This is Day 3 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
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21DPC Day 3 Question
Today’s positivity question is:
What is One Thing That Has Been Frustrating You Lately?
… and
How Can You Overcome It?
Here is a related article on dealing with daily setbacks which you may find useful in dealing with your current frustration:
And the manifesto version, if you wish to have the tips available in an easy-to-read, poster form:
Your Task for Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s questions. Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.
- For the step(s) you identified to overcome your frustration, put it into motion. Start with a baby step today, then go on from there.
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then work on your positivity task throughout the day, then return at the end of the day to share your results for your positivity task and your end-of-day positive reflection.
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The one thing that frustrates me lately is my lack of concentration when I need it the most. For example, when I start studying , my mind quickly looks for escape (useless web surfs for example). And it’s not like I study for uni, I studied for myself (programming).
I realized that I’m not self-aware enough. Recently I found out that I should be self-aware more often and get to know how I feel and act at certain moments.I want to master self-awareness. I know I’ll gradually get there and understand why I do certain things. :)
I think that I’m the only one who sees what is going on and it bothers me that he don’t want to do his part as a man. He used his infidelities as an excuse to continue his ways and now that he has a job he’s acting better than me now. When I worked, he sponged off me! Did I treat him like he is doing me now? No, absolutely not! I took him out to eat, bought him things when he asked. And what did I get? He stole my car to go party with his friends, stole money and still denies it, and he ran out my gas, and showed up drunk when he picked me up for work.
Hmm.
Why did I let him get away with that and now he still takes advantage of me. The way I see things. He ‘comes and goes’ to my apartment. When he wants to leave, get out, he picks an argument with me so I’m forced to ‘kick’ him out. He would get drunk for days and then call me when he wasn’t welcome where he was. He’d come back and mess up my kitchen that I keep clean and eat a great amount of my food that I try to keep in the refrigerator. He doesn’t know how to budget. Or acts like he doesn’t. He buys junk food. And when he is up to something he gets overly generous and has to practically buy something for everyone in the neighborhood. Now, he’s mooching off my food and he’s the one with a job! i chose to walk away from my job because I was fed up with him expecting me to share my money with him and now that he has a job and money that he basically throws away, I’m the outsider!!! How rude. Anyone have any advice. I really want him to acknowledge and accept his responsibilities in this relationship. Cut the B.S. out and be a real man about it. Or go elsewhere. Where he ‘thinks’ he belongs. Someone help me out there. I need an outside outlet to help me channel whatever it is that I’m dealing with here.
-Almost Hopeless :angry: :(
I found out yesterday morning my sister & her husband of 24yrs are getting a divorce. It sadden me. You know people & have in your mind “They will make it, they’ve been through so much, but they will make it.” My sister said it wasn’t sudden & she didn’t love him anymore. Well, not like a wife should love her husband. It is a mutual decision & my prayer for both of them is….You will always been in each others lives because you have 3 beautiful children together. Be respectful to one another, don’t use the children against one another & forgive each other. You can not hold a grudge against someone & expect all the good things Life has to offer. I know this from experience, being divorced myself. Let’s see frustrating….It frustrates me to know that divorce is so easily accepted in our society today. Yes it is the answer if there is no hope of continuing a healthy relationship. What to do about it? PRAY PRAY EVERYDAY! We have had, do have & will always have our trials. There is one who will pick it up, gladly…..JESUS! Pray about it, turn it over to him & leave it! And when you get your answer, may not be the one you expected, do what he ask of you! He’s not going to steer you wrong! Praying for you sisters & brothers! :love:
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What is One that that has been FRUSTRATING me LATELY?! Why?!
Day 3
What is one thing that has been frustrating you lately? Why?
The main thing that has been frustrating me lately has been my boyfriend’s alter ego. He’s been acting really out of the ordinary. I know it is because of his ‘new’ job. I’ve noticed changes in his lifestyle that has me questioning our relationship. If there is even one here to begin with. His hygeine routine has changed. He’s been feeling himself more and trying to hide it from me when I look. He’s been making rude comments towards his ‘best’ sister which he doen’t do normally. He’s been promising things that I already know he won’t deliver. He’s been smoking cigarettes and drinking energy drinks more often. He’s been staying up for days now as if it is drug enhanced. He’s seems as if he doesn’t want to be around me like the sight of me disgusts him. Like he’s here against his will. All his broken promises has made me want to leave. But in actuality we all know that getting up and leaving isn’t so easy. There’s a process to follow and it’s getting me all wound up. I chose to catch a quick buzz this morning by having a few shots of whiskey. I feel like a teenage tiger that has been taken from the wild and tossed into captivity! Now I have to learn how to adapt or to basically fit my life to what I want not what I have to deal with. I don’t have kids. I have more opportunities available but they seem like they aren’t even there. All in all, I think he’s ready to cheat on me. How peculiar things have become. It wouldn’t suprise me. It would stun me but I see it already. I need an exit.
