This is Day 5 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 5 of 21DJC! :)Yesterday’s question was this: “If You Are To Travel Back in Time to 3 Years Ago, What Advice Would You Give Yourself?“.All your responses were AMAZING. It certainly feels like many of you have grown and evolved immensely in just the past 3 years, hasn’t it? That while others may be sleepwalking their life away during that time, you have been making your life count. For that, I’m so happy for all of you. I’m so proud that all of you are here, at Personal Excellence, united as one community, one family. This feeling is indescribable. It’s sort of like I feel like I’m a big momma that feels protective of all of you, and there’s this surging sense of pride from seeing how far you’ve come these past few years.So where was I 3 years ago? 3 years ago was November 2008. I had just quit my brand management job at Procter & Gamble, and was just starting my personal development business. I was full of fire and enthusiasm about my cause; I still am today and will forever be that way. It’s been 3 years running the business, and yet it feels like I just started it yesterday. Time certainly loses its significance when you are doing what you really love. :)If I were to travel back in time 3 years ago, I would tell my younger self:
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 5 of 21DJC! :)Yesterday’s question was this: “If You Are To Travel Back in Time to 3 Years Ago, What Advice Would You Give Yourself?“.All your responses were AMAZING. It certainly feels like many of you have grown and evolved immensely in just the past 3 years, hasn’t it? That while others may be sleepwalking their life away during that time, you have been making your life count. For that, I’m so happy for all of you. I’m so proud that all of you are here, at Personal Excellence, united as one community, one family. This feeling is indescribable. It’s sort of like I feel like I’m a big momma that feels protective of all of you, and there’s this surging sense of pride from seeing how far you’ve come these past few years.So where was I 3 years ago? 3 years ago was November 2008. I had just quit my brand management job at Procter & Gamble, and was just starting my personal development business. I was full of fire and enthusiasm about my cause; I still am today and will forever be that way. It’s been 3 years running the business, and yet it feels like I just started it yesterday. Time certainly loses its significance when you are doing what you really love. :)If I were to travel back in time 3 years ago, I would tell my younger self:- Do what you’re doing now. You’re absolutely on the right track.
- Follow your heart and trust your gut instincts as you always have. It has never steered you wrong, and it will continue to bring you to the right place.
- Nothing has ever happened for you to lose faith, so there’s no reason to have doubts in anything.
- If there’s ever anyone who is a cancerous agent to your path, let him/her go. There are 7 billion people in this world – For anyone who doesn’t resonate with your current consciousness, there will be ten thousands of people out there who do.
- Live. Love. Breathe.
With that said, let’s now move on to today’s question! ;)
21DJC Day 5
For today’s question, I decided to go with something close to our heart. This question can be found in #91 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life. Today, I’d like you to reflect on the following:Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D
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Not at all a simple question for some.
Because of my ongoing depression, I’m not yet able to consider myself as ‘the’ one.
For now, it is my husband, who has stayed with me thru sickness and in health (more sickness), for richer and for poorer (mainly poorer), for better or for worse (too often for worse) and has not once complained.
He has shown total compassion, sympathy, empathy when it applies, more patience than I’ve known any person to have, unconditional love, and a willingness to learn and help me, whatever that may entail.
He is more the ‘lady of the house’ than I am, & with nary a flinch. On top of all of this, there is still room for romance and love.
He truly is my everything.
The most important person to me in this world is my dad :) He really loves me so so much and I know he went through alot of tough times since he was born – no parents, poor family, stroke, etc. When he had a stroke relapse which was much more serious than the first, he showed me the power of love and determination. He was so determined to recover because he was worried what would happen to my mum, my brother and me if he doesn’t recover and go back to work. Now, he is quite healthy and no one would believed he had suffered stroke twice.
My dad may not be the richest or the smartest person on earth, he’s my role model and the most important person in my life.
Well, since we have to choose one person only to be the most important in our life, I have to choose me.
I am the most important person in my world because without me my world wouldn’t even exist!
I love every person that has touched my life in any way (good or bad), they were there for a reason and that was to create me as I am today. Therefore (it may sound a bit awkward) my world revolves around me.
I am sure though that when I grow up and have kids they will be the most important people in the world for me.
I would also like to add that although I am the most important person in my world that does not mean that I am the one that helped me the most.
