This is Day 13 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 7 Important Reasons Why You Should Set GoalsI have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :DWith that said, let’s now move to today’s question!
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 13 of 21DJC! :) Yesterday’s question was: “What Are Your Biggest Goals in the Next Few Years?“. (Read the responses.)It was really very exciting reading all your upcoming life goals! I love setting goals, because when we do them, we become architects of our life, envisioning what we want to see in our life, rather than living it based on what we have before us now. Goal setting is the first step towards living a conscious life of our creation. Read more: 7 Important Reasons Why You Should Set GoalsI have a lot of huge things which I’m very, *very* excited to start working on for the upcoming period. One thing is definitely Personal Excellence. Having reached the one million pageviews / month mark a month ago, I’m very excited to hit the next major traffic milestones: such as 2 million pageviews / month, 5 million pageviews, 10 million pageviews, and so on. After 3 years of running the site, I’ve come to realize that all my other business goals are ancillary to this goal, because when I hit a higher traffic, all other things naturally fall into place, be it helping others to grow, hitting revenue targets, receiving new business opportunities, media mentions, and so on.The other thing which I’m very much looking forward is having my talkshow. Long-time readers would know I had a short-lived talkshow 2 years ago, The Celes Show (You can see it at CelesShow.com, though the site has been abandoned for the past 2 years and not updated). I stopped working on it because it took up too much of my time from PE, and I realized it wasn’t the right time for me to launch the show, because the foundations of PE was not laid out at that time (the blog was only 1 year old at that time).But now, I think it’s time for me to consider bringing it back. I won’t be doing it right away now, because there are still other factors of consideration, and also because I still want to work on broadening the reach of PE first before I move into other projects. But it’s fair to say that I’ll look into it with a more serious intent sometime next year (2012).That said, it’s one thing to set big goals and dreams, and another thing to take action to achieve them. Keep in mind what you have written for yesterday’s question, because we are going to get working on them really soon. In our upcoming Live a Better Life in 30 Days next month (Dec), we will be drilling into our life goals with more detail, and creating an action plan to achieve our goals. It’ll be an exciting month, an opportunity to review how 2011 has been for us, and an excellent way to end off the year of 2011 – with a big bang and a huge vision for 2012, which I see as a year of new beginnings. :DWith that said, let’s now move to today’s question!21DJC Day 13
Today’s question is deviates from the 12 questions so far:What Do You Fear Most?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D
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I won’t change enough for my dreams to manifest.
Hmmm…tough one! I’m not that fearful anymore.
After thinking hard, I guess my biggest fear is not living my life’s purpose.
Simple sentence, lot of work ;)
I think m biggest fears in this world, is to not live life to its fullest and not reconciling my my past. Healing myself in heart mind and soul, and body.
I want to take risks to be able to say that I have done things that I have regretted in passing up in years past,
There were so many times that I have passed up thigs because I was under the control in abusive relationships,
Now that I am free of those that have had control, I want to do and experience things,
My biggest fear is leaving this world being ordinary. I WANT O BE EXTROARDINARY in something anything, I am already slightly eccentric, I just want to be considered Lovingly and eccentric and extroardinary,
I haven’t been able to live in my past, so I want to live in my future.
Dying without living and loving to excess is my second fear,
I think that today my fears are fewer than the ones I had in the past.
But today I still fear to show to the one I love that I’m attracted by him, I’m quite puzzled and I question myself on how I should do and behave.
I still have some nagging fears on my skills, doubt is always there not so far but it also acts as an incentive not to rest on my laurels.
I slightly fear to be suffocated by others. I want to remain free of my choices, my desires…
I fear most about facing my Creator as believe in afterlife…and then comes the fear of losing my loved ones
My biggest fear is the fear of losing someone I love, of being abandoned… of loneliness. I made a lot of compromises just because I was paralyzed by even the thought of being alone.
I also fear of extreme poverty, like not having a roof above my head or enough food to keep me going. I understand that the only way to fight against these fears is my personal growth, my independence.
Other fears that kept me from having a healthy life – fear of embarrasing moments in public and what other might think, fear of speaking in public. I still haven’t overcome my shyness and awkwardness in social life.
I’m not afraid of dying, but I’m afraid of standing there in God’s presence, knowing I wasted my life and that I haven’t achieved anything.
My greatest fear is losing my family and loved ones. My father died 10 years back and my grandmother 3 years back. In both cases, they were not sick and died suddenly. Since then, I also have a fear of planning my travels well in advance in case I have to cancel.