Another thing that has been frustrating me is that I don’t know what I REALLY want to do. I don’t want to work @ XXX XXXXXX! Don’t really want to go back to school @ XXX. I don’t know what I want to do. Besides get to the bottom of this relationship and either force it to break or work towards the future. Either way, it still looks like I’m gonna be getting out this COMPLICATED situation eventually. Sooner or Later. It shall be revealed.
I’m frustrated because there’s no communication between Him and I. I already served him a separation/closure letter but he’s still here. Why?
I’m glad that I’m getting to the bottom of the situation. Digging into these layers. Hoping to strike gold or oil. LOL And the positive thing I see about today is that since he’s been moving away from me and this relationship that he’s moving towards his happiness. So that will be time to pamper myself and get back up and try again. Glad to think that he and I will be on our own ways to better ourselves rather than keep each other in DISPAIR. :angry:
What is One Thing That Has Been Frustrating You Lately?
Lately, I feel frustrated while I was trying to organize a contest in my club. I’m not the organizing chair, but I was trying to provide guidance to the organizing chair. However, it seems that the organizing chair didn’t really care about it, until last minute, he sent a message to me and said want to postpone to two weeks later. After postponing the contest date, he disappeared again, until 3 days before the new contest date, he contacted me and said that everything was not ready…
Of course, the contest still had to go on. What I could do was to provide whatever materials that he needed and guide him the flow of the contest, because I was the organizing chair before. This round, I’m a contestant, so initially I thought I could fully concentrate on my speech preparation after finish marking the tests given to my students. But ended up, I had to help him out, so I decided to pull myself out from the prepared speech contest, since I had no time in preparation. I joined another contest, which didn’t require any preparation, I just needed to go up on the stage and speak for 2 minutes on the topic given by the contest chair.
Today is the contest date itself. In fact, I just come back from the contest. I would say, no matter how good / bad the contest preparation was, we learned the experience. When I was the organizing chair, I really learned a lot. Now, even though I was not the organizing chair, still, I learned new thing while helping him out. I guess, this can be considered as a positive thing for today. :)
Recently, I read an article: A person was trying to find a sentence that can make a happy person to be down after listening it; and make an frustrated person to be happy after listening it. He kept on finding for the sentence for a very long time… Can you think of any sentence that is so powerful?? :mrgreen:
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The sentence is: All these will be gone one day.
If a person is happy with what he has right now, and you tell him: “All these will be gone one day”. The person should feel down after listening to what you said. Whereas if a person is frustrated with the problems around him, and you tell him: “All these will be gone one day”. The person should at least feel released and happier a bit. :)
I didn’t know how powerful of this sentence, until I read the article, then only i realized… yeah, I’m not sure since when, whenever I face any problem, I always tell myself: All these will be gone one day. This is really a powerful sentence that cheer me up. I know that it will be gone one day, so why should I worry so much for it? I just need to do my best, if I cannot make it, I just learn it, take it as an experience. ^^
Now, I feel released after the contest, and again, I tell myself: The contest has finished, it’s gone now. XD
One thing that has been frustrating me since yesterday is doing yesterday’s task.
I would have chosen my best friend of 40 years to write about, but for the last few months I feel we haven’t been connecting very well. I don’t know why – it’s as if we’re both growing apart from each other. I also didn’t want to do yesterday’s task because I was really truly scared of sharing what I’d written with any friend. I very rarely tell people how I feel about them (apart from my children, that is). The thought of doing so made me feel very open to ridicule and very vulnerable. I decided not to do yesterday’s task.
I then came to today’s task and realised that I actually needed to do yesterday’s task (I hope you’re following me here!) So I have just done yesterday’s task – this was a big one for me.
