks for each day to a tee (you know who you are!) – Fantastic work! I’ve been very amazed by the incredible energy of all of you. A good handful of you have even been going beyond your standard participation of the challenge – you have been venturing to other participants’ responses, reading them with great care, and engaging them in discussions. I say that is AMAZING. :D
Keep up the fantastic spirit – we are now starting on a brand new week (Day 5 = March 5 = Monday). Let’s start this new week on a roaring note! :D
21DPC Day 5 Question
Today’s positivity question is:
What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?
Your Task:
- Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
- Do something nice for your mom/dad today.
- It can be anything – from cooking a meal for them, to taking them out for dinner, to talking to them, to hugging them, to saying a simple thank you, to watching TV with them, to buying them something special which they’ve been meaning to get, and so on. In your reply for today, let us know what you chose to do and share with us their response, if you wish.
- If you have been meaning to improve your relationship with your parents, you may find this series on PE helpful: How To Improve Your Relationship With Your Parents (4-part series).
- Reflect on your parents’ message to you.
- If both your parents have already passed on (my heart goes out to you), think about what is the biggest message they wanted to convey to you while they were alive. And today, embody that message in the highest possible manner through your thoughts, your actions, and your very being.
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
Look forward to reading your responses!
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What have my parents given me…. 2 words….. “unconditional love” which in turn I have given my
Own children. Thanks mom and dad. I think I will call them up and ask them if they would like to something today
like shopping or just coffee. Have a great day everyone !!!!
Fabulous, I always think if we know this special love as children we don’t lack anything and we can keep sharing it with the next generation……..coffee all together sounds like a good idea!
Have a beautiful day Joanne.
What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?
They give me adequate financial support since young so I do not really need to worry about money. They put up with my fuss and bad attitude while continuing to give me care and support. They actually do not interfere much into my life now (maybe because I am already an adult) so I can continue on to pursue my dreams.
I had dinner and watched a TV show with them, which are something that I have not done with them for quite some time.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
I started playing piano again for one hour after stopping for a long time. I enjoyed it and I will be playing every day!
I admire my father for many things – sticking with my mom when she got pregnant, committing to everything he does, always being there for me and allowing me to be me.
I admire my mom for being a strong independent woman.
I have acquired attributes from both my parents.
We had nice visits with my mom and my mother-in-law.
What I love the Most About My Mum and My Dad Is Their Flawless Love and Support To Me. They are my Gods on Earth.
Hey Celes, i really like the way you put it…”Passed on” instead of “Passed away”, makes you think that they are still there, not in presence but in spirit……though i wasn’t really close to my parents, as i was raised by my uncle and aunt instead….
But here goes out to my parents and all those people who played a hand in raising me up….
Thank you for playing a hand in molding my life….
I thank you for the person you intended for me to be, the values and teachings that you gave to me….
I thank you for being the reason I can stand up to the mirror and say that this is me,
I thank you for teaching me the value of living a life of virtues…
Thank you for making me able enough to pass that love-teachings-value to my kids, just trying to stand in your shoes….
thank you for teaching me to appreciate the power of believing in god,
thank you for when i see those who have veered off, i feel that i’m on the right road……
By the way Asni, that’s a beautiful video on gratitude…so my first positive learning experience for the day…everyday is a gift……
Also had this thought when talking my daily walk….“The first 20 years of life carry on without us knowing the essence of living, the next 20 years pass with us knowing on how to live yet being so ignorant that we don’t care to follow that, the current 20 years (where am at), i’d pass implementing what i’ve learnt…..”
What about the next 20? any guesses?
ASLO, I like that you noticed the words, “passed on,” and they are so different from the words,”passed away!” :angel:
I like your gratitude and your living in awareness and gratitude. :heart:
This is short and sweet…I am behind in this challenge…altho I did my “positive” for the day (page one).
Still don’t know if you got my replies to your comments, and my own comments (specified that info in Day 3).
Keepn’ on keepn’ on, I am….Glad you are too, and here, ASLO! :heart:
Hey Bette, I did reply to your comment on day 3…….. :D
Mum is a really strong and independent person. She has overcome lots and gone through a lot as my grand parents passed away when she was really young.
