This is Day 18 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the tasks.
21DPC Day 18 Question
Today’s positivity question is this:
What are 3 Negative Thoughts You Carry?
And Why?
I believe all of us have not-so-positive thoughts that float in our consciousness – just a matter of whether we are aware of them. These negative thoughts may be in the form of self-doubts, judgment against others, or grievances against the world. They may arise during moments when we are at our weakest, during times when we are stressed, or during situations when we face negative triggers.
Think over the thoughts that crossed your mind in the past and identify at least 3 negative thoughts that exist in your consciousness. If you can think of more, that’s even better – this will clear the path for more positivity to enter your mind. Tomorrow, you will be identifying the positive thoughts to replace your negative thoughts with.
Your Task:
- Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express yourself.
- Sieve out the negative thoughts that cross your mind today.
- On top of the 3 negative thoughts you cited in today’s answer, spend some time examining the thoughts that cross your mind today.
- With each thought, ask yourself if this is a positive, negative, or neutral thought.
- Make a mental note of the negative ones and share them in the comments section.
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
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What are 3 Negative Thoughts You Carry? And Why?
1. I am not good enough.
2. I do not deserve good things.
3. S/he will think that I am.. (please fill in with a negative trait, negative judgement).
Why I carry them?
Not all the time, hopefully, but I tend to:
– be perfectionist, experience difficulties in accepting mistakes (it changed a lot since I got a job where you NEED to act and cannot over-analyse and improve your work endlessly);
– underestimate my own possibilities, it is scary to be successful, very good at something (it is far more comfortable to be average..);
– seek good feedback from other people;
– interpret others behaviours in a negative way in relation to me (as if I were the centre of the world and others were not happy with what I do)
Poor me! :cry: :hug:
Everyone is do fake & plastic. Because no one seems willing to just age gracefully or even accept the fact that they are aging. Everyone is getting plastic surgery and dying their hair and getting crazy giant white teeth. Botox and lip implants. Liposuction without even trying to diet or exercise. Breast implants…even more crazy stuff I won’t mention. I feel like I woke up on Mars or something. They all look like they are hiding something.
I can’t afford… I will never be able to afford… That comes from living in a repressed area and being constantly reminded by the mother that I will never be able to….even when I was already doing it!
I’m a complete freak and there must be something wrong with me. No one around here gets me, understands me, or even has similar interests as I do. No one really does anything or has any interest in anything of any depth. Everyone just wants to be entertained.
lol…how’s that for negativity?
Oops…I forgot! I had a car problem I never would’ve noticed today, and a complete stranger not only showed me, but explained what caused it and how best to fix it, saving me literally hundreds of dollars. “Extreme gratitude!”
What are three negative thoughts I carry with me and why?
1. Will I ever have children? My husband and I have been trying for a few years now to have a baby, and we have been unsuccessful. We know it is because of my medical problems, and we are doing everything we are supposed to hopefully make this happen. But when people tell me “I’m pregnant!” or “I’m engaged!” or something along those lines, I can’t help but feel like everyone is moving on to the next chapter of their life, and we are just stuck where we are. We try to remain positive, but there are moments when it is hard. Sometimes I just help but cry and wonder when it’ll be our turn. I truly think we’d be great, loving parents, and sometimes I wonder why we are not deserving enough to be blessed with a child.
