This is Day 5 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 5 of 21DJC! :)Yesterday’s question was this: “If You Are To Travel Back in Time to 3 Years Ago, What Advice Would You Give Yourself?“.All your responses were AMAZING. It certainly feels like many of you have grown and evolved immensely in just the past 3 years, hasn’t it? That while others may be sleepwalking their life away during that time, you have been making your life count. For that, I’m so happy for all of you. I’m so proud that all of you are here, at Personal Excellence, united as one community, one family. This feeling is indescribable. It’s sort of like I feel like I’m a big momma that feels protective of all of you, and there’s this surging sense of pride from seeing how far you’ve come these past few years.So where was I 3 years ago? 3 years ago was November 2008. I had just quit my brand management job at Procter & Gamble, and was just starting my personal development business. I was full of fire and enthusiasm about my cause; I still am today and will forever be that way. It’s been 3 years running the business, and yet it feels like I just started it yesterday. Time certainly loses its significance when you are doing what you really love. :)If I were to travel back in time 3 years ago, I would tell my younger self:

- Do what you’re doing now. You’re absolutely on the right track.
- Follow your heart and trust your gut instincts as you always have. It has never steered you wrong, and it will continue to bring you to the right place.
- Nothing has ever happened for you to lose faith, so there’s no reason to have doubts in anything.
- If there’s ever anyone who is a cancerous agent to your path, let him/her go. There are 7 billion people in this world – For anyone who doesn’t resonate with your current consciousness, there will be ten thousands of people out there who do.
- Live. Love. Breathe.
With that said, let’s now move on to today’s question! ;)
21DJC Day 5
For today’s question, I decided to go with something close to our heart. This question can be found in #91 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life. Today, I’d like you to reflect on the following:Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D
((Images: Empty book for journaling, Photo frames of family))
**** I would like to say the most important person to me is me, I will work on that begin a true answer in the near future. I know that is the correct response for me. I have to say the answer today is my mom. She is the most important person in my life. I have come so far in my adult life because of her love and support. She has been there every step of the way since I left my husband. She is free with her advice, sometimes it is just her option from old school ways or her suspicious mind, or her being manipulative and it is usually evident which of those she is, but which ever it is she means only to help, to fix things.
She is so talented, she can do anything, even at 78 years old, with pulmonary fibrosis disease, she can run circles around me. Whether it is reupholstering furniture, finishing wood work, hanging shelves, sewing curtains, installing ceiling fans or using anyone of her power tools I am always impressed with her independence.
My mother does not seem to trust men, and growing up with this distrust took its toll on my development. I wish I had a different childhood at times, and then, I don’t know what I would be like today if I had. I don’t hate the person I am, I am a hard worker, will always stand by my children to help them in any way I can. I am generous to a fault, smart, well liked, ambitious and just want to be accepted and loved for who I am. There in is the problem. I need to accept and love myself which brings us back to the answer I SHOULD be able to write here…
The most important person to me is my AUNT , Who has taught me life lessons and her big contribution in my childhood. Her sayings helps me in my daily life i am so grateful to her……….
I believe, i am the most important person for me in my life. I know that it sounds very mean but its i think if i am there all these people exist and if i am not then no one exist. When i die, these people will cry while taking me to the graveyard, but when the time passes away everyone will be busy with their life and probably will not remember me that frequent.
When i am here in this world, living my life and have some goals (which i have not planned for). I must think about myself and take my achievements further.
People who are surrounding me are the most lovable people in my life, My Mom, My wife, My Father, My Brother and my grandfather. All of them are life but what i feel that if i am not me and when i dont exist , they do not have any existence either. So, to love all of them i need myself to be clear and to be loved specially by myself.
The most important person in my life is my parents. I lost my dad a few months back. From then on, its my mom who is the most important person in my life.
Lessons learnt from my Dad:
a. Independence [both financially and emotionally]
b. Spirituality
c. Self reliant
Lessons learnt from my Mom:
a. Patience
b. Caring and being generous
c. Selflessness
d. Being there for people around whenever they want
And lots more
And whatever I am, is becoz of these pillars in my life.
I,ME,MYSELF
“If you can’t love yourself then don’t expect others to love you”
This forms the core of my reflection and I believe that whatever am going to achieve in my life, would be largely due to my own efforts. I will be the only person accountable for whatever I do for good or bad, so the most important person in my life would be definitely me. Don’t want to sound as a Narcissist (I am not).
