This is Day 14 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 14 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Do You Fear Most?“. (Read the responses.)What do I fear the most? One of my 5 core values (We will work on uncovering our values next month, during Day 15 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days) is “Courage”. The reason why I picked Courage as my core value, is because I think living in fear is one of the worst ways to live life.Why do I say that? Because fear is the mind killer. When you live in fear or something, you start living in a box, whereby the boundary of the box is defined by your fear. The thing is, this fear, if not linked to any physical danger, is merely an illusion that limits your life experience. You may think you are safe by having your life governed by this fear, and you may theoretically feel safe, but the truth is you are repressing yourself for no real reason. Read: Why Overcome Fear?Because fear is such a pointless, disempowering emotion, I make a conscious effort to unroot my fears whenever I face one. I first get clarity on what I’m fearful about, after I seek to understand them. Then, I work on dissolving the fear itself.That said, there are definitely things I’m fearful of, that I’ve not worked through. I’d say working through our fears is a life long journey. For every layer of fear I unravel, there will be new layers of fear underneath. These reflect the new phases of growth I’ve to to through. Personally, I see fears as indicators of what I need to work on next, so it’s a great compass for my growth.The current fears I’m dealing with include fear that I’m not good enough, fear that I’ll be all alone, fear that no one loves me, fear that I cannot lose weight, fear that I’m too ugly, fear that I’ll never be loved. These are things which I look forward to writing and sharing in detail at Personal Excellence in the upcoming future, as I work through the issues.I want to take this chance to thank all of you for earnestly sharing your fears here.With PE, I strive to create a safe space where all of us can share our thoughts and pursue our growth without judgment or prejudice. As I look at the community we have right now, I feel that we *are* living this at this moment. This is incredible. I was just having a conversation with one of the regular PE members, Matt, earlier this week, and we both agreed that PE is easily the most conscious communities either of us have seen online. I can’t be prouder of all of us here.Thank you for being a part of Personal Excellence. I’m very grateful for your existence.With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 14 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Do You Fear Most?“. (Read the responses.)What do I fear the most? One of my 5 core values (We will work on uncovering our values next month, during Day 15 of Live a Better Life in 30 Days) is “Courage”. The reason why I picked Courage as my core value, is because I think living in fear is one of the worst ways to live life.Why do I say that? Because fear is the mind killer. When you live in fear or something, you start living in a box, whereby the boundary of the box is defined by your fear. The thing is, this fear, if not linked to any physical danger, is merely an illusion that limits your life experience. You may think you are safe by having your life governed by this fear, and you may theoretically feel safe, but the truth is you are repressing yourself for no real reason. Read: Why Overcome Fear?Because fear is such a pointless, disempowering emotion, I make a conscious effort to unroot my fears whenever I face one. I first get clarity on what I’m fearful about, after I seek to understand them. Then, I work on dissolving the fear itself.That said, there are definitely things I’m fearful of, that I’ve not worked through. I’d say working through our fears is a life long journey. For every layer of fear I unravel, there will be new layers of fear underneath. These reflect the new phases of growth I’ve to to through. Personally, I see fears as indicators of what I need to work on next, so it’s a great compass for my growth.The current fears I’m dealing with include fear that I’m not good enough, fear that I’ll be all alone, fear that no one loves me, fear that I cannot lose weight, fear that I’m too ugly, fear that I’ll never be loved. These are things which I look forward to writing and sharing in detail at Personal Excellence in the upcoming future, as I work through the issues.I want to take this chance to thank all of you for earnestly sharing your fears here.With PE, I strive to create a safe space where all of us can share our thoughts and pursue our growth without judgment or prejudice. As I look at the community we have right now, I feel that we *are* living this at this moment. This is incredible. I was just having a conversation with one of the regular PE members, Matt, earlier this week, and we both agreed that PE is easily the most conscious communities either of us have seen online. I can’t be prouder of all of us here.Thank you for being a part of Personal Excellence. I’m very grateful for your existence.With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!21DJC Day 14
Today’s question is:What Is Love?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
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Love is so many things that I don’t actually know how to describe it. Somehow I found this question to be most difficult, and the easiest at the same time.
I’d say that love for the person is when I truly wish and want only the best to that person, not only wish, but I’m willing to do whatever it is on my part, to help them. And I don’t feel resistant.
I’ve heard parents around me say so many times that until you have kids, you can’t understand the meaning of true, unselfish love – a love that has no limits and that will make you do anything to protect the object of your love…
I certainly see what they are trying to get at, and since I’m not a parent myself, there’s no way for me to fully have the knowledge to prove them wrong. What I do know is that the love I feel for my husband is bigger than what I’ve ever felt with anybody or anything else. Not only is he my spouse, but in ways I can’t fully describe, he’s also (not literally, of course) a father, a brother and a son to me. What I feel for him is the biggest and most certain thing I’ve ever known – this is love to me.
Love is something that makes you feel a bit different. In that different feeling state you find you want more of whatever it is.
Love means caring, understanding, accepting, faithfulness, patience and kindness.
Love is a lot of giving and little of taking.
Love gives more reason for us to lead a better and happy life.
Oh wow, ummm, love is a feeling. It means that you care about that one thing so much, that you can’t compare it to something else, and that without whatever the thing is, you would feel empty.