She worked so hard to help out her siblings and it’s only few years ago that we found out that she was even helping her brother who went overseas. She was helping him financially and I think that’s where I am so like her, helping others as much as we can, caring about others more than we do care about ourselves. which is kind a good thing?! And back in the old days, she will go to her neighbours to help sewing clothes, help in their business, etc..
Dad is someone who is really direct. We don’t need to guess and he will say what he thinks..
Even we are not in the same countries, I will always try 2 get them something special whenever we are travelling or on holidays or pamper them while I am home – gifts, treat them meals, cook for them, be the driver so that dad can sit in the car & relax.
Positive thing of the day is I am glad that I managed to help my customers and they told me that they have not had good customer service like this for a long time and they were impressed.
I also bought some chocolates for my colleagues to thank them for their support and help. I do that from time to time, I guess they all need to be pampered and know that I appreciate them : )
I also helped my manager to do some of his job today, phew!
-I don’t really get along with my father, but nevertheless he has his qualities. What I appreciate about both my parents is that they don’t push me to do certain things (like choosing a certain college, for example) and even when I choose to do something they don’t completely agree with, they take their time to make peace with the idea but they don’t forbid me to do it.
-I’m going to do a major house cleaning before they return home :D I’ve just arrived from school and there still are a couple hours until they return from work.
-This morning, after an extremely cold, grey and dark-ish winter, I’ve seen the sunrise. The soft colors, of pale pink and orange dusting on the various nuances of blue, it was so beautiful and fragile at the same time since sunrises seem to happen so quickly. It filled me with joy and energy! Clearly the positive peak of today (so far) :D
Seeing a sunrise is a treat – lucky you!
On my way home from work today the sun was setting, and the sky was just beautiful, oranges, and dark blues, amazing. There is something about the sky that always makes me smile! ;-)
Same here :D
I always like to say that there’s an unseen painter mixing all those colors, haha. The sky at sunrise and sunset is so beautiful and unique.
What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad? I think…it’s their ability to step up from disappointments and set-backs and instead become stronger (like Kelly Clarkson’s song: What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger and the fact that they can consciously decide to change their job to a lower-paying one to do something that they love.
My mother is now a gym instructor. There’s sort of a certificate that she will get if her classes are ‘very good’. The first time she sent in a video, it was rejected (i.e. it wasn’t yet very good). However, my mother bounced back. Recently, she got a positive reply!!! :D
Day 5 Task Today I ate lunch with my mother and told her (a) that I loved her and (b) thank you. A simple task yet I got such a strong reaction back (she hugged me :D)
Day 5 Positive Thing Most of my friends have received back their exam results (which happened last week). I’m in a special class so I don’t have any. Anyway, I have this friend who got quite low marks and she was pretty disappointed (because she had actually said that it was pretty easy!!!). I encouraged her to work harder instead (like what I did for Chinese and how it had helped improve my Chinese by leaps and bounds).
I think when she alighted from the bus (three stops before me) she was feeling better (happier). I’m glad to have made a tiny difference in her day. :D
My parents are both Chinese. I like them because they don’t act like stereotypical Chinese parents who always force their kids to do homework and are overprotective of them. My parents give me a lot of freedom, as long as I don’t cross the line. I think this works best for me, because I get to discover things by myself and learn from my own mistakes.
Arnold – my father is a Chinese and my mother was born in M’sia. Both of them don’t force me to do anything academic-related (or anything, actually). Part of it is, I know, because they know I’m disciplined and know that I’m responsible for my own choices. They let me decide what I think is best for me and let me make my own decisions.
Wow, I felt emotional just reading the question, but anyway here I go… My dad passed away 10 years ago, he was an excellent human being, a person willing to give a hand to everybody, a smile and good spirit always present (I am already crying :cry: …. ), so many good things to say. I really loved his smile and the affection he always gave me. I think his message always was: do the right thing and care about people around you. I really miss him and I’d love to have him here with me.
My mother is still alive and she is my everything. She is my mother, my best friend, the sister I never had, my teacher, my mentor and more. I owe her everything I am today. I love so many things about my mom, she is just amazing, hard to mention just one, but I think I love her enthusiasm and energy to face life, her spirit is vibrant . I’d love to have her here with my, but she is literally on the other side of the world, I hope we can reunite really soon. I miss her so much! I would love to prepare a dinner for her, but she is not physically here, so I will send her an message to remind her how much I love her and thank her for being my guardian angel.
