This is Day 6 of the 21-Day Journaling Challenge held in Nov 2011. The challenge is now over but you can do the tasks in your own time. Visit the overview page for all the challenge tasks.
Hi everyone – Welcome to Day 6 of 21DJC! :)
Yesterday’s question was: “Who Is the Most Important Person to You in the World?“.
As usual, I had a lot of joy reading your responses. Some of you stated your mom as the most important person to you. Some of you said your father. Some of you said it was yourself. Some of you said your child(ren). Some of you said your spouse. Then there were other answers, including God / a higher power / spirit, your pet, your friends, etc.
There’s no right or wrong answer, because what’s important to us is relative. The same for all other questions posed in 21DJC – there is no such answer as a one, true answer. There’s only what’s true for yourself, and the objective of 21DJC is to invite you to reflect, connect with your inner self, and growing through the self reflection.
If you haven’t not realized, the very process of answering the questions for the past 5 days have helped to clarify your thoughts. Some people may look at the questions and think “Ah, I’ll think about it later” or “This is too much for me and I can’t be bothered to think”. But for these people, they feel resistant towards the questions because they’re in a mental fog. And this fog doesn’t go anywhere until they sit down and properly think about what they are resisting.
By thinking about who is the most important person to you in the world, it has helped you to gain awareness of who matters the most to you, and hopefully, made you realize how much you should treasure him/her. You live only once, so don’t hold back on your emotions towards this individual, thinking that you have “next time”. Be true to him/her and let him/her know of your gratitude towards him/her. Be grateful to the universe for bringing him/her into your life.
Me, the most important person in my life is my higher self. My parents are among the dearest to me in this life. So are my best friends, and good friends. And the same goes for all of you out there in this world; the very people whom I’ve dedicated my life to help to grow and live your best lives. There is no dispute that all of you are infinitely important to me.
But my higher self – the person who orchestrated my birth into this world, who has been watching me silently all this while, who has been supporting me in my life, who has been with me through thick and thin, who has always given me strength to carry on – is pretty much the reason why I’m even here, in this world. There’s still so much I don’t know; so much I have not done; so much I have to do, and I know that my higher self will be with me all the way till the end, to guide me, to support me, and to carry me whenever needed.
Because of her, I’m here. Because of her, I’m now living in alignment with my highest self. I’m far from being my highest self yet, though I’m working in that direction. The day will come when I will come full circle with her, and I look forward to that happening one day, soon.
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Some of you have gotten yourself an avatar since the start of the challenge, while many of you are still appearing as Red PE Logos! (i.e. the default profile picture that appears beside each comment)
While I love the PE logo, I would love even more to see an individualized picture when I read your writings. I’m sure the other participants would love that too! It can be your real life photo, to a picture of your favorite flower, to your pet, to some scenery, to some quirky text. The point is to let your true self shine.
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Look forward to seeing your new profile pictures! ;)
With that said, let’s now move to Day 6!
21DJC Day 6
After reflecting on the most important person in our life, today’s question brings us to a different emotion – but a very true one. Today, I’d like you to reflect on:
What Frustrates You?
Think about the times when you tend to feel frustrated. What typically happens in those times? What is it about those incidences that frustrate you? And why?
Your Task Today:
- Reflect and answer today’s question. There’s no word limit – whether minimum or maximum. Write as few or as many words as you want. It’s all up to what you want to express!
- Share your answer. After you are done writing, copy and paste your answer in the comments area and post it there.
- Check out other participants’ answers. Other participants will be sharing their answers too, so feel free to read and reply to their answers. This is a group course, so let’s support each other in these 21 days.
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I suppose on this question I could probably go on for weeks. The reality is life is frustrating at times. I’m going to do this question somewhat different than I have for the last 5 days. I’m going to make a list of the 10 things that frustrate me the most. It will go from the the worst things that frustrate me to the smallest.
1) I cannot stand when someone tells me they will do something and then won’t follow through. I try to keep my word at all times. Especially if I didn’t ask them to do something and they volunteer only to make an excuse for not doing it.
2) I get frustrated when my children won’t listen to me. I named them yesterday as the people most important to me in the world and they are. I just want them to have the same level of respect that I had for my grandparents that raised me. So this is a daily parenting chore.
3) People that are narrow minded frustrate me. Them being closed minded is their problem unless they try to push their beliefs on me or change my point of view about something I feel strongly on. There is a saying, “Never debate politics and religion.” I believe in this statement. I try hard not to judge anyone and get frustrated when someone condemns me over my beliefs.