Also, I am realising that I don’t want to lose my best friend. We are bound to go through periods of being either more or less close. I am not even going to discuss it with her (unless the subject arises naturally). What I am going to do is to be as good a friend as I can, with no expectations and see where we go from there. If we need to drift apart then so be it, and if we don’t we won’t.
Celes, yesterday’s task was so difficult for me to do, but I have found it to be incredibly useful. Thank you for that. Why is it that what we resist so much is so often what we need to deal with the most?!
A good thing about today is that I brought my husband a cup of tea in bed and I told him how much I loved and appreciated him (in the spirit of yesterday’s and today’s tasks) – he was really pleased!
This is awesome you decided to just go ahead and get it done. It takes a lot of courage to do things you don’t feel you can do
what frustates me most of all for the moment is that I dont know what I want to do with my future. I change my mind every day. I am trying to figure out what I want, and with hard work I know I will get there one day. In the mean while I tray to stay possitive and enjoy life.
You and me Both. That’s how I feel right now in this segment of my life. I want to do something that will help me to be optimistic about my life. Not trying to find ways to get away from it and ending up back where I started weeks, days, and months later. I’m tired of disappointment and I need a break from my situation. Everyday I start it out with a good frame of thought and then ‘this’ negative person has to enter it and ruin my hour, day, and months. Hate to say it but I’ve been feeling this way for over a year now. I thought my boyfriend was going to help support me but the whole time I see it now as him being the negativity that helped fuel my self destruction on a certain level of madness. I’m trying to get that fire to cool the flames. Thanks for sharing your story; I’m glad there’s similar stories out there. TTYL :shy:
What is One Thing That Has Been Frustrating You Lately? … and How Can You Overcome It?
One thing that’s frustrating me lately…nobody seems to be reading my blog. :p There are like some subscribers but I don’t know if they spend time reading because only one person actively comments. Anyway, recently I’ve been connecting with other people via My Blog Guest and have got my posts on some other blogs such as: http://www.whitedovebooks.co.uk/blog/life-lessons-from-an-eleven-year-old/ (actually what the blogger wrote about me was really flattering!!!)
So I’ve gotten quite a bit of referrers from that blog as well as Let’s Get Happy, etc. and I’ve gotten TWO new subscribers to my Mailchimp list in a week. So, yeah, kinda cool.
Today’s tiny action – I started work on my first eBook which would actually be used as the giveaway for the Mailchimp list…and I’m pretty sure it will earn me more subscribers. :D
Day 3 Positive Thing – we went for lunch and it was freezing and there was one jacket but I let my mother wear it because she was cold as well. :)
What is One Thing That Has Been Frustrating You Lately?
It’s been my problems with health – nothing serious, but no good either. The thing is, I was so eager to start my new life, made a huge to-do list, was ready to become more active and productive, but then I suddenly feel ill :( So now I’m recovering, but I seem to have spent all my energy and enthusiasm on recovery… I’m working on my business, but now I just don’t have enough strength to do everything I want and need. Hope the situation improves soon.
How Can You Overcome It?
I can just do what I have to without thinking too much and feeling sorry for myself. If I chose the path of self-employment, I must be responsible for it and strong.
One good thing that happened to me
I met with my Granny and 2 best friends. I love them very much and wish I had more time to be with them without rushing anywhere else.
Hi Stacey, I hope that you are getting well soon. If it is not a serious sickness, like getting a flu, you may leave it to recover by itself. While recovering, just try to drink more water and have enough sleep. Also, you may exercise more.
Last year, I fell sick for 6 times or more in the whole year, which was really terrible. That was the worst record of getting sick in my whole life… After that, I decided to do as what I mentioned in the above, and until now, I’m still strong, have never got sick since last December. ^^ My sickness record is back to normal for now~
Wish you all the best in your business! :)
Thank you for your support, Jaleen! :hug: I really appreciate it! Last year I fell sick rather often as well, so I know exactly what you mean. This time I had a stomach infection, it was pretty bad, but I’ve been OK for a couple of days now, so things are looking up.
Hi Stacey. As it’s not serious, maybe you should take it as an opportunity to rest and at the same time plan your next moves in your new business.