One positive thing of my day was that I contributed with a friend, borrowing some self-improvement material, I am sure it will be really helpful!…Ok, my eyes are wet and swollen now, but my task has been accomplished :shy:
Hi Diana, that’s very beautiful. Thanks so much for sharing about your dad and mom with us. It sounds like your dad was an incredible person while he was still alive. I think he would be very happy and proud to know that you had received his message duly. :hug:
Hi Celes. It is hard for me to talk or write about them without feeling emotional…Thanks for your nice words and again for all the effort and love you spread through your blog.
God Bless you!
Diana
Hi Diana, being emotional is a good thing, because it represents something you are passionate about. Embrace these emotions and let them flow through you with pride.
You are very much welcome! Thank you for being here with us on PE / 21DPC. :hug:
Being emotional is good Diana and very understandable.
It seems you dad was a very special man, I believe even if he is not physically there, he is still with you and he sees the great person you are.
As for your mum, distance is always difficult to manage. I live in another country too and some days I would love just to have to ring and share a meal or just some time with them. I hope soon you will see your mum.
Have a nice day.
Celes: Thanks for your insights, I had not seen it in that way, but it is true, that love represents that too ;)
Marie: Thanks for the comments and kind words. Yes, distance is hard to manage, specially with family, but well thanks God there are so many ways to communicate nowadays. It helps a lot. I also hope you see your family really soon.
Have a lovely day2
Cheers
Love my mum perserverance , committmnet to doning things. Love her generosity and positive attitude – she always pushes me to be the best that I can be – i appreciated that coz I wouldnt be where I am today if it was not for her .Thanks mum !
Doing something for her – buy her nyc things that she wants – give her cash – send flowers to her on her birthday and mothers day – listen to her when she talks about her stresses and worries – offer advise to her .
Postive thing for the day – Having a positive attitude for the whole day – depsite some ppl trying to get you down .
My mom is an amazing person who is every reason to who I am today. She is very supportive of her daughters and is proud of every one of us. She is a woman with great opinions and ideas. I guess I inherited her part of independence. She works hard to support the family and has really set a great example for all of us. She used to nag a lot when we were young, which used to annoy me a lot. However as we grow older, she gives us the freedom we need, knowing that we have grown old enough to be responsible of our actions.
My dad on the other hand, though quiet and reserved, has always been the most supportive father he can be. He is a great mechanic and is good with cars and electronics, from him, I inherited my love for technology and my little talent with electronics. When we were young, he used to pat us to sleep at night and it had always been a moment I enjoy tremendously. He is good with dialects and I guess I inherited a part of my flair for languages from him too.
Positive things for the day:
Delighting lunch and dinner with favorite group of friends! It’s simply amazing to have them around.
Met up with a friend that I have not seen for 1 month!
My mom is amazing to me although as I was growing up I didn’t know it. I’m half Chinese and Half White, my mom is Chinese, and from Vietnam… She came to America in her mid-tweties with a third grade education… Long story short she was a single mom since I was a 1 year old, she raised my brother and I, along with taking care of my grandparents who lived with us… She’s an amazing hard worker and she’s so so caring. I love her for her purity…
My dad is amazing as well.. We haven’t had the perfect relationship, but we love each other… I love him for believing in me, sometimes he doesn’t quite know how to express it, but when I think to the heart of his actions, I know he just has my best interests at heart.
I spoke to my mom today and told her I love her, and I also bought my dad Girl Scout cookies for when I visit him in a couple of weeks… :p
My positive for the day was buying those Girl Scout cookies, they were so excited to be selling a box… Ahhhh, I miss my Girl Scouting days…. :cry:
Girl scouts are truly amazing. In my school these scouts come annually to buy cookies and I make it a point to buy it for my parents and to donate some of the money I have saved.
I understand for your dad, my relationship with mine has not always been easy and when we talk about it, he always says we know we love each other, it is the only thing that matters. In his actions and the way he lives I know he will always be there to support me, he cares more than what words can say.
Have a nice day!
