This is Day 20 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 20 of 21DJC! :) We now have 1 day left till the end of the challenge!
Yesterday’s question was: “What Words Best Describe You?“. (Read the responses.)
Here are some beautiful answers from our participants:
““Honest” and “Jolly” are the two words which describe me the best. Being Honest to myself and to the world gives me a satisfaction from deep inside. :) It really feels great to be Honest. :) As my nature is very jolly, I get mix with everyone….most of them always tells me that “you are a jolly and lovable person”. Obviously being lovable makes me proud of myself. :) ” — Kamal
“This one is easy- my word would be Sunshine Kid, because that is my nickname! There are other words, too like charming, optimistic, smiling, smart-worker! But nothing comes close like my nickname.” — Anu
“Forgiving and unconditional acceptance. I always try to see the soul people rather than what they look like. I tend to read the heart. Creative and eccentric. I want to be memorable, if only to myself.” — Mary Jane Hoover
“Creative. Positive. Imaginative. Caring. Optimistic. Individualistic. Compassionate. Sincere. Thankful. Artistic. Mindful. Honest. Understanding. Loyal. Smart. Original. Thoughtful. Alive. Clean. Respectful. Visual. Geeky. Appreciative. Empowered. Musical. Loving. Pesty. Inspired. Tall. Caucasian. Male. Inquisitive.” — Glenn
“If I could pick a few words that I think describe me, I would choose:Patient, Honest, Optimistic, Creative, and Loving.” — Kimberly
“Godly, Christian, cerebral, analytical, spiritual, curious, philosophical, responsible, loving, organized (wasn’t always ), deep-thinking, caring, adventurous, trusting (too trusting), tired, happy, positive, strict, kind/generous, forgetful, anxious, semi-jaded, reliable, humorous, exacting, not into following rules and norms.” — J
“Observant, intuitive, adventuresome, playful, dreamer, lover, mostly happy, always seeking to experience more of everything.” — Charles
“Integrity, discipline, loving, honest, optimistic, adventurous, trusting, reliable, organized, self-expressive” — Aparna
“Positive. Appreciative. Compassionate. Considerate. Helpful. Caring. Philosophical. Spiritual. Dreamer. Dependable. Responsible. Have a sense of humor. Quiet. Shy. Friendly. Adventurous. Makes hasty decision sometimes. Cannot stand people who will not put in an extra effort in whatever they’re doing. Neatness freak.” — Asni
“”Restless until its done” are the words that describes me. I am one person that will never go to sleep before i get whatever i have to do, completed. I am like a child that will never stop nagging their parents until they get that new bike they just seen in the window shop.” — A. Sendijja
“I am self critical but becoming kinder to self, shy but friendly, neurotic but great fun, introspective but friendly. […] I am a work in progress and I’m happy with that.” — Lottie
Words which I feel best describe me are… Passionate. Driven. Genuine. Heart-centered (in terms of following my heart/intuition and being love-based). At peace; Living in the now.
With that said, let’s now move to our 2nd last question for 21DJC!
21DJC Day 20
Today’s question is a precursor to one of the important tasks we are going to work on in the upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days Challenge. During next month’s 30DLBL, we will be unearthing the limiting beliefs blocking us in our goals, dissecting them one by one, and working to reverse them into empowering ones.
But for now:
What Limiting Beliefs Are You Holding On To?
Every one of us has limiting beliefs that hold us back from reaching that next level in life. What are yours?
(Today’s question can be found in #65 of 101 Important Questions To Ask Yourself In Life.)
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
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I don’t know. If I knew them, I could start changing them right now, right? :) On the other hand…
I hold on to my emotions/feelings too much. From one side – pushing myself too hard, from another – forgiving myself too much. If this would be in a balance, there would not be so much struggles. Just plain simplicity.
The most limiting belief that Im holding on to is that I am not good enough and because of this I think lowly of myself and it is always not a good thing. I feel lie there is always someone better and this makes me super insecure.
There are so many limiting beliefs I am holding on to such as supertitious beliefs which I learned since my childhood as part of my growing experience and due to my culture and traditions. Oftentimes, it is sad because I am allowing myself to be controlled and be limited to be much more productive as the wisdom and talents given to me by God.