Take care and get well soon. Hugs :hug: :hug:
This is a great tip, Ish! :glomp: You’ve just hit the nail on the head:) Actually, today for the first time this week I got the feeling of strength and energy waking up inside me. Which means that I did have some rest while being sick. Today I worked with my students for 10 hours (!) and at the end of the day I’m still feeling enthusiastic and happy! I love my job! It was the right decision for me to start a business (even though I haven’t registered it yet)
The one thing that has been frustrating me lately…. I guess it was the ruthless staffs who always enter my room without knocking on the door….Oh well, our firm exercises something so -called “open door” policy,..at times, I felt there is no privacy as everyone who passes by will look into the room and “observe” what others are doing…….. ( by the way, I am new to this firm)
Nevertheless, I think before entering to one’s room, there should be basic manner of knocking on the door~~~~ How I overcome it- I just told them…..” Miss xxxx , appreciate if you could knock on the door next time……” I actually feel good after I said this because I feel the need to stand firm on myself. To respect myself so the others will respect me!
The positive thing today:
– happy to share with my sisters about the course we attended.
-listened to Glee’s soundtracks early in the morning.
-commit to this 21DPC.
-planning to do something “great” today!
Lately, it has been my job which is ultimately myself really… I feel so stuck. I hate my job, yet I feel I should be grateful to even have one in this economy… I feel resentment towards people doing what they love because I wish I could find that for myself.. So, I’m told it’s all in the way I think right? This is hard stuff to change how you think ya’ know!? Well, I guess that’s why I’m writing on here, baby steps right?
Today, I saw a white pigeon in a group of grey pigeons and it was so amusing I had to take a pic. I smiled :mrgreen:
Hi :) That same thing about being grateful to have a job in this economy, I’ve herd it from my mum a lot. :D I thought it sounded familiar :P
I’m still at uni, but I plan to have job I love one day. I already told my parents that If I have to leave the country for a better working place, I’ll do it. ;)
Guess it’s all about the point of view, as you mentioned. I realized that it’s actually all about how much you can push yourself and sacrifice to get what you want. I think that many of us aren’t aware of how much we can do for ourselves. I put the plan on the paper and think of what I sacrifice and what I get,proves to be better than trying to untangle the mess in my head :) That way I know if it’s worthy to do something (like work somewhere else and create a new life, or work here and be constantly unhappy but with people I love near me).
I hope that you don’t mind I shared my point of view with you :shy:
Have a nice day ;)
One of the things is having had a stressing holiday. After being away from home for about 4months I came back for christmas hols. I spent many days feeling bad n some crying. My mother was angry with me,kept on calling me a liar, ws linient to my sisters and always on their sides. At the same time my younger sis tries to boss me around and has no respect for me at all. My older sister told me for the second time tht I mean nothing in her life. My dad couldn’t understand me. I’ve never been more glad to leave. It hurts me that some peoples families are close knit,and sisters are bestfriends.it makes me feel so distant from them especially my sisters. I feel like I can’t trust them.and that is so sad,since its my family. They r supposed to be the closest thing to me. ..I dnt knw exactly hw to overcome it. I’m trying to forgive and overlook it. One positive thing abt mi day ws buying a fridge for my room
Hi Ama, I’m sorry to read about your problem. Is it possible to talk calmly with your parents? Maybe, it was just a misunderstanding between you and your parents?
Don’t feel sad about that. Like what you said, family should be the closest ones to you. If they are not, there must be somewhere that has gone wrong. So you may try to think back, what has gone wrong? What was the main reason of all these happened? Is there any problem within yourself? By knowing the reasons, then you will find a way to overcome it.
We can only live for once, so just grab the chance to appreciate the people around us, not to think about what they have done badly to us, but think about what they have done good to us, either a big help or small help. Change a perspective of view, you might be able to see something differently, and resolve the issue. :)
I hope you will be happy everyday. Try your best to make yourself to be happy every moment.
What is One Thing that has been frustrating me lately?…and How can I overcome it?
:angry: I’ve been pretty mad at myself for not being able to “seize the day” – like I keep procrastinating. It’s not about me setting unrealistic goals such that I fail to live up to my own expectations. It’s just a habitual thing that I keep doing over and over again. I know I can deliver if I put my mind to it.
:dance: Lately, I’ve been asking myself, “what is important to me?” That really helps to clarifies & prioritizes what I need to do. I also try stay on track by scheduling time for review & reflection to stay on top of my priorities. I’ve also prepared to admit that I am not infallible & therefore susceptible to occasional setbacks. I now know that I need to make room for what is important to me – or else I’ll be overwhelmed by the less important stuff.
