21DPC Day 5 – What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

This is Day 5 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.

Happy girl in the field

Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 5 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)! :D

Sign ups are now officially closed and we have a total of 596 official participants registered for 21DPC!! Welcome to all of you on board – if you are new, start off with Day 1 and catch up with us from there. For those of you who have been on the challenge since the start, read on! :D

Have You Been Doing the Positivity Tasks *and* Positive-End-of-Day-Reflections?

I noticed that a small handful of participants have only been answering the positivity questions but missing out on the positivity tasks (and some missing out on the end-of-the-day reflection as well).

Do you know that there has actually been a small positivity task assigned for each day, on top of the positivity question and end-of-day reflection?

By only doing 1/3 or 2/3s of the challenge, you’re missing out on the full challenge experience, which is a great pity because you’re denying yourself of the full benefits you can get if you were to do the challenge fully! I highly encourage all of you to strive to complete all 3 segments of each day’s tasks. After all, since you’re already here for 21DPC, why not take it all the way and complete each day’s tasks to the fullest? ;) You will be pleasantly surprised by the benefits you will get from committing yourself fully, vs. a half-hearted approach where you scrap the surface of each day’s task just in the name of participation.

For those of you who have already been completing all 3 tasks for each day to a tee (you know who you are!) – Fantastic work! I’ve been very amazed by the incredible energy of all of you. A good handful of you have even been going beyond your standard participation of the challenge – you have been venturing to other participants’ responses, reading them with great care, and engaging them in discussions. I say that is AMAZING. :D

Keep up the fantastic spirit – we are now starting on a brand new week (Day 5 = March 5 = Monday). Let’s start this new week on a roaring note! :D

21DPC Day 5 Question

Today’s positivity question is:

What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

Mother and daughter hugging

Your Task:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
  2. Do something nice for your mom/dad today.
    • It can be anything – from cooking a meal for them, to taking them out for dinner, to talking to them, to hugging them, to saying a simple thank you, to watching TV with them, to buying them something special which they’ve been meaning to get, and so on. In your reply for today, let us know what you chose to do and share with us their response, if you wish.
    • If you have been meaning to improve your relationship with your parents, you may find this series on PE helpful: How To Improve Your Relationship With Your Parents (4-part series).
  3. Reflect on your parents’ message to you.
    • If both your parents have already passed on (my heart goes out to you), think about what is the biggest message they wanted to convey to you while they were alive. And today, embody that message in the highest possible manner through your thoughts, your actions, and your very being.
  4. Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!

Share Your Answers!

After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.

If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.

Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!

Look forward to reading your responses!

(Images: Happy girl in the field, Mother and daughter hugging


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159 comments
  1. What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

    My mom has been gone for many years, my dad is still here, he is getting very old, cannot hear or see so good these days. My dad was not such a great dad. I think he did the best he could as a dad, and for that I am thankful. There are some things that I have learned about him, in the past few years, that have really made me admire him. He did not have a very good childhood. But I truly believe he has done the best in life that he possibly could have done. I’ve made peace with him, and I know he loves me, I love him too.

    And, today, I am thankful that I had a dad growing up! He may not have been the best dad in the world, but he’s my dad, and he was there and provided for our family.

  2. Desiree Garcia 13 years ago

    This is really tough for me to answer. When I turned 13 I found out that I was the result of a one night stand. I always thought that growing up I was different and treated differently. And a family member spilling the beans is who I have to thank for the confirmation.
    I have always had a distance relationship with my mother. Until the birth of my child in 2005 my relationship or lack thereof, was nonexistent. As I learned how to become a parent to my wonderful child I am grateful that my mother stepped in as a grandparent should. She became more helpful. And would often share stories of how my grandma would do things when she was younger. Our relationship blossomed. I am glad it did. We became closer. I am not a cook, at all! Ha! But my mother has been so patient at teaching me recipes.
    I will often come and visit my mom and cook for her. Return the favor. I spent my ENTIRE Sunday with my mother cooking and eating and enjoying each other’s company.

