This is Day 1 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge held in March 2012, where we work on being positive for 21 days. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
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Hello everyone, and welcome to Day 1 of the 21-Day Positivity Challenge (21DPC)!! :D *dance*
We have over *300* official participants now!! To all of you who have duly signed up and helped spread the word to your social networks (or even via blogging about it), thank you. The challenge can only be a success through our collective efforts. The more people sign on to 21DPC, the better it will be for everyone, because hey – that means even more positive energy to go around. :D There is never a limit to how much positive energy there can be – abundance has no lmits.
For those of you whose friends / family read your message and decided to join in on 21DPC too, that’s fabulous. PE Challenges are always particularly fun when you get to do it with someone you know! You can keep each other accountable and learn more about each other in the process.
If you are doing it by yourself, not to fret. We have over 300 official participants here with us for 21DPC, and we’re definitely going to get more people joining us over the next few days before I close the sign ups. In the course of these 21 days, all of us will be doing 21DPC together as one, reflecting on the daily questions, sharing our answers in the comments section of the daily posts, and engaging each other in meaningful discussions.
This is a challenge to be done together as a community, as a group, as one Personal Excellence family, which is really the reason why PE is even here. So do not be afraid to share your answers openly and be fully honest with yourself here. There is no judgment here; anyone who tries to do that will be promptly barred from the site. The .co in the PE domain represents community, not individuality- always remember that whenever you come here to the site.
Important: Sign Up First Before Reading Any Further
If you’re new to 21-Day Positivity Challenge, or you have not signed up yet (your name should be in the official participants list), please read the announcement post and sign up first before going any further: 21-Day Positivity Challenge. All details on the challenge, what to expect, and how to sign up can be found at the post.
If you have already duly completed the 3 sign up steps, your name will be added in the next 36 hours. ♥ Thank you!
Update March 5: Sign ups are now closed now – thanks everyone for your amazing response! For those who didn’t get to sign up – you are more than welcome to participate and join us in the daily threads!
What To Expect for the Next 21 Days
1. Positivity Question
Changing Your Life, Starting From Your Thoughts
As you have read in the announcement post, I will be assigning you a positivity question every day, for the next 21 days.
The question may be simple, like asking “What is your favorite movie?” to something deeper, like “What is 1 positive thing you can share about your least favorite person?” There are days when there will be 2-3 questions combined into 1 (for example, today’s question) – you are expected to answer all the questions, and not just answer the first one and skip the rest.
The idea is to cultivate positivity in your life, via working on the root of it all – our thoughts. Asking ourselves the right questions will help us think in the right manner. And from there, the right actions, habits, and behavior will follow suit. As the saying goes:
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” — Anonymous
Your Honesty Required
My request to you is to be as completely honest with yourself in answering the questions. Because the more honest you are, the more insights you will unveil, the more you will grow. Think of it as it you’re in a dark room alone, by yourself, and there’s no one there to listen, comment, or judge. What is the first thing that comes to mind? What would be your most truthful response to the question?
This challenge is not about sugar-coated answers and creating an illusion of happiness and positivity to everyone out there. You are probably kidding yourself if you think we’ll be jumping around in these 21 days, skipping merrily, laughing like little kids and forcing ourselves to smile every day.
Don’t feel that there’s a need for you to write something positive just because this is a positivity challenge, because that’s totally untrue. As I shared in Principle #1 of 10 Timeless Principles To Be Happy, part of being happy / positive includes airing out grievances, unhappiness, frustrations, anger, sadness, disappointment, etc inside of you – whatever they may be. These (negative) energies, when unaired, are merely *stuck* in your consciousness, with nowhere else to go.
In the end, they end up affecting you on a subconscious level, in more ways than you can imagine. The more (unhappiness) you release through your answers in 21DPC (in a constructive manner, of course), the more happiness can flow your way.
