This is Day 2 of the 15-Day Affirmation Challenge held in July 2014, where we practice positive affirmations for 15 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Dear everyone, welcome to Day 2 of our 15-Day Affirmation Challenge! :D
Here is the overview of all the posts for the challenge so far:
- Affirmation Challenge announcement and signup details: 15-Day Affirmation Challenge | 380 Participants!
- Affirmation Challenge Day 1 [New Beginning] | 33 Comments
Let’s move to Day 2’s task, which is about…
Day 2: [Self-Love]
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Today’s affirmation: “I love myself unconditionally.”
How many of us have carried self-hating thoughts before? Consider the following:
I hate myself.
I suck.
I’m so bad at this, I can die.
I wish I was born different.
I’m so slow/clumsy/stupid/[insert negative adjective]. I wish I had someone else’s brains/body/looks/ability/etc.
I hate [XXX] about myself.
I wish I were someone else.
If you have, you’re not alone. I used to carry strong self-hating thoughts, many of which were subconscious. When I was a kid, these self-hating thoughts were of myself as a person. (Many of these thoughts, I was not conscious of them — I would only realize them later on when I was older and referred to my personal journals, where I wrote about hating myself and wishing I was different.)
As I grew up and became more self-aware, these self-hating thoughts changed — they became more targeted, where I would dislike certain aspects of myself (as opposed to my whole self). While it may seem like hating parts of yourself is better than hating your whole self, the truth is that these thoughts are all of the same nature — they consist of hate for yourself. It took years of conscious personal development before I worked through these self-hate issues, one by one, as I’ve documented in multiple series on the blog.
Perhaps some of us have this belief of “If I become [XXX] or if I get [XXX], then I will like myself better.” A common example of this is our body, where people think, I’ll love my body if I become slimmer. (I’ll be dedicating an affirmation to physical looks later on in the challenge.) Another example is in the area of love, where you may have beliefs like “I can’t love myself when I can’t even get someone else to love me” or “I can only love myself / I’ll love myself more if I can get into a great relationship.” Yet another example is the area of achievements, where we feel that we must be at a certain level of achievement before we can love or accept ourselves: “I need to have X pay / Y job / Z status, or else I’m not deserving of anything.”
However, be it direct self-hate (“I hate myself” or “I suck”) or conditional self-love (“If I become [XXX], I’ll fully love myself”), they are no different in that they are rooted from self-judgment, self-disdain, and self-criticism. Real love is unconditional; it doesn’t have to fulfill any conditions, expectations, or criteria before it can be dispensed. Real love is all encompassing; it comes without judgment, and without assessment. Real love is everywhere in the universe and inside of us, at every second and every moment.
The question to you is: Are you ready to open your heart and experience this love for yourself; this love that has always been inside of you, ready to be received by you? Are you ready to love yourself unconditionally, even if in tiny steps, starting from today?
Today, your task is to start this process of self-love.
Your Task Today
- Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have. For example:
- “I hate myself.”
- “I wish I have a different [XXX].”
- “I’m such a clumsy fool.”
- “I’m a pile of sh*t.”
- Identify the reason behind this self-hate. For example:
- Perhaps you have the belief that you only deserve love if others love you. Hence, you spend half your life seeking affirmation from others and having yourself validated, as opposed to affirming and validating yourself.
- Or, perhaps your family has never been loving towards you, and has only reprimanded you or pointed out your flaws. Hence, you grew up not knowing how to love yourself, or even thinking that you don’t deserve love at all.
- Change your self-hating thoughts. For example:
- “I love myself.”
- “I don’t need to be different to love myself. I can love myself now and strive for betterment all the same.”
- “I may make mistakes, but so does everyone. My perfection lies in my imperfections.”
- “I’m smart, positive, and caring towards others. I love that I have such wonderful qualities and I’m proud of myself for having them.”
- Identify your action step(s) to love yourself today. What is ONE action (or more if you desire) you can take today to express self-love? For example:
- Take a long shower and appreciate every second of it.