    Today, I put my friends feelings before mine. I was unselfish to her.

  3. P.Callychurn 13 years ago

    I was very small when my dad passed away. In tragic circumstances, I am told later. Except for an impression there is not much to talk about. But when it comes to my mother, I may writw a book one day.Widowed at a very young age, illeterate and rustic, not familiar with the ways of the world, how was she able to bring up three children, the youngest hardly a month in a situation of utter poverty, is a miracle to say the least. I am a grand dad myself,but every time I think of my mother I am overpowered with emotion. She passed away and must be there in the kingdom of the good God.for about 20 years now. But for me I keep crying and saying to myself, if I had my life to live again with my mother what more I would have done which I failed to do. My wife has helped me to make her live again, reminding me of her anniversary, of the time /date she passed away,and incidents that have marked our lives invariably positively. When I behold the situation, I realise that had she been alive maybe there would not have been so much of concern and consideration as is the case now. And if there is one thing that I really wish the creator to do for me is to bless me that I am born to the same mother again.. She did so much for her three children, who all made it to the top in our respective field, but when the time came for her to harvest what she had sown, she had to leave us . For us she is there in the sky, as astar watching upon us as when we were kids, and when I look up in the night I get A kIND OF VIBRATION AS IF SHE TOO IS SHARING THE SAME FEELING.

  4. What Do I Love Most About My Mom and Dad?

    Hmm..I guess the first thing that comes to mind is that both mum and dad never seriously interferred with whatever I was up to, they respected my independence and seldom made me do things I did not want to do. I was always stubborn of course and it would be difficult for them to even try, but still, I owe them that.

    Another thing is about my mum – I love it that she is very engaged when we communicate, she pays attention to my concerns and remembers my friends, and so I like to share with her, and can pretty much talk to her about anything. I know I can always come to her, she will always acceot me and hug me.

    With my dad it is a bit difficult to communicate, he is rather reserved and doesnt share much. But Iike his general cheerfulness and sense of humour, and the fact that he is active and fit, making it possible to do physical stuff like cycling or playing tennis together. He may not talk much, and he listens to only half of everything, but he also understands that sometimes not saying is communication, he will not keep bad memories long, and let the stuff remain unspoken, pretending to forget it, when necessary.

    I have just spent a quality day with them at the country house, helping out with the snow clearing, and I will now think of a present to buy them for the upcoming holidays – most probably tickets to a concert or theatre.

    I am really grateful to my parents that they gave me the freedom to explore the world and also the curiosity to be interested in it, by showing me that there are many things in life that one can do. If there was one message my parents would be happy for me to have, I think it would be “There is always perspective”. There is always a choice, there are always different ways of leading your life, there are different sides to every story, and there are many points of view. The mixture of intellectual and emotional perceptions has helped me a lot in life. I always say that everything is going to be just fine, and this is my motto, that follows exactly from my parents message. If there is always perspective, you can find positive things in every situation!

    The positive thing today, Monday 5th of March, is that I finally caught up with the challenge questions, as I was unable to post during the weekend. It was a quiet day at work, and I could also sleep longer because my student cancelled our morning class cause she needs to prepare for exams, and I always like sleeping in the mornings, so this is positive. I also got a call from a friend saying he is going to visit me soon. :dance:

  5. My parents have always supported me on my endeavors, whether they were trips, educational pursuits or some other kind and they have always tried their very best to help me out. For that I could never thank them enough. I have not been close to them growing up, but we made up for it after I finished my Uni and in the last years. I am grateful for having the opportunity to get to know them now, when I am a grown up myself, more mature and a bit more wise than how I used to be when I was in high school :)
    I would like to cook for them, but we have different tastes in food, and they usually to not like the flavors I use in my cooking so I think I will just take them for a walk tomorrow. Something we haven’t done together in a while…
    My positive thing for today was the sunny and beautiful day that I spent outside…

  6. I have found this challenge tough – not because I don’t love my mum (or didn’t love my dad), but I have never really thought about why I love/d them. It has shocked me into trying to think why I do/did love them…and I don’t know. I feel ashamed to say that. They are/were good people and I can think of reasons why I admire/d them, but not love them. I really have never asked myself the question and now that I do, I don’t know. It really has brought me up sharp. I considered not doing the challenge to day, but decided that was a cop out, so here I am being honest. I will continue to muse on it and come back when I can think of something.