:rolleyes: So today, I’m going to focus on that things that are important to me – reflection, relationship and reading. (My initial plan has been to try to do a lot of other stuff that would only make me fatigued & overwhelmed!)
:clap: The one Positive thing about my day today is that I’ve started taking up a new language class. It feels great to be able to learn new things.
Yay i signed up and now I am ready for the challenge!
Hmmm to answer the question on what has fustrated me lately?
I would have to say….Me
This week I have been in battle with myself, i have realised how much my negative thought process are causing me fustrations and stress. Its horrible because you have this motivation and inspiration to do something on but then it follows with a negative thought which acts like a hand brake to your dream machine.
I am in the middle of getting my new business up and running, Im thinking this is why the negative thoughts are popping up. This new business venture is a dream of mine, so i think the anxiety of this adventure is causing some fear. My mum once shared with me years ago some great advice about thoughts, i used this saying all this week to get me through my stressful moments. “Its just a thought you dont have to act on it” Yeah simple I know but it surely takes the sting out of the negative little *beep, *beep! Everytime i said it, it would disarm the thought, i didnt get involved with it, i was able to detach myself from it.
I have had alot of positive things today: I got a beautiful text message from a friend her words of kindness made my day.
I was able to achieve all my work load goals and more today.
I started this 21 positive daily challenge.
I also start a 12 week fitness and health challenge and was able to provide support to my friends new studying adventures.
This makes me happy.
:angel: :dance:
:heart: :heart:
Hello there! I understand you perfectly – I’m in a similar situation now. I quit my job to start a business of my dream, but there are always fears around, most people can’t get it how you’ve risked something stable in exchange with some dream. However, I know that dreams and goals never come to the wrong person or at the wrong time. Just remind yourself that you’re destined to be a great success in life… and eventually you will! :angel:
What is frustrating me is the disappointment and ennui I have about the fact that I cannot, will not get up and exercise. I know I’d feel better and I want to be healthier, but I’ve just completely lost all motivation! Ugh! And tomorrow I’m going to go to work instead of going to my Yoga class that I LOVE. I am very frustrated by the fact that I am not making enough money to get through the month. There’s no reprieve from this paycheck to paycheck stuff! Ugh!
What can I do about it? I can go to bed, get up, go to school, get a bunch of work done (so that will feel good!) and then go across the street and walk in the park. I will not think about it; I will do it. Then I will put in a yoga dvd and do the work in my apartment. Then I will feel i did somethings worthwhile instead of having a pity party for myself.
One good thing that happened today: We had a pep rally so classes were shorter. Yep. That was a good thing!
Dishonesty is frustrating me right now.
I hate it when people say one thing and they mean another. I’m sorry but I’m not a mind reader. If you say something to me, then it should be the truth. Don’t expect me to do the complete opposite of what you want.
If I ask what do you want for dinner, and you say anything is fine, then don’t shot down four ideas that I come up with for dinner…. Or on the fifth try I say McDonalds and you say no I don’t want a hamburger. Then when we end up at a restaurant, order a hamburger!
If I ask, how are you, and you say you are fine, then don’t do the passive-aggressive thing and expect to know what is really wrong.
If I said I’m sorry and you say you forgive me, then don’t keep throwing it back in my face three-four-five years later of what I did. I haven’t done it since then, and since you keep bringing it up apparently you didn’t forgive me.
How can I overcome this? (Ironic the answer to this is also frustrating to come up with..)
Try, and try really hard, not to let it bother you. If that is what they say, then hold them accountable for their words. If they fail their actions, then that is their issue. Not mine.
I forgot the positive thing for today!
Found out my Best Friend’s weekend will be full of fun activities with her daughter! A wonderful mother/daughter activities. And she is starting to plan a Spring Break vacation with her as well. A well deserved vacation that she needs.
What’s been frustrating me: My fear. I’ve been working a contract job for a year and a half and I know it’s time to let go. I want to work for myself and know the direction I want to go in, but I have fear: fear of not making enough money, mostly. I fear I’ll sell myself short and seek another contract job, when the truth is I want to work for myself.
What can I do to overcome it: I want to own my fear, not push it away. Befriend it, breathe it in, not try to deny that it is there. Tonglen practice is helping me do that: http://acupuncturedoc.com/tonglen.htm, as I go forward, becoming more and more committed to leaving the job at the end of this month…which brings me to the positive thing I experienced today.