2. Positivity Task
Most of the days will have a positivity task assigned. This task is linked to the day’s question, and usually comprises of a simple action that can be done on the day itself. Do complete the task as part of your 21DPC participation.
3. Positive Thing For the Day
Last but not least, you are to identify at least 1 positive thing that you got out of the day, for every day of 21DPC. If you can identify more than 1, that’s even better! The more the better! :D
Sharing To Help Yourself and Help Others
As with every challenge, I highly recommend you share your responses in the comments section of the daily posts with the other participants, to get the most out of your 21DPC experience.
If you’re not comfortable sharing your answers under your usual name/nick on PE, then create some fake, random nick (so no one will know it’s you) and post your answers under that nick (for the remainder of 21DPC, if you want). Replace others’ names (if any) in your answers with fake nicks as well. There is always something powerful about transparently writing your thoughts out there in the open, vs. keeping it to yourself in your little book.
Besides, do not underestimate the change you can make in others’ lives just by sharing your answers here. After all, have you not benefited in the past from reading honest sharings by others, be it on Personal Excellence, or on other websites? What would the world be if no one wants to share? Think about the people out there you can effect. By helping others, you are also helping yourself.
21DPC Day 1 Question
Given that this is a positivity challenge, for Day 1 today, I want you to think about how happy you are. Not just today, but as a person.
On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?
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Share as much as you want in your answers, from a few words to a few pages long. Be honest as you can. Answer both questions, and not just the first question.
And if you did not give yourself a 10/10 for your score, I have one additional question for you:
Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?
Again, be completely honest in your response. There is no judgment here at PE. Only positivity and love.
While we’re on the topic of happiness, be sure to check out the related articles on how to achieve happiness (or unhappiness, as per the second article) at PE:
…and the manifesto versions:
Your Tasks Today
- Reflect and answer today’s question(s). Write as few or as many words as needed to fully express your thoughts. There is no word limit.
- Identify at least one positive thing about your day. It may be something small or something big – as long as you deem it as something positive, it counts. If you have more than 1 thing to share, then by all means, go for it!
Share Your Answers!
After you are done, share your answers in the comments area!
If you’re doing this at the start of the day, you can post your answer for today’s question first, then return at the end of the day to answer the 2nd part, on identifying at least one positive thing about your day.
Check out other participants’ answers. Pick 1-2 participants’ answers and make a meaningful reply to them. Engage in the discussions. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days!
Look forward to reading your responses!
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I would give myself a 7/10 rating of happiness. I’m happy everyday because I’m alive and I have a chance at making things better if they aren’t, I’m happy because I know in my heart the religion I’m following is the right one, I’m happy because I have a great Mom, I’m happy because I’m finally continuing my studies…. etc.
I’m not happy because of a few circumstances we’re living in right now, I’m not happy because I’m finding it hard to not procrastinate on certain subjects, I’m not happy because I get angry a lot and fight with my Mom.
I know I’m late but I was extra busy and didn’t get to do this earlier, but I think I managed to do a few positive things on March 1st. I finally resolved to pay more attention to my personal hygiene like my Mom always asks me to, and set a goal to take a shower every single day in March, no matter what excuse I try to bring up for not doing it. So far, I’ve withheld this promise to myself, and I look forward to keeping it up for the next few weeks.
Bouchra
8/10!
I am happy most of the time as I always try to think on the positive side. My life so far has been quite smooth sailing as I always have the support from my family and friends.
But I do have my down days where I lacked productivity or just that things do not go smoothly, so I hope that after this 21DPC I would have found ways to bounce back to a happy me when I am sad.