    Positive thing? I have felt happier today and been able to interact more easily with colleagues; last week wasn’t a good week for me personally. Also a more distant colleague who has been extremely ill offered to support me with my emotional difficulties as I had been thoughtful to her over the last half of last year, which she has appreciated. I was very touched.

    • Love is such a hard emotion to define! You´ll see how with time you´ll find a reason why you love your parents.Sometimes it just takes us a while to get to them and to realize that they were always there in front of our noses.
      :lol:

      • oh, I ment to write a hug, not a laughing face…. :shy:
        :hug:

    • I think it’s great that you didn’t “not write” anything because you didn’t know how to answer the question… and instead just wrote your honest thoughts. You’re not hiding from your thoughts or feelings and you are truly considering the question at hand and the way you feel about it. Well done for being honest!! i really respect you for doing so! x

    • After some consideration, I love my mum for always being there for me when I was growing up and for being a good role model as a mother. Whilst there are things that I haven’t emulated whilst being a mum myself, the basic seeds were sown. I have, however, always made sure that I told my kids, ‘I love you’.
      I loved my dad for working hard and providing us with what we needed and a good education. I’m sorry he wasn’t here to see his grandchildren grow up, as I know he would have been very proud of them and their achievements and, I think, of me as I graduated with a degree at the age of 45!

  7. I can’t think of a single thing I love about my parents, I’ve moved on.

  8. I love my mum beacuse,she is always supportive and so positive. She is so caring for everyone and for her children and she always put her children first. She is so kind and honest. She has tought us how to love unconditionally and help anyone without any expectation. She is like an angel in my life.
    I love my dad,cause he is an honest,kind,hardworking man. he is a family man who loves and cares about his family a lot. He is a geniuse guy who has a lot of experience in any aspect of life. I love him cause he has always been supportive for me and my sister and brothers .He is the one that I feel I can always rely and and the one whose advices is invaluable. The one who I have 100% trust in any aspect of life. I feel so lucky and so blessed to have such a lovely parents and I always feel proud of having them in my life.
    Something nice for my parents: I am now far away from my parents and I live in another country. I wil send and e-card to them today just to say I LOVE them so much:)
    Positive thing of my day: I called my friend from highschool and gave her positivr compliments.

  9. One of the things I love most about my mom is the belief she instilled in me that I can do anything. I think she helped me to become the strong woman I am today.

    One of the positive things that happened on Day 5 was that I got to work with the kids at church and one of the girls that is tremendously shy came up to me and gave me a hug afterward. It was awesome seeing her come out of her shell.

    Stay tuned for feedback from mom…. :mrgreen:

  10. The think I most love about my dad is is sense of humor and the fact that he is an easy-going person. I love the fact that even I don’t show this abilities now I have them and sooner or later they will appear to me. :D
    The think I most love about my mother is how handy and talented she is :).

    I’ll try to make a game with my hole family tonight, lets see how that is going to turn out and let you know how dis it go.

    The positive thing about today is that I finally found a way to control mood and appreciate the breath I have in me!

  11. The message my parents have given me overall is to enjoy life. They’ve always encouraged me to do my best, but never at the expense of not having a good time. They always wanted me to get good grades, but they never insisted they all be As (I went through phases where I imposed that on myself). They always wanted me to have a balance of work and fun. Even after completing school, they encouraged me to do what I love and have been supportive in helping me do that and maintain a work/fun balance. They’ve always encouraged me to travel and make living my best life a priority.