My Dad is a great man. He is the provider for our family. He’s retired now, but he works really hard still (too hard!). From him, I have a strong work ethic, and I’m very like him in many ways. I appreciate him more as an adult than I ever did whilst I was growing up.
My Mum is the family / home maker. She brought up us five kids, whilst Dad was out at work. She did a really great job! We all turned out ok! She too is semi-retired, now a part time family maker, with her 7 Grand-children so far! She is a brilliant Mum, and has been a friend to all of too in hard times.
My parents live 180miles away from me, so I will call them tonight to see how they are!
It looks like your parents taught you many good things you could apply to your own life. I know it’s hard to live far away some days but a call is always a beautiful gift!
& now it’s the end of the day, a great thing that happened today – I “won” a pair of jeans on eBay!! Hooray!
what i loved most about my mom is giving up all in order for us to get education,and on top of that making sure we lacked nothing wish she was here .
my dad i love that he never gives up in his ventures and never afraid to learn something new
I like my Mom because she’s fun to go golfing with. My Dad was a jerk and has been dead for years. I pay all of my Mom’s bills that is a nice thing I would think. As for a good thing today, I can’t think of anything.
You are a wonderful son and yes, paying for your mom’s bills is a very nice thing you are doing. Keep it up!
If I may suggest? Still having your mom in your life, being a wonderful son – those are not only good, but great things in your life. Just being a good son, being there for her – I think that is one of the greatest thing a mom could have.
You are here today, taking part in this challenge — that’s a good thing. :cool:
What do you love most about your Mum?
What I love most/admire most about my Mum is that she looks like she is this petite 67 year old lady, but she seriously knows how to have a good time, has a good sense of humour and is as strong and independent as all heck :) She has worked hard all of her life (she left school in her early teens) and has worked hard to pay of her home (that she shared with my Dad); She instilled (along with my father) a strong work ethic in us all.
She has always supported my 2 sisters and I and she will do anything for our family if she is able. She supported my sister in raising my 15 year old nephew for years when my sister was a single parent (and constantly having to deal with the other parent who wanted to be in and out of his life) .She baby sits my cousin’s 2 little one’s so they don’t have to pay as much for childcare and she is planning on looking after my 3 week old nephew if my sister wants to return to work part-time). My other sister is also pregnant and my Mum is planning to be in the delivery room (for the 3rd time) What a trooper lol.
I also admire her for moving back to the family home when my Dad had a serious car accident (even though they were separated and I know it was extremely hard for her) and she looked after him with such love and care when a few years later he became sick with terminal cancer. She did this pretty much on her own at home with a little help from palliative care because all 3 of us were working at the time (although we all helped whenever and however we could. She has done all of this while living with severe depression (it has run in our family) for most of her life.
She even participates with our team in the Relay for life and she is one of our best; We are all so proud of her. :hug:
P.S. she also plays a mean game of Jenga while tipsy lol
What do you love/admire most about your Dad?
My Dad and I had a strained,tense relationship for most of my life (I was 37 when he passed away) We would continually butt heads (probably because I see now we were a lot alike lol) When he became sick I learned to let the bad things/times fall away, practice forgiveness and try to see only the positives.
What I loved and admired most about my Dad is that he didn’t take crap from anybody; he was nobody’s doormat (unlike me; I am the world’s biggest one). He always was not afraid to speak up if he wasn’t happy with something, or to fight for what he believed in.
He was such a strong and independent man as well and he was a jack of all trades. His nickname we gave him was Macguyver lol
Even though he wasn’t a very demonstrative man, he did love all of us and showed us this in the ways he knew how. He would help me with repairs/installing things in my and my sister’s units, would do whatever he could when there were things wrong with our cars or needed new bits installed and he really tried to do better with my nephew by doing things like offering to take him to air shows because he loved planes and so did my Dad.
I also loved that my Dad was a good, honest, hard working man, who even though he battled along with my Mum money wise, we never went without and he always provided for his family no matter what. It’s been 3 years (this January 30) since he died. I still can’t believe he is gone, but the things that he taught us and his legacy in his children and grand children will always stay with our family.
