This is Day 1 of the 15-Day Affirmation Challenge held in July 2014, where we practice positive affirmations for 15 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Dearest everyone, welcome to Day 1 of our 15-Day Affirmation Challenge, where we’ll be practising positive affirmations for 15 days! Are you ready? Because I sure am! :D
Blog About Your Journey!
If you have a blog and you’ve signed up, consider blogging about your affirmation journey!! Not only is it a great way to add accountability to yourself, it’s also a great place to document your revelations throughout this challenge. I recommend the following process:
- Do each day’s task and blog about your results on your blog. Remember to post a link to that day’s task on PE so that others can reference to the task too, if they don’t already know about PE.
- Copy/paste your results (or a summary of your results) in the comments section of that day’s blog post on PE
- Paste the link for your blog post entry for that day *below* your copy/pasted results, then post the comment on PE
By doing so, the readers on PE will be able to read your task results directly in the comments section, and easily click over your blog to read more if they are interested.
Don’t post a general link to your blog as participants will continue to read the comments even several months after the challenge; by then they will only be able to see the latest entry on your blog (as opposed to your results for the challenge task).
Before We Start…
For the next 15 days, you’ll find that the affirmation blog posts will be titled as: Day X, [XXX]: [Affirmation for that day]. [XXX] stands for the theme of that day’s affirmation. Since there are 15 days, I’ve personally created 15 affirmations covering 15 themes of personal growth. This will create a more targeted growth experience for you, rather than throwing you with 15 random affirmations which may have little (if any) meaning to you!
While this challenge is an affirmation challenge, your task for each day isn’t just to practise that day’s affirmation. Rather, there’ll be specified tasks that come along with that day’s affirmation, such as self-reflection questions and action-step planning — your task is to practise the affirmation and do the specified tasks.
Know that just saying affirmations alone is no different from hopping around with a wooden staff in a circle and singing Kumbaya (i.e. self-delusion). While chanting an affirmation over and over may give you a boost in confidence, it merely creates a feel-good factor which will no sooner end when the challenge is over.
Singing Kumbaya. And no, this is NOT what we’re doing in this challenge.
We are here to create real change in our lives, and this requires being ready to take the steps to make change happen. You’ve already done that first step if you have signed up for the challenge!
With that said, let us now kick off our 15-day affirmation journey! Today’s affirmation is about….
Day 1: [New Beginning]
![Affirmation Wallpaper, [Beginning]: “Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.”](https://personalexcellence.co/files/affirmation-new-beginning.jpg)
Today’s affirmation: “”Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.”
How many of us often define ourselves or our future based on our past?
Consider the following statements:
I’m a good-for-nothing — I’ve not accomplished much in my life, so I’m not going to accomplish much in my future too.
I’ve not had great relationships in the past, so I’m likely to continue to attract bad men/women into my life. I’m doomed not to meet someone I will love and who will truly love me too.
I was never a straight-A student, so I’m simply not cut out for success, whether in my studies or other things in the future.
I’ve not faced much success in [XXX] goal, so I shouldn’t pursue [XXX] any further since I’m probably going to continue failing in it.
My dad/mom/teacher once scolded me for being lazy/lousy/slow/stupid/incompetent/idiotic/a disgrace of the family/[insert negative adjective], so I’m indeed lazy/lousy/slow/stupid/incompetent/idiotic/a disgrace of the family/[insert negative adjective].
My brother/sister/friend has always been better/faster/stronger than me when we were young, so they will continue to be better/faster/stronger than me in the future.
My relationship with [XXX] has been declining, so it’ll likely continue to decline and I shouldn’t put any effort in it.
While it is important that we learn from the past to create a better future, the extent to which our past limits us is when we use it as a determinant or predictor of the future. For example, just because we made a mistake in the past doesn’t mean we’ll continue to make the same mistake or another mistake in the future. Just because we are unable to achieve success in X goal in the past doesn’t mean we’ll continue to face limited success in it to the future.
You see, the danger here is that given that our thoughts directly impact our actions which directly impact our results, by thinking within the confines of our past results, we’ll continue to act in a way that attract those results, hence attracting said results in real life. We’ll then box ourselves into the archetype of “I’m not one who is able to attract love” (if you’re currently facing a blockage in this area” or “I’m not cut out for entrepreneurship” (if you’ve been meaning to set up your own business but hasn’t been able to), hence… being our own self-fulfilling prophecy.
So how do we break out of this vicious cycle? Well, by first changing our thoughts. But beyond changing our thoughts, we need to also identify the action steps to take to make things different. Because while having positive thoughts is important, we need to follow them up with the right, positive actions to make a real change in our life.