I have been judgemental and really harsh on myself sometimes so yes, I guess there is a difference between the most important person in the world and the person you appreciate and love because that person helped you.
the most important person to me in the world is the Spirit that’s been guiding me since I was a child. Spirit has been with me almost since I can remember – I believe it may be my grandfather who passed away when I was 8 years old – I can’t be sure – but that’s about when I started to notice the presence and that was over 40 years ago. I am not, and have never been a religious person, born into what I would call a secular Jewish family, and now married to a very secular Catholic, religion hasn’t ever been a focus for me – although I’ve always been interested in it as I am other sorts of history. But I’m very spiritual and I do believe very much in the soul and in spirits existing around us. I also believe in past lives and reincarnation. Spirit has been with me through good times and bad and while there is no real physical presence, there is a presence nonetheless. I talk aloud to Spirit when I walk early mornings in the park. I feel protected by the Spirit. I’d be lost without it. I’m not sure what I did to earn the honor of having this presence with me all the time – and yes, I do feel it is an honor and that not everyone has the good fortune that I do – I try with all my heart to honor the Spirit with gratitude, and by trying to be the best human I can be every day. I have tried very hard to raise my children to understand that gratitude is vital to honoring the Spirit and that the most important thing to be in this world is good – if you are always striving to be good, you will do good things, you will help people, you will not intentionally harm and, when you do make mistakes, you will own that mistake and try to rectify it.
The most important person in the world to me is my mom. She was a very young mother and always maintained a great balance between being our mother and our best friend. She has the most amazing strength and is a pillar of faith. There is t a day that goes by that I don’t thank God for her.
I do wish I could say that the most important person in the world to me is myself. However, I’m not at that stage yet i’dlike to love myself unconditionally and to put myself first.
Who is the most important person to me in the world? I ask myself. Is it my mother ?. The poor woman went through a lot currying me in her womb for a good nine months, with all the side effects of pregnancy. Then she went through incredible maternity pain. She fed and looked after me from zero age throughout, to the time i could fend for myself. But if i choose her a head of my father, that itself sounds
very unfair,. My father braved all kind of hardship to make sure that i got almost everything i desired, not
to mention the daily food he provided on consistent daily basis and he never complained.
Then i think of all the sleepless nights both of my parents endured for a long time and still they loved me
unconditionally. I get tempted to choose both of them equally, but the challenge requires only one person.
Then i get to think of the love my brothers and sisters showed me throughout childhood and beyond, but
i can only choose one. I get stuck, to a point of looking to my close friends, and still could not pick one
a head of the other. Then comes my wife. The love and care she is showing me on a daily basis, day and
night, making sure that i am well fed to be able to do my work strongly and energized. I think of the beautiful children she had for me and the love i have of them and get stuck of choice. I mean, it could do none of all these people any good, if i chose any of them ahead of the others. But i remember one thing: all these lovely people have got one thing in common. They all love me and i am very important to each one of them in a unique way. I know for sure that people will value me based on the way i value myself. So i decide to chose that person that conveys love,care and value to all these people in my life and they are all very happy and overjoyed with my choice. None of them can dispute my choice. This person is ever with me everywhere i go. He is with me through tragedies and through jubilations. Some times i try not to look at him at embarrassing moments, but still i get to feel his presence. Friends,i am overjoyed to share with you that the most important person in the whole world is ME. Yes the most important person in my life is Abdallah Sendijja.
The Most Important Person to You in the World is my wife Rita, she shapes my day. She is a strong character in my life and her single hearted believe in god , loving and ability to put up with me makes us the most important person in my life.
My life has transform for better after knowing her and makes me feel like discovering my true potential. I thank god for sending such a wonderful loving soul into my life.
Love you Rita :-)
This one is easy for me…….definitely my children. They are all beautiful individuals who make me beam with pride. Whenever life has brought me down, their smiles have picked me up again and gave me strength to overcome anything. My oldest is an artist and a brilliant writer. My middle child is a fantastic hockey player who shows amazing sportsmanship at all times and my baby has a heart of gold and wants to save the world one child and animal at a time :) I am truly blessed.
It has taken a lifetime for me to say this. Or even think such a thing, much less feel it. I am the most important person in the world to me. I spent a lifetime of putting others first before myself. I spent a lifetime losing myself while I thought i was “loving” someone else. I thought that making someone else more important than myself was the loving thing to do. But that only made me lose my way more and more.
I am the most important person in the world to me because noone else can take my very own place. Noone can replace me or fulfill my purpose, and I have the responsibility to myself and spirit to fulfill my unique destiny.
I have discovered that each person in the world is as important as the next because each person has their own magnificent Self to express that unique destiny. Noone else can fulfill that destiny in that unique way except that one person.