4) It bothers me when someone constantly complains about their situation to me, yet they do nothing to better the situation. If a person is not going to fix their problems after asking me for advice, then I don’t want to hear about it for months to come.
5) It’s frustrating to see the elderly be disrespected by younger people and though I can voice my opinion, I can’t change it. Example: The way my 20 year old god-daughter speaks to her mother.
6) It’s frustrating when I try to better my life and it seems so many obstacles get in the way. I can work hard to overcome anything but I can’t change laws or company policies.
7) I get frustrated with myself if I allow someone else to ruin my mood or day because I gave them the power to do so when I choose to dwell on it.
8) I get frustrated when people complain about things so minor in life that someone else would love to have. Example: Someone complaining about their co-workers when I know so many that will take any job they can get.
9) A few qualities in a person that frustrates me is: no patience, no remorse, no empathy, no consideration, and just being self centered.
10) I try to avoid all of the 9 listed above and it’s hard sometimes. I work to keep my word to people, teach my children respect, keep my mind open to all views in life. I try not to complain about small things in life when their is so much to be thankful for. I will be 35 years old on the November 22 but I show elderly respect and people in general usually. I focus on not dwelling on the obstacles ahead and take things one day at a time. I try to show compassion, understanding, voice my remorse for mistakes, and try not to dwell on myself too long or how something is hard in my life.
So I get mostly frustrated with myself if I get side tracked or I am inpatient with my children or people. You can’t change people. You can only change yourself. The best way to make sure you have a bad day is spend the day thinking about yourself and your problems.
Closed-minded people frustrate me: people who are unwilling to look out of their comfort zone and see other people’s opinions and values as different, rather than wrong. I’m also frustrated by people being rude and aggressive; there’s no need for it!
Lateness also really drives me mad – whether it’s other people’s, my own or (especially) public transport! Such a petty thing, but I don’t drive and rely heavily on trains and buses, so when their lateness, constant, rubbish lateness, disrupts my schedule…it really makes me grumpy. I do hate commuting!
Finally, from a more personal point of view, it frustrates me most of all when people take me for granted. I’ll readily admit to being slightly too much of a people-pleaser, and often worry far too much what people think of me, or if i’m being a good enough girlfriend/friend/daughter etc. I wish that a) I didn’t worry so much about it all and b) I’d stop letting people walk over me in my attempts to be a better person. I think what frustrates me most about it is that I know it happens, but I always continue to blame myself for everything, rarely stand up for myself about it and get myself upset every time. I wish, just sometimes, I could cut myself some slack and change all the worrying.
I can empathize with being a people pleaser and yes people are taking you for granted. Don’t blame yourself for things and stand up for what you want & behind your actions. Trust me, I know it easier said than done but at some point you will say enough, and probably realize that you are judging yourself more harshly than others are.
There’s something else that frustrates me: I’m an analytical person with a flair for figures and the knack to quickly come to the bottom line of a problem or scenario.
The Internet frustrates me when I can’t figure something out, like this whole Gravatar business. I’ve added a picture and I have only one email account, but it doesn’t come up on the PE comments. This is really frustrating as I really like my avatar which is a very neat fractal.
I was having the same issue and quite frankly it is a frustrating feeling. I eventually went to Celestine’s facebook page and ask for help. I’m not sure what browser you use. I use Google Chrome. I had to go there and clear my browsing data or rather clear my cache. I was suggested to go to this site and after I cleared my cache my Gravatar appeared. http://en.gravatar.com/site/faq/ I hope this helps you some. :)
There are many things that frustrate me, but let’s start at the beginning:
Things relating to myself:
1. when I don’t have enough energy to do everything I want to do
2. when I don’t understand everything as quickly as I wish to
3. when I make silly mistakes
4. when I don’t concentrate
5. when I shout at my children. In fact this does more than frustrate me as I’m supposed to be their prime cheerleader and not shout, but it happens sometimes.
6. that I’ve picked up weight due to comfort eating. This is so uncomfortable and frustrating.
7. that I’m not able to get ahead in my job and am overwhelmed by having too much to do all of the time.
8. that my house is not clean and neat – just too tired to have it all perfect, but don’t like it.