I think 7/10.I could be more happier and I always feel blessed.. I am very positive thinker. I think this is a great challenge and will make me do some soul searching.
can i give myself less than 1 ? :S
i realized that since i was 16 years old my life changed dnt know why i’m now 22 and still i’m verry unhappy in my life i’m very unpleased with everything aroud me i dnt like my major in university i have no job no self confidence i’m shorty and fatty i live always a one side love i can’t study for my exams … my life is a big mess and that’s the reason i’d like so much to take this challenge
I’ve always struggled with these kinds of questions. On good days I’d rate my happiness pretty high, on bad days I’d rate it pretty low. Given two days of reflection for this question (these questions come out a day before for me. Good ‘ole time zone difference), I’m trying to give a generalized answer towards my own happiness that balances the good and bad days. I’ve had this entire week to myself because my parents were out of state on vacation. It’s given me a lot of time to think about things and examine myself. On a scale of 1-10 I’d rate myself, as honestly as possible, as a 5.5. That’s pretty low for a bubbly, optimistic, out-going person, which I am but it’s also most likely going to be as close to the truth as I can make it.
I’m in school and have finally decided on a major, 4 years after I started college (gee, let’s not rush into things). So that certainly makes me happy. I’ve made some fabulous friends these past few months and have learned about other cultures which I love doing. I have a semi-stable job which is always better than being unemployed. I’ve started re-arranging my room to give myself more space and open it up a bit to make it a more positive living environment (thanks Celes, for the article on how to do that and why!). I’ve finally begun sifting through all the things I’ve saved my entire life, figuring out which ones I should still hold onto and which things I no longer need to keep a hold of (darn those pack-rat tendencies). These are all positive steps I’ve taken within the past few months, and that’s why I made it up to a 5.5 on the happiness scale.
Why isn’t it a 10? Because I don’t have a permanently stable job, I cannot afford to continue college and I don’t qualify for financial aid. I may have to quit college again until I can afford more than 2 credit hours. At the rate I’m going, I won’t have a degree until I’m in my thirties, while everyone I know will be done with school permanently. Even if I were to finish my current degree, I doubt I’d be accepted into a 4-year school or university. And there aren’t a whole lot of options out there job-wise for a 2-year English degree. I also don’t have a very stable job so I don’t have definite source of income. And to top it all off, I seem to have one of the most negative, controlling, hate-filled families in the state. Most of the time I’m the only one who wakes up in a good mood, only to have that good vibe smashed into tiny pieces within the first ‘Good morning” to a family member. I frequently end my day in tears and thoughts of hopping off the local bridge.
I keep telling myself, ‘it’ll get better. You just need a little more time, but it’ll all work out in the end.’ I’m not seeing an end to this anytime soon, and when you spend your entire life fighting for your right to simply live each day, you get tired fast. My body is wearing out and I’m not even 22 yet, my emotions are almost depleted, and I’m losing my grip on hope even false hope. So that is why my score is nowhere near a 10.
I’m hoping by the end of this Challenge I can at least make it to 6.5.
Whoops! I forgot the one thing that made me happy for Day 1. While Day 1 is the first of March for Celes, I’m in the US so it was still Feb. 29th. My leap year was spent without power and four inches of snow in the middle of Podunk Washington. The happiest thing about that day was I handled an emergency without my parents for the first time in my life. When push comes to shove, I’m pretty sturdy, resourceful, and calm. I didn’t know that! I think that is a very positive thing. =)
You have great inner strength you didn’t even know you have! Bravo! :)
7/10, I am very Happy in the fact I have lots of love around me and special people in my life! I have parents, husband and son and they bring me contentment and joy and fufilment. I have a stress free life in many senses!
I didn’t boost it up to 10/10 because of a few factors that make me feel incomplete. Health issues, Personal Achievement and Confidence issues that are at lower levels than I desire.
The one thing I am mostly greatful for today and brought satisfaction and positivity into my life is the gorgeous cuddle from my son along with the I love mummy!
On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why? Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?
I am 6-7 happy and my happiness level varies daily depending on my humour, overall energy, etc. I am grateful for my relationship with my charming and patient boyfriend, my job where I am constantly growing in skills and my capacity to make a positive difference in my company, my cosy flat, my regular jogging sessions, dancing classes, my driving license that I have passed recently.. and lot more. I am trying to remember and count all my daily blessings but I must say that sometimes I get frustrated, feel stuck, overwhelmed, sad… and unhappy.