- Buy myself this beautiful organizer that I’ve been eyeing for a while, that will be a crucial tool in planning my goals and action steps.
- Go for a nice foot massage at the local massage parlor.
- Read this book that I’ve been meaning to read but have been putting off for a while.
- Give myself a hug.
- HUG YOURSELF. Like, REALLY hug yourself LIKE YOU’VE NEVER HUGGED ANYONE BEFORE. Feel every part of your body, your skin, and your soul, in your arms. Let go of your personal barriers, self-hate, and self-criticism — LET THEM GO, LET ALL OF THEM GO. Feel the warmth and love emanating from your body back into your arms and body. Close your eyes, pause for about 15 seconds, and just soak in this moment of self-love.
- Say your new belief(s) and affirmation. Then, with your arms still hugging your body, say your new belief(s) out loud, along with today’s affirmation:
“I love myself unconditionally.”
(If you think it’s silly to say them out loud, you can say them silently in your heart.)
I encourage you to write down your new belief(s) and today’s affirmation so that you can always see them and commit them to your heart. Repeat them every day to yourself, for as many times and as long as needed, until they become part of your default thinking.
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Further Reading
For further reading on today’s affirmation topic, check out the following:
- Are You Sabotaging Yourself? How To Stop Self-Sabotage
- Be a Better Me in 30 Days, my premium 30-day character transformation program to discover and become one with your highest self
Share Your Results!
Share your results, check out other participants’ responses, and interact with each other in the comments section! Remember, this challenge is a community effort: by openly engaging in the discussion, not only will you help others, you’ll also help yourself.
If you think today’s affirmation has benefited you, do share it with your friends and family.
Once you’re done, proceed to Day 3 here: Affirmation Challenge, Day 3 [Ability]
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For day 2: Self Love
My new empowering belief: My self love is vsalued by the love I have for myself and not by the love that others do or don’t show to me. I love myself unconditionally of what others may think.
Action Step:
1- Watched The Dak Knight part 2 with the joker in blue ray and big tv. This was after the day I finished the demo so I was saving the movie aas a reward for a relaxing day. I really needed it. :)
PS: I finally found a laptop to write all of my comments before the challenge ends!!! Yay! :D
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Affirmative Challenge Day2
Hi everyone,
Glad to be able to continue in spite of web connection challenges.
What I hate myself for
I hate myself for lack of decision, willpower or rather fear of failure or again for accepting the stereotype of working all life, getting retired, continue living poor and eventually die in misery. I hate myself for thinking was not cut out for entrepreneurship and was better off sticking to my day job because it is very risky. Last but not least, I hate myself for indecisiveness, hesitation, taking too much time brooding over ideas and not taking action, pondering on life challenges, pitying self for failure, worrying about future, being used by other people to build their reputation and wealth etc. I hate myself for not wanting to engage myself in social organizations and speak out my deep thoughts.
The reason behind the self-hate
I have discovered that my self-hating thoughts originates from my childhood and difficulties I faced; being a child of divorced parents, I lived far away from my parents in a remote village where I was not accepted for being different. I loved school whereas the others loved farming. A school goer is considered a lazy boy. So I was singled out and rejected.
Being a resident of Burkina Faso (I was born and educated in Togo), I hardly reach out to achieve great things like starting a business in order not to rouse people’s jealousy and subsequently be singled out again; hence the hesitation, lack of decision, fear of failure to start my own business.
Self – love Proclamation
I know I’m smart, positive, and caring towards others. I love that I have such wonderful qualities and I’m proud of myself for having them. I hug myself……. I feel great. All my achievements are good but the best are yet to come. “I love myself unconditionally.” As the saying goes “Charity begins at home”. How can I love others if I don’t love myself? I can only love others on condition that
I love myself first.
To achieve that love and share it around me, I have to reach out to people, achieve my dreams, start my own business, accept what and who I am to build my best self.
1 my self hating thoughts “i am useless everything i do i make mistakes”. oo the pain this is some thing that haunt me for thus few weeks
2 this self hate my be to my perfectionism to please others like my employer, mentors, my future love partner
, clients and etc. which is practically everyone.