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My nice thing to do with my Mum today was to watch TV together tonight with my sister. We all love The Biggest Loser Australia and My Kitchen rules, so when they were picking on 2 of the young lovebirds in the house (BL) I was telling them they’re evil lol
Positive thing for today – only need a filling, not an extraction yipee (hate the dentist !!!!!!!! lol)
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Scott,
Asni is so right. I really admire that you look after your Mum so well and are by her side/have her back in life. Your Mum is so lucky to have you and you her. My sister had a child with a man who treats his single mother who raised him on her own for over 30 years (when his father skipped out when he found out she was pregnant) like dirt; he has no respect for her at all and he had the gall to move back in when he divorced recently (not once, but twice). You’re a good man and I hope this challenge is just the start of great things for the both of you.
Rachel (Oscar)
It was only as an adult that I realized how wonderful my parents were. Even though we often didn’t have much money when I was a child, they always made us feel completely safe and secure. They never saddled us with their problems, and showed us that every problem has a solution. As a result, I can say that I had a nearly perfectly blissful childhood. Because of them, I know it’s completely possible to be “poor but happy.”
They also instilled all of us with great self-esteem, which has been an incredibly important thing to have while finding our way in the world. They showed me what a great relationship looked like, and brought me up to believe I was worthy of having one. I don’t even know how many problems I avoided because I always felt loved and worthy of being loved.
Unfortunately, today hasn’t been terribly positive, overall. Mainly because I locked the keys in the truck- oops. Only a $60 mistake! I guess the positive thing is I did have some good chocolate to console me afterwards!
I agree with you about how it’s only now I’m an adult that I realise how wonderful my parents are. My relationship with my mother, especially, has just shifted so much since I left home – she’s more like my best friend than my mum, and it’s lovely.
Good chocolate can solve so many of life’s woes ;)
What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?
Unconditional love and giving without expecting anything in return. Although my late mother did not have much education, she did not hesitate to take custody of my two sisters and myself during the darkest moment in her life. She did all kinds of jobs just to bring food on the table and keep us in school. Growing up, with my growing up challenges in a single parent family, she stood by me and in her eyes, I am always perfect. I know I will never have a love like the one she gave me.
Reflect on your parents’ message to you
No matter how hard life is, we can still make it as long as we don’t give up. I will pass on this message to all those who cross my path.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day
* today is the beginning of a brand new week
* it rained in the early morning and the air feel cooler and fresh. I feel the earth feels so clean after a rain.
* watched this youtube video on “Gratitude” http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=nj2ofrX7jAk — “Today is given to you, it’s a gift and the only appropriate response is, gratefulness. Begin by opening your eyes and be surprised that you have eyes that can be opened … look at the sky … look at the faces of people you meet … each one has an incredible story behind their faces … open your heart to all the blessings and let them flow through you, that everyone you will meet on the street today will be blessed by you, just by your eyes, by your touch, by your smile, just by your presence … let the gratefulness overflow and to bless all around you …” part of the message from this youtube video.
1. Hard-working: While we were by no means rich, my dad always provided for us. He taught me the value of a dollar and how hard work can pay off.
2. I sent a nice text message. My mom has a cold and my dad is working all day.
My Daily Positivity:
The power of a warm smile. Nothing beats it!
Canadian geese – It’s fun to watch them fly in their V formation. I often wonder why they do that.
Blue Jays are a beautiful blue bird found in the Northeastern US. I saw two today and it reminded me of the relaxing bird watching I use to do as a child. Need to get back to that….
Yes, the power of a warm smile — either to receive it or to give it — both ways, feel good.
You are so fortunate to be living amidst all that nature. Enjoy your bird watching!
What I love about my mom – right now, not much ;) because I am a teenager and have to face her everyday and basically, she annoyes me a lot. But, of course, I love my mom and especially because she is always there for me, I can rely on her practical help. And I just love her for giving me life, a chance to live in this world? Isn’t that a lot already? I will buy her flowers next week.
About Dad, first of all, I’ve never really had a stable one. I can say that I had 2 dad, and right now I live with my mom and another stepfather. No stable dad. But I still love my dads. I love my biological father for being a very active, sports-oriented person. He took me bycicle riding through the woods and even on a 36 km marathon when I was 8. Sadly, he died when I was 11 or so. And only after his death I actually appreciated how amazing a person he was. I must admit, I said bad thing to him even when I was very small because I did not like that my mom lived with him, because – hey I have another father. I was very bad and I guess I still have the habit to be mean to people. I’m so sorry. I hope he forgives me.