9. that I don’t make enough time for myself and my family
Things relating to others around me:
1. when people in authority abuse their position
2. white supremacy attitudes
3. politicians who don’t care about the people who voted for them
4. when people in authority lord it over those they’re responsible for – no this actually makes me MAD
5. when people in authority enjoy setting you up for failure
6. when others are rude and in the process hurt and demean others to the point of them losing their jobs / decide to rather resign
7. when my husband says silly things
8. religious fanatics who seem to think that they alone have the answers and everybody else is wrong.
Things that are more trivial:
1. when my thighs strain into the pair of pants i initially bought as I needed bigger pants that would fit me nicely
2. when the electricity goes off for the nth time in the month
3. when the tap leaks in the bath and I’m trying to relax and read
4. when my son doesn’t want to go to school – almost every day
Actually, I must admit that things do not frustrate me as much as they did 10 years ago.
What frustrates me is the fact that there are so many barriers in front of me all the time. At work, I have been facing a lot of political enemies, including those in my own team, and it hinders my progress as well as that of the team. I can’t seem to find the right solution, and I have been feeling helpless. This really frustrates me.
Frustration comes to me most often when I am alone. Sitting on my bed, day-dreaming. To think about the future ahead of me, to think about the stacks of readings I have to do, to think about the assignments that are due in no time, to think about the final exam that’s coming up soon… These are all the things that frustrate me. And most importantly, perhaps loneliness. I don’t know, it’s just hard sometimes to be alone, with no one to talk to.
I rarely have time to think about my frustrations because i tend to focus on things and situations that make me happy. But i tried to come up with some things that usually bring those negative emotions out of me.
First self doubt and doubt that i am on the right path to self growth, enlightenment and my bright future, i rarely have those moments of uncertainty but when they do happen they frustrate me a lot and i can feel that those moments set me back few steps on my journey but i try to look at that as temptations that i overcome on my path.
Then i get frustrated when people that i love and care about fall into negative patterns and let negative and self limiting thoughts and emotions, i want to help them but my positive approach but that can easily be interpreted badly. I want to help everyone and i don’t want negativity from loved ones but i can’t control their mind so it is best that i let them be at those moments.
I also get frustrated when people rush me or slow me down i like to do things at my own paste sometimes slower and sometimes very rapid and other people also have their own pace winch i have to accept.
I can also get frustrated by some little things but not as much as i used to and i don’t let those little things ruin my energy and my day.
I tend to get over frustrations and misunderstanding and don’t let those affect me because i know where negativity leads and now i look at all negative events, situations and people as opportunity to prove to myself how much i have grown.
HaHa!
I feel like there are going to be some long post on this one:) Well for me, when i think of the times that i’m the most frustrated i’d have to say it’d be when i’m working on and or fixing cars. I don’t do it for a living but i definitely grew up learning as i would always watch my father fix our own cars when they broke. and they would break a lot! and when i got older i would start to help out and eventually started building and restoring my own car. and it doesn’t even matter what it is whether simple or very complex theres always a moment where i feel frustrated. and i’m not even sure what it is about cars but i’m pretty sure i’ve never been more mad at something then a stupid/simple bolt that just wont budge or breaks or strips or busts my knuckles and gets grease and dirt in my eyes.
I’ve gotten a lot better about staying calm and working through it, taking breaks and such but sometimes things just get heated. and that seems kind of weird coming from a guy that never gets heated or looses his temper but when it comes to working on cars it’s a different story. it almost got to the point that i even felt vulnerable because i didn’t always feel in control. so i pretty much decided to just stay away from working on cars and quit my hot rod hobby and exchanged it for something very different, outdoor adventures!:) but unless i make it rich and can afford to pay someone else to fix my cars when the break or need maintenance i’m never going to be able to completely stay away from cars.
so lately i’ve tried a different stratigy and started turning that frustrating moment into a comical laughing moment. whether i start talking to the bolt/part or just start laughing at it it helps to lighten the moment and to keep things in perspective. it’s almost like a challenge every time there’s a tuff bolt or stuborn part to see who will win. and if i get frustrated, i lost.
Thinking over this, I first thought I don’t really get frustrated, I get angry, I get impatient. I also thought that I usually find ways to combat the irritations that arise every now and then.
Then after having read through what others have written I find that there are situations and people that drive me up the wall.
I can’t stand being late and I can’t stand people who are not punctual. Most of the time I am early for meetings or conferences and so I cannot understand how some people can saunter in casually even when they are late.
I hate waiting in a long queue or having to wait to see a very important person. This used to really get my goat and I got over this by always having something on hand to read or write. I do not like to waste my time or the time of others.
