This is Day 7 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the tasks.
21DPC Day 7 Question
Today’s positivity question is:
What Stresses You?
… and…
Why?
(Even if you are normally not stressed, there will always be certain situations that push our buttons more than others. Do you know what they are?
For the second question, there are 10,000 possible situations that can stress someone. Why do the particular situations you mentioned above stress you, above all else?)
Your Task:
- Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express yourself.
- Give yourself a break. Today, instead of pushing yourself to oblivion as you may do every day, cut yourself some slack. Take a break. Leave work earlier than you normally do. Go take a walk. Hug yourself. Do something fun. And take some time to reflect over the questions for today.
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area.
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
Look forward to reading your responses!
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The most stress is on my job.
Wanna be in high position with good knowledge so that i don’t want to depend on others.
I wish to give my earnings to my parents and it will be useful for them.
I will satisfy them as much as possible.
What Stresses You? Why?
I am a little insecure about money. I would like to be confident in my ability to earn a sufficient amount of money, regardless of circumstances. I have become financially independent for more than a year and a half now. I am learning to manage my budget: I am constantly monitoring my spending habits, making some savings.. I am very happy and proud to be independent and earn my living but still there is a huge fear of becoming poor, living under a bridge, losing my job which is my only source of income. The thought of depending financially on someone’s good will terrifies me. I suppose that this comes from my past. Moreover, some of my beliefs around money are neither truth nor useful. They drain my energy and stress me to death!
During a few last days I was gentle and tender with myself. I left my job earlier and drank a lot more delicious green tea, did more breaks to chat with my lovely colleagues, bought myself a hot chocolate in the morning. When I felt a little sick and tired, I stayed at home in my cosy bed instead of pushing myself too hard to do some sports..
Thanks, Celes, I keep watching how can I give myself and others more kindness and delicate appreciation. :heart: :hug:
Love,
Paulina
When i am not able to meet my obligations on time stresses me very much.. There are also some issues that i feel cause some stress, because when i go to bed at night/ early morning.. i have a lot of thoughts running in my mind for an hour..like a lot of things fighting to get my ‘thinking attention. I believe that subliminally causes some of the stress..
If i am not able to meet my obligations like bills etc i get worried of what the people i owe would think and how it is not portraying a good image of who i actually im..
It is funny I should pick up here because I have been a bit behind. This is due to stress and situations going on here. Our 1 year old family dog was sick this past Wednesday and by Friday evening we had him at the vet to learn he has Parvo. I am hoping we got him to the vet in time but I haven’t heard anything about him since Saturday. It is 7:30 a.m. here in Southwest Virginia and I am hoping to hear good news today.
The things that stress me aren’t usually the problems in life but when they occur at the same time it seems and I feel overwhelmed by them.
I guess the example would be this: My boyfriend had the flu last week, my children have a lot of activities going on this month, my calender for March is hectic but then everything began to overwhelm me because due to him being sick, it hurt us financially also. I had to reschedule a few things, some things I can not reschedule, and after being up for a little over 3 days trying to take care of my children, appointments, the dog, house work, bills, and I wasn’t taking care of myself, this was a very stressful week.
The positive is the dog made it to the vet. My children got the important activities done. The bills are falling back into place.
I had to sleep and remember it can always get worse because I have been there.
I hope it’s not a big problem that I’m 3 days behind with posting my answers. :)
I thought these days what stresses me and can I pick one thing that stresses me the most. One thing that really stresses me is the amount of things that I do not know. Weather it is some info about my family or generally not knowing all that I would like to about world. I would like to know so many things and I don’t know where to start in many cases. People say – Pick one thing and focus on it. I know I should but I would like to have more time and some good guides to tell me how to start and what are at least beginner’s steps. I also have a problem with the one thing I’m already trying to focus on. I’m not the beginner but I”m not advanced either. So I’m picking bits and pieces wherever I can and it’s a great stress when you think you are not good enough to go step forward, not having a good foundation. :/
I am behind on my post also due to stress. I hope you can get the most out of life and find a strong foundation for you!
My relationship stresses me. My partner recently found great success in their career and has very quickly gotten a swelled head. Ignored a big birthday of mine last year. I now know that I allow myself t feel badly, but stil…
Positive: I’m taking steps overcome this, which I realize now may mean leaving the relationship. Lately I’ve been taking better care of myself, paying more attention to my needs, dreaming new dreams in my own career ( instead of pouring all of my loving and supportive energy into my partner’s).
That sounds like a really tricky situation :( Does your partner know how you feel?
:hug: Good for you, being more attentive to your own needs. Hopefully your partner will see what s/he’s missing and get a bit more balance in their life – but if it does come to leaving, I really hope it all goes as smoothly as possible.
Squiggle, thank you so much for your response! I would have written sooner, but have been traveling. Yes, my partner does have a sense of how I feel. I say a “sense” because when we discuss his new, overwhelming but successful job/career it’s more through then on how it’s affecting him, not me. These days, everything seems to be about him. I’m in a bit of a zen place about it right now, which is good, because not too long go I almost became crippled (emotionally) at the realization that my partner has changed so drastically, right in front of my eyes, thanks in part to successes that I helped him attain…
Thanks for your well wishes. I know he loves me, and I him, I’m just looking within now o truly assess whether or not this dynamic will ever change and if we can really heal together and find each other again.
Hope you’re having a good day so far, Squiggle!
You’re welcome, Jade :)
Maybe going on a temporary ‘break’ from each other could get things into perspective? Maybe he thinks that everything’s fine in your relationship and a temporary break to sort things out could convince him that from your point of view, it’s not. He could have a couple of months to be as self-centred and career-oriented as he wanted – then hopefully realise that success is best when shared (and in an equal, unselfish way). If he doesn’t, well, then maybe you might think it’s time to move on. (My parents told me once how they split up for a year – they knew they both loved each other, but neither of them were in the right place for the sort of commitment they knew the relationship could lead to. So they took a year ‘out’, saw other people, got back together and were married a year later. That was 25 years ago :P The time they had apart gave them the perspective they needed to figure out that what they really wanted was each other – sorry about the mushiness!)
I’m sorry – I know it’s not my place to give advice over the Internet when I really don’t know you or your situation :( I’m sorry if I’ve caused offense. I hope this week goes well for you :)
Thanks so much! And I take no offense whatsoever! I am thankful for your generosity. It is also spot-on: A mutual friend of ours (his good friend first) told me the same exact thing about to weeks ago! The idea is growing on me, in that I know I would use the time to get a sense of my self back, as it were. The idea of not having to worry about this relationship and being neglected is deeply appealing to me. And what you wrote re: your parents is just wonderful. Thanks for sharing that. Mine celebrated their 55th this year, and while it hasn’t always been a bed of roses (what relationship is?) they are still happy they have each other.
I guess there’s a part of me that is concerned that, despite our love, I wouldn’t want to return after a break. I wonder how he would cultivate the room and balance in his life for the kind of relationship for which he once said he very ready, while being alone (or casually dating other women) for six months. The thing is I completely understand ho overwhelming his work is, I’m just surprised that, after a year and a half into it, he doesn’t seem to see he need to find was to handle his anxiety and re-balance his life.
Thanks, again so much, Squiggle!
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