Hence, today your task is to do exactly that — change your thoughts and identify action steps in an area where you’ve been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in. Let’s get started! :D
Your Task Today
- What are ONE area of your life where you’ve been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in? It can be anything, from studies, to work projects, to romantic relationships, to health, to friendships, to familial relationships. (You are welcome to identify more than an area if you like!)
- For example, say you have an interest to start your business but you are holding yourself back from doing so. Perhaps you tried to set up a business before and failed. So, you give up on entrepreneurship altogether and decide to settle for a simple day job. Or, perhaps you have never set up any businesses before, so you (for some warped reason) conclude that you will fail in entrepreneurship and decide not to try at all!
- What is the belief statement you’ve been harboring in this area? And is it serving/helping you to accomplish your goal? Continuing from the example above,
- “Since I’ve tried and failed to set up a business, I’m not cut out for entrepreneurship. I’m better off sticking to a day job.” or “Since I’ve never tried setting up a business, I’m not cut out for entrepreneurship. I’m better off sticking to what I know.”
- Clearly, either of these statements do NOT serve you in your entrepreneurship goal, because they are self-limiting failures (i.e. assumption of continual failure just because of one failure / lack of experience, and hence prematurely giving up on the goal)!
- Change this belief(s). Given that the belief from #2 is limiting, what empowering belief(s) can you change it to? Continuing from above,
- “I may have tried and failed in setting up a business before, but so have many successful entrepreneurs today! All of us make mistakes, and it’s the mistakes that make us stronger and wiser. I shall learn from my past failure so I’ll be more successful in my next endeavor!” or
- “I’ve never tried setting up a business before, but everyone starts from somewhere. I’m going to learn by reading books and consulting people who have set up businesses before, so that I can get the right knowledge and skills to succeed in any endeavor!
- Identify your action step(s) to make the change! What is ONE action (or more if you desire) that you’re going to make to make this new belief come true? Commit this action to a deadline, and get working on it!
- Say your new belief out loud, along with today’s affirmation:
“Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.”(If you think it’s silly to say them out loud, you can say them silently in your heart.)
I encourage you to write down your new belief(s) and today’s affirmation so that you can always see them and commit them to your heart. Repeat them every day to yourself, for as many times and as long as needed, until they become part of your default thinking.
Affirmation Wallpaper: [New Beginning]
To further help you in this challenge, I’ve specially created wallpapers based on the daily affirmations. Each wallpaper will be shared in that day’s task, and is available in the most common computer resolutions of 1920×1080, 1600×900, and 1366×768. If your monitor is a different size, simply pick the size that’s closest to your resolution and resize it in your favorite graphic editor.
Today’s affirmation wallpaper, for download:
Download (right click and save): [1366×768] [1600×900] [1920×1080]
Share Your Results!
Share your results, check out other participants’ responses, and interact with each other in the comments section! Remember, this challenge is a community effort: by openly engaging in the discussion, not only will you help others, you’ll also help yourself.
If you think today’s affirmation has benefited you, do share it with your friends and family.
Once you’re done, proceed to Day 2 here: Affirmation Challenge, Day 2 [Self-Love]
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I had two heart crushing breakups in my past. My second relationship was so bad that I lost every tiny hope for love. I believed that it’s my destiny to live single in solitude but I kept myself busy and happy with work family and friends. I was. Happy in what I have. Thn last year my brother convinced me to get married. In the process I met a guy and fell for him .Although he was not half a person I would like to consider to marry whether it’s looks, career or manners but I considered him because he showed that he is so into me but again it ended in worst. Than my friend told me about LOA.from that day I m doing gratitude exercises, affirmations and sometimes also visualization and meditation. But thn again I met men who were not sure about me or had commitment issues. And while I was not giving up I was doing possitive prayer for soulmate. I created vision board. Wish list etc etc. But what I found a 20 year guy had a huge crush on me and I m 33 year old. All this time I had this deepest desire that my soulmate should have a huge crush on me and to him I must be irresistibly attractive and what I found a guy 13 year youngwr than me had this. I m an Indian and in our culture and society its like a sin and even I was not sure about him but as he was not ready to back off although he have a girlfriend.. I get attached to him or love him I don’t know and more over he is ready to make me his girlfriend but afraid if I get serious for him because he said he can’t marry me… And I thought its better not to take things further and just be friends so he was not ready for that too. He tried but it was hard for him to do so… So he ignored me completely.. Not talking to me n all but I just want to know why this happening what wrong I m doing. I m doing each n everything according to LOA but these are the result I m getting. WHY??? Can anyone help me please…. Its terrible and so painful. Lettin
g yourself crush everytime for seeking love.