My other dad, who I considered my real dad most of my life – is a computer engineer and he was a pretty great father when I was small. He bought me pretty books and did not say no to anything, altought I was shy to ask, anyway. He was not that active but he really loved and cared for me and I am greatful for that. Our relationship now is not very special but I will write him a letter because I don’t know what would be a good present for him.
Positive today – I went on a 2-hour meditation course in a group, for the first time. And an old man complimented me on having athletic legs, at least someone notices that I’ve been doing sports. :dance:
I appreciate my dad for his love of travel! Specifically road trips. Because of this, I have definitely developed quite a bit of wanderlust. Him and I traveled by car all over the u.s. when I was a child. He taught me how to read a map (this was before google maps existed!), what road signs meant, and how to check the oil. I am very grateful for these times spent with him and for all i got to see.
As my dad lives far away, I will give him a call today to see how he is doing.
My one positive thing for today was getting out of the house (that in itself is a positive) and exploring a new neighborhood which lead me to this fantastic bookstore where i bought a new book i had never heard of before. i love indepedent bookstores and a whole variety of books, so I was happy to stumble upon there and walk out with something i know i will enjoy.
I love that my mum is my best friend and so supportive of me. I love that she’s always been someone I can talk to about anything. I love that she’s trusted my ability to make good choices for myself since I was a teenager.
To show my appreciation, when we went out to the country today, I drove my mum, and took all the scenic routes so she could relax.
Positive thing today: I got to spend a fun, leisurely day with my mum!
That sounds like a lot of fun! :D
What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?
About my dad, I love the sense of humor he has and the way he uses it in his life, and I appreciate I have received this side of him. I was quite a late addition to the family, he was 43 when I was born, but he treated me so nicely and he spent so quality time with me altough he had to work very long hours to make my future, he tought me how to read, I was able to read when I was 5 years old, much before I started elementary school and I gained one year extra becouse I was attending second class at age of 6 when my friends were doing the first class. He is the reason I love reading so much, which is mainly the fundemental of my academic success. I have postgraduate degree and my older brother is professor at the university, while my father does not have any high school degree. I appreciate so much for his trust in us and promising us that he will do whatever necessary to accomodate our needs for a full degree, and he has kept his promise. Today he is 81 years old and spending most of his time by reading, which he missed a lot during hard working times (fm 5am to 8pm, 7 days a week, 25 years)
My mom, I love the way she is so strong and capable of doing every kind of management altough she does not have a degree and just a housewife, including school campaigns and site management. She is stronger than anyone I know, she had faced a very big loss before I was born, my sister who was 8 years old died in a car accident, hit by a car and my family had to overcome this pain for a long time, I can not think of the magnitude of the heart pain my mom went through.. Then I was born and she was so caring for me and she gave so much love to me and stood through the life so firmly.. She always had a job for herself, not anything she was paid for, but to what she adored herself for. She always wanted to have driving licence and she finally got it at age of 55, she never gave up. My dad was the one who was earning the money but my mom was the one who was managing it and she did it so well. Now she is 70 years old complaining about her body not able to catch the speed of her plans..:)
I am proud of both of them becouse they started life with nothing and made a sinergy together (1+1>2), achieved much more than expected from them with what they had in the beginning..They are true goal achievers…
My plan about doing stg for them
I plan to buy a present for the new car my mom is going get within a few months, and I will definetely go to see them in a months time (they are living 6 hours away fm where I live)
Positive thing will follow later becouse my monday has not started yet :p
my positive thing for early day is
I got a very nice comment recommending me a movie, and also my collegue brought me a hot cup of tea seeing I am suffering fm throat ache!
more to follow!
Ugi,
that is so fantastic that your Mum got her licence at 55 and she is going to get a car. Good on her for achieving that goal she set for herself.
I am 40 so it gives me hope that there are things I can still achieve if I can muster up some of your Mum’s gumption.
I hope you have a great visit when you go and see your parents and I hope your throat gets better soon.