Another one of my fears is losing my independence , having to depend on someone else. First, I fear losing my financial independence. I also fear being sick and having to rely on someone else for basic everyday things.
I fear getting a life threatning illness and leaving my family. I have had three very important people pass away in my life due to cancer and I have seen firsthand how this affects family members. The emotional turmoil, the financial burden, the hospital stays. My wish would be for no one to ever have to endure that, but of course I know, this is a part of life. I also don’t know if I would be able to cope with the fact that I would be dying. Some would argue that my relationship with God just isn’t strong enough. I just say that I am afraid to die!
I fear failure. I am a perfectionist and I want to see everything work perfectly. At the same time, I am realistic and pragmatic and know all too well that things will not always work perfectly. That is why we design into our projects Plan Bs and PlanCs or alternative driving routes or secondary subsystems to take over if the first one fails. I tend to live my life with a healthy dose of Plan B & alternative strategies in case the first one fails. But deep down, I do fear failure to achieve my goals and dreams. I work very hard at them, daily, weekly, long term, but if I were not to achieve them (and they are indeed pretty up there), I know I would not be very happy with failure. Obviously I should try to rationalize that even going for such goals is a great endeavour that most won’t undertake in their lives and I should even be glad to be trying. But that sort of rationalization does not work for me since I do not like the approach of comparing myself to others to make me feel better. I want to feel better from within and use my surroundings to enhance it, not be the basis of it. I also know that in order to achieve great things, you learn the most by failure. And I love learning. But I do not love to fail. When I do fail in things, I do look upon the situation at a “teachable moment” but sometimes those times come way too far after the event that it’s impact is not as effective. But it is still part of the process I have developed and used to legitimize failure since I do need to try and then fail in order to learn to be better, do better, etc. and then try again. There are times when the fear of failure actually is strong enough to prevent me to try. I do not like those times at all. I do not understand them either, but that is why I think it’s what I fear most since those times remain in my mind for years.
Losing those closest to me…not being able to protect those closest to me.
Being in a plane crash.
That it has all been for nothing.
Right now, I am immobilized by the fear of having to ask a family member for money or my kids and I will be evicted.
I am just as frightened of applying for assistance with food and medical coverage.
I have anxiety attacks just thinking about it and it leaves me immobile and instead of dealing with our current issues, I do nothing but panic thinking about dealing with these people.
I can completely relate to the idea that it has all been for nothing. My spirituality has been taxed to the extreme lately because I am finding that I fit nowhere and am struggling to find myself in the mix.
I fear presenting my way in a negative way the most. I care about how others see me. When I am being perceived as bad or not good enough, it hits me. Being an emotional person, I will feel dejected, and I will look down upon myself. Fortunately, I have somewhat improved over the years, and now I behave in that manner less and less. I have people who would help me overcoming that in various ways, and I am really appreciative of what they do, although my personality is still forcing me to keep believing in my principles.
My major fear is losing control meaning I can’t do it. Ironically, I know I do not control anything. But, being overwhelmed, meaning I can;t do it is terrible.
I have thins very big fear that I won’t be able to make my way in to my life. I am so afraid that I’ll just take what comes to me from life and not really control it. A lot of people who surround me just exist and don’t really live. I don’t really have any examples to follow and I really want to make my wishes true. I hope I’ll find all the help and support here cause I really need it. :)
What I fear the most is people not liking me. Yep, I know. This is a pretty crippling fear, ever since I was last picked at a game a long time ago in school, I am constantly worried that no one will like me or choose me or something.
I get anxious everytime my teachers assign group work, I am terrified of no one wanting to work with me.
I am working on conciously overcoming this fear and building up the belief that I am good enougj just the way I am, there is no need to overcompensate or become a “social worker”.
So far so good, but it’s an everyday battle.
I fear my own powers.
I’m not afraid of anything because I’m too young to fear. At least… that’s what I constantly tell myself, even though I know it’s far from true.
For the most part, it benefits me to pretend that I’m fearless. Otherwise, I would never have taken that first stroke in the swimming pool and wander into that area where my feet can no longer touch the bottom and I have nothing to hold on to. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have went out on all those excursions around the city, without a map and without even a bottle of water. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have confessed to her…
There are some things that I should fear, but I am too bold/stupid/young and naive to fear. I have taken risks that could have landed me in the hospital. I have taken risks that could have led my peers to ostracize me. And I still take life for granted (probably because none of my friends and family have passed away yet).