Hmmm thinking about this. I know that other people see me as confident, but inside, I am really scared. I am the youngest in my family and it was as if I was expected to always remain a child. But I am not… I have experienced life. I am a wife, mother and both of my parents have passed away. I own a house and I know that I have life knowledge. But somewhere along the line, I got the message that Bonnie “can’t.” I feel that when I share a news of success with my sisters, they are -I don’t know how to put this- I just get the sense that they aren’t quite impressed. Like maybe they are jealous or I get the sense that they don’t feel that I am as capable as someone else. I sense skepticism about my ability. Now, that may or may not be truth, but it sure pushes my insecurity buttons. And I know that I have to truly believe in myself and not care what my sisters think. but I guess that’s what this particluar affirmation is about. The future is MINE to write, not my sisters or my parents. I was meeting with people who can refer clients to me and I was telling them my background. Part of that is the story about my daughter… but I only discussed her briefly, saying that her issues are her story and my purpose is to tell you MY story. So, if I am willing to let my children emerge into adulthood to write their OWN stories, then I have to meditate on granting myself the same kindness. It’s time to write my own story. I suppose I am holding on to the past because it is so very, very painful and difficult to say goodbye. This means that I am really, really on my own – like for real. For one sister, that has meant forging a new relationship with me (positive – yay) and for the other it has meant severing all ties (ouch, extremely sad – another death for me). But, that’s it… time to step up and take control over writing my own story. Yup. Ouch. Frightened and a little sad – would have been great for mom and dad to have been around to see me emerge. They would have been proud. Ouch. Missing them so very much. Or missing what would have been the opportunity to repair a relationship. Ah, the root cause
I limit myself a lot from having a social life. I don’t make many meaningful connections with people. I feel like that after I get past the introductions, I’m not sure how to branch off from that.
After much thought, the main reason why I am lacking in this area is because I believe that I have nothing interesting or important to say. I think I feel this way, because I have a speech problem. I stutter. It is difficult for me to speak my thoughts fluently. Because of this stutter, I automatically feel as if what I say is less important than others. I know this is not a good thought to have, but sometimes It really is very difficult to express myself.
Since my speech is what is limiting me, my first step would be learning to accept my problem. In the past, I’ve always been embarrassed and ashamed of how I talk, but these past few months, I’ve been slowly trying to change my negative thoughts about stuttering.
My main action step for this change would be to speak more and not be ashamed, embarrassed or worried about what I say. Throughout my life, I have let my speech dictate what I can and cannot do (ordering food at places, meeting new people, etc.).
I really like day 1’s affirmation.
Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is mine to create.
Thank you for your time!
-Danny
Affirmation-1
“Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.
What are ONE area of your life where you’ve been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in?
Even though I have been online for quite some time and make money by offering services/coaching/consulting, I am limiting myself from creating products and selling it.
What is the belief statement you’ve been harboring in this area? And is it serving/helping you to accomplish your goal?
I get excited and gather information and also almost have it ready to publish and upload for selling. I start doubting, if someone will buy. I start questioning myself, if it is worth the time. Sometimes there is some unknown block paralizing me from doing it. However, I am very good at discovering and helping my clients overcome their blocks.
Change this belief(s)
1. If I can make money by offering services, then I can do so by creating a product.
2. If my clients have paid me for my services, that means they have acknowledged the Value.
3. Product is just another form of delivering the knowledge I have. It can be simple ebook or audio or Video.
4. If my time is worth for offering services, it is worth for offering product.
5. I can help more people by offering my product.
6. It is completely OK if no one buys. I too have never bought things that are offered to me. It is better to try and learn from the process. I can become a better writer/speaker/marketer
What is ONE action (or more if you desire) that you’re going to make to make this new belief come true? Commit this action to a deadline, and get working on it!
In my next Ezine scheduled for July 28th, I will offer a new Product.
Hi everyone,
Glad to be able to continue in spite of web connection challenges.
What I hate myself for
I hate myself for lack of decision, willpower or rather fear of failure or again for accepting the stereotype of working all life, getting retired, continue living poor and eventually die in misery. I hate myself for thinking was not cut out for entrepreneurship and was better off sticking to my day job because it is very risky. Last but not least, I hate myself for indecisiveness, hesitation, taking
too much time brooding over ideas and not taking action, pondering on life challenges, pitying self for failure, worrying about future, being used by other people to build their reputation and wealth etc. I hate myself for not wanting to engage myself in social organizations and speak out my deep
thoughts.