I dislike people who do not keep their word. I consider them very irresponsible especially when they do not apologize for their conduct.
I admire people who are consistent and methodical in their approach to work and secretly look down on those who are not.
Perhaps I am too particular and stiff and should unwind and unbend a little more.
I would say there are two things that frustrate me to the extreme. Number one is that I am no longer in control of my life. That control has been usurped by a progressive, degenerative, incurable disease. And while the disease itself won’t kill me, the drugs I take for it eventually will. And there’s little to nothing I can do about it. It’s take the drugs and try to stay functions as best I can or quit the drugs and become a breathing carcass of excruciating pain that’s totally dependent on someone else for even my most basic needs from brushing my teeth to wiping my bum. All the things that used to give me purpose, joy, a sense of accomplishment and self worth I either have to ask for help with or pay someone else to do for me. Or have had to totally give them up.
The second thing that frustrates me is stupidity. And do not confuse that with ignorance. They are completely different. In the words of Heinein’s immortal Lazarus Long ” Stupidity cannot be cured with money or through education or by legislation. Stupidity is not a sin, the victim can’t help being stupid.” But to be real about it, I cannot deal with stupidity and there’s a ton of it out there. People saying “I know how you feel” that’s stupid because unless you take my place in my skin – there’s no way you could ever imagine to know how I feel about anything. There’s the frustration of unnecessary,and stupid red tape and bureaucracy and all the hoops the average person has to jump through that prevents them from doing the simplest of things for themselves or obtaining the help, support, and compassionate assistance they might need to get those things done. . sometimes I’m not sure I agree with the 2nd half of Lazarus’s quote about stupidity but today it seems appropriate to me. It goes like this. “But stupidity is the only universal capital crime. The sentence is death, there is no appeal, and execution is carried out automatically and without pity.”
What frustrates me…
– Paperwork
Part of being a ‘grown up’ is handling all that mail and bills streaming in. Having to open letters and read them frustrates me. hahah. sounds trivial and silly i know, but it does! I get impatient and dont feel like opening or reading them. When it piles up i hastily open, glance through statements and throw it away.
– Organising things
My room is in a mess. once or twice a year i do this big clean where I throw stuff away, but then a month later things pile up on my desk, bags collect on my floor… and it’s more or less the same again. I mostly ignore the mess, and can seem to live w it. But when I cant find my things, I get annoyed and frustrated at myself.
– People whose values and behaviour I dont like. To name a few, those who are mean to others ‘weaker’ than them. Also those who talk too much about themselves (boasting), and those who suck up to the bosses to get their way.
Why do i hang around with these people? Well let’s just say most of the time, you dont get to choose who you work with. But I can choose how i react to these people. So far Im managing, but it still frustrates me at times.
– Criticism
When I share my dreams and thoughts with others, and they doubt me, express disbelief at my abilities and criticise my plans, it frustrates me and I can get defensive. It also upsets me and injects doubts in myself too. For me, I need to have people support me, especially those I am close to.
What I’ve realised from this is that those who share my dreams with, are my close friends/family, and ultimately they still care about me and could be projecting their own biasness and fears onto me in an attempt to ‘protect’ me from potential risks or failure. But they just want me to be happy. So i’ve learnt not to be angry with them when they dont show immediate support for me, but instead, I’ve been learning to try and communicate and share my ideas better with them. So they understand where Im coming from, and there’s mutual respect. I’ve also been building up faith and trust in myself, to learn to make my own decisions, and take in constructive criticism.
It’s a journey :)
Hi Nicole, I can relate to the paperwork part! I’ve sometimes left envelopes unopened thinking they were something unimportant. Our insurance company sends us junk all the time. There were a few I left unopened for quite some time. When I eventually got around to opening one of them, I discovered it was a letter telling me my insurance policy had been cancelled due to lack of payment. Which of course would have also explained the previous few letters I hadn’t opened either :)
With organising things, I’ve found the best thing to do is just keep everything off the floor. Putting shelves on the wall I’ve found has been the best option.
Its me who frustrates me the most, when i didn’t listen to myself.
This is a hard one, I feel frustrated a lot. lol. What most frustrates me is not having anyone help me at home. I know that I have created my own monster by doing everything for my family and babying them and I probably do not have any right to be frustrated but I do. They are old enough now to help out. I should not have to work all day and come home and clean up, cook, clean up again. My husband says he doesn’t help me because he can’t do anything right. So like I said, I have created my own monster and I should not let it frustrate me but it really does. It is something that I am trying to work through. Maybe I need counseling. lol. Believe it or not, this website is helping a lot. ;)
Apathy frustrates me.