    One good thing that’s happened to me so far today:

    Okay there have been a few good things:

    -I made chai tea at home for the first time today and actually liked it
    -I confirmed that I will be attending the Mutter Ball later this month (Yay!)
    -I made myself an aloe drink for Day 1 of my cleanse

  12. What I love about my mom the most is she is one of the most giving loving individuals i know-and is always doing the small things for so many people-especially the kids in the family. Nothing delights me more when hanging out with the kids and taking pictures and they say- lets send that to your mom. Or when I arrive at their house and they run and show me what my mom sent them. She continually shows what real love and its the day to day moments that people remember.

    Today- I will call and thank my dad again for a Chirstmas gift that I never thought I would use, but it has turned out to be one of the best things ever.

    My positive thought for day- looking forward to working out tonight with friends.

  13. 1. My parents have always encouraged me to be my own person. They told me from an early age that nothing I could do would make them love me less, or would shock them. I could do whatever I thought was right, and they would support me in my decisions. And they have. :)

    They treated me like an adult from a very early age, in terms of encouraging me to have my own opinions and respecting them, even when they were different to their own.

    They taught me some fantastic things about life – that you really can be anything you want to be. That if you don’t like the person you become, you can reinvent yourself. That your best is good enough in the long run, and there’s no sense in stressing out about anything when you’ve tried your best. They taught me the value of finding my own path through life.

    They supported me financially throughout my undergraduate degree, and taught mt how to manage my money so I wouldn’t find it difficult when I was self-sufficient.

    They cook amazing food, whenever I visit we spend evenings drinking wine and listening to music and talking, and they are actually my best friends :love:

    More specifically, my mum is just so caring, thoughtful and calm. She makes amazing cups of tea. She is really intelligent, loves reading and always has some book to recommend or talk about.

    My dad has an absolutely wicked sense of humour. He loves cycling and is full of motivation and tips when I talk about my own exercise regime. He’s a fantastic cook, has awesome taste in music, and is a really good dancer :lol:

    Sometimes I wonder how my parents ever got together, as they’re polar opposites sometimes, but they compliment each other, bring out the best in each other, and really are the blueprint for a successful relationship/marriage :love:

    2. Oh dear, I’m cheating at the challenge already :shy: I bought my parents a card to send on Day 2 of the challenge and still haven’t put it in the post yet. I will do it! I promise!

    3. A positive thing about today:

    Well, I didn’t have a very good morning. I had a horrible dream which made me all sad and shaky when I woke up, then a Facebook message from a friend with some news that I really, really didn’t want to hear. It’s quite an unpleasant situation that I don’t want to talk about online. But then I had lunch with one of my closest friends, a cup of tea later on with another, and I’ve got drinks later with another – and already I’m feeling a lot happier and almost glad it happened in a way, because it made me see how amazing my friends are at cheering me up even when I don’t ask them to :hug: Work is really not happening today, but I feel happy and balanced again, and after this evening, I’m sure I’ll be ready to get lots done for the rest of the week to make up for my ‘lazy’ day. :)

  14. what do you I love about my mam:her creativity,her cleening talent,her cooking skills,her management skills.
    What about dad:his humor,intelligent,his cooking skills,his skills to make christmas a fantastic feast,his telling about the past.his passion for his hometown.

    my daily positivity:the birds,my fish,the beautiful sky full of clouds,kisses and hugs from my my.my dog,warm water.my house.

  15. My father is my idol,he is my mentor..who taught me a lot and there is still so much thing I need to learn from him.The most I love about him is the unconditional love he gives to us. He never exchanges anything with us.He just wants us to be happy.He supports everything we do,though he will still says his opinions.He encourages us to strive for our dreams.He could shut me with just one sentence or one word whenever I start complaining…

    About my mum,she is gentle,considerate,lovable,capable and always improving and progressing.Despite taking good care of us,she is successful in her career.She is a health guru,she reads books related to soul,mind,body and health.She gain good knowledge in eating healthily and she never feel tired to encourage others to eat right and eat healthy.I always feel she has found her life purpose and working well on it.The most I like about her is that she gives us a right concept about eating healthily and living happily.