3 to change my self hate thoughts “alright i am still humans i make mistakes just like everyone do it not the end”.
a side from i adopt the “testing mentality” to come out with a solution for every mistake i made.
and this not only reinforce my self love affirmation and reduce a lot of stress with in.
so guys it worth to try the “testing mentality” it works wonder
4 for action step to love myself is to take long good sleep
This is Day 2 of the challenge. I sincerely did not have time to
tackle each challenge on their specific day as appeared on Celestine
Website, but it’s amazing that Celestine has provided a break for some
of us to catch up with the challenge.
So let’s begin with the task:
Well for ages I have created this direct self-hate
without really being conscious. I was always a lonely child with few
friends ( sometimes if I had friends, I would soon discover they
betrayed me and hated me), therefore I was stuck in my inner little
world where I would seek refuge, but I did not know that I would allow
myself to harbor both good and bad thoughts about myself( most of them
being bad). I had serious trouble when it came to my looks, my physical
body( I used to have some skin problems) or my behaviour. I would look
at myself as a totally different child, I couldn’t behave like them, I
considered myself as a sad child with too much to worry at such a tender
age. I would cry and spent hours to ask God why He did not make me like
others, beautiful perfect looks without flaws, and with a more
versatile behaviour like my friends. Sometimes I was bullied by some
friends, and hated by some teachers and this traumatic experience has
made me hate myself even more. My only ability was that of my academic
tasks , my school work. I would only concentrate on my studies and
family since these two factors were the only peace and happiness I would
get in my life.
Today when I see myself writing these self-hating thoughts down here,
I can realise how wrong I was and how much I have been tormenting
myself in a very negative way. I feel like I’ve hurt my soul too much
and now is time to change all these thoughts. I have come to love
myself, my physical appearance so much right after I met my soulmate
who is now my husband. He made me see myself as a beautiful person in
all ways. What if my friends did not see the perfect behaviour in me?
What if my teacher hated me and always underestimate my academic
ability? It does not make any difference now. I am proud to be what I
am today. I am caring, loving and nice. Some people always compliment me
of my loyal, calm and sweet nature. It is just that right from the
beginning, I never met the right people in my life. For the teacher who
made bad remarks on me, I forgive him for whatever happened. Finally I
grew up to be a teacher and now I will try to teach others how to love
themselves instead of creating self-hates.
Action step to love myself today:
Buy myself this beautiful organizer that I’ve been eyeing for a
while, that will be a crucial tool in planning my goals and action
steps.
Read this book that I’ve been meaning to read but have been putting off for a while.
Give myself a hug.
“I love myself unconditionally.”
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“Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have”
I’m not good at it.
Stupid, stupid, stupid
My fat is ugly
I can’t do anything right
I’m clumsy as crap
Identify the reason behind this self-hate.
I’m not really sure where my “self-hating” thoughts stemmed from, I THINK it’s just a habit I became accustomed to throughout my life. There have been times where I criticized myself so harshly, I began to believe my own words. I think trying to fill that void of validation from others, in addition to wanting that approval; and not getting it played it’s part.
Truth is, I was seeking validation from people without credentials and places without accreditation. Sadly, my falsified truths became the norm of my life.
Change your thoughts
I’m not good at it , because I said I am not. Good doesn’t happen overnight, good is earned and worked for. I can be good. I can be excellent at anything I work at.
I make mistakes, that doesn’t make me stupid. If anything it makes me smarter, aware , and educated. I will CONTINUE to make mistakes, because it is inevitable. So I have two options… learn and move on or beat myself up
I am beautiful. I am a product of greatness. What am I telling God when I speak hatred into my life. If there isn’t something I like, change it.
I have done so much in my life and have made an extraordinary difference in my COMMUNITY. I must be doing something right. I am wonderful.
I am clumsy, though I have gotten a lot better throughout the years. I will embrace my flaws, and laugh when they show, because it’s a part of who I am . However, my flaws can’t measure up to my extraordinary qualities.
Identify your action step(s) to love yourself today.
