This is Day 3 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
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21DPC Day 3 Question
Today’s positivity question is:
What is One Thing That Has Been Frustrating You Lately?
… and
How Can You Overcome It?
Here is a related article on dealing with daily setbacks which you may find useful in dealing with your current frustration:
And the manifesto version, if you wish to have the tips available in an easy-to-read, poster form:
Your Task for Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s questions. Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.
- For the step(s) you identified to overcome your frustration, put it into motion. Start with a baby step today, then go on from there.
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
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What it the one thing frustrating me lately and how to over come it/?
The one thing frustrating me lately is my tendency to start things and not finish… such as this.. Everything I start i have a hard time staying focused .. I find that I have alot of “important” projects or a “to do ” list that i think of all the time and i just add more to the list instead of getting done what is done..
How to over come it/? my baby step will be to prioritize my list… I find myself putting aside the bigger projects so i think i will start with a bigger project and peck on it each day until i finish that one.
What is a positive thing about today?
The birds are chirping outside.. I love to be up before the birds and slowly hear nature come to life as the sun rises.. i live where there is alot of nature so i hear fish flopping in the water and then one bird and then its like nature really cranks up the volume.. its so peaceful..
I am taking steps to catch up on this challenge… i got behind as usuall and then i thought i cant catch up.. but then i decided what is the worst thing that can happen if i am so far behind on this? I love all of the challenges and this too could help me with figure myself out! so i am happy to be back on board. happy= positive
Last Minute Assignments. I really don’t like them, I’m trying to prep the folk first so that they understand that when you fail to plan, you plan to fail
I find it frustrating to get pregnant. It doesnt work for years now and time is ticking away. It frustrates me every single month more than you can imagine.
First I know that frustration doesn´t last long. After a few days I am right in the middle of giving it a new try. Second, I talk about my feelings with my boyfriend, which helpes me a lot. Third I read about things you can do to get pregnant, e.g. in-vitro-fertilization and such things. Reading about this a lot makes it less complicated if this will be the last chance. And fourth I know it all lays in the hand of the universe and i know it will be, when the universe thinks, it should be. It is not in my hands, it is out of my control at last. Knowing this helpes me a lot. I know I have to do the things I can, but the result is out of my control. Life itself loves to produce more life. But only life knows the rules for it.
Yesterday, I made an appointment in a big hospital for a laparoscopy. It will give answer, if everything is all right with me.
Sun is shining in my face. It is a warm feeling and I can not find words to appreciate it enoough. Wonderful!
Oh, that must be so difficult :( I really hope the tests go smoothly and that one day in the future you start a family at last :hug:
Thank You, Sqiggle. Your support means much to me. Most people often try to convince me of the benefits of having no children. This is really hard for me. Just knowing to have someone who supports me is a very beautiful feeling! :hug:
The one thing that frustrates me is that I constantly keep doing other things while I am studing for my May’12 exams.
I don’t keep a track of my activities and manage accordingly.
Other things like:
I am attending this 21dpc when I seat for studies for 2 to 3 hours because I use mobile phone, instead I have planned to use it for 20 mins in 3 sessions a day.
I read many articles from internet in my study time and this also takes my time.
1.The problem is I am not devoting enough time to my studies
2. I am not the only person that is facing the problem of not devoting enough time to studies.
3. This problem is big at a individual because study is important to my purpose.
At national level, ok because many people are facing it and its not a end to the world.
At a international, not much because everyone faces that problem.
4.The vast possible result is will be failed in my exams.
5.Impact in my life in next
1 year:yes it will because
1.It will extent my period of getting the degree by 6months,
2.Effect my startup payscale,
3.Next time i will not got so many holidays to prepare for my exams,
4.I have to through more difficult process because I have to study with my job,
5.I have to restudy the same thing when I can utilise my that time develop my other skills,
6.Delay my purpose
7.Can effect on getting better spouse,
5 year:No such great impact i could have done more better
10 year:zero effect
Analyse the situation and take action steps:
1.I am not devoting required time to my studies as per my purpose of exceling.
2.Other activities as I am devoting more time to it which is not priorities is stressing me out..