I have discovered “Realize Thyself” and “To thine own self be true.” are wise words for me to follow.
It is my heart’s desire to feel, to really and truly feel the love that I am. Instead of seeking to find the love “out there” somewhere, outside of myself. It has taken me a lifetime to come to know that I am essentially love, and to express that love out into the world.
To feel the Love I am, now, in this moment.
I have discovered it is all about this moment.
Each moment is the most important moment.
Very well written Bett. Out of those of us who have chosen ourself, I think you’ve really approached it from a unique perspective here and have explained your reasons really clearly.
Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?
The most important person to me in the world, well there are actually six! Six very important guys, my five wonderful boys and the love of my life. I am so blessed to have them all in my life each and everyone brings me something different and unique, something that the other does not. They all are so different in personality and the way that we interact with each other. Like take my nineteen year old he is my shopping buddy, he loves clothes, fashion and has to dressed just so, with the best names. Then my fifteen year old he could care less as long as he has his shorts and tee’s he’s fine, but loves when I play sports and rough house with him. All are so special to me and I have a bond with each one in a different way.
Hmm, this is a difficult question. I honestly don’t know… I can’t decide. I don’t think there’s just 1 person. The people I love the most all have the same value to me. This is something I’ll think about.
If I could roll my three kids into one, it’d be them. They’re great kids and I’m very proud of them!
Well, if I had a wife and/or kids, they would be at the top, but I don’t.
Both of my parents are living, and I can’t pick between them.
I’ve got two sisters and I can’t pick between them.
I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews and I can’t pick between them.
I have a few close friends, but I wouldn’t pick one above the other.
One of my nieces just had a baby that was born 3 months premature in September and I think about her a lot and pray for her to make it (she’s doing well, by the way).
But I don’t live near any of them and they’re not part of my daily life.
I spend every day with myself and am working on my life, so, I’d have to say myself.
If my work on myself pays off, I assume a result of that will be that I have someone special in my life that I consider more important than me.
So here’s to you, future important person! Hope to meet you soon!
It has to be me. Yes, it is me, myself. Confirm.
My first thought was my son. He is important and I love him. But, sorry baby, mama will have to take the first spot for this one. And, I still love you and you are important in my life.
For so long, I’ve always put others first. Trying to please others. Doing things in such and such a manner so that others will not judge me. What they think seemed to be so important! How about what I think? What I think, yes moi, is the most important. I have to do what I think is right even if the whole world think it’s not. I know myself best, or ought to know myself (if not, I better find out who I am).
Regarding myself as the most important person to me in the world reflects that I respect myself . It’s hard to respect others if you do not respect yourself. It is my self esteem and self-worth. It’s not about being conceited or egoistic. I feel worthy and love myself and I feel I have much to give to those around me, and to the whole world, for sure. It has to start with myself, regarding myself as the most important person — not to you, but to me, myself. What you think or others think is your own prerogative. What I think is important to me. Because I live my life and you live yours. I regard you as important in your own right to yourself and vice versa so am I, to myself.
Most of all, since I believe in God…God has been my very friend and teacher. God is a therapist a healer. God is the most amazing brilliant person ever!
My mother has taught me what it means to love. She has been absolutely committed, she is intelligent, hard-working and very humble.
My father has taught me what it means to love wisdom, to have a strong character, and to be a compassionate person.
My brothers have been there for me. I love them.
I love my friends: Ellen who is amazing. Santosh who is a brilliant, humble, supportive, sweet, caring and handsome and amazing man. My ex-boyfriend Christopher is a romantic, deeply caring person, he has been someone I can share my thoughts with. Lauren is a sweet, beautiful, special girl. Melody has been a friend going out of her way for me. Sean is caring and supportive also, and he has been someone I can share my ideas with. Claire is a radiant woman with a beautiful spirit, she is wise and sweet. There have been others and I love them all.
There are the random strangers who have given me a word of advice or encouragement when I needed it. Thank you.
I hope that I have and will make an impact in the lives of others.
We all make an impact upon our world. I truly believe this statement:
“Everything we do, Everything we don’t do
Everything we say, Everything we don’t say
Affects someone somewhere.”
Our affects upon the world also affect our self.
Thank Being said I would definitely say that you have made an impact upon the lives of others.