The reason behind the self-hate
I have discovered that my self-hating thoughts originates from my childhood and difficulties I faced; being a child of divorced parents, I lived far away from my parents in a remote village where I was not accepted for being different. I loved scohool whereas the others loved farming. A school goer is considered a lazy boy. So I was singled out and rejected.
Being a resident of Burkina Faso (I was born and educated in Togo), I hardly reach out to achieve great things like starting a business in order not to rouse people’s jealousy and subsenquently be singled out again. Hence the hesitation, lack of decision, fear of failure to start my own business.
Self Love Proclamation
I know I’m smart, positive, and caring towards others. I love that I have such wonderful qualities and I’m proud of myself for having them. I hug myself……. I feel great. All my achievements are good but the best are yet to come. “I love myself unconditionally.” As the saying goes “Charity begins at home”. How can I love others if I don’t love myself? I can only love others on condition that
I love myself first.
To achieve that love and share it around me, I have to reach out to people, achieve my dreams, start my own business, accept what and who I am to build my best self.
hello all sorry i am late but hope not too late and here the affirmation of the day
I feel like I am limited in many areas of my life, which feels very frustrating and discouraging. Hopefully this task will help me to feel better. But, one area I am limiting myself in are my romantic relationships. I have been in unhealthy relationships since I can remember. Right now I am settling into a non-committed relationship with someone who is toxic for me and me for them. We go through a cycle of breaking it off and then reuniting, for 2 years. We rarely spend time together or do activities together. It is very unsatisfying emotionally, but satisfying sexually. A belief that I have is maybe I am not worth anyone putting effort for me. I rarely know how I feel or how I should feel because generally I am unhappy with how I am treated by others, and I don’t know if I’m justified in those feelings or not. Anyhow, my belief that I am not worth effort or commitment is not serving me in my goal of being in a committed relationship that is mutually satisfying. I see other friends and family having a committed relationship and then I feel even worse about myself. Then I start to believe, everyone can be happy in life except for me. I definitely feel trapped in these cycles of negative beliefs and feelings. I can change this belief to be more positive in the manner that, today is a brand new day. Even though I have been unhappy in my relationships and felt neglected in my relationships in the past, I can meet someone who is loving and kind, caring and willing to be in a committed relationship with me. An action step that I am going to take is commit to not chasing anyone, to accept rejection and leave. A more immediate action plan, what I am already doing is going to 90 support groups in 90 days.
“Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.”
I have been limited in allowing time for myself to explore mind and body health for yoga and ballet barre. I have signed up for classes and continue to cancel after a few times because I get pulled into commitments and have not set the boundaries to allow time for me. i will change the belief that I am not allowed to have me time and create a set time each day to allow a break in my day for an hour to pursue my mind and body classes. My commitment now is that an hour each day is for me to do mind and body work for myself.
Hello everybody,
Today I want to share my experience about the challenge and I would love to speak about INTROVERSION.
I am very artistic personality and I need a lot of personal space and alone-time in order to generate new ideas and stay creative. In same way I also need nourishing human interactions to stay inspired. In my personal relationships I am warm and caring. I can be a heart and soul of a group, even motivate and lead people, where I can relate to the cause, but I am not a social butterfly. What is important to me is quality not quantity of relationships.
What really upsets me in this nowadays world is that there are many misinterpretation of what introverts really are. Introversion has little of nothing to do with shyness, anti social behavior, bad interpersonal skills, autism, depression or even weak personalities. I am introverted, but I am not defined by any of those characteristics. For me being an introvert only means running in deeper waters, concerning more about one’s ideas and concepts rather than trivial matters and social small talk.
Back at school, I used to be among most intelligent and gifted kids, but quite often because of my “shy appearance” teachers wouldn’t give me a chance to participate in different projects or contest and put more outgoing kid instead. Somehow I wasn’t good enough in their eyes. Back then I wasn’t familiar with the term introverted and just assumed that I am not courageous enough. And led by this believe I missed out many opportunities just by thinking that I am not outgoing enough to be selected.
When I graduated, I wanted to break out. I applied for a volunteer programme abroad and devoted my time and skills to other people. Only then, through human interactions, cultural exchange and language barriers I discovered that I have been limiting myself by letting people around me decide what I can or can not be, do or have. My believes about myself and my abilities were all false. Introversion doesn’t exclude us from living to our best potential.
