This is Day 13 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 7 Important Reasons Why You Should Set GoalsI have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :DWith that said, let’s now move to today’s question!
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 7 Important Reasons Why You Should Set GoalsI have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :DWith that said, let’s now move to today’s question!21DJC Day 13
Today’s question is deviates from the 12 questions so far:What Do You Fear Most?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D
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I used to think that what I feared the most was poverty or loneliness but I have grown to learn that what I would fear the most in life is to be insignificant. To loose purpose in life and to be of no worth.
I used to have so many fears and they used to consume me completely. I still have a lot of them, but they’re not as big and scary anymore. The one thing that I fear the very most is losing my husband. Not only is he a wonderful husband in every way, but he’s also my best friend and mentor in life, all categories. I can’t see finding a more perfect match for me, and I know that if I lost him somehow, I would never get over that emptiness. I also would probably never find somebody else that I could truly be one with. I do everything I can to prevent this from ever happening, but there’s only so much you can do. Accidents and illnesses can happen at any time, no matter how solid your relationship is. I try and live in the moment and appreciate this wonderful thing I have here and now.
I fear of losing my loved ones to death. Death is impossible to prevent as it would eventually happen to every one of us but I am really scared of losing my family, relatives or friends who ever crossed path with me.
Since I am kind of “wild”… to passionate for the things I like, I havent take always he right desitions in my life, lots of times I am moved by the emotions of the moment. In that context I regreat some things I´ve done because I was not thinking, I was just leting go on my fellings and probably those bad desitions have hurt some loved ones. I fear that some day I could loose my kids because of a wrong choice, I am not talking about “loosing” them in a textual sence, I mean loosing the moral authority and the respect they have for me.
My main fear is not being the best that I can, and not fulfilling my potential. I am in a brilliant position in a great business, and one day I may be in a position to buy a stake in it. I work very hard, but I do not generate much new business for the company. I fear that I might never be able to generate new business, and therefore if I do buy into it, my capital outlay might not be recoverable because the business will just get smaller and smaller and I will lose out. I fear that others may eclipse my success and I will become a number rather than a leader. I fear not being as successful as is possible. This is my main fear.
I don’t have many other fears. If someone is going to attack you on a dark night, there’s nothing I can do about that so I don’t fear it. It’s outside of my control. I fear not doing the things that are within my control.
I also fear maybe not being able to give my other half children, as it seems to be me that is preventing conception – not by choice I hasten to add!! 2.5 hours to the fertility clinic meeting, we will soon know more!!
I am scared to tell my boyfriend that I have herpes…We have been dating for a few months, and things are turning serious, I don’t know how to tell him. I am very responsible about my sexual health now that I am older, but when I was younger, I didn’t care so much. Now that I have found “love”, Im scared to lose it, yet I know the right thing to do, but I’m afraid to admit it….
Hi Ty, personally I think you should tell him asap. The longer you wait before telling him, the worse I can imagine it being for both of you. Best to get it out in the open. If he is unable to accept it now, he most likely won’t be able to accept it later on either. And you don’t want to sped all that tie worrying about it. But if it doesn’t concern him too much, then that will give you more time to work something out with him.
I fear being helpless. The first actual thing that came to mind was “zombies” but I know that what I mean to say is I fear the helplessness that an apocalyptic event, such as a zombie outbreak, would set upon me.
Here in the US, there is so much we take for granted, hundreds of thousands of people living in relatively small areas relying on systems that in a catastrophic event, would ultimately fail us. I fear what will happen when shit goes down, and people start getting crazy on other people. This sort of thinking makes me want to own and be trained on handling a firearm. And I don’t necessarily WANT to own a firearm!
It also makes me want to take preventative measures for any other sort of natural disaster by buying water and other things that we would need in an emergency and regularly take for granted. Often I wish I lived on a farm so we would have a greater level of sustainability.
**and to be clear, the firearm would be to protect from other people…not the Zs..I’m sure I’d find some other way to be rid of them.. :) **
Today I fear absolutely nothing. With years I managed to develop a certain relationship with my fear(s).
Realizing that all my feelings are creations of my lovely hyper-active mind and never exist outside of myself I tried to imagine my fear as a big ugly creature that comes over for tea uninvited. He is hideous, smelly and loud and barges through my door, takes all my living space and brings no joy – just grief. I thought very hard on why do I open the door to him every time without fail? why do I invite him over, bring him to life? and I did invite him over every day, many times every day actually… self-crippling myself with it… One day I really had enough. No more.
He tried to kick in the door.. he screamed very loud so I could hear: cancer!, loss of job!, my daugther abduction and cruel molestation!, devastating earthquake with my body turned into the pulp! crippling illness! slow painful death! loss of youth and vigour! living passionless life! cellulite! dying with long list of regrets! divorce! slaughtered seals en masse and demise of our beautiful environment etc etc..
But I persisted and did not open the door anymore. I persisted for days and month.. until he stopped kicking in.. until the screams subsided… until a new synapses formed in my mind to deal with the burden of my own creation..
I can still hear whispers through the door sometimes but I manage to bring a clear concept into my mind: my fear is my baby and I am its great abortionist. No tea today.. I would rather have another friend over: JOY and thank her for allowing me to experience another wonderful day
Very well written Iwona, and a great attitude you have there towards fear!
The number one thing I fear most is losing people that are important to me. I don’t think about it all the time, but when I do remember that there are sick people in my family, and people I loved and cared about so much that I have lost already, the realization hits me like a brick wall to the face and I just crumble. I know there is nothing I can do about this fear, except to maybe spend more time with those that I love, so as not to have too many regrets should god forbid anything happen to them.