But I do fear. My greatest fear is probably rejection. I remember how I used to pester my friends with phone calls and MSN chats just so I wouldn’t “lose touch” with them. I remember how I used to spill my heart out to girls I like because I thought that way, they’d “love” me more and I would be less likely to get rejected. I still do such foolish things, just not as much.
My fear of rejection is the reason why I get rejected, most of the time. I make mistakes because I’m afraid to make mistakes.
What’s the worst that could happen if I get rejected? I start back on square one. I wouldn’t lose anything, I just wouldn’t have gained anything. But I still can’t help being afraid…
I am afraid of change. Sometimes I have big dreams and than I get scared and do nothing to make them come true.
I am afraid of being alone in dark.
I am afraid of the Borg and not being able to live free.
Most of all, I am afraid of failing in every aspect of my life.
The thing i fear the most is FAILURE.
I fear not getting my degree in civil engineering, or not passing my classes.
I fear making mistakes because of the consequences they might have and the people I might end up disappointing.
– Losing a family member. My family is so precious and I don’t want
anything to happen. My father died when I was 17 and my younger
brother died of cancer in 2007. Is this fear irrational? Is there
anything I can do about it except love my family every day which I
am doing?
– Losing my sense of SIGHT. That would be the worst handicap.
– Losing my sense of HEARING. No hearing means no communication and no
enjoyment of music, speech and the sounds of nature
– Death. One day it will happen – i would be happy to live to 90.
But I live to make the most of each day so as to have no regrets.
– Fear of deterioting brain function – dementia, memory loss, or any
mental illness.
– Losing my job. I can always get another one!
my biggest fear is that I will never find a home, somewhere where I will be safe and able to stop and get off the roundabout call uncertainty
my only other fear is that society will continue to encourage individualism to the detrement of connect to other humans and the stories we all have will no longer be given to other and none will be given to us and the spirit of the universe will cry out in isolation,
the following is an extract from my book but it says clearly what I feel and fea
Humans are a social creature, that’s the way we were made. Being with others and talking and listening to what other people have to say is how we learn and grow within ourselves. It is how we gain insight to who we are and who we want to be. With the creation of computer networking social interaction has become a two edged sword. On the one hand people that have some issues with face to face contact are touching people they normally wouldn’t interact with, however the other side to the sward is tht people that have no problem with face to face contact have become shut away and societies all over the world are placing huge limitations on what knowledge and ideas and insights are outside in the beautiful world because more and more people are hidden behind their phone, computers and ipods. We don’t talk to strangers even to say hi. So we end up with the same knowledge and ideas and no inspiration to learn more. I find that very sad.
I would say I´m not really afraif of anything.If for some reason I feel afraid of something I try to rationalize what´s happening to me and I try to stay calm and relaxed, always looking for solutions no matter how bad the situation is.
But there is one thing I´m afraid of. I´m afraid of dying without being able to do everything I want in life, without fullfiling my dreams or at least fighting for them. I don´t want to die knowing that I didn´t do everything I could have done, that I didn´t fight for what I believed. My dreams are so importantant to me, and I need to know that at least I tried my best even if I didn´t get what I wanted. I´m afraid of giving up.
Is “snakes” a stupid answer ? Probably. I could also say that I’m afraid of the dark (not perfect darkness, which is really good to sleep or think, but this almost-dark state where you don’t see things but can discern their shadows). It’s childish, I know.
My biggest fear is being alone. I don’t mean not having anyone love me, but really being alone, with absolutely no interaction. No chats on the computer, no meeting friends in a bar, no school with annoying people in it. Nobody. No music, no art, nothing. Being alone – that would be truly terrifying.
I think a lot of people probably have said this – but failure scares me the most. To me, failure is also associated with disappointing others and not meeting expectations (whether they were set by me or others). It leaves me depressed, restless and hopeless and often demotivates me for a while. It is definitely not an easy thing to overcome but I try to think of it as a way to change perspectives – What did I miss? what caused failure? How could I have done differently, and how can I move on? What can I do better? This last question is probably the most important one to overcome the fear, since it could be a milestone for new success.
There is nothing to fear but fear itself-FDR
That was the first thing that came into my mind.
However, I think that is easier said than done. I am afraid of everything from rejection to failure, sicknesses that my family members have, and many more. I fear that I will become the person I don’t want to be, I fear I will hurt those around me, I fear for the way I act. I fear that my attitude will explode and make ones around me hurt.There are too many things to be afraid of in this world.
I fear for many things, I wish to get out of it. I fear that I will take life for granted.
There are too many things to be afraid of…too many sorrows. But without it, life would not be the way it is right now.