I also feel that the notion of most important person keeps on changing with the different phases in life. For a kid, mom or dad would take that place. For adults it would be their spouse and later on their kids. It is completely human to feel that way as with time our perception/priorities changes with experience.
As for the most important person apart from myself would be my mom and dad. They have done so much for me. They have made me the person I am today with their able guidance, teachings and the sacrifices they made for me. I specially remember a couple of instances when my family was going through a financial clout and literally we were struggling to get two meals for the day, my mom would somehow arrange for all of us and didn’t saved anything for herself. I can’t remember the number of times she had to fight with the school administration to let us continue with our study as we were unable to pay up the tuition fees. I used to get embarrassed in those situations and kept on wondering what’s wrong with my parents…why can’t they just pay off the fee like other parents…I was too small to understand all of these but as I gained awareness, I realized how much pain she had to endure in growing us up. By the grace of god, today we have everything needed to lead a comfortable life. Subconsciously I still try to make up for our earlier days by providing her all the comforts and luxury but deep down I realize that all these materialistic things can’t equate with the sacrifices of my parents.
Love you MOM :-)
To be able to acknowledge that it is largely your own efforts whatever you are going to achieve in life – that itself is admirable!
I feel this is very tough question to answer as I already have a long list of names and no matter how hard try I can not shorten the list… I can not even prioritize between them..here it goes:
My grandma: For being so lovable and bringing me up…
My Mom: For being such an amazing person.. so strong like a shield sheltering me from harm My Dad: For being the guide and mentor .. for being my strength
My elder sister: For being so caring.. giving me the liberty of being myself
My Brother: For being the fun … you show me the sunny side of life
My kid sister: For being the kid…you taught me love is unconditional
My uncle: For being there for me always.. you give me hope
My Aunt: For being the bonding..you hold everything together
My Cousin Brother: For being so chubby … you have become my favorite pillow…
My cousin sister: For being so special… you are my way back home…
My Husband: For being my shadow… for better or worse..I taste life with you partner
My Friends : For being the air i breathe.. for being stories i cherish.. for creating the memories that I call mine…
:D
The most important person is my husband. Without him all the rest of the relationships in my life would suffer. It is not that I am so totally dependent on him that I have no identity of my own. It is that we are both better together than we are apart.
My husband is the person who is honest with me – both the good and the bad. He is the one who gave me courage to seek out how to live my dream of being a mom, of adopting our 2 daughters. He is the person who encourages me to step outside my shy shell and meet new people. He is the person who provides a safe place for me when I am overwhelmed.
People say that they can see me relax when he walks in the room. They say that I become more “me” because I am able to relax. I know that is because I know that no matter what everyone else in the room may think of me, he is my safe zone. He is the one person who always loves me and allows me to be myself. He has allowed me to explore different facets of myself without judging. That is not to say that he does not hold me accountable for my actions. But he does give me the room to be who I am at the moment.
He has sat at my hospital bedside more times that I care to count as I recovered from multiple surgeries. He has held me as we both cried over our inability to conceive and carry a child. He has never asked for what I could not give, but never let me wimp out and not give what I am capable of giving. He has suffered through the emotional swings and horrors of hormonal imbalances. He as loved me both as thin and now very not thin! But he has always loved me. He is a reflection of God’s love for me. I am so thankful for the gift of him in my life.
Life sure is very happy if your partner becomes the most important person in your life.
My son is the most important person in the world to me. He is my baby and I will always protect him. If a parent doesn’t protect there son who will. It is my job as a mother to teach him right from wrong and protect him. It is the best job in the world to raise my own son. He is my heart living outside of my body. If anything ever happen to him it would shatter my world. Everything he does is the cutest smartest thing I have ever seen a kid do. It is hard to explain the bond a mother and child share. I just never knew anyone would mean so much to me until I became pregnant.
Hi Friends and Participants of Personal Excellence. I am very proud to share and say that, THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON TO ME IN THE WORLD IS GOD, OUR CREATOR. If not for God, I would not be here in this world enjoying learning, sharing, growing, and being part of your lives. Because of God, He made me feel so special and we are all His children, with His unconditional love by getting to know Celes, and the Personal Excellence Team and Participants. Therefore, I say, thank you God for all of you. God bless us all, and for peace in this world. Take care always.
To me, I am the most important person in the world. I am the only person who can live my life while I accomplish my goals and purposes. My primary purpose at this time is increasing awareness of important causes with my photography on a blog. As I read responses to this challenge, I gain increasing appreciation of my accomplishments and growth.