What do I need to give myself a better score?
I think we should not rely on circumstances when evaluating our overall well-being and work on our “inner weather”, attitudes and feelings instead. While we have very limited control on our environment (although we still have some!), we definitely can choose the way we respond to what happens to us. Maybe I just need to be more positive, authentic, and conscious of my deep needs and priorities to be happier? Maybe I need to be more mature, trust more my inner voice and life in general? I believe that by changing my mindset I can empower myself and strengthen my positivity muscles. To sum up, I need more wisdom, more gratitude and maybe more acceptance of what life brings to me.
Identify at least one positive thing about your day.
Today I am grateful for a nice chat I had with our local tailor;
That I cleaned my house;
That I went to the local library to borrow a few interesting books;
Last but not least, this is weekend! ;)
Hi there,
I gave myself a big 8/10, because I’m actually quite happy about where I am in my life right now. I finished my master’s thesis (which took me quuuiiite some time..), and now I’m doing my last internship – for my teacher training. I feel as if I have my life in hands again (not sleepwalking :p)
On the other hand, it’s an 8, not a full 10, because I still tend to complain about little things that actually don’t really matter. I can get very irritated by my housemates, without them doing anything annoying, it’s just my mood of the day. So I’m not really happy about that behaviour of mine.. If that even counts as a ‘not-so-happy’ argument.
The positive thing about today, is that we had a very good rehearsal this morning, I met my ‘music friends’, and I got some work done that I had left hanging. Pretty good day ;)
xoxo E.
Just in relation to the post I’ve just recently sent, i just noted that another reason why my score is not 10 is that basically I still, although I shouldn’t and don’t to a certain extent, base my happiness on other peoples perceptions. Their definition of happiness. I still need their validation. I still need them to see me as cool.
Also, still working on that.
part1 of the question: How happy are you.
Funny enough I seem to ask myself this question quite regularly. Comparing myself from before the 30Day be a better me challenge, I would say that currently I have made massive strides. Before the 30DBBM challenge I would have given myself a score of about max 4 ( and that would be pushing it). However currently I’d give myself a score of 7.25. this score was taken after looking at myself as a whole. Comparing myself to the days when I’m feeling sad and those days I’m feeling at bliss. My aim obviously is living in a state where the answer to this question is 10.
Part2:
Although I have grown ( evident by the score of 7), I still believe that there’s more happiness out there. There are things which I want to pursue and as such have not. These things are more personal things. for example I’d like to increase my friend base, fill it with more meaningful relationships. Sounds weird but when I close my eyes I see myself at a certain point in my life, which I have not reached yet. That’s the real reason. My subconscious knows what I really want out of life and what would me happy but I’m not there yet. It’s still something that I’m working on and will most surely achieve it soon. The last reason that I think the score is not 10 is basically that I compare myself with many people out there. I know that’s a recipe for disaster but it’s a habit I’ll slowly learn to dump. with time.
Overall I’ll say that there’s a lot of work to be done but i’m loving and noting every step. THANKS PE, THANK YOU. :dance:
The first number that come to my mind when I read the question was 8. Then I asked myself what? why 8?
I thought about everything I am grateful for in my life and I really think my rating should be a 10 or beyond!! I don’t know why my first response was an 8??!! Maybe because all of my life I’ve been too critical of myself with high, high expectations. I also think my scales for anything are higher than most people because of that expectation I place on myself. I feel like in order to be a 10 in happiness you ‘d have to be ecstatic all the time.
On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?