    Positive thing:
    1)Commit to this challenge even need to type on my BB now..
    2)Attended a good talk organised by SLA.
    3)Sent a sms to an old friend.
    4)Attended for the dance practice despite late dinner.
    5)Decided on sth.
    6)Had quality chat with parents n sis during dinner.

  16. Growing up, I was the oldest sister of three and was always closer to my Dad. Like many families, we went through good and bad times with the economy, but my Dad never let that bother him. He insisted that my Mom be a “stay at home” Mom taking care of us while he worked to support his family, sometimes working two jobs – one full time, one part time. He found his niche when he began working for the United States Government and I was always in a state of awe as to what he did and how important it was. He was very limited to tell us what he actually did, but I was and still am so very proud of him – I wanted to be the best I could be at everything that I did so that he would be proud of me and he was. He often found it hard to say no to me and my sisters and even if he could not afford to do something or get something that we really wanted, he would find a way to do it.

    There is a saying that a girl looks for the qualities in her father when she’s dating and I can honestly say that this was true in my case. The wonderul man that I married is loving, caring and will do everything possible to make what we need/want happen – often working more than one job.

    My Mom went to Heaven almost a year ago and she and my Dad were married for over 60 years and obviously there is a large void in his life. My sisters and I do everything we can to be a part of his day everyday and although he is hurting, he remains so very strong for us. In summary, he is my Superman and my hero and I love him so very much. :love:

    My positive today is thinking about how his influence has made me to be a warm, loving and caring woman and to send him a copy of this post today via emal (his lives across the country) to let him know how very much he means to me. :heart:

  17. What I love most about my mother is that she is there for me no matter what. We fight a lot and don’t always agree, but there is always an underlying sense of closeness. I know that she has good intentions even when they don’t translate. And I really love those moments when she gets it right–like when she shows that she really knows and understands who I am by giving me a gift that complements who I am or what I need in the moment. And she always goes above and beyond what she needs to to help me out.

    What I love most about my father is who he is as a person and the fact that he’s always there for me, and kind and nurturing. I’m a lot like him, and it feels good to know where it comes from! I like that there is someone in the world so close to me that I can relate to and understand. He gives me a sense of my own identity. I love that he makes me feel special and valuable. And I love that we can talk about science and share ideas together. He gives me intelligence and curiosity.

  18. This is a very tough question to answer because my mom does not know who my dad is and she also did not lead a very good life. I didn’t live with her most of my life due to her using drugs and being in prison. I do love her because she is the only mom I have but there are not any fond memories to reflect on.
    I will call her today and let her know I am thinking of her and to let her know I love her.

    The Sun was out and I picked up my motorcycle and took it home to enjoy for the next couple of 60 degree days. We went to the Toy Train Exhibit and had lunch at a greek restaurant, it was a good day!

  19. What Do/Did You Love Most About Your Mom/Dad?

    What I love most about my parents. I love the way they treat and communicate with each other. As I mentioned in the earlier, my father is always the role model for me. He is a good father, a good husband, and now a good grandfather! My mum, she is always the person whom I can rely on to get some solutions upon my problems.

    I have lived for almost 30 years, and I have never seen my parents have quarrel. They have agreed for not quarreling in front of children, don’t drink alcohol in front of children (In fact, my father is a good alcoholic drinker), respect the children. And, they agreed to hold hands whenever they hang out, even if they are angry at each other. So, until now, they are still like sweet couples at home or outside. XD When they have any problem between them, they will sit down and talk calmly about it, find a solution for the problem and go on with the life.

    As far as I know, my parents always do as what they say. They say it, he mean it. Once they promise something, they will do it. But, in the other way round, if they don’t agree on something, they will definitely don’t agree with that. They respect us, and we respect them too. :)

    Do something nice for your mom/dad today.

    Today, I went out to have an evening walk with my mum. And I watched movie together with them at night. This is the normal routine in my family. Most of the time, I have dinner with them, and after having dinner, we chit chat for more than one hour. Just that today, I had some bread before exercising, so I took the dinner later than them.

    Identify at least one positive thing about your day.