Rachel. (Oscar)
Thank you Rachel (Oscar),
40 is a very good age to start up things becouse you have a lot of experience already as very strong fundemental onto which you can build up things, even a new life..So just aim to start, baby steps will grow and you will soon look and see you are even ahead of what you targeted
My best wishes on yr journey and thank you very much for yr good wishes!
My mom and dad raised me in a Christian home and I am so grateful. The world is so messed up today and having that foundation keeps me grounded. Today, I had lunch with them and they know how important they are in my life.
Today, I also made a step in my conscience and asked a question that’s needed to be asked of someone for a while. Though the answer may hurt me, I will at least know the answer.
Very courageous of you. Sometimes we need to hear difficult things but the good part is that it makes us stronger in the end.
i also want to gain the conscience…. :( :shy:
its really important nowadays to stuck up with your roots…basic thngs given to you by your parents…..it wil release half of urs worries :dance: :dance:
Do something nice for your mom/dad today
positive task for mother,,,attended patients at her clinic,,in absence of her :p
smiled to father…most positive thng ;)
my parents hav done alot to me,,bt due to sum circumstances regarding all dis journey had made me harsh,intolerable and angry young lady,,i want to feel positive for them ,,fighting for this for several yrs,,wanna forgive ma parents,,bt a difficult journey,,anywayz,,love ma parents,,show ma obedience,hope one day ma mind vil be clear…
positive thng regarding the day…??
mmmmmm…….nothing…… in fact i am in completely lost of mind state…jst got rid of some ideas who distrb me alot..wrote them all and burnt..i think done a new thing for ma peace of mind….. :shy: :angel:
You did something nice for your mother and father today and that’s really wonderful. Just take one step a day.
Sometimes, our parents do not know how to show their love for us other than making sure we have food to eat, a roof over our head, money to buy our school books so that we can study and be independent when they are gone. But deep down in their hearts, they love you. They just don’t know how to show it. Especially Asian parents, from my observation.
I’m glad you found that writing down those disturbing ideas and then burning them has given you a peace of mind. I think you are a smart girl.
Hang in there, Faiza! You are good enough. You can do it.
thanx ASNI …your WORDS healed me alot bcz im extremely pessimist sort of towardz ma life attitudes towards studies,,and all these affected by ma parents so i dnt feel goood,,its barely hard for me to start again a new life…but i want a new life,,im a dreamer with open eyes,,trying to get rid of dese habits….may be some how i get before i die… :angel: :angel:
Yes, I believe you can, Faiza. You are good enough and you are worthy.
Look in the mirror and tell that person looking back at you, “I love you.” It may feel odd at first, but you will feel a change gradually. Say it and mean it. As often as you need to.
If I may suggest, perhaps you can read a motivational blog before you start your day. Besides Celes’ Personal Excellence blog, there is Marc and Angel http://www.marcandangel.com/ and their other blog called http://makesmethink.com/ I find these full of motivation and positive thoughts. I hope you will find inspiration and motivation from them too.
Please take care and just know that you are loved. If you need to just talk about anything and need someone to reach out to, please visit my blog and contact me from there.
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vil surely visit u….thanx alot…how can i visit the blog….i have downloaded many inspirational thngs bt loose the contact wid ma self :angel: :angel:
That they’re so incredibly supportive and love us kids no matter what. They do their absolute best to give us everything they can in life and invest a lot in our education. Also that they’re both highly admirable people.
Whatever my or my sibling’s interests, we’ve always have our parent’s full support. We’d be sent to courses and classes regarding our interests, had music lessons, were given musical instruments or other gear necessary to participate and were always encouraged to stick to the things we loved.
My Dad is an absolutely fantastic person. He’s very kind and patient with people and always strives to make the best out of life. He’s always there to help when we need a hand, whether it’s me when programming a new website, or my siblings when they need desperate help with their maths homework. He can keep his cool, (despite his quick temper with technology :D) and make sensible and helpful decisions even in difficult situations. He’s very friendly and outgoing anf I love that the wrinkles around his eyes label him as a person who smiles and laugh a lot. He has a very friendly, happy face. He also works very hard to make it possible for us to live well and be able to do everything we like.
What impresses me most about my mum is that she completely managed to turn her life around a couple of years back. She basically became a new person. She used to be overweight, constantly tired, fatigued and anxious.