When people dont seem to care about where i am coming from, where their hearts and minds are closed to listening to my thoughts and concerns…it frustrates me.
When I see great potential in people, and then see that they are not realizing it…it really frustrates me.
Pride frustrates me
Gay jokes and homophobia REALLY frustrate me.
Materialism frustrates me.
Some of God’s orders frustrate me….really frustrate me.
My lack of relationships frustrate me.
My social awkwardness frustrates me.
Racism, discrimination, and REVERSE DISCRIMINATION frustrate me.
Hate, sadness, war, anger and death frustrate me.
The lack of time frustrates me.
Usually, in all these situations I get closed up. I get angry..and frustrated..and withdraw in to myself. I start focusing on the negatives rather than positives and direct my judgement towards the person rather than the character flaw/attribute.
When people dont want to open their hearts to my ideas, i fall in the same trap and close my heart and mind to their point of view. This i know is detrimental.
Whem people make hurting comments or show ignorance, instead of showing empathy and understanding that it must be an internal struggle to live with so much hate inside, i judge them…and feel anger and hate towards them….
In regards to my lack of social skills, i either over try and come off as over zealous or just retreat in to my shell of self contempt.
Typically in these situations, things go from back to worse. I might say something which i regret, or judge, or give a look. People become bitter. The universe is not pleased.
I realize that all the things which frustrate me are part of my own personality flaws. I realize that i need to care more about people and causes, and develop myself further. So when i am angry at myself for these , i focus the anger on others. I am yet to fully accept myself as i am, who i am, and carry on working on improving and transforming…therefore when other people make crude remarks…instead of checking my soul if i have those ideas too (just hidden), i judge them. I think about myself too much, hence the awkwardness….so that too..is a personality flaw.
Frustration #1: Negative reactions and cynicism to new situations based on past hurts and scars. I want to be able to be open and loving without being hindered by my past. This especially occurs in relationships for me.
Frustration #2: Not knowing what I want out of life or where to start looking for it. Often, this leads to a kind of paralysis, which frustrates me further because I want to feel like I’m getting somewhere. A bit of a control issue here, but it’s amplified by the fact that what I’m doing now doesn’t make me happy. I want to change this, but what will make things better?
Frustration #3: People that refuse to see that they’re making themselves miserable. They just wallow in their own self-pity and then wonder why people like me choose not to hang out with them. There is no excuse for not taking your life into your hands and making it better.
I too get frustrated with people that complain about their situations yet won’t do anything to change it. I may seem harsh but if you are upset with how something in your life is going only that person can change it. If they choose not to make a change, then I choose not to listen to their problems any longer.
Now that is an easy question! Not! Actually what frustrates me in inactivity, the “twiddling thumbs”, lack of decision, lack of a plan. Now one would argue that in life, we need some times to just just “let sail” and see “where the wind takes us.” Such activities foster creativity, bring about new directions, new solutions, etc. And I am all for that since as a scientist, I am always solving problems and sometimes I do need to let “the wind blow me” to find a new and innovative solution. So I can ride it out for just a while and then I just go plain crazy. I like order, a plan, structure. It comforts me. In social settings, with the use of the mobile/cell phone, I cannot tell you have many times my friends say, “Oh let’s meet for dinner at 6pm and we’ll call each other to organize the details when we get there.” Sigh, talk about all the time wasted where my small & honest request to agree to meet at a place A at a time B gets dismissed. Albeit I am in the minority, I am a good and loyal friend, so I agree to the ineffective scheme and try my best not to show my frustration when 100% of the time we meet delays since not everyone can agree. Dinner is usually accomplished a few hours later, but I never enjoy it as much as when ti is planned out and we stick to the plan. In the office place, it’s amazing how we have all these meetings, which are valuable times for discussions and then we disperse to the wind, but no one has taken the ‘action items’ that we need to report on at the next meeting. In some cases they are taken, and I breathe of sigh of relief. I have been in many meetings (mostly on telephone since we have a large distributed team) and they never follow it up with a written summary of minutes or action items, so you have to always be trying to figure out what is going on if you miss a meeting. That frustrates me when I may take as many as 10 separate meetings a week. Others realize the value of this and because we are nice, there is always someone who asks, “Who will take the minutes?” and well no one volunteers since it is a lot of work, but it is valued work. I used to volunteer all the time since it led to my frustration-baning, but then I found myself never participating the discussion, since it is hard to do both. And also speaking about this frustration with a colleague, she reminded me whether I was the only woman in the room, and I typically am, and she said try not to volunteer to do that role since it really brings on the message of the unspoken discrimination in the workplace. I never saw that before, but I totally see it now whenever I am in a room full of men and a few women and how the women tend to take the notes. I hope it’s because it helps their frustration. Now I silently take my notes for my benefit to calm my frustration, but I do remain frustrated since a lot of time still is wasted when actions are not followed up. I like to plan and live my plan.