I believe that I have changed much in the last two months. Every since going to Passion 2012, many things have changed, mostly for the better. I’m not sure if I’m just on a few months high off of Passion or what, but I believe I have made the decision to make permanent changes in my life for the better. I have established a purpose and a drive, and because of this, I am happy. Now, I am not content with where I am currently (living with parent, working at Tim Horton’s, not qualified to work at most jobs, limited money earning potential) but now that I have a purpose, a drive, enthusiasm, resources to motivate and inspire me to bigger and better things, connections with achieving people, dreams, job opportunities, university options, and now this brand new business of my own. I honestly can’t believe it. Plus, life is all about your attitude. So if I’m not happy, change your attitude. In terms of being content with who I am and where I have come from, I have much to improve. I would say that on a scale of 1-10, I am a pretty happy 9. I get to live with my siblings, most of my expenses are paid for, I get to invest in my siblings and parents lives, as well as the other lives I touch. I am grateful for what God has given me, who He has given me, and the future He has given me, whatever that may be. I look forward to the next few months because I believe they will make big changes in my life. I have the opportunity and resources to learn and proper in my new business. It’s really all about how much you put into it. I can make money in my new business. I just need to apply what I have learned.
I have to give myself about a 7 because I do a few things that interfere with my happiness. I didn’t give myself a 10 because I get irritated easily, anger quickly, and criticize myself on a daily basis. I criticize myself for dropping items too often; for not having a routine for going to bed; for not being able to work; for not doing enough; for judging other people; and there are a certainly others that I can’t think of right now. I am eager to do this to help me practice how to be more happy.
Hi Janet,
What you’re saying so resonates with me : criticising yourself throughout the day can really interfere with your happiness, and the thing is : we’re doing that to ourselves! How twisted is that? So I wish you good luck with working on that, we’ll have this anti-self-criticism-project together ;)
If it would be of help, my bed routine for most days goes somewhat like the following : brushing my teeth and washing up, then I read something (always trying to stick to one chapter – which can be difficult :p) or I write in my ‘journal’, which now consists of Celes’ questions : one every evening, reflecting on the day.
By the time I’m finished reading or writing, my bed is warm enough to sleep in (it’s quite cold here in Belgium :p)
Hopefully you’ll find a nice bed routine that helps you fall asleep easily.
Good luck!
xx E.
I would say my current happiness level is about 5/10, It’s not a perfect 10 because my career feels like a dead end and my passion for it is stale as ever, yet I’m drawing good enough salary from it, my relationship is a long distance relationship, rather challenging and difficult, yet I draw strength and satisfaction from it, I’m not giving it up, my health is not the best, I get tired and listless all the time, many ailments, yet I love outdoor activities and indulge in them occasionally ….. I have grand plans yet do not have the discipline or motivation enough to achieve them… I’m leading a catch 22 life!!
Positive thing today is …. I had a great and healthy breakfast, and spent sometime catching up with mom! ;)
I rate my happiness @ about 4/10. It’s not close to 1/2 way and I don’t feel very happy about the way my life has become. I feel more disappointment that has taken a serious damage control to my self esteem and confidence. I feel as though the stress levels I’ve been working at for so long has finally taken a toll and I WANT HELP now more than ever. I know that I’ve been disappointed in myself for a long time now and even though I’d like to be happier than I am. I didn’t know the way/path to follow.
But here I am now and I’m glad and grateful that I’ve literally stumbled on to this page. It is a unique series of events. At the end of last month; I was feeling sad, lonesome, disheartened, fed up, hopeful, angry, optimistic, and curious enough to search the web for ‘uplifting quotes’. (I’ve always enjoyed reading quotes and trying to see how their messages work their way around my life.) And I got a few good ones that helped cheer up my emotions and I found this picture that had a list of ‘Top 12 Signs It’s Time To Move On From A Relationship’. I started to read and low and behold that was my ‘Aha!’ moment. I kept reading and what was obviously stated in the article, I found AMAZINGLY ACCURATE in relation to my relationship which was causing me pain that day/ past week/ past year. I found the key to my inner misunderstandings and I’m very grateful that I found an answer to what I’ve been searching for a while now. This website has showed me ways to understand my inner self and see what emotions that I’ve been eluding and those I’ve been using as part of my arsenal. Ways to keep from getting hurt when it is really myself sabotauging myself to get something else in return. But is this what I really want to risk it all for? Now my 21 DPC begins. Glad I’m here! Thanks for taking the time to listen for that one moment. Hope I can do the same.