    This morning, when I reached college, my “evil” thought came into my mind. I let my students have an emergency quiz without informing them prior to the class. XD

    As my subject is a programming subject, which requires hands-on to do practical questions, I always do this kind of quiz in my classes, just to see how much they coped in the class. Of course, I was kind enough to let them had the open book quiz, and I even let them discuss with their friends. The only rule in the quiz was “Don’t ask me any question on the logic and codes”. Once they ask me any question about those, the whole quiz will turn out to be zero mark for the whole class.

    I was not trying to be lazy. In fact, I wanted to see them guiding each other and see if they understand the context correctly. In the end, although there were only 2 students managed to complete the whole answer, but 2 of them were willingly to help out their friends in solving the questions. It was good to see the spirit of cooperation among all of them in fighting with the time to solve the quiz question. :)

    For me, I just walked around and give them the overall idea of the question. :P

    • I think I missed out one part…

      Message from my parents to us children, what they always tell us: Do what you think it’s right. It is your future. What we can do is to give you advice, and it is up to you to listen to our advice or not.

  20. Wow. This is a tough one for me…mostly because people are not comfortable with my true feelings & honesty in these matters. I was born into and raised in extreme dysfunction and have spent my entire life trying to trascend all of that. I’ve recently woke up to the fact that leaving it all behind is in fact the same as not dealing with it, and one does need to deal with one’s origins. If I come off as “cold” it is not my intention and trust me…a few years back you would call it “icy”.
    My mother: She made me who I am. She has always been a good provider in many ways.
    My father: He genuinely likes me. His eyes light up when he sees me. He is very unique and doesn’t really worry too much about what other people think.
    I have no idea what my mother’s message to me is :( I cannot come up with anything positive. :( I will have to think on that some more.
    My father would say “I don’t know.” He would say he doesn’t have one, if pressed. I guess his message would be that no one has to do anything.

    Had a quiet day…went for a nice drive.

  21. A difficult question, this one. Both my parents have passed away. My mum in 1996 and my dad in 2000. I know they both loved me very much and were proud of me, but I really don’t know what message they would have wanted to convey to me? If there was one, it probably wouldn’t be something that would resonate with who I am today. Or maybe they would have just told me to save my money?

    Positive things that happened today. I met up with two clients to discuss their next music videos that I’ll be making. The first guy I took to a vegan Vietnamese restaurant and he really enjoyed the mock beef curry! The other guy who I saw afterwards lives just down the street from that restaurant, and he was telling me how much he and everybody else loves the video I did for him that we posted online yesterday, which can be viewed here http://on.fb.me/zxyFIv if anybody wants to watch it :) A fun video.

  22. I didn’t want to answer this post because I have issues with both of my parents. However, in thinking about it, they did each have some positive qualities, even though I have spent most of my life thinking about their negative traits. I guess it’s time to change (myself that is). I admired my mother for being a strong caretaker, and always putting the rest of the family before herself. She worked hard as a homemaker and cook and raising children. I always felt safe and cared for. I admire my father for his business sucess. He was a kind mentor to his employees, and a friend to his clients. He always put people at ease by speaking to them as if they were valuable and interesting. At his funeral, both his employees and clients spoke of how much he improved their lives, because of his caring and his dynamic personality. I rarely got to see that side of him, but he did offer me some gifts in the final years of his life which I will cherish. One gift was a set of 3 little books with positive quotes and reflections. I keep them in my nightstand.

    Today I will call my mom after work to listen to her talk about her day. (She talks alot and is lonely.)

    A positive thing about today is that I am learning positive imagery, to infuse my subconscious mind with positive thoughts instead of negative thoughts.

    • I forgot to write the message my father gave for life, since he has passed on. His favorite quote was “Don’t sweat the small stuff. And it’s all small stuff. If you can’t fight, and you can’t flee, flow.” He carried the quote around in his wallet for 20 years (laminated). About a year before he died, he gave me the laminated card and said he didn’t need it any more, so he was passing it on to me. I still have it. I try to live by it, as much as possible. My two goals for this year are to be calm and to be positive. This equates to flow.

