This is Day 13 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 7 Important Reasons Why You Should Set GoalsI have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :DWith that said, let’s now move to today’s question!
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 7 Important Reasons Why You Should Set GoalsI have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :DWith that said, let’s now move to today’s question!21DJC Day 13
Today’s question is deviates from the 12 questions so far:What Do You Fear Most?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D
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oh, and I fear insanity. If I lose my mind, I will certainly be helpless ))
I fear helplessness. If something happens and there is nothing I can do, it freaks me out.
1. Public speaking
2. Fear of losing my eyesight
3. Fear of losing self confidence
To find an answer I asked myself what it is that makes me fearful:
Is it death? disease? defame/abuse? loneliness?..
Health is defined as physical, mental and spiritual well being. Absence of it mean illness; is what I fear most if it leaves one crippled.
My biggest fear is to die without having left mark on the world.
I don’t mean this in a grandiose way like Steve Jobs, J.F.K. or Michael Jackson, but to have simply have mattered and have made a difference in someone’s life. I’ve mentioned in previous posts that my current line of work holds no joy for me. I’m seeking a position that is of some importance if not to society overall, then at least to the industry in which I work. I’m afraid I will fail in this respect because finances force me to do what pays well, not necessarily what I feel is important.
I am also single, I have no children and I fear that I won’t ever find love. I am not getting any younger and with each passing birthday I lose a little more of my hope for family. I know, it is such a single woman cliché, but it is how I feel. So instead, I work diligently in trying to figure what my other purposes in this life may and what my strengths are in case my hopes to become a wife and mother never come to pass. I also try to be the best big sister and aunt I know how be. :D
I lost my father several years ago and the idea of losing my mother terrifies me. She drives me crazy most days but I can’t imagine life without her.
Without a doubt, I fear altzeimer’s or ALS. Either one of these diseases robs the person of their selfhood. They create total dependency and that is the thing I fear the most.
I am not afraid, conciously. I don’t know if I have some unconscious fears. And I don’t really want to tap into that stuff. Is that ok?
Damn it, it struck me.
And I don’t even want to write it down. But here it is….
I am afraid of not being able to have kids.
I am afraid of not finding that special person to spend my life with
I am afraid of disease
I am afraid of being attacked by a stranger
I am afraid of being a pawn in a big political game – in a war, in massive corruption,in man-made epidemics and such….
Great thoughts to go to bed with! Now I’ll have to find something to take my mind of these, befor catching zzz’s
I’m deliberately missing out this one – I don’t want to put into words things I can not influence or control.
My biggest fear is fear itself. I have so many fears that hold me back from life. I’m afraid that if I write them out that they will come true. I am such a fearful/anxiety ridden person and I hate it. Fear itself is what I fear most.
There are a number of instances that I can imagine that fill me with fear:
– visceral fears to do with protection of my body e.g. being buried alive, losing my senses, being tortured
– any of my friends or family being hurt/killed in horrific manner
– the breakdown of society to chaos
– global environmental disaster
– being unable to find a job and provide for my family
– a whole raft of social situations e.g. being embarrassed in front of large audience, found out as lying
However my greatest fear by far is that something terrible will happen to my daughter. Sometimes I feel paralysed with fear that she’ll be harmed and won’t be able to grow and thrive. The thought of losing her, particularly in some horrible manner, is incredibly disturbing and fills me with dread.
This is a phenomenal question for me. Biggest part of my life i was fearless, going through craziest situations without glimpse of fear…but actually what has happened was that i was suppressing my fear unconsciously and two years ago it came back to hunt me through panic attacks. They started off very intense as fear of death and feeling i am going to go crazy … it almost led to agoraphobia. But i knew that i can control my thoughts and that i could control my fears and step by step i did that…facing one fear at the time..it wasn’t easy , and i did it all by myself but reward was getting my life back from branches of fear so it was worth it. An one step at the time i have learned to control it, it was a process and i will write a book about it but it was worth every second of my willpower. And now i am panic free, i can always have in back of my mind that panic attack can occur but i know now that i have everything i need to overcome it. So my biggest fear in last two years along side fear of death, and going crazy was fear of fear. The worst and most limiting one of all. But one of most important things i have learned during my journey of self healing and overcoming fear is every time we face our fear we can easily overcome it and all the energy we have put in to fear comes back at us and we have more energy for our lives, new challenges and overcoming more fears….
