21DJC Day 8 – On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?

This is Day 8 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.

Empty book for journaling

Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 8 of 21DJC! :)

Yesterday’s question was: “What is the Most Important Thing You’ve Learned in Life So Far?“. (Read the responses.)

There have been so many things I’ve learned to date, and each of them has been important in its own right. From lessons like follow your heart, trust your instinct, always address the root cause of issues and not the effects, open your heart to others and others will do the same, the outer state of your life reflect your inner beliefs than anything else, when there’s a will there’s a way, nothing is impossible in this world, your inner self has all the answers, you always have a choice, the limits we face in life are to do with us than anything else, growing is the best thing one can do as a person, life is what you make it out to be, the only limits we face in life are ourselves, and many more.

Hence, if you are to ask me one thing I’ve learned in life so far, I’d say it’s that I’ve learned nothing. That there are so many new things out there, so many incredible, talented people, so many wonderful experiences that I’ve yet to experience. That the more I learn and grow, the more I realize how much I’ve to learn. I’ve found this to be especially true since I started my travels.

The implication then, is that we should always be open to new things. Don’t close yourself off from new experiences. Don’t close yourself off from people. Don’t rule out new opportunities for growth. Most importantly, don’t be closed off in your beliefs. (On Days 26-27 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program, you identify your limiting thoughts and replace them with empowering ones.)

With that said, let’s now move to today’s question!

21DJC Day 8

Today’s question is this:

On a Scale of 1-10, How Much Do You Love Yourself?

Self love

Self-love is a topic that’s so important, yet rarely talked about in the realm of personal growth. Hence, today I’d like to ask you to reflect on this: How much do you love yourself on a scale of 1-10, where 1 is the lowest and 10 is the highest? And why?

Your Task Today:

  1. Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
  2. Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
  3. Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
Look forward to reading your answers! :D

((Images: Empty book for journaling, Self love))

212 comments
  1. I’ve realized the way I treat others is a reflection of how much I love myself.
    I realize I do not love myself very much at all. 3 out of 10.
    This is something I have to work on. High priority!
    I’ll see whether Celes can point me to a few resources in tomorrow’s recap.

  2. I believe that a person should be judged on their morals, attitude and principles.

    With that, I’m sure that for being kind I score a few points. The most important things in my life are my family and friends, no matter what I’m always trying my hardest to be there and to always contribute efforts for a good time. I will always put my family first before myself.

    There are times when I make really stupid decisions and hurt the people I love, through ignorance and being head strong, and there are times that I dont see situations for what they are and can make people feel bad without rational thought. This is why I lose three points.

    I’m always trying to be the best that I can be to make my friends and family feel loved. There are times that I have dedicated months to helping my friends and family to over come obstacles.

    I tend to be happy nearly all of the time and will always find the positive in any situation. I am honest and truthful, sometimes a little too truthful.

    So all in all, I get a 7. The other three points are slowly being rectified and addressed.

  3. 7 – I really hate myself sometimes. But I still feel lucky that I’m alive and I can 3 times a day.

  4. i guess 5. because i’m constantly changing my habits and developing healthier ones. but there’s room for much more.

  5. Oh gosh, this is actually a difficult question. I mean, when I have been on a “roll” with like, doing good things and getting my stuff done, I would say I love myself around 7.
    But when I am just not happy and it feels like everything is crashing down around me, i would say 2 or 3…
    But right now it’s a 7 or 8

  6. Ninschubur 14 years ago

    This question is not easy to answer. My brain knows, that I am a wonderful person, intelligent, pretty and with many personal qualities. I know that my life is beautiful and that I am doing it very well.

    On the other side theres something in me that hates me and nags at my self-confidence. I am not sure where this comes from and I know that this is not right, but I can´t make this stop. Not yet. This miracle is still to solve :-)

    So how should I answer? My head will say it´s an 8, my inner me will say maybe a 3 or 4. I think it´s this mismatch, which stands in my way actually.

  7. My love for myself depends on the things I do, on the ways I act towards others. It’s 5. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Never 10.

    I don’t love myself to 10, because I have many flaws, especially my temper. I want to be a really really nice person, the one I thought I always was, but realized that I’m very very far from it.

    Sometimes I let myself to ignore everything that should be done, basically sabotaging all event that had been planned, if any. Thus – caring for myself only.

    It’s two sides. I know I should love myself more and then I would be more like the person I want to be. And I know that not-loving myself actually leads me towards the person I don’t want to be. It’s ironic how it works. It’s something I have not figured out yet.

  8. It’s a difficult question to answer – I mean really I don’t know how I feel about this. I’m torn between a 7 and an 8. I’m not sure if I can quite honestly say an 8 yet, but I know sometimes I am getting closer to it.

    I go through phases where I feel closer to my knowing my inner self and it makes me feel more confident, strong and complete. During these times I am usually working on bettering myself, absorbing inspiring information and taking care of my body. I am in a happy and introspective place, in rhythm with my spirit.

    Then I have set backs when my life gets too busy and chaotic and I don’t make the time for myself that I need. I get in this mind frame that it’s almost not important anymore because I am too busy and I ignore my own needs until my soul gets so starved that I crash and burn. This happens once and a while and then I need to re-evaluate how I am treating myself.

    I wish could always treat myself with kindness, like I would a best friend. Be supportive of myself, accepting and realize when I need to have some downtime. It is an important investment to build a friendship with your inner self. It takes time and commitment, just like any relationship, but the end when everything else fades away, all you really only have yourself so it’s important that you love that person.

  9. Sometimes 1, sometimes 10. It depends on the situation. Sometimes I do stupid thing which I regret later, and my love for myself is 1 at that times.
    Sometimes I do great things and love myself.

    All in all, there is more tens than ones, but in general it would be 7-8.

  10. Few years ago, it would have been 3-4 due to many reasons such as weight issues & boring social life.

    On a scale of 1-10, i would give myself about 7-8 now. I would say it all boils down to your own self esteem and confidence. I read a lot about these and i try to implement it. Let me start of by explaining about my weight issues. I use to be very skinny and i was fed up of people calling me that. I joined a gym, worked out and now everyone praises my body shape. When this happens, it increases your personal self esteem and confidence especially if there’s praises from the opposite sex. The same goes towards the way you carry yourself, when you feel confident of yourself, what others think does not matter. You know who you are and what you want to be!

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