She started going to Weight Watchers and threw herself into it with all her heart. She asked for a bike for her birthday and started biking everywhere. The weight started to roll off and my mum started doing more and more excercise, Pilates, walking, jogging. Last year we even participated in our local 5km run :) She’s become very health-conscious and is no longer constantly fatigued and worries a lot less. She tries to get our whole family to live healthier and tries to cook good healthy food whenever possible. Recently she’s started buying loads of organic stuff.
I’m amazed at the new person she’s become… before, she just felt like my mum, and of course I loved her a lot, but somehow the last few years I’ve really come to appreciate her and I feel she’s become a whole new person with a fantastic personality and I really admire her stregth.
Also, fantastic job on bringing up 4 fantastic kids to both of them :)
Good things that happened today:
Had a kidney infection since Friday, but started fasting yesterday and woke up this morning with the pain in my back almost completely gone.
I’m basically only one application form away from starting training for my current dream job.
Nice comments on this challenge once again :) It’s so great to see so many positive thoughts in one place.
Worked on my project.
You and your siblings are so fortunate to have parents who are fantastic examples to follow. So blessed.
I like your positive attitude. It shows in the way you write. And many more good things will come to you with that kind of attitude.
Hope your kidney infection is now cured and best of luck on your dream job.
Thank you so much for your kind words :)
I’ve gone through a bad phase recently and my positivity has been severely drained :) I’m working hard now bring it back up to where it was before. I’m so glad it appears to be working :) Thank you very very much for your lovely comment. You just made me feel really happy :hug:
I gave my mum and dad a massage each for this challenge :)
My mom is my best friend, my sister and my teacher – she’s everything to me! The best thing about her, I’d say, is her open mind – she doesn’t take anything for granted and allows people (ex. me) be themselves, even if it means doing something she doesn’t approve of. I really wish she met your perfect match – it’s terribly hard to see such a wonderful person being so lonely and disappointed. She doesn’t believe she will meet the right man, even though she is always the center of attention. I know she will have a happy marriage soon, it just must be so. I’m doing my best to be a supportive and loving child, no matter what!
One good thing that happened to me today – I finally managed to see The Shawshenk Redemption! This movie is STRONG! Need time to think it over. But I love quality films, that’s why I take it as an extremely positive thing :)
The Shawshank Redemption is one of my favourite movies ever!! I´ve seen it at least 5 times and every time I watch it I discover something I hadn´t noticed before. There are a lot of lessons to learn from it, and the ending is just soooo beautiful.
I wish luck to your mom, I´m sure she´ll find the perfect man for her, sometimes it just takes some time, true love is not something that comes everyday.
What I love Most About Your Mom/Dad
The aspect which i love and admire about my dad was the freedom which he gave me in all aspects of my life and the belief which he had on me. .. With regard to mom, have no words to say, as she was there by my side in all my tough times, helped me to come out of any grief and tough situation and gave me courage to face all situations… I love my mom cooking :) and cleanliness and advance planning of dad.. :)
I love them a lottt..:)
Positive thing about today :
Even though i am away from parents, this question made me to think about my parents :) and also the things which they have done to me to bring me to this position…. This itself i consider to be the more positive aspect for the day :)
Whow, I feel like you´re describing my parents!!!! Seriously. Well except for the advance planning part (my mom is the specialist in my case).
I´m also away from home and I miss them a lot too. :heart:
My favorite thing about my mom was her ability to persevere. She struggled with addiction her whole life, and regardless of the effects that had on me, she still came out on top. Her strength amongst her struggles is admirable. I am so very proud of her and so happy that we have the relationship we do in spite of all that has passed between us. I can only hope I have some portion of her inner will to survive.
I admire your mother’s strength :) It’s great to see someone who’s managed to change their life around. Wishing you both all the best in life :heart:
Hey everyone, Day 5’s positivity task is to do something nice for your mom/dad/parents; For those whose parents have passed on, it’s to reflect on the message your parents had for you and to embody that to the fullest. Read the post above for more details.
On top of answering the positivity question and the positive end-of-day reflection, be sure to do the positivity tasks as well. Let us know how it goes at the end of the day!
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