I am frustrated when I feel I am sabotaging myself. When I see myself in behaviors which I know are not the ones I need to have in order to achieve what I want. When I see myself defaulting to these behaviors because they are easy, not because they are something I have actually intentionally decided on.
Things like knowing I need to pick up and clean the kitchen and sitting on the couch instead. Without intentionally deciding that I will put off cleaning but just defaulting to putting of cleaning.
When I eat something not because I am hungry or because I have intentionally decided to eat something even if I’m not hungry but rather because it is there or other people are eating or it’s something to do.
When people don’t understand how to merge traffic in construction.
Not being able to accomplish something because technology isn’t cooperating.
Not being able to get my view or opinion across because the other person is so stuck in their own view/opinion that I can’t get mine voiced in a way that would be heard.
When things break just when I need them.
When I am not paying attention to the now and miss the detail that makes the difference – like whether or not there are coffee beans in the hopper for the grinder so I can have coffee instead of coffee scented hot water.
I am frustrated when I tell myself I am going to do something and then I don’t – get up early to exercise and then I sleep in.
I am frustrated sometimes by what I perceive as a lack of response on someone else’s part.
I am frustrated when my expectations aren’t met even if I have figured out fully what my expectations are or how to articulate them.
Yeah – it’s mostly about expectations and whether they are met or not.
Inconsiderate & Judgmental People…..There are more things but this makes the top of the list currently….
The invasion of Tibet by China.
Guantanamo Bay still operating after all the presidential promises to close it.
Bullying.
The UK government making it more expensive to buy solar panels. Duh!
The widening gap between the rich and the poor.
Litter.
Child proof tops on bottles that I can’t open.
The fact that mobile phone companies/ internet providers/energy companies etc are very easy to get in contact with when you might be buying their product but virtually impossible to contact (hours waiting on expensive phone line only to then be cut off etc) when there is a problem or when you want to switch providers.
People who tan easily (I don’t).
Bad hair days
Dog poo – I’d like to rub the dog owners noses in it.
SO MUCH ELSE – could go on for hours.
Mostly however, I frustrate myself. I do know I need to work on making peace with myself internally as well as ranting on about all the injustices and frustrations externally. I do love to have a good rant though.
This is a tough one. I thought about it all day, but I couldn’t think of anything particular that frustrates me.
There are couple of things that irritate me, but I don’t get frustrated easily. I usually find solutions for the things that could frustrate me or I take the things as they are, instead of frustrating about them.
Actually earlier, I used to get frustrated at very small things too, but then I realized that frustration always has a negative affect and it is not worth it. So, I have changed my approach.
:rolleyes: Having a physical need for certain things that I will have to come up with a huge amount of money to obtain. (Dental work!) I am frustrated that so many necessities in this world are such a far reach. That so much value is placed on money and material items. That people are so shallow.
I get frustrated that people think they “have” to do certain things that are just ridiculous.
I get frustrated that people believe every little thing they see on television, the internet, or anywhere else in the media.
I get frustrated that most people not only don’t think for themselves, but don’t even realize that they can.
I get frustrated that people think there is something wrong with me for thinking this way.
I get frustrated that healthy food is so difficult to obtain these days.
I get frustrated that I have to pay my money for items I don’t even like because that is all that is available – it is almost impossible to find items of any sort that are made from all natural materials. Cotton is considered a luxury and when you can find items made from it they either have been chemically treated against toxins!? or it is recycled, which in theory is great, but it wears out almost instantly. There are so many things that frustrate me these days…I always joke that I wish I had a time machine so I could go back to 1979/83 and just grab a pizza and make a huge shopping trip! HIgh-tech is great, but I sooooo miss all the normal stuff…and good pizza…
i frustrate when i didn’t Succeed in my exams …. ….
One of my biggest frustrations is that I lack the ability to manage time. This has been one my biggest flaws since I can remember.