The most important person to me in the world is my Dad! Come rain or shine, he’s always there for me. His unconditional love, tireless and endless supports have made me of who I am today. He’s the one who never fails to immediately call me back whenever I ring (but unanswered) or leave him a message. Even when I am thousand miles away from him, when I’m sick he always makes that expensive international calls every single day just to check if I already feel better than the day before. He is the one who always makes sure that I have reached my destination all right when I travel. I’m already married and 27 years old this year, but I’m always Daddy’s little girl.
That is beautiful! Hats off to your Dad!
Thanks, Toni! Writing this post made me miss my Dad so much! In fact, my eyes were tearing as I composed the answer of today’s challenge.
Not just your Daddy’s little girl. I bet if your Daddy participates in this discussion on Journalling, he would have named you as the most important person in his life!
As a single working parent – the most important person in my life is my son. He is my world and I love him to bits. I couldn’t imagine what life would be like without him in it.
I hope I can formulate it right…there’s something in what you write that…concerns me… touches me..
As I read it, there is a hidden danger in what you write/feel…
Yes, (ofcourse!!) you love your son to bits, but at the same time you can’t build your entire world around him!
You NEED to have your own life and interests in order to be a good rolmodel to him, to teach him and to help him develop and grow!
Ellen, we can’t be judgmental in this website,and as Celes said, there’s no right or wrong answer. But what you see as alarming, I see as natural.
A mother is always attached to her children very strongly until they grow up. There are varieties in how mothers express their love.
Especially when you have a baby or a child, you must put their needs first because they are completely dependent on you, but if we can’t guarantee a child his right to be cared for, then no need to bring him to this world.
Please consider this: If you felt so much worried for a stranger online ( just because they wrote something that could be not 100% accurate), then how can we blame a mother for worrying about someone who lived with her heart for months before her eyes saw him.
I pick me as the most important person to myself; just in case no one else will.
Thats the best one liner I have come across in this entire post.
two thumbs up :-)
The most important person to me is my dear dear Mother <3
A very close second is my Father. They are the only ones who will love me unconditionally, the only ones who do what’s best for me before what’s best for them – actually they consider what’s best for me is best for them.
How can I ever thank them? Is it even possible?
I can personally not pick only one person who is most important to me in the world but two– and it would be my parents. They are two of the most admirable inspiring and nicest people that I know which makes me super lucky to grow up in such a loving family that I would want to have in the future as well. I have to be honest, sometimes it can hold me back to what I really want todo and where I really want to go because I have a fear of leaving them because they are oldr, but lately I am starting to accept that I have to grow up and mature on my own.
The most important person in the world to me is myself. For without me I would not have my kids. I want and need to love me now since I haven;t loved me in a long time. If I don’t make myself important than I am no use to anyone else. After all were all in this together. Lets help each other out.
I have lost myself to so many people over the years, I make it a priority to make myself important.
You should too.
The pertinent question and very rightly picked up shall definitely bring out the hidden ego’s or cravings about persons or things.
We modern people are over-obsessed with ourselves and worst part is we have all the intellectualism to justify it.
So no wonder people will come out with myriad idiosyncrasies around the vital questions put up
May truth prevail.
May we learn to be humble.
Hi rakesh, this is not the place to criticize or critique others’ answers – it’s a journaling challenge where everyone is invited to reflect on the questions and share their answers. No answer is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’; everything is subjective and the most important thing is that it’s true for the individual him/herself. It takes openness and authenticity to journal on these questions and share one’s answers openly in a public platform like this, where others may place their judgments. Instead of analyzing and critiquing others’ answers, I’ll like to invite you to instead join in the challenge, reflect on the question and share your answers together with everyone. That’s the essence of what this challenge is about – reflecting, connecting with our inner selves, and growing through the self reflection.
Who the most important person to me in my world is.
The most important person to me in the world would have to be myself. And for a number of reasons too.
Firstly, I’m the only person I know that I will be with for my entire life from start to finish. This time is important, and I know that if I’m unable to treat myself properly and respectfully during this time, there is no way I will be able to do the same for others. My wife, friends, family and acquaintances will not benefit from my friendship if I am unable to take care of myself properly.
Another reason is that I myself am the only person who can shape my own future and everything I will become. Being the most important person in my own life is how I’ve reached the point of my life I am at now. Happy, positive, loving and with a great sense of freedom. And acknowledging this has been very important too. If anything in my life makes me sad or depressed, I know that essentially I myself am the only one responsible for that. Even during times of a loved one passing, although it’s fine to mourn, I believe it’s still important to stay strong, be positive and not let that event affect me in any negative way. Show gratitude for those who have passed and for their achievements, but never letting that get in the way of living my own life.
