This is Day 10 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 10 of 21DJC! :)Yesterday’s question was: “What Drives You?“. There were so many wonderful responses by all of you. Some of you are driven by growth. Some of you are driven by the desire to make a difference. Some of you are driven by money. Some of you are driven by need for security. Some of you are driven by death – from the death of those around you to knowing you’ll die one day. Some of you are driven by the love for life. Some of you are driven by connection. Some of you are driven by the ability to serve the world.Reading Personal Excellence, you should already know what I’m driven by. I’m driven by the desire to grow and help others grow. This is my life purpose; this is my reason for being. This is why I started Personal Excellence to begin with – to serve others and help them grow. It is my wish that we will be united as one world one day, when all of us achieve our highest consciousness.There was an interesting point made by reader J, who shared a Tony Robbins theory that people are driven by pain and pleasure. While it is a valid observation, a more meaningful way to classify our motivators IMO would be (a) love-based drivers or (b) fear-based drivers.Love-based drivers refer to motivations that are rooted from a higher place, above and beyond our physical self. Examples include desire to help others in need, to make the world a better place, to seek betterment, to make a difference, to empower others, and so on. These drivers can be characterized by the way they “pull” us forward in life. People motivated by love-based drivers act out of natural desire; they do not need to be triggered, reminded, or made to act. They do it on their own accord.Fear-based drivers refer to motivations that are rooted from ego and the physical identity; they are very much centered on who we are and preservation of self. Examples include desire to prove one’s worth, to acquire material wealth as status symbols to others, to achieve a certain “place” in the society to make his/her mark, to leave a legacy before one dies, fear of death, to put others down, to get ahead in life, to prevent pain in life, and so on. These drivers are usually characterized by how they “push” us to take action. People motivated by fear-based drivers act because they have to do it; it’s driven by urgency. They often suffer from procrastination, lack of discipline, laziness, etc in some areas of their life.So what determines our drivers of motivation? It’s linked to our consciousness level. People in fear-based consciousness are primarily motivated by fear-based factors, while people in love-based consciousness are primarily motivated by love-based factors. Since most of us are somewhere in between, we experience a mix of both drivers, with a predominant bias to one category.Ultimately, those who have reached the highest consciousness level i.e. Enlightenment will be motivated solely by love and light. That’s the level when fear and pain will no longer play any role in our life. Reader Bob puts it very well with this example: “… my thoughts are that in a higher conscious state we will not be affected by fear/pain although this might happen to us ie. the death of a loved one”. That’s because it’s at this consciousness level where we are understand events that normally trigger fear-based emotions at a transcendental level compared to those who vibrate at other levels.With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 10 of 21DJC! :)Yesterday’s question was: “What Drives You?“. There were so many wonderful responses by all of you. Some of you are driven by growth. Some of you are driven by the desire to make a difference. Some of you are driven by money. Some of you are driven by need for security. Some of you are driven by death – from the death of those around you to knowing you’ll die one day. Some of you are driven by the love for life. Some of you are driven by connection. Some of you are driven by the ability to serve the world.Reading Personal Excellence, you should already know what I’m driven by. I’m driven by the desire to grow and help others grow. This is my life purpose; this is my reason for being. This is why I started Personal Excellence to begin with – to serve others and help them grow. It is my wish that we will be united as one world one day, when all of us achieve our highest consciousness.There was an interesting point made by reader J, who shared a Tony Robbins theory that people are driven by pain and pleasure. While it is a valid observation, a more meaningful way to classify our motivators IMO would be (a) love-based drivers or (b) fear-based drivers.Love-based drivers refer to motivations that are rooted from a higher place, above and beyond our physical self. Examples include desire to help others in need, to make the world a better place, to seek betterment, to make a difference, to empower others, and so on. These drivers can be characterized by the way they “pull” us forward in life. People motivated by love-based drivers act out of natural desire; they do not need to be triggered, reminded, or made to act. They do it on their own accord.Fear-based drivers refer to motivations that are rooted from ego and the physical identity; they are very much centered on who we are and preservation of self. Examples include desire to prove one’s worth, to acquire material wealth as status symbols to others, to achieve a certain “place” in the society to make his/her mark, to leave a legacy before one dies, fear of death, to put others down, to get ahead in life, to prevent pain in life, and so on. These drivers are usually characterized by how they “push” us to take action. People motivated by fear-based drivers act because they have to do it; it’s driven by urgency. They often suffer from procrastination, lack of discipline, laziness, etc in some areas of their life.So what determines our drivers of motivation? It’s linked to our consciousness level. People in fear-based consciousness are primarily motivated by fear-based factors, while people in love-based consciousness are primarily motivated by love-based factors. Since most of us are somewhere in between, we experience a mix of both drivers, with a predominant bias to one category.Ultimately, those who have reached the highest consciousness level i.e. Enlightenment will be motivated solely by love and light. That’s the level when fear and pain will no longer play any role in our life. Reader Bob puts it very well with this example: “… my thoughts are that in a higher conscious state we will not be affected by fear/pain although this might happen to us ie. the death of a loved one”. That’s because it’s at this consciousness level where we are understand events that normally trigger fear-based emotions at a transcendental level compared to those who vibrate at other levels.With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!21DJC Day 10
For today’s question, I’d like you to think about this:Who Do You Enjoy Spending Time With?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D
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If I really want to enjoy myself, I would say with someone who makes me laugh. I love to laugh. It would make me so happy if I could laugh long and loud every single day of my life.