2. I’m fat. WHOA I hate admitting to this. But, I have that “typical” women’s mindset where I am unhappy with my body. This is what I know: I’m not overweight, I’m not fat. But I’m unhappy with my body on some days. I know it’s all in my head. I’m a very active person, actually. I work out almost every day of the week. And I eat a very healthy diet (my husband and I are vegans—I know this doesn’t necessarily mean I’m eating “healthy”, but we make it a point to be healthy). I come from a very overweight, unhealthy family. I’ve got the fat genes, and I know that I have to be aware of what I am eating and how active I am. And I know I’m actually pretty average…I’m in pretty good shape and I’m healthy. And that should make me happy. Maybe all I’m missing is a 6-pack…that is probably what would make me happy. Better start on my crunches! ;)
3. Why do people have a different definition of “relationship” or “friendship” than I do? I am constantly thinking about this. A couple of examples: 1-I see a lot of my friends and/or family getting married. But the marriage lasts a year, and boom, they divorce like it’s not a big deal and move on. I find it so frustrating that people don’t take marriage and their vows seriously. I know this is out of my control and I can only focus on myself and my marriage. But it makes it hard to identify with that person when I don’t agree with what they are doing. Marriage MEANS something to me. I could never just divorce my husband over a fight. We work hard to be happy. And then these people who divorce after a year of marriage are always coming at me in a negative manner, trying to find flaws in marriage and tell me marriage is not worth it. That’s probably the worse thing about it all…they should at least respect my decision to be happily married. 2-Finding GOOD, REAL friends for me has been a struggle. I don’t understand the gossip and jealousy that comes along with most “friendships” now-a-days. We graduated High School years ago, why do people still act like that? I love having friends who are genuine and loving, who I don’t have to walk on eggshells around. I get so mad thinking about people who act like that. I have a few friends like that; well I don’t really consider them friends anymore as I have decided to distant myself from them. I just can’t understand why it’s so hard to just be friends? I guess the bottom line is, I have this fear that people are never really sincere anymore.
One positive thing about my day: I’m still going strong with my 5k training. We just started the next level. It proved to be a little more difficult, but I’m still enjoying it! 5k in May, here I come!
Three negative thoughts that I carry is what if this fails, I can’t do this, and I am not good enough. I bring myself down a lot. I expect so much out of myself and I accomplish a lot but I always focus on the things that I messed up!
The postive things about today is it is my dad’s birthday and I have confidence that certain things are going to work out!!!!
1) My English is not good.
2) I do not have good knowledge on it.
3) i am compromising
What 3 negative thoughts I carry? And why?
:cry: (1) I can’t do it. (2) I am a failure. (3) I don’t deserve anything good in my life.
:rolleyes: (1) Why does this happen to me (when something I don’t desire occurs)? (2) Why can’t this be me (when something I desire doesn’t occur)? (3) I really regret all the things that happen in my life.
:clap: The one positive thing about my day is reminding myself that there is no fate but what I make!
This is similar to the “1 frustrating thing”, no?
1) I don’t have enough money and I’m waiting for the student loan :| (still)
2) I can’t cook very well and I wish I could. Would make life so much healthier but most recipes just don’t work with me.
3) I’d like to help the world but I’m still unqualified to do anything big.
I do that task all the time anyway – often catching myself on negative thoughts and then arguing with myself a bit :D
Positive yday: friend’s bday party with vegan cooking! Also met a political philosopher there who’s currently writing a dissertation on natural diversity (of professions), which I find really interesting!! Added him on FB :)
NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
“THE HURRIER I GO, THE BEHINDER I GET!”
Why? No matter what I do, or how quickly or efficiently, there is still soo much left to do, I’ll never get it all done! :(
NOT ENOUGH! Don’t have enough (time, money, resources), don’t do enough, just not enough.
Why? Not enough to pay all bills and obligations on time, don’t get everything done, time is flying by!!! :(
There are sooo many big, HUGE PROBLEMS IN THE WORLD, it is very scarey and depressing. :( :( :(
Why? Poverty, famine, the environmental crises, the economy, politics, war, etc. etc. etc., ALL ON A GLOBAL SCALE.
I had to really dig deep for these negatives…I’ve been focusing so deeply and thoroughly on positives and affirmations and finding the positive or “UP” side for quite some time now, so this was tough, and I felt reticent to think of negatives.