A positive thing about today was that I saw my Mother and Sister today and I helped my Boyfriend by letting him choose what to put into the shopping card at the grocery store today. He was happy but he also asked me if I let him fill the cart because he’s going to be getting a monetary sum in a few days. Stunned my feelings because he assumed quickly. But I just expressed to him that I had other reasons for what I did. Which is a lot of reasons so I left it at that. He was happy at supper time. And now I sit here trying to envision my 21DPC and see ways that I can help my inner self grow this month. Have lots to look forward to this month. Hope all goes well.
Today I am 8/10 on the happiness scale. This is because I have really good people in my life to love. They love me. I live life as an optimist. Even though things can always change, I feel financially secure. Despite tough times, things are good in my relationships and personal life. I am surrounded by beauty. My work i s creative and demanding. The one thing that is problematic is that I have spinal problems and so have chronic pain and this pain limits my activities.
A few days ago on my Face book status update I was typing: I have it all for now and I cannot ask for more at least for the time being, touch wood. That holds good to my present so I would rate myself 6/10. Not giving 10/10 to my happiness because my happiness often scares me and a person who is one of the reasons for my happiness is away… Nevertheless I counteract the unconstructive talk in my mind with something positive like, things will be same (happy) even in future. :)
Respecting myself and being happy for others happiness are the positivity I realised in a different way today apart from dining out at restaurant with mom. :D
How Happy am I?
After some thought I realized that today,as of late I am a 7/10.I am trying to work towards the plenitude
of 8. perhaps I’m more a 6.But I am happier than before. Now, I still cry and have nerves but looking forward is the way to go.
Some very positive and nice things have happened.For Lent I gave up complaining. Well, after a few days of being nearly mute, I realized that my outlook was changing!! :) I wasn’t dragging myself down with my own baggage.Oh my problems didn’t go away but they were less the focus of my energies.
Not too long ago I was so beside myself with money worries. I was frantic.My ” solution “has been nearly laughable.First believe that you have what you need, a total trust in God, carrying only cash and estimating costs before hand . And now, saying yes to every class ,work that comes my way even if I don’t
Know how I can handle such a load. Learning to say yes.
We have had a week of most days sunny and bright. I found a baby fish that had been born in my tank,
I hide out at the computer secretly building my little kingdom when I have some free time.People I haven’t heard from in ages have called.
But the biggest joys are the little kindness…The wave, the smile, or just plain willingness to listen to an idea. And I have tried to do for others as I wish they treat me.
My life is not easy in so many ways. But yes I am happy. Because happens forms from within…..
God, I don’t believe it! I’m happy
Day 1
On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why?
I’d say around 7. I’m happy because I have a loving family, nice friends, good health and no money worries. I do very well at college (close to graduate) and I have time for fun with my hobbies. It’s a good life for me.
Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?
There are still some missing gaps in my life. I feel like I need a best friend or partner I can be intimate with. Sometimes I think I am underachieving, not doing enough or making too many mistakes. Also, I am a little anxious about my future, I’m not as sure as I’d like that I am in the right path. Nevertheless, I am confident things will get better with time and effort.
Daily Positive Thing
The chocolate-chip cookies I baked were delicious, I did pretty well. Eating a pair with a glass of milk really made my day. And I liked that my other friends enjoyed them too.
I would say that I usually hover around a 6. I think of myself as neutral most of the time, though, of course, I can get horribly negative. I know that I am blessed with many wonderful people and experiences in my life.