What I wanted to say with all this is that I am completely happy being introverted, I even prefer to be and I wish society will also drop some limits and open up to the world where every personality is celebrated ;)
“”Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.”
Sincerely,
Santas Inspirations
OK, I am a tad bit late, but I’m still gonna do this anyways :D
If it was the “me” in the past, I would probably list a ton of stuff which I think I have been limiting myself/ felt limited in.
The first on the list got to be me constantly worrying about my
future success rate. I have doubts on myself. There are things that I
want to do, the results I want to achieve and the life I want to live. I
had a classmate who is a pastor, he said his mission statement in life
is to “dream boldly, live courageously, love sacrificially”.
I think it is awesome. How many people nowadays dare to “dream boldly, live courageously, love sacrificially”?
Too many of us have fear, and still do. We fear of the unforeseen
future, we doubt our “capabilities” and “abilities” to achieve. Some
fear to dream, some do not even dream.
How saddening.
A dream is what makes a person comes alive. Without dreams, there is
no clear direction in life, and I would expect one to develop self-doubt
feelings and prevents one from feeling the greatest sense of
self-satisfaction.
My self-doubt on my future is my greatest limitation. I have a lot of
dreams, but I always used to allow fear to cripple me. But now, I am
training my “go whack ‘em!” muscle so that I can use it whenever I feel
fear and self-doubt creeping up on me :D
So! I will be a writer!
A life coach specialising in positive psychology!
A great daughter!
A loving wife and a caring mother!
An entrepreneur!
A speaker!
And most importantly, a person with a humble heart and compassionate spirit :)
There’s more to it, which I have stored them all in my blog here:
http://zestychloe.wordpress.com/2014/07/11/day-1-new-beginning-today-is-a-brand-new-day-my-past-does-not-define-me-my-future-is-mine-to-create/
Thank you, Celes :) Can’t wait to do the next one~
Dear Celes, Fufu here! :) I read your 3rd post yesterday about people not commenting as much as past challenges and I was thinking about the same thing. On a personal level, I had not commented because as past challenges I couldn’t.
I’ve had a hard time accessing a computer as it’s hard for me to write comments from my phone (out of fear that my comment will get erased because of some phone glitch before I’m able to post it.) but I was really desperate to comment how MUCH this Challenge has helped me and how happy I am that you announced it the day of my 19th birthday!
I finally have been able to access a computer at College and am finally able to tell you my apreciation and my reasons for not being able to comment sooner. :(
Now to share my answers to the questions. 3 areas of my life which I’d been liming myself from was my work life, my relationship with my girlfriend and my dream to be a writer (or I’d rather say a mangaka). I stopped turning in resumes and searching for a job because I’ve been lied to so much in the past by bosses that would supposedly hire me and suddenly lost interest and vanished into thin air when they saw me in person on interviews made me to seriously believe that I’d NEVER get a job. Who’d want to hire such a weird talking girl like me who has a Mexican accent? Who would want such a young looking baby face? Bosses just want beutiful women, old men, anybody that looks normal.
And yet I’m not normal. I started to hate my young look, my voice, how people judge me and don’t even allow me to show what talent I have and that appearences don’t matter. I was so depressed for such a long time that I had even told many people I know that what am I going to do in the future? I’ll never get a job, no one will hire me. Nobody wants me. I’m stupid.
I still partially hold this belief but I’m slowly letting go, I came into an -aha- momeny when I tried changing this belief with the 3rd question. I realized that I’d only want a job because of money but I’m not interested in jobs so I never tried hard enough. In many ocassions if only I’d had insisted a little longer, I might had landed the job, but I didn’t because in the back of my head, in my heart I know far well that what I want is not a job. I don’t want to live for other’s dreams. I want to live for myself, be my own boss, and be free. Somewhere where nobody will judge me, I’m a firm believer that talent speaks for itself. I just feel that I don’t have to proove anything to anybody. My self-worth doesn’t involve what those bosses might think of me. They might think I’m not employee material but in my heart I know far well that I would make a good employee. If all I want is money then my goal isn’t finding a job, it’s building a business of my own and while the though of building a business roots from my fear of being judged by others, those are issues I’ve noted down to deal with in the following days as my action step. What is it I REALLY want and what do I evade.
I’ll continue on the next comment to make sure that this comment doesn’t glitch and gets erased.
Fufu, you are here!! :D I was wondering too if you saw the challenge and if you were taking part. It’s so great to have you sharing your comments now too! Don’t worry about not being able to comment if you’re having technical issues; just share what you can when you can, and focus on getting the best from the challenge instead. It sounds bad, the phone glitch, and I can empathize as I’m experiencing my own share of tech issues of late (wireless function on my phone stopped working, my laptop is on the brink of death so it’s likely time to get a new one).