I will pamper myself here and there, maybe put on a little makeup as a gesture to myself that “Hey, you deserve it!!”
I will do what makes me happy, even if the entire world is against it.
If I would scream to the world that I love the love of my life, why not scream I love myself to the world?
I will go out dancing and TREAT myself to something nice
I take a vow to myself that I will not allow anyone to disrespect, degrade, or devalue me. I am worth much MORE.
Hug myself often
Last but not least, I WILL LOVE MYSELF UNCONDITIONALLY <<>>
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1. I am stupid, slow-minded. I will never be happy in my job. People take advantage of me. I am vulnerable and weak. I am not good enough.
2. ‘I am stupid and slow-minded’ – I only feel this, well mainly, in relation to work. I feel I don’t pick things up quick enough to satisfy other people, that they become disappointed in me.
3. I am not here to be perfect, but to learn and grow through my various experiences. I’m smart, positive, confident and I have many wonderful qualities.
4. The action step I identify to love myself today – take some time out to do what I want, and take myself shopping for new underwear, jeans and shoes!
Hi Hanna! Indeed you’re smart, positive, confident, and you have many wonderful qualities — if you’re “stupid” you wouldn’t be here, acknowledging and working through your deep, subconscious thoughts in this challenge! (Not that there’s anything wrong with stupid people or that I’m suggesting stupid people can’t do self-reflection, but simply saying that the context in which your disempowering belief exists simply doesn’t hold true.) Furthermore, you are also finding ways to branch out of your current job to explore yoga and counseling as future careers, and it take intelligence and a certain level of sharp-mindedness to do that.
I’m sure you already know the above, but I just thought you should hear them anyway!! :) *hugs*
Celes,
Thank you for your kind, thoughtful words. Yes you are right – I am not stupid. This is an old, outworn belief I have been carrying around with me for too long.
I found out last night that I have passed the introduction course to counselling skills, and the feedback I got said that the essence of my work is quiet, strong and confident!!
Thank you. Hugs back to you!
This is a great affirmation. For me it is so easy to get into destructive thoughts about myself, especially when I compare my life to other people’s lives. Often I criticize myself for not having nor ever having a loving and supportive relationship that feels right to me, for not being able to afford to buy a home at my age (30 next month), for being 15-20 pounds overweight and struggling to loose it, for not feeling close to my family, for being way over my head in debt and not sure what to do about it, for not having children at my age, for not having more of a savings, for not having a solid secure job (my job is goal based for a for-profit school so it is a lot of pressure, overwhelming workload, and not secure). It is very easy for me to get sucked into what is missing in my life, which is listed above, and to use those reasons as a justification to hate myself and feel inadequate and like a failure. However, when I look at the whole picture I have to remind myself that my childhood was abusive and that I never received support or guidance until I started to go to therapy. And although I’m not where I want to be, everyday is a new beginning and a new opportunity for me to make healthier choices for myself. It’s a challenge for me to love myself and put my needs first, because I was not taught how to take care of myself. Instead I was criticized, abused, neglected, and abandoned. My self-hating thoughts are: “I’m so fat” “I’m so unattractive” “I don’t deserve to be taken care of” “I don’t deserve to feel important in someone else’s life” “I don’t deserve to feel fulfilled in my life” “I’m a failure” “I’m inadequate” “I’m stupid for not protecting myself” “I cause all the problems in my life” “I’ll never be good enough” “I will never feel happy or satisfied in my life” “Life doesn’t work for me” “I’m lost” “Who would want to be with me” “Things will never get better.” I seek external validation to prove my worth. If I have xxx then I am worthy and valuable and my life has meaning. If I have positive regard from xxx then I am worthy and valuable and my life has meaning. I have learned or adopted the belief that external regard is what defines my self-worth. And I really believe that. I don’t know how to change that belief system, because the last thing I want is to accept an internal validation and then let myself stay in a toxic relationship or not have financial abundance. I want my external situation to change, grow, and improve. However, relying on the external factors as evidence of my self-worth is not working either because I get really down on myself and comparing myself to other people. Changing my thoughts: “I am still worthy as a person for who I am despite my external situation.” “I am love-able for who I am and do not need to change to earn love.” “Although I’m not exactly where I want to be right now, I have overcome a lot of obstacles and am on my way to having a healthier and more fulfilling life. I know what is important to me and will continue to work hard for it.” “I am beautiful as I am” “I don’t need another person’s approval to dictate how I feel about myself.” “I love myself.” “I don’t need to be different to love myself. I can love myself now and strive for betterment all the same.” “I may make mistakes, but so does everyone. My perfection lies in my imperfections” “I’m smart and caring towards others. I love that I have such wonderful qualities and I’m proud of myself for having them.” What I am going to do today: every time I have a self-defeating thought, I am going to stop and write out a loving thought. I am going to paint my nails today. I am going to take a nice long shower! :-)
Hello everybody,
Being comfortable in my own skin is probably the most difficult lesson for me. Literally. If my life was a fairy-tail it would be the mixture of “the ugly duckling” & “beauty and the beast”, not that I am ugly, but that I have always been different and my whole life I needed and will always need to cope with incurable skin disease, which physically doesn’t hurt, but has broken my heart over and over again.
