An Update (Why I’ve Been Away)

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Hi everyone! This is a quick update to let you know what I’ve been up to.

First off, whether you’re a new or longtime reader at Personal Excellence, thank you for being here. Without you, PE wouldn’t exist — so thank you. You’re the reason why I do what I do.

I know it’s been a while. I’m sorry for the lack of updates for the past 5 years. Some of you emailed me to check if I’m alive and why there haven’t been any updates for a while.

The truth is, it’s been a very difficult past 5 years for me. There have been a series of things that happened, things that crushed me and that I was unable to write about then as I was still working through them (and still am, for some of them).

A quick summary of what has happened on my end (not in chronological order):

• I gave birth to my daughter (she’s now 5!) and stopped working to dedicate myself to full-time motherhood, without family help.
• We moved from Singapore to the UK, and had to overcome many challenges, from COVID lockdowns completely disrupting our plans for two years, to getting a job in a foreign land (my husband), to finding accommodation without a job, with a baby in tow.
• My mother-in-law became very ill and we became deeply involved in her care. She passed away after an 18-month battle.
• I became very ill with worsening health issues for the past 10 years, which led me on a long journey to search for answers after mainstream health professionals were unable to give me any. I eventually found out that they are due to toxic dental work, including mercury fillings and a root canal, leading to heavy metal poisoning and other issues.
• My husband had worsening health issues too, including neurological issues and severe chronic fatigue, that I closely supported him through. We later found out that his issues are due to toxic dental work as well, including mercury fillings.
• I faced persistent conflicts in my blood family that I later realized were due to a toxic family-in-law badmouthing everyone and sowing discord in the family.
• And then there was COVID, which made everything — be it raising a baby, caring for the ill, or moving to a new country — much more difficult than it already was.

Admist these extreme challenges, I had to step back from everything in my life and turn completely inward to be there for my family, to deal with the challenges with my entire being.

From raising a baby to caring for the ill to grieving the loss of a loved one, from tackling my own health issues to supporting my husband through his, and from living in constant uncertainty (whether due to the pandemic, dealing with unknown health issues, or moving to a new country without a job or contacts), it was an incredibly dark and difficult period in my life — as I’m sure it must have been for many of you in the past few years, especially due to the pandemic.

As my child now starts school and I juggle the duties of motherhood and work, as I work on my own health healing journey, and as my family settles down in the UK (a shoutout to the UK readers!), I’m excited to return to my life path and mission — supporting you in your growth. 🌱

I appreciate your patience all these years. Please know that for almost every day in the last few years, I’ve constantly thought about you guys, how all of you are doing, and the day I’d finally be back to reconnect with you and let you in on what’s been going on.

I really miss you guys and I hope you are doing well. I know that the world has changed a lot in these past 5 years The online space has changed a lot, with new blogs, new influencers, AI chatbots, etc. Some of you may have moved on to other websites during this time. I hope that now that I’m back, I can continue to support you in your growth — as I have in the past.

I miss all of you. But I’m back now. And I can’t wait to update you more on what’s been happening.

Some quick updates:

• I recently did a subscriber cleanout as it’s been many years and many emails are either inactive or defunct. Some of your email addresses may have been deleted by mistake. To ensure that you’re still on my email list, please subscribe here.
• I miss connecting with you guys. I briefly considered enabling blog comments, but thought it’s going to result in the same issues of spam and noise as before. Keeping reader communication via email is the best way to go for now (until I find a better approach), so join my email list so that we can stay connected. (Update March 2025: I just reenabled blog comments as a trial, so let’s see how it goes! Commenting will now be open for 90 days from the date of each post.)

I’m currently updating old content, as well as updating my foundational courses 30DLBL (Live a Better Life in 30 Days) and 30BBM (Be a Better Me in 30 Days), which I’ll share more in time to come. Once again, join my email list for all updates.

If there’s anything you’d like to see, let me know or join my email list and reply to the email there. I’m back and I can’t wait to talk to you guys soon. :)

Update Jul 2024: Thank you for your email replies, I’m very touched by your kind words and messages! While I’m not able to reply to every message, please know that I read it with love. If there’s anything you’d like to see, let me know here. Updates will be slow for the time being as I’m working on the upgrade for 30DLBL/30BBM — stay tuned!

Update Jan 2025: I just released the 2025 edition of 30DLBL, my 30-day program to live a better life. Read more about 30DLBL here, or if you are a past buyer of 30DLBL, learn how to get access here! More updates to follow!