I do realize that it is good to state negatives that are there, to lay it all out on the table, and look at it all, and then clear it, making room for the fresh air of positives to live and breathe and have their being. :D
POSITIVES
Realizing that thinking negatively has become something that I wince at, or am instantly reminded by my Higher nature that I desire to think positively IS A POSITIVE for me. :D
I have been building a new habit, like exercising, and it is THINKING POSITIVELY, or as a POSSIBILITY THINKER, instead of dwelling on the obvious negative. :D
I also notice that people who are negative and/or have negative habits/live unhealthily, are just falling away from my life, or i am no longer giving them any more of my time/energy. :D
With others, when I hear a gloomy situation or negative thinking, I interject a positive thought, or get into THE SOLUTION, casting a new light on the situation. :D
1. That I’ll never find a partner who will love me an only me. Because that’s what my current situation feels like.
2. That I’ll neve have a close-knit group of girlfriends. Because I’ve never had it.
3. That I’ll miss my chance at achieving something I’m of which I’m proud. Because I am currenty surrounded by energies that enable me to believe that I’ll never be good enough.
+ Sunny day!
I used to feel exactly the same – that the people I was surrounded with would never resonate with me and I’d be all alone. Then, as I kept going to new events, I met more people and found some awesome individuals in the Philosophy Society (look in the geeky places!!), including my current bf :)
What are 3 Negative Thoughts You Carry? And Why?
3 negative thoughts:
Why does the students so lazy and don’t want to listen to me?
It is very hard for me to slim down…
I don’t have the time to handle so many tasks on hand…
When I cannot complete the goal as I set before, I started to have negative thoughts, tried to push off my accountability towards the failure.
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Sieve out the negative thoughts that cross your mind today.
Today, during the class, my students resist to do the last practical question, but wanted me to proceed to teach the syllabus of the next semester. That was because they are more interested in the subject of the next semester. At first, I felt disappointed with the work I have prepared, but when come to think again, at least they are interested in studies. Since I have briefly discussed about the last practical question, I started a little bit of the new subject’s syllabus, in giving a brief introduction to the students.
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Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
Today, one of my colleagues told me that I look slimmer. ^^ Again, it motivates me to workout again!
What are the 3 negative thoughts you carry? And why?
1. I am not as good compared to others. As I not really good at doing some of the things compared to other people, I will tend to look down on myself for that matter.
2. People may not like me and may do bad things against me. As I was bullied in the past, I would tend to have the fear and worry that people are out to do bad things to me.
3. I will fail in doing the things I undertake. Perhaps, the reasons are that I want security, and I fear disappointing myself if I attempt something and fail. I sometimes have this strong resistance in trying out new things, and it really stops me from living to my fullest potential.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
Had a great chat with my friend yesterday at night (The question was posted yesterday :D ).
I guess the three most negative thoughts for me right now are:
1) Am I really prepared to teach these two classes? Why? I am teaching Sunday School this Month and also Bible Study. I’m just concerned that maybe I didn’t prepare enough, that the students may not get all they need out of the classes.
2) Will I lose and maintain the weight? Why? I am in training right now, to eat healthy and lose weight at the same time. Yes, I’m losing, just concerned whether I will stick to it and get down to the weight I desire. I truly don’t like gyms and my trainer has now taken me to the next level in the gym, where I am totally uncomfortable.
3) Will I succeed in my new business endeavor? Why? I’m now trying to retire and work for myself and I’m just concerned that maybe I am not ready yet although I feel that it’s time.
Im not sure about this…….what to write here.
Here are some thoughts:
Feel guilty for claming the best for myself.
Wonder if Im good enough ? for the person Im intrested in……..just because he didnt replay my messages from this morning :-(
Worry that he does not want to see me again, even if he told me that last time.
my possitive thing for today is that, I know so many people have it so difficult that my proplems become very small !
1. I’m not good enough. I’m a fake. I have been funded to do a PhD by a happy accident, and sooner or later people will realise I’m really not as good as all that.
2. My friends only ‘put up with’ me. There are always people in their lives they love more, who they’d rather spend time with; I am no-one’s ‘first choice.’ Even my boyfriend could do way better.
3. I can be really judgemental of people, and get annoyed too easily. For example, I don’t like it when people listen to music in public through their mobile phone speakers. And I sometimes judge people on the way they speak which is really horrible.