Like, for me I say I love my friends. There’s some of them that without, I wouldn’t even want to go on. I would be lonely and no longer happy. I need them in my life because I don’t know how I would live without them.
Love is genuine, and it’s not something you can feel after a few days. You can feel it after you’ve invested time and effort into the relationship. :heart:
First I would never define LOVE as a felling, in that case I would be talking about infatuation.
This is really easy to feel, anyone can be atracted to someone else and because we are humans, it´s easy to feel butterflys in our stomach, and probably even sexual atraction… this first step it´s so easy.
After a while when you can say the first emotions have passed, then you dont see the same perfect person, you can start realizing he or she has some defects, and can be sometimes rude, or anoying, or cold…etc
Comunication will take place and if we are capable of solving the problems and ussing our heads to do it, be are crossing to another level.
I think the word LOVE can be used when is not your just fellings or just mind used to be togheter but your freedom, your WILL, and you´ll stay toghether because you want to even it´s hard sometimes, even if it hurts. For example, a mother wont let the baby dye even she is tired from not sleeping, she´ll use her WILL to do it, that´s love.
The last step for LOVE I think it is acting against your selfishness, because love will always think first about the other one needs before our own.
Since we have been raised in a very egocentric society, we all can realize how hard it is to succed in a relation, we are sometimes specting the partner to meet our needs, before we even try to look after the other ones.
We get upset very often because we were not taked in to consideration as much as we think we deserve, and this as the resault of our egocentrism.
We could meditate about the next phrases:
Saint Paul srotte to the Corinthians:
Love is patient,
love is kind;
love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.
I don’t always explain my feelings and emotions very well. But I’ll try.
Love to me is the feeling you have towards someone who is very dear to you, where if that feeling ended, you would feel sad and upset, and potentially even angry. You’d miss it lots and you’d feel lost without that person, to being with at least, until grieving passes and you move on. Although you may well still think about that person lots. If you love someone, you would help them out without any desire for it to be reciprocated.
For me, loving an activity or a posession is not love. It’s a play on the word love. A posession or an activity can be enjoyed lots, and someone can enjoy it with a passion. I would say I love walking, but I mean I enjoy it lots.
Fortunately my life is filled with love. I am very close to my parents, brother, and my fiance of course. I have lots of love in this circle of close family.
I understand the word “love” to have, at the very least, 4 meanings:
-The affection felt between two human beings who are very close to one another, and the things done out of that affection
-The image of the above that is sold to us; what love is “supposed to look like”
-Something deeper and more unconditional which unites us as human beings, which gives the potential for us to each show our best and contribute to the collective. Love is that which opens the mind, that drives us to live for purposes greater than ourselves.
-Loving possessions or ideas and associating oneself with them, which is ultimately an ego thing.
I could go on, but I prefer to be succinct.
In the end, love is an emotion which cannot be put into words.
Love is a loyal and unconditional heartfelt appreciation for another person, whether they are your boyfriend/girlfriend, a family member such as grandparents, aunt/uncle, sister/brother, or even your best friend. When you truly love someone, you can’t imagine your life without them. Love is a bond that can’t be broken by any means. When someone says they don’t love someone anymore, they either didn’t know what it meant to love someone or they never loved them in the first place. Once you love someone, that person becomes so special to you that you can never un-love them. Love is when you know you get to see that person later in the day and you look forward to it ALL day long, the seconds feel like minutes and the minutes feel like hours. Love is when someone tells you of some accomplishment they’ve achieved and you just smile because you are so proud to see them succeeding in whatever endeavor they have chosen to pursue. Love is when you are content just to be in someone’s presence and know that they are ok. Love is when you would do anything to make sure that special someone knows you have their back and will always be there for them, night or day, early or late. Love is when you care about someone so much, they hold such a huge part of your heart, that you would literally do anything to help them out, even if it jeopardized yourself or your plans for the next day, week, or month. Love is a really tight bond between 2 people, and when you share it with someone, it is one of the most special feelings in the world, and you should always honor it and treat it as such. If you love someone, tell them. If you share a love with someone, you should always do whatever you can to look after that love. Love is one of the most important feelings in the world, and if you are lucky enough to share it with someone, or even multiple people, you should thank god for that wonderful gift and nurture it forever.
Love is everything. To me, Love is acceptance of another person. Perseverance with that person.
Love is having everything go wrong and still being willing to take another chance. It is believing that no matter how dark this day may be, there will be Light ahead.
Love is asking for help. It is working at being a better person and leading a better Life.
Love is believing that a better Life is worth working for. Love is faithfulness, and honesty.
It is kindness on a tough day. It is support and strength for another, when you may not have much yourself.
Love is kisses and snuggles too. It is smiles, and hugs when there are tears.
Love is the bare bones truth, when you need to hear it most.
Love is everything.
I have learned a lot about love over the last 18years that I have known my husband. I have learned that I am not very good at it. I can love other people but I hurt the one I love the most. I have learned that love can come in many forms and it doesn’t always have to be the way that you envision it. I have recently ran across a quote on the internet that says”Just because someone doesn’t love you, the way you want them to, doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they have.” I love this and I am going to try to pound this in my head. But I believe now that it is true.
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