So i have few fears yet to face like fear of heights,cancer,fear of loosing loved one, separation anxiety, pain, planes (but i still go on them) and lightning (i have this fear ever since very early age). But i watch these fears as opportunity for new growth.
I guess things that are feared most by anybody would change as he goes through life. At this time in my family life, when my monthly take home pay is very important, I fear losing my job. So I try to do my best in the workplace. I fear getting very seriously sick so I try (though many times I fail) to take good care of my body by modifying my diet and exposing myself to situations that would make me sick. I also fear that my children will not be strong enough for the struggles in life so I try to teach and mold them and hopefully make them that ready to face life on their own especially when I would no longer be around.
21DJC#13: What Do You Fear Most?
My biggest fear in life is not being able to grow.
I’m not afraid of death, I’m not afraid of failure, I’m not afraid of what people will think of me, I’m not afraid of any of the things that social conditioning told me to be afraid of. But I’m terrified by the idea of having a disability that stops me from growing.
As I said in day’s 9 answer, I’m very passionate about growth, so not being able to grow is the worst thing that could happen to me.
P.S: My second biggest fear is not being able to listen to music (;
What are you living in fear of?
I’m afraid to die. I know it’s a natural thing that will happen to *everybody* but it still scares me. Sometimes, before I go to sleep, I start crying because I think that I will die one day and it’s a reality. I start to wonder if I will disappear for all eternity or if there really is a heaven which I personally don’t believe much in. I wish to see a proof of an afterlife or be sure to know what comes after. I once read a poem written by an old lady 2-3 days before her death and it was really impacting a phrase she said “It was after my husbands death that I realized that nothing lasts forever.”
What are you most afraid to see happen?
My loved ones die, disappearing for all eternity and dying young in a tragic accident achieving nothing in life.
And why?
Because I love my family and friends and I want to at least be one that says she had fun in her life or she managed to achieve her dreams during her lifetime.
I realise that this probably sounds selfish – but in the long-term, I fear the prospect of losing my sense of self, my mind, my soul. I fear that I’d no longer be able to appreciate myself, my family, my friends or my life.
In the short-term, I fear failure – I know that everyone makes mistakes, for that is what makes us human, I try hard not to let mistakes irk me so much, but they do
What do I fear most?
When I was young I feared death.
Now – I am not sure what I fear most.
I am very concerned for my son and sometimes I slip in to fear about a possible bad outcome for him.
But I really try to pull back from putting any energy in to fear of anything.
Fear is like worry on steroids. If you feed it energy it will grow and persist.
If someone is pointing a knife at me I feel fear, I don;t like it even if someone is playing around with knives like that. Perhaps it is that I fear a messy painful death – “not the being dead – not the what’s beyond here”
I don’t mind heights like a tall ladder or a four story building – but I do feel fear on the edge of a cliff or very tall building.
In both of those cases It’s that survival-adrenalin kind of fear.
I will fly in a plane, but I have to just not really think about it. It is a decision, a risk taken, either it’s all good or it’s all bad – so I just put all of my energy towards an all-good outcome and don’t dwell on the other possibility.
It a[[ears that physical death is a reality for all of us. So fearing it is like fearing the sunrise. We cannot control when the sun will set – we can only enjoy the day, until it does.
I believe I have two fears in life and they block me occasionally from being my real-self.
1. Fear of Heights :(
2. Fear of having success and what it will mean for me and my family :!:
Having the fear of heights is something I am working in. The fear only holds me back from enjoying the rides with my husband and being apart of something he really loves. I want to go sky-driving and have an extraordinary experience – but this HUGE fear holds me grounded.
Secondly, fear of success and what it will mean for me and my family… Is something that blocks me when I am doing something I know I am brilliant at and then the stress and pressure to keep it up tends to burn me out. It feels like I am burning my candle at either end continuously.
I know this may sounds hypocritical… I am successful when I am applying what I know into something I am passionate about and its in alignment with what I am doing at the time or I am doing every day. Sounds silly but I have that fear in my mind and sometimes, it takes a second shelf and does not bother me. But then again, it blocks me when I need it the most – sometimes.
Does anyone else feel or see it this way or has experienced something similar to me?!
All the Best,
Ezzy :)
Ezza,
Yes. Been there.
Priorities and Time Management
You only have so much time and energy in a day.
So what are your priorities?
Is there time enough for “both” Can they mutually exist?