That aha you have, “I realized that I’d only want a job because of money but I’m not interested in jobs so I never tried hard enough,” is really powerful!!! So the next step sounds like identifying what it is you love to do (your passion) and then taking the steps to make that happen. I also totally agree that your self-worth doesn’t involve what those bosses (or anyone, really) think of you. You may be only 19 but you’re much wiser than many out there! And happy belated birthday to you by the way!! :D (My birthday just passed too; it’s 25 June!)
When it comes to my relationship with my girlfriend, I was limiting myself because I had given up on her, on us, on our love. We’ve been in long distance for around 2 years now. We were only able to enjoy 5 months in our relationship before she had to move to Florida. I miss her so much that it made me desperate and I still miss her. I gave up on her because I’ve always been lovey dovey with her, I’ve always felt like I’m the one who loves her more. I’ve accused her in many ocassions that she doesn’t love me as she doesn’t proove it. But those were lies to myself, jealousy’s of mine, stress built up because of the distance, College and because of my house’s economical situation. She’s the only person I can talk to so I take advantage and blow up that anger on her. I was wondering why things weren’t as they used to.
Why is it that I felt like I was in a one sided love? Why is it that she’s so tomboy that she never says cute stuff to me. Why doesn’t she open up to me? It makes me wonder but it’s just her personality. She’s grown up with a shield all her life, how can I expect her to just drop a habit she’s had all her life!? And then the -aha- moment came when I started replacing those negative beliefs.
When was the last time that I did something for her? When have I bothered to actually listen to her day, to ask her about details, to actually care about her, haven’t I been treating her like she owes me to treat me like this princess and when my expectations aren’t meant as I want them to I get mad. When was the last time you were grateful for her? Haven’t you noticed that you stopped doing nice things for her a LONG time ago because she wouldn’t do things the way you would expect them to? Haven’t you noticed that you don’t love her but you love your illusion of who you want her to be? She’s the only person in the world who basically proposed and promised to come back for you before leaving to another Country. She loved you so much that she broke up with her then long term boyfriend to be able to act on your feelings for you.
You’re the ONLY person she shares things with. She dreams about you, draws about you, watches romances all day that reminds you of her and she sees temporal distancfe as no excuse to break up with you because she thinks you matter more than that. She’s the only person who kept insisting on you even after I treated her so badly before we became friends. She openly tells you she dreams of marrying you, having kids and groing old and travel the world together. She’s never hit you and most than all always keeps her calm and tells her she loves you even after you made her feel like total shit. In any case the one who has pulled her away is you. What’s wrong with you Fufu!?
This was when I realized that this challenge will help me a lot and it has so far. I took immediate action of this on Day 1 and changed my behaviour. I stopped blaming her, I stopped asking her to act exactly as I want. I just started to listen, to ask details, to do lil details that I know she’ll like, to make her feel like she matters in my life. The truth is… how can I expect someone to love me when I don’t give them reason to love me. Who in their right mind would love someone who makes you feel like a horrible human being each day?
And can you believe that my small ongoing action step has flourished shocking results! I had been fighting with her before trying to force her to study her driver’s license. yesterday she studied 3 chapters all on her own! :) In our relationship it means a lot for me that she does her responsabilities and I was surprised she took initiative on her own and she’s been more lovey dovey since I started slowly doing my mission of capturing her heart again and giving her reasons to fall in love with me again and for me to fall in love with her again as well. We’ve been in love this past 4 days since the Challenge started and that’s something we hadn’t actually felt in a long time. Strong revelations :)
Now about my dream to be a mangaka or a writer.I decided to do my stories on a video game. II’ve been currently working on building a video game on a program called RPG MAker XP. I had been holding back on writing/drawing anything because I held beliefs that it was too hard, too much mess, I had too much ideas, I was tired so I procrastinated but my action step is to work 2 hours on my video game for like a month now so I was already on the path to finish this goal. Thankfully I finished my demo yesterday even after much frustration because my new belief is it doesn’t matter how hard, tiring, stressing, messy things can get. At the end it will all be worth it.
So yeah, it doesn’t matter if in the past I’ve missed to find a job, that doesn’t mean I’ll never find one. Just because my girlfriend has her own way of expressing love which isn’t my same language of love, doesn’t mean she stopped loving me. On the contrary she might had just been frustrated about my lack of showing I loved her which was just crazy. I can’t expect kindness when I don’t offer it and just because doing my stories feels so big and I’ve procrastinated so much in the past does not mean that I will never finish it. I already finished my demo yesterday and I’m really proud of myself. Something I wouldn’t believe capable, people liked my game and wished to play more. So it comes to show, the past does not make your future. :) (sorry I wrote so much by the way, I’m an open book and it helps me learn more things from the challenge.)