So perhaps we should turn fear into a positive energy and embrace those “fears” and learn from it. Turning “fear” into an experience in life will be one of my life goals.
What I fear the most is when I gonna lose my parents!
This question pop up to me when they went through surgery and also when few of my friends told me that one of their parents or close relative passed away or even at work, when going through customers’ paper work that make me realise how hard it is to lose someone dear to you.
I will spend more time with parents where and when I can, pamper them when I can..
Don’t know how I gonna handle it when it will happen, but meanwhile stay positive and pray that parents live long…
It’s kind of sad but we all have to face this situation one day
What I fear most is Public Speaking. Fear of stammering in front of crowds. And this is why I join Toastmasters International to overcome this fear.
Alban,
I am in Toastmasters as well. I am glad to hear you joined Toastmasters and I am sure you are growing in confidence and speaking skills.
Charles
For sure Fellow Tms, Tks!
My biggest fear is always for my children and my husband. I truly can’t bear the thought of the death of any one of them. I realize, as I write, is that what helps most is to appreciate each of them as much as is humanly possible each and every day – and also to let them know how much they are appreciated and loved.
If I’m honest, I know I also have a fear of being happy – as if that is wrong somehow. I have often felt that it is wrong to be happy when others suffer so much and also because I think I don’t deserve joy and happiness. So irrational, I know. This fear is related to another fear I have which is a fear of being myself. I am really pleased to say that I am becoming increasingly happy in my own skin – it is a continuing process though. Seems so silly written down, but it’s been a major fear in my life – fearing who I am!
Not being able to cope with life, finding the right words for the occasion, fear of death.
I am changing my mindset now and I am finding strategies to deal with these on a daily basis.
– Learning from my mistakes by writing, noting the correction and visualising the next time without an error.
– Looking at successful people at seeing what techniques they use and experimenting with their ideas to see what works for me.
– Reading inspirational thoughts.
– Practice, practice, practice.
– Discussion it always unearths fresh ideas, new methods and aids in clarifying my thoughts.
Life is a game and preparation is a significant part.
My biggest fears is that someone will kidnap my child. I am so overprotective of him I can’t hardly be away from him for a second. When I go to the store I put him in the buggy. I will not let him walk next to me without holding my hand. This might just be some anxiety brought on by my mother ranting about how it can happen to me. I have fears of death of loved ones. I have fears of messing things up for myself. I have fears of failing at school. It is so important to me. In my late 20’s I have already experienced family and friends not having much to do with me so I am not afraid of that. I fear of dying without being able to be there for my son and watch him grow up. I had a few potential health problems that turned out to be nothing. I don’t won’t to miss out on being there for him and watching him grow up. Also fear of someone hurting my kid.
I think my insecurity will cease of being afraid of someone kidnapping my son when he starts preschool. As for dying to young I am becoming a health fanatic so I will live a long time. As for loss of loved ones everyone is in good health at the moment nothing to worry about. We all die eventually it is apart of life and I will handle it the best I can if it ever happens. Also with school I will never give up and I will finish. No matter how long it takes I will keep pushing forward because failure is not trying.
Hmmm… Fear. haha I use to be afraid of everything and then one day my father told me that the fear is all in my head and that when I am afraid that I should take it as a challenge to overcome and prove myself to no one else but myself:) He told me fear was a good thing to have and that fear is what keeps us alive. he also said there are many fears that are useless and made up out of thin air.
I remember being very young and suffering from night terrors and again my father told me that when I was scared of something that I could not die in my dreams and to turn around and just let the monster eat me and then when I was in it’s belly I could just crawl out the other end, haha. and it worked. I was not afraid of anything anymore.
until I realized that i don’t live in a dream and I can get hurt, disabled or even die! but then again my father told me that life is what we make of it. he said look at all of the religions and different beliefs in the world and said how could there be just one and all the others were wrong. he said non of them are wrong. that people were missing the point. that they were all just different paths to get to the same point. back to our true selfs.
And so i created my own and choose to believe in rebirths. so now i’m not even afraid of dying anymore because i can try it over in the next life. but he also made me realize that life is not easy and that it takes a lot of work so it makes sense to get it right the first time:)
wow long background just for a simple fear but if I had to name something that I fear of most it would be living a long healthy life full of adventures, laughter and great memories but having never found it’s counter part, soulmate, lover, partner or simply best friend. I’m afraid of being 40,50,60 or even 70 and going home to an empty house. even though I know in my heart that i’m never truly alone, the rest wouldn’t matter without that smile, hug and kiss everyday:)
Wow, what a touching story. Your father sounds like a very wise man.
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