No matter what I’m doing whether its attending an important function, meeting someone for lunch, handing in assignments or completing set projects, I’m late.
Not only is this frustrating to me, it is frustrating to everyone that has to re schedule, wait or rely on me. I’m pretty lucky in the way that most of my friends just accept that I will be late and that they will entertain themselves until I arrive, but on the other hand I know it would annoy them a little.
Fingers crossed, I will work out a way to overcome my weakness in time management and learn to be efficient before it stands in the way of success!
I guess the first step is identifying that it isn’t ok and that I need to rectify this problem.
Hej Kyle,
I’ve had the same problem for years. Especially being on time for work was a daily struggle. I just didn’t feel it was that important, because the minutes I was late, I would stay longer on the other end. But…
then I read or someone told me, can’t recall, that it was very DISRESPECTFULL.
So, I guess, the question for you is not identifying a ‘problem’, but more to look inside and ask yourself if it is a lack of respect that causes your lateness… and if so, are you OK with that? Or is it a(nother) sign that you should take on another job?
Modern Society is generally characterised by plenty of frustration. People from every walk of life has reasons to be frustrated. The poor ,for obvious reasons , and the well to do , on account of their own folly and egoism.
The present global environment has made things worse. At least in the past, “ignorance was bliss.” To-day with frustration you also feel a sense of revolt at the hypocrisy in society, and in the face of so much of sufferings and exploitation, which could have been avoided or lessened, with some tolerance and moderation.
Yes, many things frustrate me. Hypocrisy the most. In every field of life, there seems to be no exception to the rule.
Religion. Religion has a vocation for love and unity. But all around us we see only hatred and division in the name of religion. Paradoxically even education and science seem to have made us conscious much more about our differences than what could bring us together as one family, all children of God. People for their selfish motive and interest are persistently dividing the human race into, specific ethnic groups, caste, and clans. And the poor fall easy prey to the ploys of some. Stalin has rightly said, “Religion is the opium of the masses. “
Politics. Politics is another area where, in the name of common interest and welfare, unscrupulous political leaders have fallen to a level where they lose no opportunity to take advantage of the innocence of the mass, by dividing and exploiting them for vested interest. To gain power they make alliances with any party, even if their political philosophy is poles apart from their own. This gives rise to a situation of collective frustration and anger, when one sees that every party in a country becomes a potential ally.
Economy. The recent economic recession and the present Eurocrisis is indicative of the dreadful fact that there is complete dislocation in our strategy and policy for an equitable distribution of the resources between the haves and the have-nots. What used to be a slogan only, now, proves to be a stark reality. Indeed the rich is becoming very very rich and the poor never as poor as before. The recent initiative throught he stimulus package has clearly shown that the well- to-do end up siphoning the cream leaving the downtrodden in utter despair and desolation.
Human Values . Never before had values that dictate the moral and ethical standard suffered so much as it is to-day. At the time of arranged marriage, you almost never heard of divorce. And, to-day when young people are free to chose their life partners, how can there be so much of rift, domestic violence, divorce, immorality and family disintegration. There is need to redefine the role and importance of a mother, an altogether different , but humane approach to bring up a child, where love intimacy and caring becomes more important than material facilities. The family edifice needs to be restored and strengthened. We must be able to uphold the divine in the newborn. We have to stike the right balance between tradition and modernity.
There is in every field of life, a tendency towards degeneration . The social leader , instead of mobilising resources to serve the poor by giving a lesson of detachment and humility, is mostly seen as a stooge of the political class, in his own way furthering his personal interest in the name of the community. Nature, it is said, is the visible form of the creator and we are, indecently exploiting it, which is resulting into an irreversible disintegration of the environment. On a higher plane the richer the country the more is the propensity to exploit abusively. People to-day are living to eat unto death . Mahatma Gandhi is quoted to have said,” A country can always provide for every- body, need but not for everybody’s greed. The rat race should stop. All this leave the average, God-fearing and law-abiding citizens , the very ones because of whom the world is surviving and who can hope things will change for the better , in a state of frustration.
In the end I shall state that I am often frustrated with myself as I am part of the system and I do have my share of responsibility in all this.
sona
I need first need to differentiate between ‘frustrates’ and ‘irritates’. Small things that irritates you over and over again could become frustration. Small irritation could also lead to frustration
After much thought, I still can’t find anything that really frustrates me …lot of things irritates me.
i feel frustrated when i’m acting like someone else , not myself. i feel frustrated when i see people having their own dreams, their own reasons to live and to be happy while i can’t see mines !!!! i feel frustrated when i see people doing their tasks so easily without having questions in their minds, they just do what they are supposed to do !! i feel frustrated when i don’t react to things i want to do!! the feeling of disconnection really frustates me!!!!