My Husband. He knows me better than anyone else. He knows all my secrets and still loves me. I’ve enjoyed sharing my life with him and look forward to growing older with him
My two boys are the most important thing in my life. They are the reason why I am trying to better my life, and trying to live a life full of love, achievement, kindness, and gratitude. Before I had my first son I was practically homeless, I wasn’t in school, and I was addicted to numerous drugs. The second I found out I was pregnant I changed my entire life within a matter of days and weeks. The person I am today has no resemblance to who I used to be, only the past connects us, and I appreciate my past because it brought me to where I am today, and it brought me to my beautiful sons. I am eternally grateful for everything that I have been given, and I am extremely grateful for my boys, children bring a miracle to your life each day. I will always have happiness in my life so long as I can take a moment to appreciate my children. They guaruntee my success in life.
If I were to pick one person that is the most important person to me, that would be my husband.
How do I know?
Everyone in my family is very close to me (and each other), even though I now live abroad, far away from everybody. My mom, my dad, my two siblings – all of my grandparents as well, having been like “extra parents” to me, and still are.
Losing anybody out of my biological family would be devastating to me, yet losing my husband would feel even worse. I know that I would be able to go on without him, if I had to, but thinking about not being able to be with him leaves me unbelievably sad and it feels so fundamentally wrong. I can’t see me being able to or wanting to share my very deepest thoughts and feelings or physical being with anybody else.
We share the most special bond I could ever imagine. I am him and he is me, somehow. We don’t even have the same native language, yet we communicate in the most pure way. It’s like we’re one being split into two physical bodies. Being apart from him makes me feel a huge void, like something important is missing from my physical world. I can’t stop feeling a strong urge to re-connect with him and finally be one with him again. Our team is amazing!
Who will it be?
After narrowing it, I decided on (1) my mother (2) my father and (3) myself. After thinking it through again, I finally decided on myself…Why?
**Myself**
– without myself I won’t be here (obvious :D)
– I am THE one who makes it work
– I give myself the most encouragement
– I do what I think is right
– I love myself more than anyone does
– I follow my own heart
If I have to choose a human it is simply too difficult to choose. I’m a mom with two kids and I surely wouldn’t want to choose between either of them. Also, how do I choose my husband above my kids? I’m totally torn.
However, when I do things I most often keep in mind that I want to do them in such a way that God would smile on me. I want to give Him pleasure and joy the way my children try to make me laugh and give me joy. Yes, I’m ‘naughty’ too, but I believe He understands, especially as Jesus came down to earth and felt what it was like to be a human being. He was tempted in all the ways I’m being tempted to do the wrong things. I believe He does smile at me and cries with me when I cry. Now, people don’t always do that. They can be hurtful at times, although they don’t always mean it.
God is definitely the most important person to me in the world.
This question “Who is the most important person to you in the world?” is the hardest question I have ever asked myself.
I can name a few people in my life like my Dad, my best friend, my loving husband and my family. But with all that said, I believe it is my Dad.
My Dad is the one person who I turn to if I ever need help, advice and support . He always gives me the time, the day and knowledge to sit with me or listen to me over the phone. If I ever needed anything, he is the first person I call/turn too. I value his opinion, his knowledge and wisdom. Sometimes, <i<I wish he could use his potential and be Anthony Robbins because he has that power. Though, he chooses to ignore this and dismisses any opportunities to grow or be apart of seminars that could change his life. I am not sure if this is just arrogance or stubbornness. I want to help him as more than he has helped me because I see him struggling everyday to make things work and its killing him, me and my family. Its painful, so I have just have to sit back and let it happen… And be there for him and show him the way!
I LOVE YOU DAD xx
The most important person in my life is my mum because she always care about me all time. She make a good cook and dessert. She wake up me in the morning and clap her hand when I success and encourage me when I am down. I love her. And I want to take a wonderful time all day.
Aww…….That is so sweet, Leny! :D
Definitely me…
Parents and family play an important part of our life and they have been there a mojor part of our life events. They have seen you fall and climb up again, taught you knowledge and shared the same habits/culture. No one family cooks the same style, talk and chat the way we do, build up our family culture the way we had. We share lots of growth and experiences, been through ups and downs along the way and we know each other inside out, despite the ruckus, fights and quarrels. Nothing matters more than family because we love each other, in a different way.