My limitations is not being able to speak well and elicit responses in
large groups – I can communicate well enough in smaller groups – and I have observed in seeing myself from a
distance. However, I have tried, I inadvertently get into such a situation,
though I have apprehensions – in the beginning I am unable to communicate or
hold the group as I expected to. I wish
to be able get over this – to say things clearly and concisely.
My new thoughts are to understand deeply the subject or topic I will touch – identify the
key areas which I myself believe in . I will build and understanding and test
it with my friend or colleague. I
believe preparing and giving due time, if you are not a natural does help
and I will be able to do much better
than I have.
I will
continue to learn. I will try
different ways – which help me bring out the
clear thoughts or the right questions.
I limit myself in the career or entrepreneurial area. Too many negative beliefs…”If I have my own business it will cost too much…who will come? why would they come?” drone, drone and the dream fades. I’ve been working on a business plan for over a year, it all looks good on paper so far but then I think “I am too poor…or there isn’t enough, can’t afford it” thoughts that originate from my growing up. “Today is a brand new day. My past does not define me. My future is to create.” My dream is to role out of bed with a paint brush in my hand, and I am making small steps towards that dream. Reading Day 3 affirmation yesterday I got up and was so inspired I started to paint again. (painting block)
http://shwetachandhok.wordpress.com/2014/07/10/affirmation-challenge-day-1/
My post on the affect of past experiences on my studies.
Day 1:
What are ONE area of your life where you’ve been limiting yourself or that you feel limited in?
I’ve been limiting myself and/or feel limited and several areas of my life, especially with my educational history and romantic relationships.
What is the belief statement you’ve been harboring in this area? And is it serving/helping you to accomplish your goal?
Regarding my education, I’ve always had problems keeping up with the college course content for the duration of any given semester or quarter. It’s not that I’m dumb, but that I find myself sidetracked by different things, always distracted. (Suspect ADhd, but never tested). Ultimately, I’m afraid of going back to school and failing again. I’m reminded that I’m just not cut out for school due to my lack of focus and lack of self-control. I’m having a lot of trouble finishing community college, it’s been about 8 years, but I still have dreams to finishing school and making something of myself.
My failures in achieving my career or educational goals have led to my low sense of self-worth. Deep down, especially when triggered by another failure, I feel I’m worthless: just a steaming pile a shit. It’s affected how I communicate with others, and also how I’ve maintained friendships around me. I don’t stay around long, with the fear that people may pass judgments on me. More sadly, I’m afraid of relationships and women. Though I’m a good person, I don’t feel like I’m lovable. I can’t take care of anybody. Mostly likely, I’d just end up disappointing the person I love, and she would then leave me. I’m not a man.
Change this belief(s)
I am capable. I am lovable. I love me for who I am, not for who or what I might become. I achieve greatness. I have the mental capacity to control my decision making. I am in control. I am smart. I am attractive. I am great.
Identify your action step(s) to make the change!
I’ve already identified specific activities that I generally have tendencies to waste my time in, and have made commitments through stickk.com to cut out these activities. For one, I find myself spending hours reading sports blogs. I’m cutting that out indefinitely, and I will have monetary punishments for breaking any commitments within every 7 days. I replacing those “bad” activities with those that are more healthy and time productive. That includes time for exercise, meditation, and reading old texts. I plan to return to college once again during the fall.
Say your new belief out loud, along with today’s affirmation
“Today is a brand new day.
My past does not define me.
My future is mine to create.”
I feel better.
Check out my blog post about today’s challenge… I didn’t post it on here because it was quite lengthy =^^= http://lettersofavoyager.weebly.com/blog/day-1-new-beginnings
Celes why is it that I still doubt myself even after completing this challenge? I am really bothered by this.
Hi Kelli, because change isn’t meant to happen overnight! This challenge isn’t meant to be a magic bullet that magically transforms us right after doing it; rather it’s a gentle push/nudge in the right direction, towards where we want to be. It’s more important that we take the step to change every day, even in small ways, as opposed to waiting for a magical big event before we take the step to change (which will never happen).