I also believe that being the most important person in my life is essential in times of being rejected by others for whatever reason. No matter how important others who reject me may be, I will know that their opinions of me don’t really matter. I’m in control of my own destiny. But at the same time, if I’m offered constructive criticism on how I can do anything better in my life, of course I will accept that advice the best I can. If it helps me become a better person and make me aware any flaws I may have but may not be aware of myself, such advice can be a great help.
Being the most important person in my own life and doing whatever I can to take good care of myself I believe also places me in a better position to help others improve their own lives. If someone I know is facing a problem I have already overcome myself, I am then able to help them do the same from my own experiences.
There are probably many more reasons I can list, but these to me are the most important. There’s nothing wrong with loving yourself, and this has nothing to do with vanity. Sadly though, many people confuse the two and accuse those who they see as vain as ‘loving themselves’. Vanity is not a trait I possess. Of course if I were not the number one person in my own life, and instead chose to live my life to please others, I know I would not be happy.
Glenn,
May I just say that I relate to everything you have said in your writing, and appreciate how clearly you have written about your ideas. It has taken a lifetime for me to be able to see the importance, for me, to acknowledge and appreciate myself as #1, and take responsibility for my life.
Bett
Hi Glenn Im coming straight to the point. Its a very wise thing that you hav put up here. I must thank you for making it so beautiful and clear. Used to be a very confused girl in asigning priorities. I have also mentioned you in my reply to the question. :)
cheers !!
The most important “person” in the world to me is my horse Belle. I rescued her from an abusive situation, started her for riding, and helped her through her pregnancy and nursing. After our years together she has basically come to be like a child to me. The close runner ups would be Belle’s foal Iris, and my mother, but Belle is the most special because of the connection we had when I first met her.
mama :heart:
All my near and dear ones are very important to me. But as the challange is to pick only 1 person, so here I go….
The most important person to me in this world is MYSELF !
Many people spend their lives putting other people first. Sometime back I too was in the same boat. But now I learned to love myself….because I think without loving ourselves we can’t offer it to anybody else. To love onself is not to be selfish. To love oneself is to give others the gift of our best state. Through a voyage of self discovery I found that there could not be anyone else most important to me rather then myself.
It may sound selfish, but the most important person to me is ME.
I am actually a very caring and generous person (at least that’s what people me tell me), so this is not a choice of egotism, more the realization that to really love others, you first must learn to love yourself.
Mom, sister, friends, even that person who doesn’t want to hear anymore about me: I love you all.
But as someone once told me: stop looking for external love, just open your heart, open it so wide, and then synchronicities will happen, and everything will fall magically in his place.
There is many important people in my life, that inspire and support me everyday. But if I had to choose just one it would have to be my mother. She has been there from the beginning, always making me see the best in myself and supporting me in everything I did. Every significant moment in my life she has been there right by my side, always with love and guidance. Her strength as a women is unbelievable, despite anything she always puts her family first and will always find the bright side of any situation. ( myself and my brothers sure did test her strength growing up ). As a role model mum has always been a hard worker and never backed down from a challenge, and made sure us kids did the same. She said that someone’s approach towards work shows there approach towards life. But also believes in making sure you make time to enjoy yourself, to unwind and laugh whenever you can! As nearly every child would think of their own mother, I believe I have the very best mum in the world!! And would not be who I am or where I am without her being such a huge part of my life. I am so very grateful to have her as my mum.
The most important person to me in the world is my wife. I’ve learned and still do A LOT of things from her. How to be patient without the needs of any reason. How to let go and be grateful, how to enjoy the process in this life. And, she always have this attitude of, “there’s always a way” towards challenges in life.
Me as a melancholy, cannot feel content if I don’t have a set or two or three, better to have a dozen of plan towards things in life. But my wife choose one and be flexible on it. In the past I cannot understand this kind of simple-minded approach (okay I know I’m wrong now, give the guy a break :D ), and seldom have a light quarrel with her.
In the past 4years, I’ve read a lot of books, contemplating, reflecting, correcting my mind-set, fast forward to today, hey, my mind set become much similar to my wife’s. Well, I’m grateful for my wife, a good wife, a good mother, a good friend, a good partner, a good teacher.
be happy and feel good.
Thats very very nice, Fiat . I often think on being a loving wife when I get married. Happy for both of you :)
I like the way you speak of your wife – My husband treats me like a Queen – I would hope he would write this way of me as well –
She is a lucky lady – I love that you would write so openly about it!
Smiles
T
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