I have the Compassion Box (http://www.amazon.com/Compassion-Box-Book-Card-Deck/dp/1590300750), which is a cd and beautiful set of cards that enable me to deepen my tonglen practice. I think there are 59 cards have slogans for meditation and contemplation. It is a beautiful set…but anyway…I got around to listening to the CD that came with the set today and for the first time I really GOD tonglen and embraced it. Before, like apparently a lot of folks do, I was doing it kind of half way. Let me explain.
The practice consists of breathing in the pain one feels or the pain of someone else and then on the outbreath breathing out what might contain that pain or what you or the person you are visualizing might need. It is really the opposite as to how many teach breathing meditation. If you read the link I posted above, you will get a better sense of it than I am sharing here…
But anyway, as Pema explained on the tape, many do the practice half-way, which is to say they don’t truly breathe in or own the painful feeling. It is like letting it in part way, perhaps feeling that to do so fully would harm you or sink you deep into negativity.
In any event, for the very first time, I understood how this simple teaching can help me get in touch with my own tenderness, the soft spot within, and thus help awaken compassion for myself and others.
It was a simple, yet powerful, positive realization I experienced.
Oh here’s a poem I wrote about Pema: http://www.thirtypoemsinthirtydays.com/Second%20Poem.htm
The thing that frustrates me today is wanting to spend more time with my grandchildren without the worry of not being healthy enough to do it. I am 67 and used to spend so much time with them. I really miss them and am trying to get healthier.
My positive thought for the day…I am so thankful that I was able to pay my bills today, then go to town to get groceries! This is a plus for me with my health!
Its awesome to be a part of such a dynamic movement…haven’t seen so much enthusiasm bursting out with so much power….its a small life where every accomplishment starts with the decision to try, we all here have made that decision to try, as sure as i am that the sun will rise tomorrow or that there’ll be an increase in price tomorrow or we’d have yet another president who’s not so wise tomorrow, i’m also that sure that we’d reach our destinations with flying colors!!! :dance: :dance: :dance:
They can’t hurt you unless you let them You know the biggest frustration of the human race isn’t from the non-living’s non-happening, but its from the living’s non-happening…our biggest expectations lie with other people who different way of thinking than ours often makes us hurt and frustrated…so my biggest frustrations lie in expecting so much from others and not having them live up at all to it….all this lies in expecting an ocean from someone for who giving even a drop is impossible……that brings the root of my biggest frustration, not being able to let go of the previous ” :angry: bad :angry: ” experiences that i’ve had from such people before :cry:, its being righteous all the time, being ever clingy ….but then the quote at the start of paragraph gives a new light…its you who makes them be what they are to you…and following that guide i’d try to overcome that frustration…after all I only have one life, too busy, beautiful and important it is for me to waste it dwelling in other things rather than me!!
So the positive thing i learn’t today is right here….i have the ability to make, the ability to create and therefore obviously the ability to choose and destroy what isn’t right for me….
Hey Bette, don’t know if you’ve read the shoutbox, just letting you know that i haven’t yet been able to find you post again after seeing it first but not replying my feedback there and then….again it seems so easy to get lost in this super maze of PE seeking where it’s like the winner takes it all at the end of the journey, but with one difference, every one here who’d persevere and stay true to their goals would end up as winners! :heart: :heart:
:heart: Dearest ASLO, I sooo hear the meaning behind the words that you say here in this sensitive post..actually, I share some of your :heart: heartfelt :heart: thoughts about what to keep, and what to let go of (or who to let go of.) I find it very frustrating, or sad, or both, when someone is just not available in a way that I would like for them to be available, but how can I get a bucket of water from an empty well? And how can I expect for someone to be there for me, if they just do not have that desire or capacity? Anyway, you get the idea, I am sure! Again, we are on the same page with this thinking.
And yes, it is about not letting someone be hurtful, they can not, unless it is allowed. Again, I think that is sad, and I wish it were different, but if it isn’t, it just isn’t. There is always a message, a lesson inside the situation, isn’t there, ASLO? And we can then plant those seeds of the lesson, and, in time, and at the right time, there will be new growth, and the flowers will bloom from the rich soil of experience.