In the past I’ve been subconsciously trying to hold myself back to prevent myself from possibly failing by making sure I don’t ever try new things or try to take things to the next level. This has of course not made my life a very great one to live. I’ve been getting better and this is still something I’m working on, having to remind myself that I *am* worth things and I *do* deserve a good life and success with the things I put my energy into.f I don’t have a good example of anything specific I’m doing to hold myself back, it’s been an underlying thing up until lately, as I said. I’ve begun the journey to change this mentality and doors are already opening up… this is exciting!
Every one of us has limiting beliefs that hold us back from reaching that next level in life. What are yours?
Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection
All this leads to a lack of confidence. Socially, I have many close friends and people think I am quite pleasant and friendly, but in new social situations I often find myself being awkward and sometimes even appearing aloof. I suppose this stems from a fear of rejection, and a fear of being perceived as strange/ unattractive etc.
I’m quite a reflective person, but sometimes I find actually acting on things to achieve my goals difficult – there is just that inertia. Caused by a fear of failure/success. Im afraid that what I choose to do will be a mistake, or it could be Im afraid that I could be so successful that I will not be able to meet my own heightened expectations, or that of others. Isn’t it quite irrational??
To deal with this, I shall hone my self belief – that I’m smart, determined and have what it takes to do what I want in life. I will also tell myself to let go of control, and just open my heart up to people and new situations – where my heart on my sleeve and not let fear of being judged run my beliefs. Got to cultivate that self love :)
Fear is often more scary than anything else. Good is the enemy of great.
Will strive to not limit myself anymore, and take deep breaths when getting anxious and feeling limiting beliefs settling in.
There are a number of limiting beliefs which I think i’m having:
Firstly, i’m suspicious. I don’t fully trust people. I still think there are good and bad people and I have to be cautious. I have read other self help books saying that I have to believe in myself and believe in others. But that is the area I find difficult. I might do it in the future when I sense it’s OK to trust then I could do it.
Secondly, I’m not intelligent, quick minded enough, not artistic enough. Especially when it comes down to something technical, eg creating website. I like to learn it but get confused when there are so many details in it which I found hard to comprehend. Even with simple apparatus like mobile phone or camera, I feel very clumsy when having to operate them.
Thirdly, I’m not confident when facing many people, i don’t have social skills to mix with others well. Actually on many occasions I like to be with myself rather than talking to anybody, but I find I would benefit more if I could do the opposite. Maybe this is not a limiting belief, but rather a needed change in myself.
The fourth limiting belief is that I can’t be a boss, or a leader. I’m very shy and not assertive when giving orders. Therefore, I usually think i’m not worthy before being considered to be promoted.
Fifth, I am not lucky. Therefore I don’t win in any card game or lottery.
Sixth, I can’t drive a car.
Seventh, if i reveal all my personal details, people won’t respect me anymore
I can’t remember where and when I got those limiting beliefs from, but now am aware of them, I will work out and try to change it to positive ones.Don’t know if there are any better way but I am considering the following should be in my daily affirmations:
1. I believe in myself and believe in others
2. I am intelligent, quick-minded and artistic. I can do anything.
3. I’m confident. I’m good at communication and catching what others say quickly.
4. I’m a leader
5. I’m lucky. There are so many opportunities waiting for me
6. I can do anything and everything when I put my mind to it. I certainly can drive a car.
7. I’m always respected no matter what
When I believe, when I visualize and affirm and live with positive attitudes, my beliefs will take me places I choose to go. My goals will be realized. When I turn things inside out and really look at what is truly going on inside the outer appearance, when I find the answer that lies inside the question, there are no limits to my thinking and my doing. In this way, I am the architect of living my best life and my dreams coming true. Sometimes goals and dreams come true are realized quickly, and sometimes they are realized slowly.
Tapes that have lived inside me that are shrinking into nothingness as self-esteem increases and excess poundage melts away from my body are:
I am not lovable enough to have ever been truly loved or deserving of a truly reciprocal loving relationship.
I am not worthy to be successful.
I have never really reached and maintained my goal weight, so it will probably never happen.