As for why I think these? I think a lot of it is because of things that have happened to me before. 1) is because I have perfectionist tendencies, and also because being a lecturer and researcher is what I want to do – I’m afraid I won’t make it, so thinking I won’t is almost like a self-preservation thing. If I do fail, I will be able to say I expected it. (Perverse, no?) 2) is because I sometimes have a hard time trusting people due to being in a very abusive friendship for several years. and 3)? Well, that I don’t know, but I think everyone can be judgemental at times. The music thing just annoys me >.< but I know it's my personal preference and I shouldn't judge people based on personal preference.
Something positive about today: It's Mother's Day, and I'm typing this on a train home to see my parents. My Dad knows I'm coming, but it's going to be a surprise for Mum. Also, I'm going to give them a letter in which I thank them for everything they've done for me, and express how much I love and appreciate them. That was the task I didn't do straight away from right back at the beginning! Also, on the train there's a beautiful couple with an absolutely gorgeous little baby. I was working earlier, but just seeing this child out of the corner of my eye looking at me made me smile :)
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Just one thing to add about – well, yesterday now. Completely out of the blue, my boyfriend told me how I was 'number one' to him, how I was irreplaceable and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me :love: So that puts paid to at least some of Number 2 above :dance:
Also, one more positive thing – reading all the comments on this thread has made me feel so happy. Not because so many other people are struggling with the same things as me – just because we’re all in such good company, and we’re not alone :)
Three negative thoughts:
1. This is my new normal. That might sound neutral until you know that it refers to having my husband in a wheelchair, faced with the possibility of an amputation. And my schizophrenic adopted son boomeranged back to our place a couple of weeks ago. And my mother, who has dementia, is supposed to come to stay with me early next month. And the toilet doesn’t flush properly.
2. I have to put the needs of these others ahead of my needs because they can’t take care of themselves and I can.
That is such a burden. I try to remember that I have to take care of myself so I will be able to take care of them. But that just makes self care an additional burden.
3. I can’t do certain things that I want to do because I need help that I don’t have, time that I don’t have, resources that I don’t have.
Positivity for today: Clean laundry. Friends at church offered prayer support. I’ll take it! And the cleaning service will be here tomorrow and that will help a lot. At least I don’t have to scrub the bathrooms.
Oh VickiB, I was so moved reading your contribution – you certainly have a lot going on in your life. It’s tough being the carer for one person, let alone three. I wish I had a magic wand to help you but as I haven’t I am sending you much love and support and strength to carry on, through the internet.
Thank you, Lottie. I wish I had a magic wand too! The most disturbing thing is that self care is a burden now!
What Are Three Negative Thoughts You Carry? And Why?
Nothing I do is good enough – I think that this has been the major thought that has held me back from achieving more in life. In the past I have felt this very intensely. I felt that doing a little work on something each day was pointless because my efforts were not good enough. I remember when I first began a health and fitness routine a couple years ago I had a very negative opinion of my efforts despite the fact that I was exercising 6 times a week and my diet improved. I felt that if I was really serious I would be exercising twice a day and would be a raw vegan. Even if I had doubled my efforts though I would probably still not have been happy with myself. I think I’m getting over this though. I’m focusing much more on simply taking action consistently.
Other people have it together more than I do – This has a lot to do with comparing myself to others. I would look at others and feel that they were smarter, more attractive, more diligent, more focused, and more likable than I was. I have felt like I was screwing everything up and other people were just happier and understood life more than I do. It’s helped to remind myself that everybody feels this way sometimes. Some people who I feel are “better” than me may feel envious of me and my life for whatever reason. Also when I compare myself to others I am usually comparing very superficial things and I am not looking at the core of myself or other people.
People don’t like me – I’m not entirely sure where this thought began but I have had it since I was very small. I usually anticipate other people not liking me. I can be very introverted so it can be very difficult for me to connect with new people, coworkers, customers, etc. I have already decided that this is the year I am changing all that. :mrgreen:
Something positive that happened to me today was I slept in until late this morning after a week of being quite sleep deprived.
Matt, I completely and utterly identify with everything you’ve said here. I don’t really have any advice to give you, otherwise I probably wouldn’t be able to identify quite so much :shy: But I wish both of us all the best of luck. I think everyone feels like we do from time to time, but it doesn’t always make it any easier.