I enjoy spending time with energetic, enthusiastic & optimistic people. They can be either friends, family members or colleagues.
I also enjoy spending a lot of time with myself in order to make myself a better person. I read self help articles, motivational book & try my best to apply it in my daily life.
I enjoy spending times with my husband because he makes me laugh most of the time and always stands by me. He is comforting, not gossipy and a very objective person.
On top of that, I really enjoy spending my times with my parents and some old friends in Indonesia because they know me best and are the true like-minded friends who celebrate with me when I am happy, console me when I am sad and correct me when I am about to make mistakes. Also, thanks to the mother tongue that we all share, it is easier for us to deeply talk and laugh out loud about every little thing that happens around us when we meet offline and online.
People that I go on weekend retreats with often. They are a lot older than I am (I’m 21, their average age is 40ish) but they are wise, loving, caring individuals, and the conversations we have are positive and thoughtful. I like spending time with people of my own age group, but not so much.
I like spending time with my sister as well, but often times she’s busy or just not in the mood.
I don’t like spending time with my parents, but I might be changing that soon.
My friends. But I started to really like my relatives. I hope I can make thing work.
I enjoy spending time with a number of people, the first ones being my wonderful boyfriend and my perfect little adorable sweet puppy. I guess she’s not so much of a puppy anymore (8 months) but I still love her like we adopted her yesterday. My boyfriend is the one person in the world that I can literally talk about 100% anything with. I’m very close with my aunt and my sister too, and I really enjoy spending time with them, but sometimes I need to censor myself if it’s “relationship & sex talk” or if it has to do with someone doing or saying something negative towards me, because they will not forget it a week or a month later. With my boyfriend I don’t have to censor myself, we can talk and laugh about literally anything, or we don’t even have to say anything at all. Just being in each other’s arms is sometimes enough for the both of us. I love him with all of my heart and feel so blessed to have spent the last 3 ½ years with him, and I’m looking forward to many more. My dog has a part of my heart no one else has access to. She is always there when I need someone to hug or someone to love. She loves me unconditionally, as I do her, and she is always willing to spend time together. She is the cutest thing in the world to me and is a prime example of nature’s perfection.
I also enjoy spending time with all of the shelter dogs at the pound that I volunteer for. I feel so honored to be able to give them love at a time when they really need it. It is my privilege to fight for their life, and speak up for them when they can’t. I know I can’t save them all and I probably irritate a lot of people by always trying to ask everyone if they can foster or adopt, even if it’s temporary, but if I can save even one dog then it’s all worth it. They give me a feeling I’ve never had before. A feeling like I was put on this earth for THEM, and nothing else can possibly compete with that feeling because it’s a very unique feeling all on its own.
I also enjoy spending time with my Great-Grandma Bettye. We are so much alike, and I’ve learned so much from her. She’s influenced my degree of cleanliness around the house, taught me to cook, attempted to teach me to garden (that didn’t catch on so well, lol), and she always has the best advice. I absolutely love spending time with her and really look forward to our visits. I love how she’s almost 82 and still worries about her weight so that she can fit into all of her new fashionable clothes that she gets from Nordstrom’s. She subscribes to Vogue and watches the E! and Style Networks. She is the hippest 82 year old I’ve ever met and I feel so lucky to call her my grandma!
I couldnt pick just one person because I spend great time in diferent groups. I think we all love to have some time with family, other times with frinds, ather time alone, etc.
The time I spend with my 3 girls its awesome not only becasue I adore them, but also because we share lots of activities. I never imagined that when they were adults we could be so close and so good friends as we are. We have artistic interesses, like museums, music concerts, opera, ballet, etc. We like going out in architectural visits to Mexico city down town, we love traveling, shopping, and we laugh a lot, talk about past events, the future plans, fun things and it´s great to have 3 daughters, I fell like having my girls club…!
Spending time with diferent groups of frinds; I have the religous ones, with whom I go on missions trips once a year, we have our religous days of praying, etc. It´s great to share my spirituality with this “girls”.
I have the group of the mom´s from school, we talk about the girls, and about the family, and some fun things. We travel a week a year and we have a blast, laughing, dancing, excersising, talking so much, etc.
I have the best frind from middle school, and it´s great to have a frinds from so long and share some many memories with. We like to go to the theatre and we eat out a lot in fancy restaurants, we spolid our selves a lot…!
I think spending time with the loved ones is the best investment to can make.
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