3.To resolve I have to work in alingment to my purpose..and goal for it is ‘Richness in Education’. So, studies are most vital to me right now. So, I should concentrate on how I can save time and study more. So, I should divide my study time and I devote in my development properly starting with
7:00 a.m. to 10.00 a.m.-Study
10.00 a.m. to 10.20 a.m.-Do your tasks.
10.20 a.m. to 1.00 p.m.-Study
1.00 p.m. to 1.20 p.m. – Have lunch
1.20 p.m. to 1.40 p.m.- Do your tasks.
1.20 p.m. to 5.00 p.m. – Study
5.00 p.m. to 5.30 p.m. – Do your tasks
5.30 p.m. to 8.00 p.m. – Study
8.00 p.m. to 8.10 p.m. – Do your tasks
8.10 p.m. to 9.30 p.m. – Study
9.30 p.m. to 9.50 p.m. – Reach home
9.50 p.m. to 10.30 p.m. – Have dinner
10.30 p.m. to 11.00 p.m.- Meditation
11.00 p.m. to 5.30 a.m. – Sleep
5.30 a.m to 5.45 a.m. – Freshen my self
5.45 a.m. to 6.15 a.m. – Mediation
6.15 a.m. to 7.00 a.m. – be ready and reach library for studies.
4. I can do it!!
Wow, that’s a really full timetable you have there! Good luck – just remember that to work most effectively, we need to have rest breaks and time to do the things we enjoy sometimes. :)
Okay catch up day:)
I have been journaling on my phone my daily positives.. calling them my PPP- pleasently positive procurements so I don’t forget them… but finding time to answer the questions here is proving challenging… but not frustrating :p
One thing that has/had been frustrating me is my lack of computer knowledge :shy: … i got myself a shiny new Mac book b4 xmas… and don’t know how to use the thing… i’m a former PC user and seriously techno challenged.
Well after a few frustrating months of letting that compt. sit idle I took action this month and got myself an “itutor”… have had 3 lessons now and am on the path to figuring it out… plus the patience of the tech guy is really appreciated as I flutter through this.
PPP that happened on 3rd: Turned a rain day into a fun day! Explored a village about an hr away from my home with 2 friends and discovered some yummy local street food, saw rare white dolphins and laughed with friends… sure beat sitting inside my flat mopey about the rain.
I am frustrated because I do not have enough money to support myself. The obvious solutions would be to spend less money or make more money. I feel that my husband and I have cut our spending to the bone. I constantly look for ways to save money but I think I have done about as much as I can.
The next part would be to earn more money. However, I am sick and not able to work. I look at jobs I might be able to do but so far have not been able to find any. So, as yet I have not come up with a solution. I am still trying though. In the meantime I try not to worry and remind myself that at this moment I have everything I need.
So, I will and actually am happy in this moment.
the one thing that is frustrating me is money. I am jobless and I need a steady income. I need to send out my resume and follow up with places and at the same time find a babysitter
The best thing that happened to me today was spending time with my happy baby.
What has been frustrating me lately is that I’m pretty hard on myself, critical. When things dont’ go my way, I get upset. I think I need to step back a little sometimes and look at the whole picture. I have to keep the positive mantra of letting myself know that I am ok just the way I am and not be so tough on myself.
Day 3: What is one thing that has been frustrating you recently and how can you overcome it?
I’ve been frustrated by a lack of energy and how tired I am – at the end of a day of teaching I have no energy to do anything, when I come home if I sit down I don’t get back up again and then I don’t do my lesson planning, but then if I keep going when I get home I get to burn out. I’ve been looking at different areas when it comes to energy and there are a few things I can do. I’m focusing on my diet at the moment to include more nutrious food – I’ve upped my intake of low GI food (for slower released energy) vegetables, seeds, grains, fruits etc. and have pretty much cut out caffeine and sugar. But today is my birthday and I’ve been bought a lot of cakes and sweets. I now have a bilnding headache after so much sugar!!
So one thing I am going to do it continue with my lower intake of caffeine and sugar and higher intake of nutritious food. I am also going to try and get into a better bedtime routine as I am not getting enough sleep. I get on average about 5-6 hours a night but I want to get 7 hours. But I’ve been hearing a lot recently about some research which shows that we are meant to sleep in two chunks of 4 hours and get up inbetween! I wonder if anyone has tried that?