The three negatives I carry are:
1. I am too different/weird to belong – as a family member, as a friend, as a coworker.
2. I don’t have it in me to stand up for myself. I will say anything to keep the peace. I am afraid of anger, and I don’t know how to react to it. I would rather run away than voice my opinion.
3. I am not capable of fulfilling my dreams. I have wasted my time up until this point, and I am afraid I will continue this cycle of my fear of success forever.
My positives for today: We went on a road trip, and visited some family and friends who we haven’t seen in a while. Plus, the weather was beautiful!
Hi, Kimberly. I have felt the same ways. Please don’t feel like you are alone.
Here are the 3 negative forms I carry:
1. I’m too young and less experienced to teach other people
2. I’m not a good public speaker
3. I’m not lucky
Why?
1. People where I live (Ivory Coast) are more delighted to listen to older and very experienced people
2. My senior bother is a stammer from birth. By dint of imitating him cause I was not, I finally got this habit. I’m now looking for ways to reprogram my brain and get back to a normal flow of speech.
3. Nothing occurs in my life haphazardly or by chance. I either have to work hard or to cooperate with God to make things happen.
Three negative thoughts:
I’m not good enough
Nobody loves me
Why would they want to talk to me?
I know that these negative thoughts I have are not true, especially the second one, but on bad days they overwhelm me and despite the fact I tell myself to ‘stop it’, I can’t help but think them.
I am in the process of change and growth, so I am hopeful that I will be able to overcome these negative thoughts on a more permanent basis.
Positives: My sister-in-law posted a supportive comment to me on facebook about Mother’s Day, as both my children are on opposite sides of the world. This is the first supportive gesture either myself or my husband have received from any family member since our children left more than 2 years ago. It is also significant to me as it is only in the last week that I have begun to open my heart which has been closed off to love for much of my life, following the discovery of the reason it was closed, as a child, in the first place. Coincidence? I don’t think so…energies at play here, methinks ;)
What are 3 Negative Thoughts You Carry? And Why?
1) The human species has changed the Earth’s climate and environment so much, and so quickly, that it’s almost certain we won’t be able to stop or reverse the damage – at least not for hundreds or thousands of years. I carry this thought around because it really bothers me that so many people just don’t care and/or are unwilling to change their habits, and because our actions have such a terrible impact on other living things.
2) I’m lazy. This is one of those negative “self talk” bits I haven’t been able to eradicate. While I’m very much *not* lazy about taking care of the dogs, getting things done around the house, fitness, and eating well, I don’t have a full-time job. Even though I’m lucky enough not to need one right now because my boyfriend has a good job, I feel like I’m lazy because I don’t.
3) I’m boring. I feel like I don’t have much of anything interesting to say. While I might be interested in a particular topic, I don’t think most other people want to hear me yammer on about it.
Sieve out the negative thoughts that cross your mind today.
– I’ll add them as they come up.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
– I had a really great yoga class this morning at Crossfit. Everyone who showed up really seemed to benefit from the flexibility and mobility stuff we worked on.
I had great relaxing day today…really good time most of the day..
And three negative things for sure are :
1. Panic Attacks- unresolved feelings from past, but i am dealing with that and I’ve come long way
2. Procrastination- fear form responsibility
3. Addictive personality- to people, partner mostly…
So these are my top 3 things but i am resolving those one step at the time and i know I’ve come a long way and that there is nice road ahead of me also…
I’m not a good wife. This one was beat in my brain for almost two years by someone else. I’ve tried to quit listening to it. I’ve thought about it and acknowledged that there were things that I could have done better, but I do think I was a good wife in a lot of ways. But I can tell when I start feeling stressed out, it comes back to me, so it’s not completely gone yet.
I’m not attractive. This one has a lot to do with the first one. I’ve been compared to other people for the past couple of years, and that did a lot of damage to my self-esteem. I still struggle with this one a lot, especially when I go to buy things for myself.