I was diagnosed when I was 10 years old. The most ridiculous thing about it is that the skin condition is closely related to one’s stress level and overall well-being. Therefor it’s like a game. The better you feel about your self and your life, the better your skin looks. And once you have the smallest stress the disease progresses, takes over. It never really leaves you, just improves or worsens depending on your emotions. The only way to “control” is to be in control of your emotions. It’s really really difficult to feel appreciative and loving towards your self when on everyday basis you need to deal with your own feelings and the reactions from people around you. Most people are disgusted and afraid to catch it too.
I used to feel like a victim, asking myself and God everyday why? Why me? What have I done to deserve this? Is it some kind of curse or punishment? And if so, why there is no way out? If this is a game, why there is no rules given and no victory?
Modern medicine doesn’t know the cause and doesn’t have a treatment. It can only temporary improve the condition. Therefor I started to look for alternative ways. I discovered many people speaking about metaphysical causes for all the sicknesses. I started to look at my disease as a God sent blessing. That any illness is a God sent message for us, where in life we are off the balance, where we need healing and growth. Where we need to change from inside to change the outside. Where we need to be the change we want to see in the world. It is a really beautiful concept.
Skin diseases are signalizing about excessive fear of being hurt due to damage to self-esteem in the past. Is also associated with self-hatred and the belief that you are not worthy of being loved. Wow… those words hit me ;) I didn’t realize up till then that I was co-creating this illness in me. I was inspired by this source and was spending much time looking inwards trying to figure out what that all meant and how is it applicable in my situation. I reviewed my whole life, my whole ’emotional history’ and it brought me to tears. Only then I finally started to see what was in front of me all along…
I never felt loved as a child. Both of my parents grew up without their real parents and when they formed family one with another, they didn’t know what an authentic family meant, or what it is like to love someone, to love unconditionally. I wasn’t a planned child. I was a reason why my mom stick up with my alcoholic father and she used to blame me for it, saying she regrets she didn’t go for abortion. Sometimes she even treated with sending me to orphan house. My own family, flesh and blood didn’t need me. And I stopped caring. I closed my eyes and heart to everything that was going on around me. I even denied and had forgotten this part of my life ever existed. But subconsciously I was carrying my low self esteem, negative self talk and self doubt within. And that’s how I created my illness…
Now I have long healing process ahead. Being aware of the problem and it’s causes is just first steps. I need to connect with my inner child and nurture her, teach her unconditional love and self worth. I always thought that I love myself despite all, but it was far from the truth. Like in fairy, I though someone will come along and will love me for who I am, and then my curse will be over. Not far from the truth, with the only condition that that someone must be ME.
Most of us, like 99% of us, we are lying to ourselves everyday. We don’t really love or accept ourselves. We don’t celebrate who we are. Most of the times, we don’t even show our real faces, our real personalities to the people around us. We are afraid to speak our minds or share our feelings. We are afraid to stand for the causes we believe in. How can we ever become close to anybody if we are disconnected from ourselves? We have somehow learnt to tolerate with ourselves, but we don’t exercise genuine love and respect towards most important person in our lives – SELF.