I did not see the shoutbox, :( I have been away all day, and now have some little time to respond and do Day 3. I felt happy that you looked for me :hug: …wish it did not take so much of your time looking! :( But i am glad you posted about that here…I am always interested to find your daily comments (and any replies to me! ;) ) Did you ever find my Day 1 post (on page 12)? Or my Day 2 (on page 9)? Just wondering. And did you know that I posted replies on your Day 1 and Day 2 posts? I receive so much from your comments. And I quite agree that there are some amazing, amazing insights to be gleaned from so many posts here at the 21DPC! :D
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Hey Bette, sorry am not being quick to reply here, just battling a brief battle with ulcers, the pain deters straight thinking….. :(
Anyways thank you yet again for being there to be with your feedback for me, i too learn a lot from you my dear friend :hug: …
on the topic of frustration from others…just talked to an old friend who led me to thinking by her statement “If they don’t care 99% about you, you shouldn’t care a 100% about them”…..to me that sounds good! i mean the true meaning of life is to make a castle for yourself first before going about building chateaus for others right?
BTW, random but anyways…thank you for letting me into your castle and allowing me to learn so much…
Hey ASLO, I’m so sorry to hear about your ulcers! Ulcers usually mean dehydration (from what I heard). Have you drank plenty of water? Have a water bottle right beside you so you can replenish your fluids regularly. :hug:
hi celes thank you so much for the concern i will do that. . really enjoying 21dpc. .lots of love :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:
I think that one thing that regularly frustrates me is negative people who bring me down. I wish I could help them be more positive but I can’t, hence the frustration. And I resent the negative energy such people exude. The best way I can overcome this frustration is to be positive myself and pursue positive activities like meditation, yoga, etc.
I had many positive things today. I went to yoga, I meditated. My sone got sick at school so I had to go pick him up before I went to work. But fortunately he started feeling better after he took some allergy medicine. Oh the joys of an early spring :p
One Thing That Has Been Frustrating You and how can i over come that?
I had misunderstanding with my close friend recently which was the very frustrating for me. Even more frustrating was that i was not able to find solution for that. So this in turn affected by concentration on work, upon my each aspects of life and resulted in increase in negativity thoughts.
Since this was continuing for more than a week or so, i was thinking how to over come this which will be helpful for me and for my friend as well… :) :) Then i started to analyse the situation which leads to misunderstanding. At some point of analyses, even my mind started asking me why should i be the one who is trying to understand the situation and why not my friend and other questions like this …….. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: But then thinking why my friend is not even trying to understand makes me more frustrated than the frustration which was due to misunderstanding :mrgreen: ;)
Then yes!!!! as a result of my analyses i found out that i was expecting and was trying to accept the person as they are…. :D so i made a point that i should start developing these traits which will be helpful for me to build a long standing relationship..:)
One Positive thing for today:
Even though its week end i got up bit early and did my Yoga practice and completed all the things which i have planned for the day :) so am happy happy..:) :D :dance:
Generally, I am easy going person and nothing gets me down due to my free spirit attitude, but this week, I must confess that I do have three things but they are one in the same.
I am always the one who cleans the bathroom sink, replaces the toilet paper and empty’s the bin. The main issue, I have is when you’re absolutely busting to go, you run to the toilet, do your business only to find the toilet roll is empty and no one is around…. You can imagine the frustration and the embarrassment, I must feel. I know the idea is rather unpleasant, but I am sure I am not the only one here who finds themselves in a similar situation. Also, in regards to the issue, there is always after a few days, toilet rolls sitting on the sink and the sink is becomes not just messy but yucky. :angry:
I find myself in this dilemma with me being the victim and end up cleaning. I have thought of various ways to fix the solution and I am out of ideas.
Once, I though nothing of it and it did not bother me until I realised that it was happening TOO frequently. Firstly, I explained my frustration and annoyance but speaking about it opening and being nice about it. Then it just continues to happen and happen, over and over again. :cry:
So, this week, I have not cleaned up the toilet rolls, the bin and the sink. I absolutely refuse to do it so, I decided to use the other toilet and keep it clean – just the way I like it… I hope this fixes the issue, but do you have any suggestions in fixing my dilemma?! :cry:
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The work atmosphere at office frustrate me……lot of things you expect to be done are left undone..unattended!!
I have now taken the following action to at least minimize the leftovers..
1 make a list highlighting important ones that MUST be done..
Followed by next less important to be followed later or early morning next day..
That has helped me to relax and enjoy mixing with staff …creating friendly time..