My simple positive thing for today was that I finished Media Unlimited by Todd Gitlin. Amazing book and it has inspired me to start a project of my own! :p
I’ll say I am a 5 . I cakes me feel down and I want to find ways to cheer up . But I am very thankful of what I have in life and I would never throw it away .ould be more positive and see the good in everything but I want to work on that . Plus I have a lot of stress that m
Positive thing for the day : I had my favourite type of food today
Day 1
I think 6/10 is accurate for how happy I am as a person. I am genuinely an easy going person who wants to put on a persona of this person who is always happy, but lately there isn’t anyone around to put on this fake happy person. I have had to face the truth that I am not happy all the time and I really let my circumstances really determine how happy I am.
A couple things that make today positive is my family and friends that tend to remind me that I am so blessed.
I would rate my current happiness at about 8/10. I feel great because i´m moving forward to get my goals, but i will like to do more, be more productive, that is why i say 8.
******On a Scale of 1-10, How Happy Are You? And Why? Why Did You Not Give Yourself a 10/10?
I’d say 2 because am currently suffering from depression from all the builded stress been having lately and am gonna write something so honest never told anybody before. I’m a lesbian and I fell in love with my best friend N. She confessed to me, but, she has a boyfriend. Knowing this we still kissed, hugged and did other naughtier things at school and her home. She was taking a break from her boyfriend and never clarified what we were so I thought she was considering to leave him to be with me. In the end she choose him, which I respect as he is a wonderful guy and he makes her happy, but I was left heartbroken and empty. Currently we are friends with benefits and I know she does care for me but she was my first love ever and seeing her kiss her boyfriend in my face all day makes me feel stupid and used. As time goes by I’ve noticed we’ve distanced ourselves but we still kiss and all that but not that much.
That’s not everything. Since past December I’ve gone trough a lot and this makes me so stressful. My dad discovered my mom has a boyfriend; I’m terrified of earthquakes, the sea and tsunamis. My older brother is always saying negative things and never cares about my opinion or feelings and he talks nonstop, my friend W is a very nice person but she emotionally tires me and feel pressured to be with her because in social morals ditching a girl with conditions and who is really nice is mean but she really tires me and is just her presence literally steals my soul away, my friend J, who I thought of as a little sister, got a boyfriend and never listens to my problems anymore and talks nonstop about her lovey-dovey life with her boyfriend plus she always finds excuses not to see me in person and when we did 2 times a year she ignored me 99% of the time for the people she saw everyday but told me I was her best friend ever daily. I told her it bothered and offended me. She told me she was just tired of my depression which I understand but selfishly still bothers me how she won’t listen to anything anymore but when she was sad I always listened and cared and if I didn’t she got mad.
I feel alone in this world and have cried myself to sleep for hours almost each day. The only person who I think I can hang on to right now is N when not around her boyfriend she’s wonderful and sweet. I don’t love her anymore but her presence and friendship is the only thing keeping me sane right now.
There are so many negative things bubbling my head for since December which I know are dumb and tiny compared to others problems but what hurts me the most is not having anybody care to hear for me except N which is sometimes and I try not to tell her because I don’t wanna bore her.
I don’t feel like doing anything, mom doesn’t want to take me to a mental doctor, my math grade are so bad and there’s a lot of debts and money crisis. Other people’s emotions are always conflicting with mine because I feel selfish when I try to do something for myself and try to please others when just like the article said end up pleasing nobody. :cry:
****Identify at least one positive thing about your day
N told me our friendship is one of the best things that has ever happened to her,(I was doubting that and it made me happy) N asked if I feeling ok and comforted me, mom and me are helping each other out in the house and growing closer, gonna stay with dad, am considering starting to publish my stories, I was able to get some computer time and write this post. :)
I hope you come back and do the next day’s challenge! It takes a lot of guts to come here and really allow the challenge to happen…. I’m ‘sharpening my sword’ – it’s a vastly different task. What you’re doing is brave!