Other half come in later when you fall in love with them unknowingly; they creep into your heart silently sometimes without you noticing. No blood relationship and yet we can be so attached to each other. Sometimes, it’a amazing. This person holds an important place in your heart as time goes by and sometimes being on par with family.
Aside to that, no one else matter. Sometimes family hurt you, sometimes your other half is insensitive and does not seem to understand you at all. You only have yourself to fend for you are alone. And when you are all alone, no one else matter more than you do. If you have depended on parents, partner, friends or colleagues, it’s time to wake up to teh real world, because you will fall harder that you think. When parents are not by your side when you are alone overseas, you have to learn to be independent and stand up for yourself. When your partner do things that hurt you, you have to mend your broken heart yourself. Then only you will grow and learn, and endup being a better you that who you were one year / ten years ago.
Learn to care for yourself, feed yourself healthy and nice food, so that you will feel better. Learn to appreciate your surroundings, learn to relax yourself, learn to let go, learn to be assertive and be confident, learn to be alone cuz that’s when you can understand yourself the most. Learn to enjoy life the way you want it. Learn to set goals and acheive them. Learn to take on new challenges and gain knowledges. It is the only way to survive in the realistic world.
Who is the most important person to you in the world? And why?
It will be someone I love. And who is that? I think it is no one. Why? I don’t love myself very much and I feel like that towards others as well. I believe a person who can’t love himself/herself can’t love others as well. I have been working on my emotional health for this reason. I seem to block my emotions. And now I think I need to work on my emotional health more, because this has become quite serious.
I think you are perfect Monisha!
Not every one feels love he same way… probably you feel love for your self or others in some different way …or your way of expression is just a little different.. Don’t be so hard on you..
Hi Farhana! :D
Thank you for your wisdom and kind words, Farhana! :hug:
“Don’t be so hard on you..”–>This is what I am trying to do :laugh: I am being hard on myself by blocking my emotions even though there is no reason for me to do so. My heart desires to feel. It has become a habit to not ‘feel’ my emotions though.
You are further along with your emotional health than you think. The fact that you know and acknowledge that you cannot love other people before first loving yourself is a HUGE step in the right direction. It took me forever to realize that and to accept that taking care of me first wasn’t a selfish act and really was for others as well. The fact that you are trying to improve yourself is something to be very proud of!! You are important!! :)
Hello Raven!! :hug:
First of all, I really appreciate your kind words :hug: You’re comment made me realize how much valuable I am to at least make the commitment to change :heart: Thank you for creating a change in me!! :hug:
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Thanks to Farhana and Raven for your support! :hug: :heart: :hug:
The most important person in the world to me is myself. I have learned that if we do not take care of ourselves we cannot, in turn, take care of others.
It is important that I take care of my physical and mental health, so that I can care for those I love, and support them when they need support.
It is important that I challenge myself and continue to grow in wisdom, tolerance and understanding, so that I can help those I love deal with the problems they will encounter in life.
It is important that I allow myself time to rest, to ‘fill the well’, so that I am well rested and filled with passion and purpose when called upon to contribute.
It is important that I allow myself time to pursue my passions and my creativity, so that I can recognize these gifts in others and encourage them.
It is important that I allow myself time and space to experience grief and negative emotions, so that I can work through them and move on to the joys of life awaiting me in the future.
I cannot chose just one. I have five. Five beautiful, healthy, intelligent, wonderful children. I am so very blessed to have them in my life. God only gives us what we can handle, and while sometimes I wonder how in heaven he thought I was able to do this, I wake up and try to meet the challenge every day.
They are so much a part of myself, and yet their own sweet individuals. They bring me immense joy and so many smiles. They teach me about life in so many ways, I cannot imagine learning from the most wizened of teachers what I learn from them. The teach me about myself- my strengths and flaws. They teach me about others and their dreams and sorrows. They teach me about how to treat not only others but myself as well. But, I think the most important thing that I learn from them is about who God is. In The Crow, he comes to the young girls mother and tells her that “mother” is the name of God on the lips of all children. If that is true, then the opposite is true as well.
My life would not be the same without them. It would not be as difficult or challenging. It would be quiet and clean. But, I wouldn’t have the hugs and smiles and laughter and curious little things that make it so very amazing. And I am a better person for having them in my life.