Loving oneself is much deeper than what we usually hear. It’s more than words, it’s so much more than pampering yourself with spa, shoes or chocolate, which can actually be quite opposite to love oneself. I have came to realization, that loving yourself is how you treat yourself in every situation and how you allow ‘every situation to treat you’. This one is very deep and requires some time to understand. To love yourself means not only to remove every aggression towards self, but to create the loving state toward yourself and everybody around us. We are nothing but love. And it is supposed to be our natural state, just we have forgotten…
I lovingly embrace all of you!
Santas Inspirations
“I love myself unconditionally.”
I make mistakes like everyone else, I trust the wrong people because my heart wants to believe the good in them, but my perfections lies in my imperfections.
Recite daily: “I am smart, think positive, care to others, be kind to all because I love that I have these qualities and I am proud of myself for having them, thanks be to God.”
I grew up learning disabled in an affluent grammer school. Through out my education, I felt I can never excel because I was stupid. Whenever, I felt low or depressed in life I went to food for comfort which made me more down. I can be very negative to myself. I look at how big I am and feel like i am not happy in life until I lose weight. I hate how I run compared to other fast well trained runners. I am very hard on myself. When I look at race photos I rip apart how my posture is or that my fat is hanging from my hydration belt. My supervisor flat out say why are you so hard on yourself you ran a half marathon? I have been negative towards myself about how i parent. I have been trying harder to take care of myself. I have been trying to have fun and enjoy my races. Not only do I feel happy but the photographers see it and take the shots and they look good. I am totally workig on my weight issue that is very hard for me. Tonight I plan on painting my nails, taking a nice bath and telling my self that I love myself unconditionally.
1. Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have.
– I suck in at math. College.
– I suck at braiding.
– I suck in love.
– I hate my butt, my feet and my oily pimpled face.
– I hate the “eyes balls of my feet”.
– I hate and disappoint myself.
2. Identify the reason behind this self-hate.
– Because i don’t practice I am obviously not good in math, college.
– I braid my hair and leave it forever on my head until it tear apart even though it’s ugly when it was new I don’t practice often. I got better but it’s not good looking. I need to practice at least once a week. I want to be able to braid my hair.
– I need to give it time. Everything has its moment. Just because i am not in a relationship yet doesn’t mean I suck at it. I am going to find love soon Inshah’Allah.
– People made fun of my body, I am skinny so I hated my butt because of that I think it’s too big and my legs are “breakable” my mom said. She used to say I look breakable because I am so skinny. I hated that. So I ended up hated them too. And My face is oily and always have a few pimples. I always had them. How can a grown woman have acne?
– There are two bones showing from my feet and I call them “the eye balls of my feet”. I used to wish that I get fat so it closes up and they would disappear.
– I hated myself sometimes. If I don’t do what I am supposed to do I get very disappointed in me.
3. Change your self-hating thoughts.
– I love myself.
– I got better in math and in college! I need to check my transcript when I thin this way!
– I got better at braiding my hair, I can see the lines as opposed to before and the holds are getting stronger. I am getting there. It’s okay.
– I love my body, everything. I don’t have to please everyone, I am satisfied with my body. I don’t want to be fat anymore.
– It’s okay too not be perfect, I completely accept myself 100%!
4. Identify your action step(s) to love yourself today.
* Give myself a hug and a smile.
* listen to my favorite stuff (Qur’an, speeches, music, meditations, affirmations..)
* Watch martial arts movies
* Read books
* Watch anime, One Piece…
* dramafever.com
* Do Kung Fu the whole thing
* walk
* Go out with my sisters and eat our favorite foods either Korean, Japanese, or African food.
* Shower and enjoy water for relaxation.
5. HUG YOURSELF
6. Say your new belief(s) and affirmation. Then, with your arms still hugging your body, say your new belief(s) out loud, along with today’s affirmation:
– I love myself.