If so then it is a matter of setting priorities and implementing time management.
That way you will “have a handle on it” and you can lose the fear of drifting too far one way or the other – keeping things in perspective.
What do I fear most?
Probably being alone. Not alone in just the physical sense but alone in the bigger sense. I fear that I will not be able to make the special connections that I really want in my life. I fear that I could do something to break the ties with the people I already do have in my life. I fear being unloved and I fear that I could push people away that do love me.
I also fear failure. I fear that what I cannot acheive what I want or I will self sabotage my own attempts. I fear that I will ruin everything.
I’m most afraid of losing a member of my family. I don’t know what I would do. This fear started when my twin brother fainted when we were kids and my family was very worried although it was nothing at all. I remember having nightmares about it. I feel like that about my parents and my other brothers. In my family we are very close with each other.
I’m also afraid of the future, I don’t know what my purpose is yet and I’m scared of wasting years studying something irrelevant.
Failure and going against what I believe in because of doubt.
Losing the ones I love and having to cope with something that devastating without their support. I selfishly often hope that I will die before those I love so I won’t have to try to cope with a life that doesn’t have them in it.
Not making a difference, finding that one thing in this world that I am meant to do and can be done by no other. Not living up to my true potential.
Saying and doing all the “right” things and appearing okay but really deep down being full of crap. I fear that I delude myself and fool everyone around me so well that no one knows it, including me. And that inside, all those issues and phobias and weaknessess that I appear to have overcome are really still there festering me away from the inside out.
Taking people and small miraclous everyday wonders for granted. Missing out on something amazing right there in front of my face because I’m not open enough, or paying close enough attention or focusing on something petty and selfish.
And most recently appropriate to add to this list however is my fear of the sick, the dying, the dead and the aging or infirmed. Hospitals, doctors offices, nursing homes…all of these make me incredibly uncomfortable and physically sick to my stomach. I hate this weakness in myself but I know it’s there and I often stare it in the face. I can’t soothe someone who is sickly or be there to hold someone’s hair or hand…I just CAN’T do it. Not sure what that means.
I’m sure there’s more, but today I’m too tired to go on….
:(
I fear failure! I think I can do something and I make plans, but when it comes time to take the first step I freeze, I am paralyzed with fear. So much is at stake if I make the wrong move, but so much more is at stake if I do nothing. So what if I fail… if I don’t try I’ll never know what I am capable of and if I fail, maybe I will learn something. As long as I do my best, there will be some kind of success, not maybe what I was looking for, but we don’t always receive what we wish for.
My biggest fear (besides an extremely painful death) would be feeling that my life has not meant anything. That is why I want to find my passion so that when I pursue it I would feel like I am making a contribution. I also fear that I will not have done enough to prepare my family for when I am gone (financially, passing on traditions, any wisdom I have accumulated, etc.).
I don’t have many fears to speak of. Aside from the 5 senses question, and one of my worst nightmares would be to lose my sight. That doesn’t quite equal a fear because although I would never want that to happen, I’m more than likely not going to experience it, so it’s not a dwelling fear.
I have the fear of not making the right parenting decisions all the time and I worry about my children. However, I also know parenting is hard, and an ongoing job to improve, so, that’s something I have control over.
I fear the most the things I do not have control over in my life. I have lived through my worst fear and still fear it and it is death. Not my death. I do not fear my death at all. I am concerned with making sure my children are provided for and worry about their feelings. But I don’t really fear of my own dying. I fear the death of another loved one. I fear it because I have had so many in my lifetime. I have no control over when it’s someone’s time to move on from this earth. I don’t handle my loved ones passing well. It consumes me and puts me into a deep depression. It’s a place I have to be weary of because I tend to self destruct.
I am human though. So with all the loses I have had in my lifetime, it’s still easy to forget during the day to day hassles of life, that you can’t take loved ones for granted.
I fear never overcoming the things within me that hold me back from reaching my potential. I know, I know, I know that I am blessed with terrific God-given talents. I know deep down that I am smart, creative, gifted and that I have the potential for greatness. But I am standing in my own way and I don’t know why or how to undo the restraints I have placed on myself. Although I worry, as most mothers probably do, whether my children will become the happy and successful people I see them capable of being, I know that I could influence their view of what is possible within themselves if I set a good example. So more than anything, I fear growing old and knowing that I never did anything with what I have been given.