Interesting topic… I was very shocked to read that so many people said that they are the most important person in their lives. At first I thought that was very arrogant and egotistical, but then I began reading their answers and it made perfect sense. It is amazing how differently peoples minds work and how things can be interpreted differently. This is a very difficult question, so many choices for answers, but after long thought I believe the most important person in my life would be my mom. Of course as a small child she took care of my needs and taught me how to be a person that cares about others and contributes to the world in a positive way. Even though I am not sure that she felt valuable and powerful in her own life, she taught me that I am those things. She showed her weaknesses as well as her strengths so that i might learn from them. I don’t always agree with my mom’s beliefs or the way she lives her life, but she has shown me the attributes I want to adopt and those that are better left behind.
I appreciate your ability to be open-minded and empathetic towards the opinion of others, it is something that I strive to do at first glance without a moment of judgement clouding my inner vision. I can tell that you thought deeply about your answer, in regards to your mother, and it is beautiful to feel the love you have for her and it motivates me to appreciate my mother for the wonderful women she is, despite our differences. Thank you for sharing.
I am going to be self-centered, that is–find the center in myself. It can be sad to say that we are born alone and die alone but it can also be empowering.
I have to remember that no one cares about me as much as I care about myself. Everyone has their own preservation as a goal. It is easier to help others when we are first take care of ourselves. That is why I am most important to myself. I do not expect anything from anybody and am happily surprised when bonus goodness happens. It’s great!
Ton expresses it well. We all spend the most time on ourselves. It’s impossible not to. That’s one angle.
But in a pinch, I’d unhesitatingly give my life for a number of people in my life, some of whom I don’t interact with much in an everyday sense. Another angle.
In terms of key decisions, though, my wife and I both put the best interest of our son first. A third angle.
“Important” is context-dependent. Plus, framing it like this gets me out of having to pick :)
I’m the most important person in my world. I am quite alone at the moment, no friends or close family. I would to love someone very much but it just hasn’t happen for me yet.
It will happen, Alix, when you are ready.
Even once you find someone to love, you will still be the most important person because without first loving yourself you cannot truly love and give of yourself to another person. So don’t pick you just because you are alone, pick you because you matter and you exist and you make a difference in ways that no one else can or will!! <3
“If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.”
Maxwell Maltz
I remember my professor in one of the marketing classes i attended before. He says that in the corporate world “budget means priority”. He explains that the department who receives the highest budget is the priority regardless of the spoken words. Even if management say that developing people is their priority we should always look at where resources are allocated or being spent. If small or no budget is allocated for activities geared toward developing people then it is not the priority even if management says so.
That principle applies in real life. We only have limited resources such as time and money. Even if we say this and that is our priority, it is not real if we devote less time or money for this and that. If being healthy is a goal but we never spend money to buy healthy foods or never schedule doing exercise, then being healthy is not really a priority.
Anyway, i said that because answering the question is tough. It is difficult for me to select the most important person in my world. I can’t decide between choosing myself, my wife or my son. So I guess I’ll answer my question by looking at my activities and see for whom I do it for and that will be my answer. Also, I’ll answer the question by also answering who do I want to be the most important person in my world.
I spend majority of my hours in my job. Before it is more because my job is something i am very passionate about. Now, it is more about being able to provide for my family. I have also started exercising for me to become healthy. I wanted to be healthy so I can work more in able to provide for my family. It appears the theme is becoming a better provider for my family specifically in order for me to prepare for my son’s future. So I guess that answer the question who is the most important person in my world. It is my son. He is a great gift and I am looking forward to raising him to become a good citizen of the world. (hehehe. Too much semantics. The first three paragraphs seems to be a disconnect.)
Now, who do I want to be the most important person in my world. For now, i want it to be myself. I guess, i am pressuring myself too much with the other hats that I am wearing that I no longer give time and money for things that will give myself a satisfaction. I guess it would not hurt if for a brief moment i act selfishly by pursuing my own interests. Not in a way that harms my other responsibilities but rather finding a good match between satisfying my personal desires and goals with my the responsibilities I have for my family.
my son.
I just posted my son–it seemed like the obvious answer. But then I thought – shouldn’t it be me? And maybe it is me at the end of the day. OK I would throw myself between him and danger without even a thought–but not sure I should burden him with being the most important person in my life.
By naming your son is the most important person to you would definitely imply that you are above all else! ‘coz if not for you, he won’t even be here!
My children! Two of the most amazing people I know. They day they came into this world I was born.
My daughter is the most important person in this world!!
Its important to me to help her achieve her dreams not to make the same mistakes I did and beleive in herself. Shes smart loving and strong and I want her to know that.
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