The Self-Confidence Manifesto [Manifesto]

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   sandeep 11 years ago

   Hello Celes,

   OMG..!!

   Thanks a lot for a great article on “Self-confidence”.

   Whenever i jump into read your article, i never quit reading. All the articles
   you wrote have greater attraction and deeper thought behind the sentence
   construction. I become starved of your articles to read and adopt the
   suggestions you had mentioned in the article as much as possible.

   I should share my feelings to you today otherwise i feel un-enrgised n
   de-motivated.

   i am practising yoga past one year from last year-2013, but I found no results
   on belly reduction as I expected. i did went to gym for three months in between
   yoga class to see the effects but results not achieved yet. I am now again
   stick to yoga.

   I joined Toastmaster club to improve my presentation and leadership skills. i
   did presented my first “ice-breaking speech” but i felt it was not great.

   I always feel my English foundation was not good. i did not achived my goal proficient
   english speaker.

   I started english improving plan in 2007 in college days,such as reading
   english novels, watching english news channels newspaper and movies. Yes, i can
   see my improvements by benchmarking myself but I’m not up to the mark. i may
   lagging with self-confidence capsule always ….!!!!!

   I need your suggestion
   on these two topics: Fluent speaker in english (veral and non verbal) and
   reduce my belly fat. ( I am just 65kg
   with 5.5 ft height)

   Regards
   Sandeep
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   Amanda 14 years ago

   I like the background of this manifesto! @Leny @Matt It’s true that when you print it’s better. Quite hard to view online though (on my com).

   The article chosen also works great. ;) Thanks!
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     CelesAuthor 14 years ago

     Hi Amanda, thanks! :D I chose the texture from Shutterstock, and tweaked it until I achieved the current look.

     I’m surprised it’s still hard to view it (via comp), because it looks very readable on mine. I’m guessing it’s definitely monitor settings and differences – my monitor is set at highest brightness and contrast. Regardless, I’ve added a white drop shadow to the text, so hopefully that helps somewhat.
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   Leny Keo 14 years ago

   Thanks Celes, I really love it. For Matt, if we print it, it is better. Leny
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     CelesAuthor 14 years ago

     Hi Leny, thanks – glad you love it! :)
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   Alban Brice 14 years ago

   Your manifestos are getting better.

   My question is : How to develop a sense of self-belief which is paramount for building self-confidence?
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     CelesAuthor 14 years ago

     Hey Alban, have you read the source article? If not, I really recommend you do so (refer to the links found in each manifesto), as it is the single guide on confidence on PE and how to build it to the max, and also covers the answer to your question. As already mentioned, I’m not creating or producing any new content with the manifestos, only republishing existing content in a different format.
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       Alban Brice 14 years ago

       Yes, I already read the entire article.

       You said “The only prerequisite for self confidence is a sense of self belief.” which I totally agree with. But how do we develop this sense? By changing our own perception, by seeing us as giants and powerful people…just by realising our natural powers? Isn’t it?
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         CelesAuthor 14 years ago

         It’s elaborated in the paragraphs following that statement:

         Think about a symbol of worth to you. Is it competency? Is it the amount of money you earn? Is it how attractive you look? Identify them first. Then, ask yourself this – why do you perceive these as symbols of worth? Why must you have to have these before you can feel worthy or confident about yourself? Who said anything about these being prerequisites before you can even feel your self-worth?

         These presumptions of what represents worth are largely due to social perceptions. All the beliefs that we need to have certain skills, certain behaviors, etc to be confident have all been conditioned in the society, rather than being hard truths.

         The problem that needs to be addressed is the attachment to these symbols with one’s worth. All your beliefs on what represents worth can only be true if you allow them to be true. The key is to break the linkage between all externalities (such as one’s past, the present level of skills/abilities, outcomes of events, others opinions, etc) with one’s own assessment of worth. If you don’t see competency as a representation of your worth, then it won’t. If you don’t see money as a valuation of your worth, then it won’t. If you don’t see attractiveness as what makes you worthy, then it won’t. Remember, these are merely external objects, and not you. If you don’t let something represent your worth, it wouldn’t.

         In short, the lack of self-belief is due to the perception we need something to have self-belief/confidence. Most of the times, the reason why we have that perception is because of (childhood) conditioning. Once we detach ourselves from that perception, being self-confident will be a natural state we’ll be at.

         As to *exactly* “how” to change/break/detach from that perception, it requires one to dig into the perceptions, understand how they were formed to begin with, so as to dissolve them proper. I recommend to read Create Real Change In Life: Address Root Cause vs. Effects, Days 26-27 of 30BBM (on replacing limiting thoughts) and Day 28 of 30DLBL (on letting go) for more on how to dissolve and break free from limiting beliefs that do not serve us.
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           Alban Brice 14 years ago

           Tks for your free coaching, Celes. I will read your mentionned articles so as to polish my comprehension. Rgds.
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   Matt 14 years ago

   I find this one hard to read. Might be better if the background was lighter.
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     CelesAuthor 14 years ago

     Reads fine on my screen. Might be the brightness setting differences on our monitors? Regardless I just made the background several shades lighter and uploaded the new version.
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       Glenn 14 years ago

       Only thing I can notice is the sharpness of the text which makes it look really contrasty. Looking closely, I can see a white highlight under the text. It seems to separate the text from the background. Was that intentional Celes?
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         CelesAuthor 14 years ago

         Hi Glenn, yes that’s right – I added a white drop shadow to make it easier to read the text (refer to my reply to Amanda below). I didn’t want to make the background any brighter as it’ll lose that rustic look/feel that I’m going for with this particular manifesto.

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