The third one is a little harder for me to put in words. I guess I harbor a lot of bad feelings towards the person who made me feel that way. Especially since he was supposed to be the one person in the world that was always there for me. But again, I’m aware of these feelings and I’m trying really hard to look at the positive things that are still there in him. And not always automatically think the worst about him.
Positive things about today: I got some things around the house done. I talked to a friend I hadn’t talked to in a while, and hopefully helped him through a problem he was having. It’s been a beautiful day. I got to sit outside for awhile.
My most common negative thoughts:
1. I’m no good at my job
2. I’m a joke to everyone
3. I’ll never be able to pay off my student loan/I’ll always be in debt.
Reasons why:
1. When I have a bad day at work, I always think it’s my fault for my lack of experience, that I’m not “naturally” suited to the job, that I have no control over the class (I’m a teacher) – there are so many reasons that all add up to me thinking I can’t do it and I’ll never be able to. And I just have to remind myself that I have been trained to do the job, that I can do it but because deep down I feel like I’m rubbish at it and that I’m “faking” my way through every day at work… and when I get stressed all this comes up to the surface again and it’s all I can really think about.
2. Lately I’ve been thinking that I am just a joke, nobody can take me seriously and they all just laugh at me… which isn’t true, but sometimes it feels like it. I have a class of teenagers who laugh at me constantly in lessons, thinking that I don’t know about it, but I do, and they tell a colleague every week about the “funny” things I did and how much they laughed at me… it’s annoying more than anything but I wonder if a lot more people than them think I’m just ridiculous.
3. I worry about money and it used to be a big stress factor in my life. Unfortunately within the next year, I’m going to have to take out another loan for my studies, and I’m worried that I will always be living on the breadline and never be able to pay it all off, that I will have “wasted” government money but not being able to do so, and that I will never be able to fully enjoy myself if I am always watching my spending, budgeting and worrying about paying off debts.
Some negative thoughts I thought today:
I’ve been ill for several weeks (throat infections/cough/general being run down) and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong as I’m eating more healthily and exercising… how will I get better?
I should have put more make up on because I looked awful!
I was annoyed with someone who didn’t talk to me for a while and then said it was because he thought I was busy and that “we never stopped being friends” – well we did, when you didn’t talk to me!
I was annoyed with people on the bus who were really angry with someone and talked about it loudly and constantly for about 45 minutes (the whole time I was on the bus!)
Positive things about today:
I planned a day out with my flatmate, we went to see a new town, we went to a beautiful park and saw a peacock, some terrapins, some beautiful flowers and hundreds of palm trees :), I Skyped my mum and she really loved the card I made her for Mother’s Day, and it’s a long weekend, so can relax tomorrow too! :)
Hi Jo,
I can see how changing these thoughts to positive alternatives could really have a huge impact on your day to day life. Teenagers can be so cruel, I really admire you for doing that job, I started a PGCE (post graduate teaching course in the UK) but actually dropped out because I didn’t think I could cope with it. I guess it’s all about whether someone wants to do something enough.
There’s a book called ‘it’s not how good you are, it’s how good you wanna be’, meaning that if you really want to be good at something the possibility for you to achieve it increases so much because the desire and vision is there.
It sounds like you had a lovely day and well done for making your mum a card, I made my mum one and my son made one for me so I was happy today :)
Enjoy your day off it’s back to work for me after a weekend that has just flown by! :)
By the way some people swear by vitamin C, zinc and echinacea for colds :)
Hi Roses, Thank you so much for your comments, it really means a lot that you have taken the time to read and reply to my post :) I am actually going to go back to the UK in July (currently in Spain teaching English) and will start a PGCE for primary level in September, and I’m really excited about gaining more experience and knowledge of teaching — I really think I need it and it will help me feel more confident in the classroom after I have trained further. Up til now I have only gained a short 1 month qualification to teach English as a foreign language, and I’m teaching all ages from 4 – adults! It’s true that I have the desire to be good at teaching — and this will definitely help me — thanks for pointing that out to me – it has made me realise that I have the motivation to improve :) :)
also thank you for recommending those cold remedies! just a few days ago a friend told me about how zinc and echinacea boost your immune system — will find a way of getting them into my diet, i think you can get echinacea tea and if I can’t find it in Spain, i’ll have a look when I go back home for Easter in a couple of weeks :)
No problem Jo!