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The one thing that has been frustrating me lately is the fact that I am not doing as well as I would like myself to be in my academics. It’s devastating at the same time because I have always been a bright student at school. I have to admit however, that I have not truly given my best to achieve what I would like myself to achieve and I would love to change that. The main problem here is that I still have that mindset I used to have back in high school period and that doesn’t work well at all for tertiary education. There are a lot of things that I need to improve, including discipline and time management.
Positive thing for the day: It’s Unofficial St Patrick’s Day today on campus and everyone has been so crazily celebrating. It’s really delighting to see everyone in such high spirits celebrating the event together.
The biggest thing that has been frustrating me lately is the fact that I feel so unsure about the future. I have always had a very clear path that I laid out, but now with a start up company, I find that the future is not as clear as it once was. I wish that I had the confidence that I used to have …when nothing was unobtainable!
Kendall, try to concentrate on being able to be in a start up company. That is an accomplishment in itself! Especially in this day & age of uncertainaty in our economy! One foot ahead of the other…the confidence will come! It is a growing process as we get older. I am 67 & still learning this!
One thing bothering me lately is my tendency to see things negatively. My action plan to overcome this includes reading motivational material, keeping notes things to try, reviewing my notes weekly, practicing the steps daily, reflecting on how the steps are going, and asking myself the key question “What’s good about this” when I find my self becoming annoyed. I can usually name several positive aspects of the situation, and then focus on those to obtain a relaxed and calm feeling. A positive thing that happened today is that my teen age son came to me to share some new music he found that he wanted me to hear. I didn’t like the music but I liked that he voluntarily shared it with me.
One thing that has been frustrating me lately is that my bosses at work have been pushing me to help out at another location that is half an hour away. I have been trying to explain to them that I no longer want to drive that far, but they make me feel guilty every time as though I am letting them down if I don’t go. This is not a part of my job description however, and really need to put my foot down as I am tired of being manipulated through guilt!
On Monday I intend to speak my mind and refuse to accept any more shifts at the other location – I do not need the hours as I can work them at my regular location, and it is just causing me unneeded stress.
My positive thing today was having our in-laws come over for dinner for the first time at our new place. It was wonderful to spend time with everyone, and they really liked our new home! :D
Sounds like your Boss is taking advantage of you and the situation. I think you know the answer and I believe that if you do speak your mind, ensure you have sound evidence and make a good argument/case about the inconvenience of working longer in a different location. But I do ask, why did you opt do it in the first place? Or were you placed there by work without your consent?
Also, perhaps you can look at it in another way… What can you offer in those extra hours at the different location and is the location benefiting from you being there? Or is it the inconvenience that bothers you? I apologise if I sound blunt but it may help you look at the situation differently and help you workout what you can do to help your case on Monday to your boss.
I hope all goes well for you and best of success for Monday.
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What is frustrating me today….and everyday..is looking at the younger people in my family and being sooo disappointed in them. They can’t even make a grilled cheese sandwich at 24 yrs old!!! I shudder to think at what will happen to them when their parents are gone and I feel like I can’t say anything because, if I were a Mother, I would defend my young too. It makes me so….angry isn’t the right word…scared maybe??? What can I do to let it go? Nothing I don’t think. I am going to worry and be frustrated because I love them. i can only swallow my words and move on. I don’t know HOW TO LET IT GO!!! ARGH!!! :(
I can relate to that. My brother is near his 30´s and he doesn´t have a job, he doesn´t even care about finding one. It seems like he´s waiting for the job to knock at his door. He´s turned down really good offers because he didn´t feel like going to work there!
There is really nothing you can do about that. Just try to be a good example for them, show them what they can do if they work hard (or how fun it is to cook ;) ). For people to change, they have to want to change first. Pushing them to do things is never useful. I know you love them and you care about them. I love my brother too, but I´ve learned to let him live is life. He knows that if he wants to change his ways I´ll be there to help him.
Is worrying about them helping them? I don´t think so, because they have to be the ones to take the first step.
Is worrying about them helping you? I think it is just giving you a headache, am I right?
Being their mother wouldn´t help either, believe me. My mom has been trying to change my brother for years (and she still tries), but since he doesn´t want to change, he is not changing.
I wish luck. :hug:
A complete lack of respect at my workplace. They seem to think contract workers are automatically morons or something. I need to get a new job. I got home from work safely in the snow.
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