– I love my body.
– i am getting better at everything I do.
“I love myself unconditionally.”
Mm…OK. Honestly speaking, I do speak bad of myself on occasions, and they always center around my flabby arms, swimming-float-like tummy, big thighs and cellulite.
I complain of these areas, I wish they would all be two sizes smaller, but I don’t hate myself.
Simply put, I love myself too much to bear such strong negative feelings towards myself! :D
I do want a supermodel body though..like so many other girls out there. You can read more here :)
http://zestychloe.wordpress.com/2014/07/11/day-2-self-love-i-love-myself-unconditionally/
Wonderful post, Celes! There’s something that I did before, taught by Louise Hay, to love oneself unconditionally. Which is to look at myself, into my eyes, in the mirror, and say “I love you” repeatedly. And to do this continuously for days. The first time doing this, I was totally averting my own eyes. Until after many times, I was able to look into my own eyes and positively acknowledge myself. This exercise made me cry buckets when I realised how hard & demanding I was on myself before. It opened a door in my heart, to start talking to & thanking myself/my body like I would lovingly to a child, esp during times of fear, pain or a job well done.
This post is a great reminder to remember to love myself again. I also love the hugging exercise you mentioned, it’s awesome! Thank you!
My journey from Self-hatred to Self-Love. I am very happy to say that I LOVE MYSELF! The post is pretty long So please go over to my blog to read about it. Here’s the link
http://shwetachandhok.wordpress.com/2014/07/11/affirmation-challenge-day-2/
My self hating thoughts are centered around a couple of things. I was always told I was a quitter, that I was fat, that no one would believe me, and no one would love me. I am loved and I do love greatly. My body is mine. I am a loving, passionate person. I will stop procrastinating, I will get a new job!
Day 2:
Identify any self-hating thoughts you may have:
a-I’m only successful if I can graduate with a college degree.
b-I’m a space cadet. (forgetful). Nobody should trust me to follow through a task.
c-I’m short. Nobody likes a chump.
d-I’m bland, like Starbucks blonde roast.
e-I have no game. I will never be able to charm my way to the arm of a woman. I will be single for the rest of my life.
Identify the reason behind this self-hate.
a-I see many of my peers having great careers and having great financial success after investing their time well and graduating from college. I feel a lot of regret and shame with some of my past decisions, or general inaction.
b-Though I’ve made some notable improvements in this area ever since I’ve taken an office administrative assistant position as a job, it’s a struggle to keep track of my life. I used to lose things wherever I go, whether they be wallets, phones, passports, my head… I can also be forgetful with appointments. Either I’d get into trouble with friends or other groups. It’s not unfair to say that I’ve made my life a lot harder, and beat myself up for it afterwards.
c- Tall men seem to more easily acquire respect among their peers and among women. I seem to get looked over because I’m shorter than the average Joe: 5’5″. Sure, it could be worse, but I’m still several inches shorter than 5’10”
d- I cannot captivate an audience with a story to save my life. I stutter. I don’t have many clever things to say. Why can’t I be charismatic like my friend Sebastian?
e- Relates to explanation above. However, it’s not a single reason why I believe I’m single, but a multitude of them. I generally lack the self-love to cover the make up the perceived lack of love from others.
Change your self-hating thoughts
“I love myself for who I am, not from who or what I might become.”
“I’m making strides to cover any weaknesses that I have.”
“I’m okay with the way I look. My height does not define who I am”
“I have interesting things to say”
“I am worthy of love”
Okay. I love hugs.
I wish I could be better, could be more organized, manage work balance better. My affirmation is that – I will be open – taking cues and feedback , I will be kind to myself, I will be honest with myself. Its me that makes connections with the world – it wont be someone else. I: ll work on things.
Aatiya, want to hear more update from you on the meditation for release the guilty feeling. I tend to say sorry feel sorry about lots of things even when sometimes nothing related to me. for my case, it’s link to my childhood expereince to see my parents fight, and i can’t help my mother. My parents are doing good today, but i still can’t get released.
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