The main thing that frustrates me is myself. As for my surroundings, I do not let circumstances or people frustrate me, either I change the situation to the better or I accept it the way it is and step away if I cannot arrange with it.
There are three things that frustrate me the most: 1. I tend to be a bit clumpsy when I am not focused. 2. I am not reaching my full potential. I feel like I could do better but for some reason I do not. 3. I have difficulties to maintain deep friendships, most of my relationships are context-based and therefore limited.
I am working on these points because I do not really appreciate sources of frustration in my life. For the first point, it is really a matter of better body control (floating around instead of falling) and a higher baseline awareness (what is every part of my body doing at the moment). When it comes to my potential, I am not sure whether I overestimate myself but I am certain that I will find out if I actually cut down the no-brain-activities and invest more time in useful activities. Coincidentally, I was thinking about my friends yesterday and the how and why of these relationships. I am a very caring person, I just seem to shut that off far to often.
Speaking in long-term period, I am frustrated with the fact that I’m still unable to get a full-time job; specifically I have finished my degree almost a year ago!
I’m pretty sure recent graduates in many parts of the world experiences the same thing: you’ve found around a thousand, if not more, job ads online, and yet getting a decent one seems so tough. I’m starting asking myself, is asking for *one* job too much? I’m starting asking, how long will I be able to keep up like this? What was my mistake in my last interview – why is it that employers keep telling me “your interview is impressive, but unfortunately you don’t fit the position”? What do they want, specifically? Is it because there’s always another candidate who’s tad better than me? Is there something wrong with my appearance or personality in their perception? Moreover, I’m starting to think, why is my other friends who are essentially no different from me, can jump from one job to another so easily? Is it because they’re really good, or just because they’re a sweet-talker?
If I make this sound really important to me, it’s probably because it is (for now). I’ve never saved much money in my life, aside from McD’s jobs, and I don’t want to rely on my parents’ allowance forever. I want to start saving up to maybe pursuing my dreams sooner or later. I don’t mind living frugally (with the limited allowance I have now), but I do mind keep-asking money from parents.
Dear Yukito,
Your frustration is really shining through.
Could it be that you are not that confident in yourself?
Have you ever imagined yourself getting the job? Shaking hands, negotiating salary, signing contracts. What feeling do you have? The interview is just one step in reaching that feeling.
So it’s not something scary! :-)
Another thing I thought was… when being told that you’re not te one, have you ever asked what you could do different in the next interview to get the job?
Hope you can use my thoughts. That they can give you some (new) ideas :-)
I hope – and I’m sure of!- that you find a job soon!
Hi Ellen,
Hmm you might be true about me being not “confident enough”. It’s not something I’m totally lacking of, but many people (friends, headhunters) have been telling me the same thing. I really should do that exercise – imagining I’m going through all those processes.
Unfortunately, no, I’ve never got a useful feedback before. It’s either “sorry we can’t give you any feedback” (this is usually the HR telling me), or “we are impressed by your curiosity, skills and interview performance, but unfortunately you are not really suitable for the position” (and nothing more than this).
Thanks a lot for your encouragement though, really appreciate it :)
What frustrates me?
“a deep chronic sense or state of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs”
In the world – I find that I am frustrated by the sense that the world is being run by idiots (present company excepted – of course), that it is all spinning out of control and may never be fixed. (insecurity and dissatisfaction)
I do not let frustrations last too long. I blow off some steam and let it go. I do not let them eat at me. Drinking wine numbs/dumbs me up enough so that I can get along in the world at large.
I innately have very high expectations. I used to say it as a joke, but now I think it is true – even if it is cynical and sad – One key to happiness is to lower your expectations. (Celes should love that, eh?)
In my personal life over many years, I have had frustration from differing levels of libido in our relationship. Now there is an area where lowering expectations does not bring any peace of mind. (unfulfilled needs)
There are things that just bug me, like inefficiency and rudeness but that stuff does not rise to the level of frustration.
Not sure what the take way is in this exercise.
Ignorance – particularly when it’s based on religious dogma. How old is the earth? 6,000 years. That sort of silliness drives me crazy.
Creationism = scientific theory. Not.
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