Hi Fufu, You poured out your heart today and I feel your anguish and gratefulness for life all at the same time, a great big step you took for sharing with us ! Do not despair, our emotions are like the weather, take it as that, hope we all find some balance at the end of 21DPC, keep it up!
I find that my happiness level can jump around at any given point but on the whole it remains at a median level. I have been through hell the past 4 years and at one point was homeless for quite a long time. And to explain the entire story would take too long but during that time, I found the stillness to do me good. I had lived a very charmed life… beautiful home, owned a business, a husband and five children, new cars every year and even a maid every day. But, none of those things made me happy. They, in fact, in comparison to the “homeless time” showed me a way to let go and find peace in other areas of my life. Little by little, I picked myself back up (alone) and found the strength to stand tall once again and to share with other people that “things” do not create happiness. It is what resided within us that defines happiness.
So, for today, I would put my happiness level at a 7. I can smile, I have gratitude, I know I am blessed in so many ways but I’ve been told that I need to smile more… ;)
Looking forward to examining this more deeply and as time goes along… the rest of the story will come out and many will see that from what I’ve been through, that happiness can truly be found in the depths of despair.
A little bit behind but catching up… I wanted to share my “happy” moment from the first day and it was truly the happiest of the day. Wednesday evenings my younger 4 children stay with me and we were going over my son’s homework. All four kids ended up in the room (ages 7-12) as the discussion wore on about a character named Kenny in my son’s book. Kenny is a rabbit who feels the need to fight a dragon and he dresses himself up with pots and pans as armor and uses a brush as a sword. In true fashion of my personality, I picked up a brush and acted the part out for my kids and we all laughed! (Sometimes those moments are hard to come by with so many little ones! When we are all on the same page…)
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So, that moment would have to have been the high point of my Wednesday and as we all know it is not the things we provide for kids but it is the time with them. I know they will remember how goofy and silly I can be. And if I can teach them that those moments are more important, I will consider myself as having succeeded as sharing myself with them completely.
For me, the most importang thing is to be conciously happy.If I’m happy I know that I could help other to be happy as well.I’m not talking about my people in Africa or other country, if we share our happiness with the people around us other people will feel the happiness and the positivism.
We don’t need to be a superheroe to spread wellness!!
All the best!!!
From Barcelona. :clap:
My happiness is not about what I am it’s about what I’m becoming to be.i’m enjoying every second of my life because I’m very consious of the the life’s worth. I know what I did yesterday but I don’t know what’s coming tomorrow. I Know where I want to go but, possibly, I’ll have to create a new goal to reach.
Happiness 8/10
How happy am I? Currently it’ll be a 9/10. Why? Being behind on rent sucks. I hear it happens to lots of students and that no one has been thrown out cause of it, but I definitely need to solve this problem before the start of next year. And NO, the solution will NOT be “get a second job”. I already have two jobs – student and research assistant. Unfortunately, the first one doesn’t pay me a penny and the second doesn’t pay me enough. BUT I’m doing stuff I care about, so they are still the best jobs I can be having at the time!!
Also, everything else in life is going great – I have a few really close friends, plus nice people I see daily, fun society events, etc.
I’ll change it to 10/10 when I get that additional student loan ;)
Positive things yesterday: awesome lecturers at my department; meeting friends.
On the happiness scale I am a 9. It’s been a long time coming but I love myself and who I have become in the last 5 years. My biggest ah ha moment was when I realized I could choose how I react to anything that comes along good or bad. MMMM why didn’t I give myself a 10 I feel I need a little more work. The sunshine and warm wind blowing and standing outside taking it in was one of the best things for me today!
I would give my self a 7 being that I love my self, I love the person I have become and that generally makes me happy!
Why its not a 10 is because I am still working to become a better person being that I am not my best at the moment, I need to work more on my family relationships and soon get hooked up now that I have already worked on my personal issues and am ready for one.
There’s always room for improvement. I could also relate on the family relationships, because I also need a lot of work on that side of my life. Goodluck on the positivity challenge :)
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