  23. Wt I love most about my mom n dad is how much unconditional love they have for us. They want the very best for us and work so hard to give us a comfortable life. My mum hs generally lived her whole life for us. She is not settled until we are happy. She will fight for her kids no matter what. She is sporty and active and bright. She makes friends easily but finds it hard to keep them due to the fact that she finds it hard to trust anyone n thinks every1 is against her. Lately she hs bn going thru bouts of depression n I ws so worried abt her bt I knw she’s going to b fine. My father too loves his daughters so very much,mst tyms nt very good with communication bt everything he does he thinks abt us. I hd many misunderstandings with them lst hols, mayb its part of growing up. I jst wanted thm to understand me bt thn e communication with them is nt that good. I feel lyk they dnt completely knw who I am. I knw they don’t trust me as they used to. Mainly bcz I dnt think my mum lyks mi boyfriend. And for tht matter I stopped telln her wen I go to c him which is basicali everyday. I feel I can’t talk to them abt sm things in mi life ryt nw. N it hurts bt I ges thts e disparity btn us due to growing up n nt being exactly wt I ws lyk b4. So I’m trying and I hope we will reach level harmonious ground n understanding. ..positive thing abt today.. Life n e gift of mi family

  24. What I love most about my mum is that she is the most reliable person in my life. She picks up my son from school for me, looks after him, feeds him, drives him back to mine in the evening and sometimes he even stays at hers. She never takes any money or anything for this. She is a very practical person and knows how to get things done really quickly.

    What I love most about my dad is that he is funny, creative and quite unconventional and I have some great conversations with him. He used to make up stories for me and my brother when we were little and he retold books like ‘The Hobbit’ and ‘The Weirdstone of Brasingamen’ to use in child friendly language. He has great taste in music and through him I discovered great musicians like Neil Young.

    I’m thinking of getting them both a card and writing down these things and telling them how much I appreciate them in it.

    I must admit I found it hard to not criticise my parents but after writing this I feel so much more appreciative. We all have our faults but my parents have given me so much and I am going to keep focusing on these blessings and all the other great blessings in my life :)

    Will let you all know how it goes! :dance:

    • I gave cards to my mum, dad, brother and son to show my appreciation. My son seemed mildly interested but he’s only five. My mum I also gave some daffodils, she was very happy although I haven’t heard from anyone since I gave them the cards so I don’t know what they made of the content.

      The best thing about my day was that I got to do several meditations in the morning, my son went to sleep straight away in the evening and I had a really good sleep :clap:

  25. This is a tough question for me. After reading it yesterday, I ended up feeling pretty down for the rest of the afternoon. I didn’t know what to write. :(

    What do I love most about my mom and dad? Both of my parents have had more than their fair share of tough times, and for a long time they never gave up on each other. My dad is a free spirit, loved to travel and explore new places (which I definitely inherited from him). He is strong, passionate about his family, and always supportive of me.

    What I love most about my mother is her strength to try and persevere no matter what – this I also try to do every day. When we were still a family, she always put her family first and gave everything she had.

    I haven’t spoken to my mom in almost a year now though. She is vicious to me. I think she hates me, and hates my marriage, my life. People tell me I have done nothing wrong to deserve it, but I can’t escape it. So I just try to forget now. But it’s hard, I feel like it is still my fault, that I have failed as a daughter.

    But, thinking positively….

    The positive things I did yesterday were organizing our entire office with my husband (it looks so much better now), and I also played my piano for an hour, which always makes me feel better. :)

    • Hi Kimberly,

      I’m glad you are still able to find the positives in your mother. I played the piano as a child, would love to do a class sometime to get back into it :)

      All the best for this challenge! :)

  26. One good thing that happened to me today : I’m back home, meaning that… I HAVE A COMPUTER AGAIN ! Yay !

    For this question, I’m going to talk about my dad first. What I like about him is that he’s funny and he often has really, really great ideas ! He’s very interesting to talk to, that’s for sure =)
    And my mom… well, my relationship with her is very bad. But if there’s one thing I like about her, it’s that she forces me to work for school. I’m not a very motivated student, and when she’s not there to shout at me until I know all my lessons perfectly, I clearly don’t work enough.