One further thing I am going to do is try and introduce yoga into my daily routine as a way of exercising in a more gentle and calming way, as aerobic exercise often makes me too tired after to do any work!
But after eating so much sugar today I can see why I am feeling so tired!!
One positive thing: It’s my birthday and I get to share it with some of my loved ones and I had a great birthday party on Saturday! Also, I’m doing Spanish GCSE oral exams today and loads of students got A*s! :dance:
I’ve been really frustrated that i have not followed through with finishing my memoirs, my poetry collection, or the double cd set that I have been wanting to complete for…well…EVER! I’ve got to determine to spend at least 30 minutes on the projects each day…but I have to focus on one at a time. :love:
My biggest frustration lately has been that I am afraid to take risks, and spend an inordinate amount of time calculating the risk, instead of doing that and then moving forward. I have phenomenal opportunities, and I find myself bogging down in mundane details instead of producing substance. It’s irritating!
To overcome it, I plan on contracting my employment, rather than stay on salary. This will force me to structure my days to optimize my time, so I’ll be able to move ahead with projects conscientiously.
So I did. I’m coming to this late, because I didn’t use the internet this weekend, but I had already talked with 2 companies about contract work. I just now signed the contracts. My time is my own!!!!
My positive thing about Day 3: I had a wonderful, romantic date. :heart:
Well, today is my catch up day. I was gone all weekend, and this is the first chance I’ve had to get in here! So, here it goes… (1 of 3 till I’m all caught up!)
What is one thing that has been frustrating me lately? How can I overcome it?
Something that I have been frustrated with lately… this is an easy one. My lack of being consistent with working out. I have a week, or two where i work out consistently, and it feels so good, then POW! It will hit me like a ton of bricks, something comes up, I get behind on things in my life, and then I don’t make time for exercise and before you know it, it’s been a week since I’ve worked out, then two, and so on.
Now, the hard part, how do I overcome it? Well, I persist, take one day at a time and recommit myself every morning! I saw that there is a 21-day fitness challenge. I think I will take a look at that when I am done catching up on this challenge!
Today’s positive: No snow on the roads today on my way to work! I love snow, but I hate driving in it!
I am catching up with the questions posted over the weekend, because I have a no-computer policy for weekends for myself, I spend far too much time in front of them.
So, to today’s question:
It has been frustrating me lately that I cannot quit smoking and leading a too intensive social life. I have sucessfully quitted smoking a number of times, the longest for 6 months, but I seem to get back on it every time, for all the silly reasons. I do like the feeling, and so I tend to resort to telling myself how healthier I would be without, but I doesnt always work. Going out almost every day of the week doesnt really help much, too. I mean, I love going out with my friends, and it is always fun, but it often involves being in smoky bars, drinking alcohol, and basically doing everything that would prompt my smoking. I know I can do it, I just need to stay positive. The way to overcome any problem for me is to focus on something positive that it will bring me, and I know that when I do not smoke then I feel more energetic and less sleepy. I will be aware of that good feeling now to help motivate me.
The positive thing today was that I spent a lovely time at my parents country house, where we celebrated my brothers birthday, the weather was beautiful, and my friend, who kept me company during the drive, had fulfilled one of his dreams thanks to that trip – he got to shovel the snow.
Another positive thing was that I made it in time back into the city to go to a great concert with my friends, and visit a dear friend I mentioned in yesterdays post and tell him personally how much I appreciate him. Yay!