I also fear losing the relationship with my boyfriend. I love him so much, and sometimes I feel as though I am so wrapped up in my job ambitions and life goals that we’re not spending as much time together as we should. Nothing in this world means so much to me as keeping this relationship does, and I just get scared that he feels underappreciated and ignored.
I fear not having the relationship with my sister that I’ve always wanted. I envision us growing old together as the best of friends, with secrets and inside jokes that could go on for days. With me being so busy all the time, and her attached to her boyfriend at the hip and never going 5 seconds without him, it has been hard to spend the time together that I want so badly.
I fear something happening to my dad before we get the chance to make up. We had a pretty bad falling out a few years ago. It’s been almost 2 years since we’ve seen each other. I’ve reached out, and we came very close to meeting up, but the plans fell through. My worst nightmare is to learn that something happened to him before he knew how much he meant to me and how much I really do love him. Life is too short for these petty disagreements, and we’ll never get this time back.
I fear losing my aunt. She has a bad liver disease that there is no cure for. She is living each day like there’s nothing wrong with her, which is GOOD because I believe that is the one thing that is keeping her disease from progressing. Growing up, she has been like a mother to me and losing her would hurt worse than I care to imagine. It would pretty much be almost unbearable, and I feel like it would absolutely ruin me for a while. I fear that almost more than anything I’ve written so far.
I am afraid of rejection (possibly overly afraid). Of losing loved ones, for whatever reason. Of not achieving what I want in life. Of losing control of my emotions.
…Sometimes I wonder if I am afraid too much; sometimes I think not enough. Who knows?
This would be a toss up between spiders, being in small enclosed spaces and crashing from high places. Seriously freaked about all three. I am getting better at elevators, though. I have been working on this over the years, but it is such a long process. My thought is that, if I can become used enough so the elevators do not bother me at all, I will try flying. I want to go to Ireland and France.
This would be a no brainer for me. The thing I fear most is death of a loved one. I am 25 years old already and I think nobody who was really close to me has passed and that’s wh this would fear me most. My relationships are important to me and nothing would devastate me more than losing someone who has been a part of my life, has seen me grow especially if that time comes that I feel there was something I could have done better.
I fear losing people I care about.
I fear failing my relationship with significant other because of me repeating mistakes.
I fear not actually growing. After 2, 5, 10, 30 years – I fear to look back and see that no matter how I’ve tried, I actually didn’t grow, didn’t change to be better, didn’t fulfill my life’s purpose.
I fear being alone. All my other issues can be brought to this point. I want to live with people, help them, be with them. I love havon family, being with them. I love coordinating work with people, I love psychology, to help people. I don´t like rejections, they are hard to handle. I don´t like lack of appreciation. But behind all these little goals and fears: I fear being alone.
I don’t normally think about what I fear, but here goes:
1. I fear not fulfilling my life purpose. I mean, If my life purpose were to clean toilets to the best of my abilities and I was the farm manager, then I didn’t fulfill my purpose and didn’t do what I’m born to do. Not having fully determined what my life purpose is is definitely causing me some anxiety as I’m already 40! Time is running out!
2. I fear not being a good mother to my kids. I often feel that i”m not being the best mother I could be due to work stress, lack of energy, sleep deprivation or just not knowing how to deal with issues concerning them. Having kids is a wonderful, but huge responsibility and I – like most other people – know the negative impact parents’ actions and words can have on a child.
3. I fear the way of dying. Obviously dying quickly in a car crash or silently while sleeping is the best way to go. I don’t want to die slowly and painfully.
I fear that I will not have the time to do all that I want to do.. or at least, most of what I want to do.
I want to make a difference to the lives of others with my chosen career.. i also want to start a family with my boyfriend, produce a grandchild for my father and basically lead a live of love.
Not being able to live that life I want to live, is what I fear. So essentially, what I fear now is not having enough time.
But how much is enough? We’ll see. Right now Im at a place where I have some youth, and so much I want to experience and achieve.
So, carpe diem! appreciate all that we have today and live each day purposefully, as far as possible :)
i fear losing control, i fear i might develop schizofrenia, i fear i might lose my mind someday and get put in a hospital wit mad people. i fear being rejected, being made guilty for things i haven’t done, losing my faith, i fear going to hell, losing the help of God, i fear being overweight, i fear growing old and having no accomplishments, i fear always living with my dad, not fulfilling my goals of becoming a great actress, i fear i’ll never have a boyfriend again, i’m afraid i might start to like girls because of all the bad experiences i had with boys. i’m really afraid to lose control of things exactly at the point everything is great. i fear my dad might find a woman and totally forget about me. i fear i’ll never know succes in my acting career. i
fear i’ll never be thin and beautiful again.
I’m fear of no money. I’m afraid of bad tragedy happen to me, maybe because of my negativity and after know that bad news from TV and newspaper. I’m fear of my father still living the life he had lives, gambling, drunk and always complain about no money and borrow money from me recently. I’m fear of my little sister growth because I have come through with my mother has bad-mouth and always talk something negative, she don’t care of our feeling much than others and always put her own thought to us. Whenever we did something different from others, she doesn’t accept us, looks annoying and tries to force us to act normal. She had said “I want my child to be happy not looks like an alien”, “I hate you”; whenever she angry with me she said looks what you did you look like a “mental people” on the street because I don’t like social. I stay with my father now and my other family live at other place, I’m not intend to move to stay with my mother because of many things to consider and I don’t like to live in my mom mouth. I’m afraid of public speaking and I had bad experience before. I have communication problems with people, I’m a quite person and scared about others look at me differently. I have many had memories that I can’t let go and I’m fear of I could not open my hearts and seems too difficult.
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