    • I like the fact that even if you and your mom are not best friends for the moment, you still have something possitive to say about her :-) she is doing this for you and you know it !

  27. My father is a good person. I wish that he was healthy and not taking the medicine that changed him. He is 63 years old this year. And I’m 23 this year. What I like about him which never changed is his kindness. My mother is stressed out most of her life, but what I like about her is that she is willing to talk to me about things that most kids don’t get from their parents.I am lucky to have parents that are patient with me, and mother that is ready to give me advice and support me. I can tell her how I see the world, sometimes she would point out what I missed and judged too soon. Because she met so many people, she got to understand what are people like. When we drink coffee together we often start talking, and I forget what I had to do at that time and talk with them for hour or longer. It can be really refreshing to let them know what you think. :)

    Positive thing today is…I’m going to see my bf, after a week or so.I’m still having a bit higher temperature, but I have to go to school tomorrow and hand out my seminar to professor,…and since school and bf are in the same town, I get to see him :) I miss him a lot. :heart:

  28. My mother has been the rock in my life. Regardless of the choices I have made in my life, she has always been there for me. We have laughed together, cried together, she knows who I am and who I want to be like no one else. I am beyond grateful for having such an amazing role model, not only as a mother, but as a woman. I know that she will always make herself available to me, in this life and the next.

    I am grateful for my father who has shown me the power of silence, determination, hard work, and persistance. He also has been a rock in my life. Physically present, which has been a comfort. He’s sort of been the man in the “background” or behind the curtains, silently cheering me on. I know that he would never let me “fall.”

    The foundation of who I am comes from having the parents that I have. I am eternally grateful for such loving and dependable parents!!!! :heart:

  29. My parents are the best parents in the whole world.
    My mom is my best friend. She listens to me, gives me good advice when I need it, she´s funny, full of energy, she is very observant and I could go on forever. I admire her so much, because she has worked very hard all her life so that my brother and I could achieve our dreams. Everything she does, she does for others. Sometimes I worry about her because she forgets that she needs to do things for herself too!
    My dad is very smart. I love it when we have long talks on phylosophical questions. He is always there for me. We have the same personality, the same way of thinking about life and other people.
    Even though my parents didn´t have much money, the worked really hard and they´ve been through so much. They´ve given me freedom to do what I wanted to do in live and to learn from my mistakes, and that is something I can´t thank them enough for doing. They´re my role models and I love them more than anything. The most valuable lesson I got from them is that I should let others live their lives, I should be caring and respectful and I should work hard on what I love.

    Tomorrow I´m going to go shopping to buy my mom a shirt the she wants but that she is not buying because it´s too expensive. And for my dad, I will keep working on the blog we are doing together. I will also call them to tell them how much I love them, because I haven´t seen them in a while since we live in different cities.

    As for the positive thing today, I helped a friend with a project and also helped to girls of my class with statistics. We had a good time :heart:

  30. After all what we have been though as a family, after the many hardships of these 3 past years,

    My mum is once again the best listener and adviser for me. Despite her childhood traumas, she showed us we are not our past and as a mum she gave us the best, so we had a happy childhood.

    My dad never gives up and cares for his family. It’s always been all about us, he does not care too much of things around, as long as we are safe and happy. He stayed when my mum got very sick, when she really wanted to die, never he let go of her hand, never he let her down.

    My parents always say to us the words “I love you” and this is the most beautiful gift I have with me all the time. They admit when they are wrong and seeing the love they show to my husband I can say I am blessed.

    I will send them an email, we live far away from each other so unfortunately we can’t meet for a coffee.

    As for positive things for today:

    It’s sunny again
    I received an email from a friend with photos of her two girls
    I enjoy reading answers here and exchanging with others.

    A beautiful day to you all!!

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