Honestly? I don’t know. It could be that my partner sometimes has this tendency to ‘fix’ situations, when all I want to do is talk about them and share my feelings… but he knows I want this, and he’s doing so well at working on it. It could be that the increased running I’ve been doing has a tendency to make my knee ache – but it’s a minor pain that I’m sure taking it easy and some new trainers will fix. It could be that I just don’t have enough hours in the day to read everything I want, see everything I want, learn everything and do everything – but I deal with that by making the most of the hours I do have :)
(I’m behind with this challenge, and should have done this on the 3rd, I know! On the 3rd, I spent a wonderful day with my closest friends, and got to know someone I’ve only just met a little better. It was a lovely day :))
Hi Squiggle, I know your situation very well. In my relationship I am the person who tries to fix everything while my boyfriend just want to talk about it. Same with my friend who stayed in a relationship with an abusive man far too long. I often try to fix their problems. In the last 5 years – and with continuous talking like you and your partner do – I found out that everyone has to fix their problems alone. The momentum to help and fix will never be gone, it´s a way of thinking. But your partner has a really good chance – like me – to unterstand in which situation it will be suitable and in which not. Just don´t take this too serious, it has nothing to do with you and your partner doen not think that you are not capable of finding your own solutions. Its really just a way of logical thinking – and I can say that almost 50 % of the men I know think linke this.
What is one thing that has been frustrating you and how can you overcome it?
As I stated in my very first post, my husband and I are trying to have a baby, with no results. It’s very frustrating and hard on us. We have been married 2 ½ years, and we are ready for the “next step” in our marriage. We are ready to start a family. We have a lot of friends and family who are pregnant, and sometimes it is really hard for us to hear that good news, just because we want to experience the same thing. I know that it sounds very selfish of us, but after our long journey, it truly is hard to hear. It doesn’t mean we aren’t happy for our friends and family.
We are seeing doctors and I am on medicine to help our situation. So far, I’m responding well to my medicine (according to my blood work). The best thing we can do is to think positive, and listen to our doctor! We are feeling very optimistic about my new medicine, and we are sure that this year will be our year. :)
One positive thing about my day: My best friend asked me to be her Matron of Honor! I am so thrilled and well, honored. :)
Have a lovely day, everyone!
FOOD ! Yes, really, the most frustrating thing lately, more frustrating than the fact that I have no money, that my mom is the most annoying person in the world and that I failed my exams… is that I eat to much. I feel completely unable to resist the attraction of junk food.
And on the 3rd of March, the best thing that happened to me was that I made Matthieu smile. The thing with him is that I don’t know him very well (we work in the same company, but in different departments) and he’s well-known for never smiling or talking much. Well, we talked the whole day and I even made him laugh (which is widely considered as a high feat). So, I’m very proud… and especially really glad to know him a bit better, because he actually probably is the nicest person in the world !
That was so sweet of you Lexi, to make the effort to talk to someone that doesn´t talk too much, and to make him smile! :hug:
I know how moms can be some times, but I´m sure she loves you so much. Sometimes if we change our attitude towards other people´s actions (even though I know it can be frustrating and you need a lot of patience), those people end up changing the way they behave.
What are you planning to do to overcome your frustration with food?
I really love seeing a smile on someone who doesn’t smile a lot, or to get them to tell me about them when they are really shy – it’s one of my greatest pleasures =) Thank you ^^
Well my mom is… a bit special, let’s say. I’m not really sure that she loves me that much, because she called me a “piece of shit” one time (that was in June but it’s a bit hard to forget..) and even when I do lots of efforts she’s just as aggressive with me. I can’t wait to move out..
For food, I think I’ll start having a dessert, first of all. I often forget to take a dessert when I prepare my lunch, but I think that once I’ve got a sweet taste in my mouth I won’t be really tempted to take some more fries or another hamburger. (I generally eat something very healthy, then feel like something’s missing and order a huge hamburger or a big plate of fries..). I’ll try that and if it works, well, that’s great ! =)
That´s what I do too, once I eat dessert, I feel like I´ve had enough food. And I also brush my teeth immediately after eating, that way I don´t feel tempted to eat more.
I wish you luck! And be patient with your mom, some people just find it hard to show love, but every mom loves their daughters in a very special way (even if sometimes it´s hard to believe ;) )
Best of luck with your studies too!
Brushing your teeth immediately after is also a really good idea, I’ll do it ! =D
Thank you for your kind comment =)
Waiting for something that never comes is very frustrating for me. I’m currently experiencing 2 issues that failed to be solved thus far. Issues I can do anything about it apart from praying.
Stop thinking about it is what I’ve decided to try in order to overcome these issues. Freeing my mind, be at peace mith myself, similing and focusing on the present moment are better things to practive than worring or constant questioning.
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