My life is going by too fast and I am not where i should be.
People that can’t be opportunistic with me have no use for me.
If I don’t have something somebody finds of value to them, I will be discarded, alone, and useless.
I’ve wasted alot of my life and missed many opportunities.
If I wrote a book, it would fall by the wayside unnoticed.
I have made foolish investments and lost so much that I will never recover financially or have enough.
I am not enough.
Deep breath. Okay, I am the architect of my fabulous, abundant, loving self, and I live my best life and attract wonderfully supportive people in my inspiring, joyous, fun-filled, purposeful life!!!
Had to counter all the shrinking into nothingness limiting beliefs with that deeply felt affirmation/belief.
Much better!
It’s actually the lack of belief that limits me. Although I know I have all the ingredients it takes to be whatever I want, I don’t have the belief and confidence that I can, should and will be whatever I want.
21DJC#20: What Limiting Beliefs Are You Holding On To?
When it comes to limiting beliefs, I can honestly say that I don’t have any. Limiting beliefs is an area I’ve been working on extensively this year. Currently, I believe in a subjective reality created merely by our thoughts. And since our thoughts are literally limitless, there’s nothing impossible in a subjective world.
Thus, I believe in everything and nothing at the same time; If I am to consciously believe that something or some fact is real, it’s only because I want it to be so. The same applies to things and facts I don’t want to exist, I simply don’t believe in them so my thoughts won’t create them.
For example, I adopt the belief that it’s possible to make money online, because I want reality to be that way. On the other hand, I don’t belief there’s too many competition or too many bloggers to outrank.
In a nutshell, beliefs are like fences; you could use them to lock yourself in, or you can use them to protect yourself from unwanted people or ideas.
1. I am not good enough
2. I cannot clear any competitive exams
i am working on these self limiting beliefs
That in reality i am not good enough. It doesnt matter what anyone says, what i accomplish, that in my heart of heart, i am just a looser.
It is a lack of self love. The ideal self struggling with the real self.
I like my race, height, skin color, any of these things hold me back and it shows up in my attitude.
My belief that others are judging me makes me act defensively, and totally makes me hold back and not act optimally.
That i am not at the same level as others.
Fear of failure….of poverty…of letting others down….of looking silly in front of others.
Of failing my own high expectations.
These hold me back. I am scared to do new things. I am scared of new relationships and people and experiences. I cling on to what i have, to the extent of sometimes damaging it. I dislike changes, because my limiting beliefs make me “settle” rather than strive. I draw these boundaries around my mind…..bind my imagination and creativity by imaginary chains.
I “believe” that i need to please others in order for them to accept me! That makes me not love them properly. I end up doing things which make them happy rather than what is right and good for them (and myself).
I “believe” that i can “buy” friendship….
I “believe” that i am not as good as others, and hence i become self effacing.
I really want to get over all of these. Please!
According to me it is the best question asked in 21djc. To understand the question clearly I read related, previous 30DLBL article and it helped me. I have some limiting beliefs running at the back of my head like, I may go wrong, may not be able to reach my goals..
The why aspect of these is time consuming and i am yet to look into it.
What liming beliefs am I holding on to?
This one stumped me.
I don;t know.
I thing that a limiting belief is every belief that divides us from our divinity, so in mu current conditions i have many limiting beliefs that i try to overcome every day.So here are my top four :
1) My constant struggle with “last 10 pounds” , I’ve lost all exes weight few years ago but i have a limiting belief that i have to fight and jojo last 10 pounds all the time.
2)I have a limiting belief that i am not very athletic person and not a very active one, which is not true because i am young, healthy individual that has all going for her.
3) I have limiting belief of some irrational fears that i have yet to face like fear of heights or fear of insanity…
4) Limiting belief in which i consider myself a procrastinator or a lazy person, but i am working very well on that one.
So i know that those beliefs are only self made and limiting so i am trying to do all that i can, and i know i can do it, to work on those and set my true nature free.
The limiting beliefs that I am holding onto are that I’m not capable or smart enough compared to others and that public speaking is just not for me. But I am making an effort to let go of these limiting beliefs as they are sabotaging.
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