Like you said, “Being forced to voice my limiting beliefs has really helped me to get to know myself.” This process of self-awareness is an important first step to transformation. After all, we can’t change for the better if we don’t know first what we are dealing with, isn’t it? I think it’s terrific that you have identified those self-limiting belief statements and transformed them into empowering ones; so now it’s about focusing on the positive statements and reinforcing them every day!
By the way, even if your answer is lengthy, you are welcome to post a snippet, and then participants who read and want to learn more can click over to your blog!
I also recommending posting a link to the challenge’s task in your blog entry, for easy access for both yourself and your readers to click over to the challenge task from your blog to read more about the task, if they’re interested. (This is especially relevant months down the road when the challenge is no longer accessible from the first page of PE blog.)
Hello, you “complained” that we don’t share our results, soo here I am, writing to you about 1# affirmation. My experiance with this affirmation is that I did everything I set for myself on Tuesday (when you post new affirmation it’s evening here in Slovenia so I use affirmation the next day). I can’t remember when was the last time I finished every task I set for myself … so thank you for this … everytime I had an excuse for NOT doing something I said affirmation in my head and begin with the task. Thank you for doing this for us (me)…I promise you that I’m gona write to you and others again but probably not every affimation because some of them are very hard to achieve in 1 day (like 2# affirmation) …so be patient with me (us) and when I’ll achieve results with affirmation I’ll write to you. Good day :)
Here’s the summary of my results from my blog post. It’s two days late and I apologize for that. So my blog will have three days worth of positive affirmations on it, in one day! Hopefully no one gets too overloaded with positivity (is that even possible?).
“That is the affirmation Celes gave us. “Today is a new day. My past
does not define me. My future is mine to create.” I find that to be
very positive. I had started pointing out the new day part before the
challenge started. I had never even thought about the other two sections
before.
I have lived 23, almost 24 now, years in the past. I’ve relied too
heavily on who I was that I’ve forgotten who I am. I don’t know who I
am. I’ve never known. I can tell you who I was and that I won’t be that
again. But I can’t say who I am because I haven’t met me yet.
“My future is mine to create.” I still have a chance to create who I
want to be when I grow up. I don’t know who I want to be, but I’m not
going to ignore it. I’m going to try and find out who I am and who I’ll
be. Because today is a new day, and I get to decide how to create it. =)
My result from the first day was pretty cool actually. Yesterday,
which was Day 2, I clean house for my Mom. She’s a semi-invalid so she
truly cannot do it herself. She is a perfectionist and I never seem to
do a good enough job. Tuesdays I wake up stressed out, because I know
it’s a day where I will fail.
But remember Monday was Affirmation Day 1. I read my affirmation and
then slept on it. Yesterday, I woke up and internally said “Today is a
new day.” I didn’t repeat the rest of the affirmation, at that moment I
didn’t need it. It was a new day. It wasn’t just Tuesday. It was a new
Tuesday.
And that has made all the difference.
(She didn’t find anything to complain about either yesterday, so I’m guessing I did a good job)
=0)”
And therein ends the blog post summary. In case it wasn’t clear from that, I identified my lifelong limitation. It began when I was 6 years old. I saw everyone else living the dreams I wanted to live and I somehow got the notion that I wouldn’t be good enough as they were, so why should I even bother trying? I know now as an adult not to compare myself to others, but those childish fears and insecurities have been with me for the past 17 years. I didn’t even realize my problem went that far back. I never looked that far back for a problem before, and now that I’ve identified it, it’s easier to get rid of.
It’s one thing to say, don’t compare yourself to others. It’s a whole other ballpark when it’s been integrated into your very being from childhood. I know how to let go of things in my past, I’ve gotten real good at spring cleaning within my soul. I just didn’t know that’s where the problem was!
Here’s the link for those of you who are interested in reading the entire post (I warn you, it’s long. I lean towards essay length posts): http://dementeddelights.tumblr.com/post/91273118223/affirmation-day-1
Focus is my biggest challenge. Just this morning, I took my chalkboard on my refrigerator and wrote the things I needed to do before I sat down to write my day’s blog and read the others that are doing this challenge.
I want to be a writer. I am a writer, but I write projects for other people or I write a blog. I have a novel or two in mind that I just fear failure on, because everyone and their hamster has advice on the best way to do things. It’s the same reason people think they can’t be an artist. Looking at the big picture, instead of drawing one line at a time. Then, it leads to frustration and putting a novel or a project aside for another year.
Here is the main point of what I wrote about this affirmation, yesterday. It’s all in Baby steps and focus. Just like how I got to this post and still have a clean kitchen, coffee, and banana bread in the oven.
via The Being Artemis Project: http://wp.me/p4dpPO-6K
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