Sorry I only just saw this! I wish you all the best on your teaching journey, a good teacher is such a blessing, I know because my son is in year one and it makes a HUGE difference when you feel your child’s teacher knows what they are doing and sees the good in your child :) May you carry the spirit of positivity to your students! :) :hug: Also, they sell echinacea tea in Holland and Barrett and different places sell those soluble vitamin C and zinc or echinacea tablets that you can make a nice fizzy drink with. I’m sure your new exercise regime will help, I used to get colds and sore throats all the time but since I started running I hardly get them! All the best Jo! xxx
I admire all teachers for their work but especially ones who deal with teenagers. I’m 35yrs old but I still remember high school and how kids can be cruel without realizing how much of a negative impact they have on people. Hang in there. You were trained for this job and you apparently have the passion to teach and deal with teenage students. I’m not sure if anyone can be naturally suited for that job.
I’m not sure if this will help or not, but one of my favorite teachers in high school was my 11th grade English teacher. He was a bit different than other teachers, could be funny in class and he was very passionate about teaching in a fun manner. However, several of the students found him to be just a big joke. I think it bothered him some. The one thing that helped were the students that were passionate about learning. Even if it was just one. Such as myself, I loved his class, adored his teaching manners, and still keep lessons he taught about English and life.
So if by teaching you are reaching out to even one student that pays attention and wants to learn then you have done your job the best possible way. I wouldn’t worry too much about it and I can’t imagine the annoyance. Maybe just by seeing one student trying to learn will keep you positive and focused.
Your positive sounds wonderful!! A new town and a gorgeous park sounds lovely. Hope some of these nagging thoughts can turn around into positive ones for you. :hug:
Netta, thank you so much for your encouraging words. sometimes it’s hard to get perspective but what you said has really helped. I read it before I went to the class of teens i was talking about (every Tuesday afternoon!) and this week I felt so much calmer in their presence. so i’d like to thank you for helping me gain that perspective :)
1. I think negative about some of the people in my life and this is draining and affected my mood.
2. I at times have negative thoughts about past things that have occurred between my boyfriend and I. Due to this thoughts, I at times will start an argument over something that happened in the past.
3. I think my boredom brings on negative thoughts like today I don’t want to do the dishes because I feel fed up with nobody in this household helping me with the keeping the house cleaned up.
My positive for today is: My girls’ father picked them up last night and I have gotten to lounge around and although I have things I need to do, it’s nice every now and then to have a break.
Also yesterday the girls did get their Easter pictures made and I am happy about that still.
3 negative thoughts that I carry:
Take anything and everything personally. It must be my fault or they must blame me. (Poor self-esteem.)
I am jealous of other people and what they have and think I need it too. Moms that don’t have to work and can stay home with their kids. That’s not a choice I have:( Husbands that cater to their wives. My husband is good but I’m jealous of those that are treated like Queens.
That I feel unhappy. I really shouldn’t–I have a great life. But, I can’t seem to shake the unhappy feelings.
Positive for the day – Beautiful sunshiny day–windows open loving the fresh air!
Paula, If you haven’t read “The Four Agreements” By Don Ruiz…I highly recommend it. One of the agreements is “Don’t Take Things Personally” He goes into some detail about it, and I can say that it has really helped me change that trait in myself. I seldom take things personally now and if I do, I am better able to recognize it and change my thinking.
I understand wanting to stay at home with your kids, and I hear you when you say thats not a choice you have. I just want to challenge you by saying that if we really want something we find a way to make it happen. If you had to raise 25k to save your kids life, you would do everything in your power to make it happen and I am sure you would succeed. Set the goal of staying home with them and then pursue it passionately like it will save their life.
Feeling unhappy is normal, and when I feel unhappy I make it point to write down 10 things I am thankful for. Unhappiness and gratitude cant live in the same place so I try to nudge unhappiness out the door by being specifically thankful. Good Luck!
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