My current fear is the dark! SInce childhood I can go out in the dark, even in the house when the lights are off, I’m scared. When I stand somewhere too high I have fear too.
Certainly the death of a loved one would make me fear. I fear being lonely and cling to them even I don’t have them anymore. I even think that when they die, I wouldn’t know what to do in their funeral. Fear of the unknown that I haven’t anticipated…
There are two things that scare me a lot.
First, losing a loved one. I know that one day we all have to depart from this world but still it scares me when I get a feeling of losing my loved ones. :(
Second, getting hospitalised….. I hate to get hospitalised for any reason. Many negative people told me in the past that I’m overweight and due to this I can fall into medical issues. People said that obese people are more prone to surgeries and likewise. From then onwards sometimes I visualise that I’m ill and a doctor is performing a surgery on me. Surgery to me is like doctor performing POSTMORTEM on living person. Lol. :)
But I’m sure soon I will manage to control all my fears. :)
Thank God for personal development,because if such a question was put to me 10 years ago, i could have come up with all sorts of fear. Most fear is only in one’s mind,based on past experiences. Back then,most uncertainities used to scare the hell out me just by thinking about them. I could sit there and start drawing pictures of what will happen to me when perceived scenarios ever happened to me. Not knowing that the fear was more agonizing than the actual experience itself. Although i understand fear now, this does not mean that if i was to be walking on a dark night and out of the blue something made a surprise presence,that i could not fringe with fear. This is natural and it does not separate the positive
from the negative thinkers. We all freeze with fear. So with me, the biggest fear is not fear itself, but the agony involved in thinking about it. That very torture when i picture my self facing such experience. I do not fear death, for example but i know that the very pain leading to ones death is agonizingly painful.
FEAR…. FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL…
First I would like to write about what I used to fear that is no longer a fear.
I heard the statement years ago that fear is “false evidence appearing real” and it comes to mind as I contemplate my greatest fear. So when it comes to death of a loved one, or myself, I don’t think there is any such thing as death. It is false evidence that the person who has died is dead, they are very alive, just not as they once were. When loved ones die, they are moving on to another level of life…we are the ones in “imprisoned splendor”-our magnificent bodies, our earthly lives that have come here for our soul expression, which is itself on its series of adventures…
Well, these are thoughts and awarenesses that have become beliefs, or better stated, a knowingness, so although there is huge sadness for my loss of loved ones, I have a respect that Creator has the Bigger Plan in Mind. In that trust, fear that I used to have has dissolved. Fear transforms into trust that the one who has passed on is taken care of on the continuing story of the soul, and my life that was intricately involved with the one who has shed the mortal coil is given the love and support that all is well, and that there is no separation, even though I dearly miss the physical connection. I become very still in my meditation time, and am all ears for that inner listening that guides and loves and supports me moment to moment. And I am truly grateful for that.
Life is such a Mystery.
I feel connected to those loved ones who have passed on, there is no death, so I do not fear that for myself or others. But I do fear being unable to figure out how to help myself or take care of myself if I were physically challenged, homeless, taken advantage of, ignored, things like that. Losing my independence to make my own decisions, to get up and go, and follow my intuition and just be, or not fulfilling the destiny I am on a mission to succeed in, thoses things really creep me out.
Also, even with independence in tact, I do love to connect and spend time with close friends, and to not have that kind of closeness, or those who genuinely care about me, or that I make a difference in their lives as I do in theirs, that is is a very scarey thought. There are ways to make new friends throughout one’s life, but there is definitely something very valuable to me about sharing earliest memories with someone, one’s roots and growing up years. Having that sense of history. So not having all that accompanies the fear of not having independence, feeling very alone in the physical sense.
So. Appearances can be deceiving, and many “fears” that I have had about many things break down, dissolve into nothingness, when I really have a careful look about what is really going on. It’s not about living in a fantasy world, or a world where I make the rules, it’s about living in the Truth, or what is really going on underneath the surface, with the trust and faith that everything really is in Divine Order, and things happen for a Greater Reason that we do not always understand, but would be wise if we choose to be accepting of. A Way will appear. We are guided. No matter what fork in the road one takes, it will lead around to the path one is meant to be on for the Greatest Good.
Bett
My greatest fear is that I will always fall just short of success. I am my own worst critic and nothing I do is quite good enough for me, myself, or I. If I can not find a way to get a handle on this then nothing I ever attempt will be fully successful…..that is my greatest fear.
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